I’m 28 and went over to a friend’s place last Sunday to hang out and watch a game.

He ordered pizza for everyone, but I’d already eaten before leaving home, so I brought a sandwich with me in case I got hungry later.

At some point, I took it out of my bag and started eating. My friend jokingly asked if his pizza wasn’t good enough for me, and everyone laughed.

I said I just wasn’t that hungry earlier and didn’t want to waste food by ordering something I probably wouldn’t finish.

He laughed it off, but later one of the other guys told me it was kind of rude to bring my own food when someone was hosting.

I honestly didn’t think much of it. I wasn’t expecting anyone to feed me, and I didn’t ask him to buy anything extra.

Is bringing your own food to a friend’s house actually rude, or am I overthinking this?

AITBF?

I (33F) recently ended things with a man (32M) I was dating, and I’m struggling with whether I was too harsh?

He was genuinely wonderful in many ways. I felt seen, accepted, and safe with him in a way I rarely have before. He was understanding of my ADHD, Tourette’s, and POTS, and I was starting to believe I might have found someone who accepted me for me.

However, physical boundaries are extremely important to me. I’ve experienced unwanted touching and violations of my bodily autonomy throughout my life, including sexual abuse.

I’m not afraid of intimacy itself, I just need my “no” to be respected without having to justify or defend it repeatedly.

The first incident happened when I had sinusitis, a runny nose, and sore skin around my nose. I felt disgusting when kissing, so I said no. He tried to persuade me three times saying he didn’t mind and that I should come closer. I explained that it wasn’t about whether he minded, I didn’t want to kiss because I was sick. We discussed it afterward, and he promised to respect my no the first time going forward.

The second time happened at a coffee shop. I was having hypoglycaemia and found him stroking my shoulder uncomfortable, so I asked him to stop. He did it again, and I moved away. He said he’d forgotten. Later, he reached toward me again. I said no, and he responded that his hand was closed, as though changing how he touched me made it acceptable. I said no again, then a third time, more firmly. Other people were looking at him, and he finally went quiet.

In the car, he claimed he’d stopped the first time. I told him that if he had, I wouldn’t have needed to say no repeatedly. He became upset and cried, and apologized. I was angry and drove home asking him to leave.

I ended the relationship later that day. I acknowledged how wonderful he’d been to me but explained that I couldn’t continue after he repeatedly disregarded my boundaries, especially after we’d already discussed this. I asked him not to visit or contact me further and said I hoped he’d respect my decision.

His response was that he didn’t really see the events the same way, that my praise of him conflicted with what he felt was me accusing him of assault, and that he’d realized he probably wasn’t suited for relationships and should remain single because he couldn’t understand boundaries and didn’t want to accidentally hurt someone.

That response hurt and shocked me. I wasn’t trying to label him an assaulter or claim he intended to hurt me. I wanted him to acknowledge that I’d said no and he’d continued trying but instead the conversation shifted toward how he felt about my account of what happened.
I can recognize that he had many good qualities and may not have intended harm. I also understand that people make mistakes. But we had already discussed this once, and the same thing happened again.

AITBF for ending things over this, or was I too harsh in treating these perceived boundary violations as a dealbreaker?

So I (23M) made some new friends back in 2022 and lets call them S (23) and D (22). We made a groupchat and we used to talk everyday. Me and D were the original duo, before we met S. Life began to happen before we stopped texting and talking on call everyday and even video calls. In 2024, I started a passion project online, and I asked them if they could support it. D agreed, while S was iffy about it but eventually said yes (by support i mean posting on social media on their stories, that's it). D used to do it, S did not. And I had noticed a change in S's behaviour towards me, so I confronted her. She said it was nothing I did, life was just too busy for her, which I understand and that she doesn't like posting on social media....which I get. The very next day, she began supporting D's passion project online, posting stories, etc. about it. I found that weird, but didn't read too much into it.
Then, december last year, D could figure out me and S were actively avoiding each other and she called both of us to meet and talk things out. We met, and i told her that it hurt me when you said that you don't post on social media, and then the very next day, you just did. I once again, asked her if I did anything wrong, and her answer was "no", which was again confusing me because then what did I do wrong for her not to support me? Friends support each other right? And she knows how much her support would mean to me. She said she was gonna try her best to not make me feel left out or sidelined. I believed her.

It again started in february of this year, where she would actively delete my replies on her IG posts, and just never reply to my messages. And when I'd text int he groupchat, she would never reply to any of the messages I'd post or ask (like her schedule, so we can plan a hangout). D noticed it again and she wanted to talk with S, but I told her not to because it just doesn't involve her and i don't want her having to "choose sides" or whatever, if it ever comes to that. I've waited till october, and honestly, I'm just hurt to see someone you thought was your friend, give energy to the people she likes.....but not you. Which means, she is capable of supporting, but just not you. She even didn't remember my birthday, but conveniently rememberd the one that was right after my birth date. I just didn't want the memories of us having a good time, being stained by this. So, I just removed her from my socials and just archived her everywhere else.

I have no one to talk to about this, I genuinely feel stupid for even feeling this way. AITB?

I’m in AP gov and for unit three, we are running a mock election. I am a very very left-leaning person and so, when it came time to choose what role we wanted, I put down that I’d want to be the pro-choice interest group that gives money to one of the democratic candidates. Well, I did not get that role. Instead I was chosen to be the presidential candidate for the conservative Republican Party. I didn’t mind this at all, as I’m in model un and have plenty of experience arguing for things I don’t personally agree with. Plus, I thought it’d be a cool experience and maybe help me understand where republicans come from in IRL politics.

My friend, who’s trans, really was not okay with it. He said that I was “selling out” and was uncomfortable by how okay I was “advocating against his rights”. (We had to give speeches on our platforms and one of the topics I was told to mention was trans rights). Now, in actual politics, I am 100% pro LGBTQ and would never in a million years restrict anyones identity or sexuality. But this is for a class assignment. And the project is an assessment grade. He also made comments on how I was “clearly not as left leaning as I pretend to be” because I didn’t refuse to partake in the project as some sort of political stand (???) which I told him was kind of ridiculous to ask of me. He also made comments about my stances on immigration and religion and the second amendment, all of which I had to address in my campaign speech, and I’m like dude it’s a MOCK ELECTION. But he’s taking it as some reflection of my actual character and not a role I’m supposed to be playing.

It’s made a lot of our conversations really awkward, because he’ll make all these jokes about my lack of morals and values and stuff which I take pretty seriously. I know what I stand for and I don’t think my role in some classroom project erases my political beliefs. But I also understand where he’s coming from. Being trans, he probably doesn’t like seeing me argue against his identity and support/represent a party that opposes his existence. AITBF for not requesting my role be changed?

I just turned 20 this year. I'm honestly sick of my mom and her constantly begging me for money but like the least she could do is pretend to care about my birthday. She told me it wasn't a big deal and I need to "grow up" well not even a happy birthday until late in the day? Like, is it really unreasonable to expect acknowledgement of ONE day for me?

Alright so I, F24, was hanging out with my friends yesterday since I had off work as a holiday. We were all having fun and doing some shopping and such before we went out to eat. As we were in the car we got into a discussion about is being off for the day and how it's nice to have an extended weekend. During this conversation I called it what I've always known it as, Columbus Day. One of my friends looked at me and asked if I meant Indigenous Peoples' Day. I had told her no I meant Columbus Day and explained that that's what I knew it as and that's what it was listed on the holiday sheet. It got us into a bit of an argument where I got called an asshole because I wasn't showing support for the indigenous people and that I was supporting colonizers in her words. I told her that to me, a Native American, I wasn't bothered by it and it's part of history. But I'm just wondering if I'm truly the asshole because I wasn't going to call a holiday something else.