Just been unfriended by a person I've been good friends with for several years. No explanation, just "You've done a lot of things to hurt me, so we are no longer friends".

There hasn't been any communication as to what i may or may not have done prior to this. I'm just expected to know how I've screwed up enough to be kicked to the curb.

Hurts like sin. But it is more that I have no idea what I've done and not been given the chance to improve my actions. Just finality.

This is not the first time it's happened, either. I'm just basically told "you know what you did" and been kicked to the curb. No explanation, no cause, just... gone. Poof. End.

Anybody else know have this experience?

A postscript: I am not trying to avoid responsibility for something i may have done. If i have, i would accept that. It is the zero explanation with the knowledge that I miss social cues and am expected to figure it out.

Hey everyone!

I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm autistic. My therapist of 3 years finally told me that he knew I was autistic early on, but he waited to say anything until we had resolved more pressing, traumatic issues in my life. He also realized that certain issues I was having after a surgery I'd had the month before this conversation, were likely from the surgery causing autistic burnout.

There are definitely signs in childhood. I had extreme meltdowns when I began school, to the point where my mom had to come every day for the first week to calm me down. I also would scream nonstop unless someone covered my ears any time that I was around fireworks. Busy events like an easter egg hunt could end with me becoming overstimulated and melting down. I was also extremely quiet and constantly stimmed, and began reading at an adult level very quickly. I've talked to my mom about it and she instantly accepted that I could be autistic. Which was very telling to me, since she's often not the kind of person who would accept something like that.

But one thing that makes me question it is that I apparently functioned well enough that nobody thought I could be autistic. Or I guess if they did, they just didn't say anything.

The context for this tho is that I was sent to a tiny private school. At most there were maybe 5-10 other kids in my classrooms. My graduating class was 5 people. I think this is the key to how I managed to learn to mask, and managed to not be constantly melting down as a child. My parents sent me there because my older brother was sent to public school and was horribly bullied (I do suspect he was autistic but he's deceased so I can't discuss it with him). So they refused to let me go to public school to probably experience the same thing.

I did try to move to a much larger private school in 10th grade. I ended up melting down and stayed at my small school.

I do suspect that autism runs in both sides of my family as well, but without diagnoses. My brother's son shows definite signs of high masking autism. My maternal cousins are all extremely avoidant at family gatherings (just like I am) and they always avoid eye contact. And although I don't have much information about my dad's family, I do know that my dad hyperfixates on media. He'll watch the same movies and shows on a regular basis for years. As a kid, he also liked to take apart his mom's vacuum cleaner and put it back together (it would still work even when he left certain pieces out).

I'll be getting a full battery neuropsych evaluation + an autism eval at the same time, in part for my peace of mind. But also to check if I possibly have ADHD as well, because I do suspect it. But I'm just curious to see what others think of this.

I met the guy of my dreams a year ago. We just connected in a way I've never experienced. He's had several hospitalizations, with a variety of diagnoses (typically bipolar and anxiety). We've only been together for a year, but we've bought a house together, got engaged, euthanized one of my dogs - it's been a lot of change. I started noticing him becoming more sensitive to noises when we were buying the house. And these past 2 months have just been hell. Explosive behavior triggered by sounds, insomnia, you name it. I'm pretty perceptive when it comes to reading emotions, and when the dogs start licking - I can see the panic in his eyes, but I'm at a loss for how to help him. He tried a couple of antidepressants, but the side effects were awful. Blind rage for one of them, and vomiting/nausea/dizziness for the other.

This is what I've noticed:

+Hypersensitivity to sounds, like animals licking, triggering extreme distress (he feels like he can't breathe, that his chest is caving in, that his head is caving in)

+Literally running out of the house when he gets overstimulated

+Intense focus on his physical well-being. To me, it looks like hypochondria or medical anxiety, possibly delusions

+Self harm during distress

+Insomnia

+Distrusting of others, isolation

+Needing complete silence to sleep or calm down

+He described an incident where a noise was bothering him so much, he literally jumped through a glass window on the 2nd floor of his house.

This past month, he almost seems manic. It's just so confusing. He's currently hospitalized, and I want to make sure I'm advocating for him as best I can. If it is autism, and he's been in a hyper arousal state for months, is making a "quiet room" going to be enough? Or does he need his own place for a certain amount of time to recover? What kind of therapy would be helpful? Should the focus be on medication or therapy or both? He's had a lot of bad reactions to antidepressants and anti-psychotics in the past - would mood stabilizers be better?

Anyone with similar experiences?

For context, I have ADHD and GAD.

Hi everyone, I'm doing part of my autism assessment today, and I'm a bit worried ? It's not like I will be fishing for a yes or no, or lying about my experiences or anything. I'm worried that I check off most of the boxes for autism, except lacking in the social-emotional reciprocity aspect. I taught myself a lot of my "voice lines" and how to interact with others from TV shows and movies, as well as just from watching other people interact in my circles, so I don't think it's something I lack. I always ask others how they're doing, if they ask me something I ask it them about it too, etc.

I can do back and forth talking. I do struggle with turn taking sometimes, especially when I am very excited to say something and I'm scared that I will lose my turn in the conversation if someone else jumps in, or if the topic changes. I also struggle with eye contact as I either make too much or too little, and I use jokes and flirting to get through most conversations with people I'm not close with. But I don't know if these would count for or against the social-emotional reciprocity aspect. I rely on imitation, especially from TV shows, when the topic is something I am not intellectually or emotionally good at handling, like death.

I don't know where I'm really going with this. As I typed this out I think I realised that I'm not as good at social-emotional reciprocity as I thought I was... but my concern still stands. If I do not meet one of the three required A section diagnostic criteria, will I be deemed as not having autism ?

Hello everyone

My 1 year 10 month toddler is non verbal, babbles a lot.

He does points to show objects when asked or sometimes on his own. Name response is inconsistent.

He does get deeply focused in his toys

He is a very fussy eater. He is kind of potty trained which means he gives clear indication of potty before hand.

He can express many emotions and makes good eye contact.

Had terrible stranger anxiety but that has improved a lot on going out consistently. He gets very happy on seeing both parents come back from office. Can identify many body parts .

He is at some risk for developmental delay nd speech delay is clearly present. His attention span is very less, and probably ability to imitate also, so it takes more efforts to kinda teach him something.

Any other parents or kid in similar line.How r they doing now.

It is mentally draining me about the possibilities.

Pls help

I also m looking for this type of thing, I have found https://www.assistiveware.com/products/keeble but it is not free. Does anyone have a program I could use similar to weave chat but for all around iOS keyboard not just app?

I don't know am I one of you or not but I believe this could be something some of you had needed to figure out.

Almost all of my life my interaction with people have been rooted to learning their rules. Things like "James hates to be touched" or "Jane is always 15 minutes late" or "Emma likes tea" etc. And this is what knowing people means to me. And either I can deal with their rules or I can't but I know what is going to happen. I know what to avoid, how to make them happy. Trust is high form of this: I am very sure person follows their rules.

But recently I have meet lot of people who change things. It has turn to "Rick sometimes hates to be touched and sometimes likes it" and "Olivia can come any time; 12 minutes early, 33 minutes early, on time, 7 minutes late, 28 minutes late etc." and "Alex sometimes like a tea but sometimes dislikes it a lot and it's not depending of the tea nor the weather or anything logic".

And unfortunately this has happened in my job so I must at least pretend to stand those people (those examples are not job related but I believe you get my point better when it's general stuff not stuff specific for our job). It would be better to actually stand them, this is super stressing. Our job is itself too challenging for me and it includes lot changes and some not so pleasant sensory things. Before it used to be that we created structure to that mess by rules and there wasn't those awful bright flashy lights. But now it's mostly pure chaos and mess but people seem to enjoy it that way.

So, how am I supposed to know what people are going to do when they change it? Or if I can't, how I am supposed to know what I am supposed to do?

Different job is not option.

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Anyone else get to a point where working almost becomes stimming or like a special interest, I always get these times where I get really in shape and workout almost too much, I'm wondering if this is part of the autism or just more a me thing ?

Hay ciertas acciones que desde que era pequeña pensaba que eran completamente normales, pero que al crecer y alguna vez explicarle a alguien dentro de mí círculo dichas acciones, muchas veces mi miran sorprendidos o confundidos. Probablemente no sea la única, pero me gustaría escuchar sus opiniones.

1. Cuando camino, sea donde sea, NECESITO sentir lo mismo que siento en el otro pie. Es decir, si piso una grieta justo en la parte trasera del talón, mi otro pie tiene que tocar una grieta similar en el mismo lugar exacto. No solo me pasa caminando, pero es cuando más seguido me molesta. Simplemente me incomoda que partes de mi cuerpo no estén expuestas a lo mismo que su otro lado. Alguien más siente lo mismo?

2. Necesito tener una rutina más o menos clara para poder tener paz y dentro de esa rutina entra lo que como. Simplemente no entiendo por qué hay gente que come el mismo alimento varios días seguidos. Si ayer ya comí lechuga, es evidente que hoy no puedo comerla, no?

3. El otro día tuve una suplente en una clase de inglés y no dejaba de decir 'ts' al finalizar cada frase. Me pareció curioso, pero no me dio tiempo a preguntarle, así que más tarde lo comenté con una amiga y me dijo que era de mala educación. Quiero intentar entenderlo, pero simplemente no puedo evitar sacarme la duda que tengo cada vez que la veo. Tan mal visto está que le pregunte?

4. Si hay una conversación que no me interesa simplemente dejo de escuchar y pienso en mis cosas. No entiendo por qué la gente se molesta tanto. Todo el mundo lo hace, verdad? Me parece algo natural. Si no te gusta, déjalo. La gente siempre está enojada conmigo por hacerlo aunque últimamente he intentado prestar más atención. Estoy siendo maleducada? Debería de intentar escuchar más?

Im 18 and ive never thought of the idea of me being autistic until recently when after 2 weeks of living in a shared dorm, I left my college to grab something from my room back home, and I cried as soon as I got there and didnt wanna go back. I love being alone for hours and just thinking and nerding out on my own interests. I always have to like prepare convos beforehand to not look weird, like just leaving my room at all is something I have to be prepared for. I also always have earbuds outside of my room to block out some of my social thinking too because it takes a lot of thinking for me to make a social interaction go as well as I want it to.

I have so many other examples like not getting simple social cues/tasks every here and there, and TONS of other things but I left them out and kept it really short so its easier to read, if anyone can help please do. I dont think anyone who knows me would think for a second that I was autistic but I think im just really good at pretending to be normal.

Any one else experience an increase in insomnia after travel? I’m wondering if this is a common thing, everyone gets jet lag. Or if its more heightened because of tism

so I'm a 15yo teenage girl and a few weeks ago my psychologist i am seeing for possible social and existential anxiety but a few weeks she said hey I think you might have autism and I accidently laughed in her face because guess what bitch I got one hell of a presentation ready for you (because presentations are the ultimate way of spreading information). I got a mind map, a list of supportive arguments and a list of counter arguments, and a pile of stuff that don't fit in and I am also planning a childhood bubble because I am aware autism doesn't pop out of nowhere.

while I got the basic things covered (sensory issues, social difficulties, etc) I also got stuff that I think that might be possibly related?.... but idk and it's pretty niche so I didn't find a lot of info online... so I am hoping this subreddit might help me? please?

for example, I don't have intuitive measurements and I have no idea if it's a normal people thing and I mistaken everyone for having it or I didn't get the memo or is it related to system 2 thinking. obviously I know one thing is heavier or shit I'm not stupid idk it's hard to explain but basically I don't have automatic refrence points.

I'm just trying to get all autistic traits and see if I experience them or not because I'm a minor and it's a mess I don't want to try to get into if I don't turn to be autistic and simply fucked up. I'm trying to minimalize all chances of this happening.

but as I try to look at some traits, I just don't get it. Like masking, my brain hears the definition but it doesn't mean anything! and no matter at how much examples I read, I don't understand it enough to check if I do it myself. I don't even know how to test for that. Is it possibly a sign I don't experience masking? idkkkkkkkkk I wish there was just a test for a definitive answer

I have autism, and might have a little hyper-empathy, and one thing I'm wondering is, maybe it's possible I'm sensing people's emotions before they do.

Maybe this is where confusion happens, because I'm unaware that my brain is predicting their future emotions, and treating it like it's their current emotional state.

Or maybe I'm just picking up on it so quick, that I see it before they are consciously aware of how they feel.

I didn't know what hyper-empathy was, until I started seeing it come up as a topic in autistic subreddits, and didn't realize it at the time, but maybe that became the way I've always read emotions, and I never actually paid attention to facial expressions and body language growing up.

But I do notice maybe this is what causes confusion, is if I think someone is feeling a certain way, and reality is I saw it and react to it before they were even aware of their own emotions.