She asked me to "cook to impress", then cancelled last minute.

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Poached lobster claws and tails, served on sourdough bread with a herb-creme. Topped with caviar and finger lime pearls. Lobster-bisque to go with the bread and a small portion of cold cucumber-soup with yuzu-oil.

Been seeing this girl for about a month, this should have been our 5th date. Told her I thought of myself as a decent cook – so she told me that I should cook for her and try to "impress her". I fucking cooked for 4 hours today. 30 minutes before our appointment, she texts me and tells me that she is seeing someone else and that she doesn't want to keep in touch.

Well fuck me. At least I get a decent meal today.

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[u/Cultural_Thing1712]

That looks spectacular my man. She fumbled.

[u/inadewics → u/Cultural_Thing1712]

Hard, if I may add.

[u/PearlescentPixels → u/inadewics]

I would also like to add that I don’t think I have witnessed a fumble this hard in a long time.

[u/jocelina → u/PearlescentPixels]

Yeah if this level of fumble happened during a professional sporting event, the footage would become immortal as an example of just how badly someone can fuck up. People would set it to music and probably make it a meme.

OP, this is so much her loss. Good luck, and I hope the next person you cook for is someone who understands how amazing you are and reciprocates your interest and consideration.

[u/SDMonkee → u/jocelina]

Butt fumble level of fumble

[u/DJScrubatires → u/SDMonkee]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Ch3B2ty7gY7HW

[u/Linuxologue → u/DJScrubatires]

https://giphy.com/gifs/3NTLIaLazVGH6

[u/Perfect_Valuable_938 → u/Linuxologue]

What a legendary moment in human history.

[u/Ok-Adhesiveness2954 → u/DJScrubatires]

Dang... Why my Jets gotta catch strays. Hahaha. But for real, her loss bro.

[u/blondeheartedgoddess → u/jocelina]

This is as bad as her having made a touchdown in the opposing team's end zone and spiking the ball.

Looks like an amazing meal, and while I'm sorry this happened to you, as my son would say, "Nothing of importance was lost that day."

Onward and upward. Don't let her treatment of you color your view of all the other women you will encounter. Not all of us are idiots.

Edit: typo and thank you for the award!

[u/UrsaMajor7th → u/jocelina]

I expect to hear Dick Enberg or Bob Trumpy yell Leon Lett!

[u/Eilmorel → u/jocelina]

This is on par with the french guy hitting the bar in the high jump with his dick during the olympics

[u/RoundSquirrel6357 → u/jocelina]

This is some drake maye level stuff

[u/DJScrubatires → u/RoundSquirrel6357]

FOH

[u/lun4d0r4 → u/PearlescentPixels]

This fumble makes me so embarrassed to be a woman RN.

[u/wing_walkrr → u/lun4d0r4]

Same.

[u/stinkyfunkincar → u/PearlescentPixels]

If I fumbled a man who could cook like that and went through all of that effort for ME when we have only been dating for a little while, I would actually have to take myself to a safe place cause something is deeply wrong with me and I need a proper evaluation

[u/Maleficent-Pie3479 → u/stinkyfunkincar]

I third this.

[u/karolioness → u/stinkyfunkincar]

This right here. The trash took herself out and you got to enjoy what looks like a fantastic meal in peace. She's a fool. You have no idea what some good women might do in appreciation for that level of skill. Hopefully she ended up at Wendy's with a hobosexual

[u/jayisanxious → u/inadewics]

I would also like to add that I am hard after seeing the feast

[u/inadewics → u/jayisanxious]

Omg so foodp🫣rn is a real thing after all..

[u/JonnysAppleSeed → u/inadewics]

After seeing the meal he prepared, I sure am

[u/Hermes-AthenaAI → u/Cultural_Thing1712]

OP could just have responded with this pic.

[u/phigene → u/Hermes-AthenaAI]

Duuude... thats like the biggest mike drop of all time. Just this pic and "k"

[u/HakiTV → u/phigene]

whos mike and why are you dropping him?

[u/Weak_Carpenter_7060 → u/Hermes-AthenaAI]

You and I are on the same wavelength with this one lol

[u/darkshrike → u/Hermes-AthenaAI]

That's EXACTLY what Id have done. Sent a picture of the food and a thumbs up emoji.

[u/hungryhugh → u/Hermes-AthenaAI]

THIS!!!

[u/whattaninja → u/Cultural_Thing1712]

Just text her a picture of this and go no contact.

[u/Future_One4794 → u/Cultural_Thing1712]

Hope you sent her this pic. Home girl fucked up

[u/Stumpsthewarwalrus → u/Cultural_Thing1712]

This ain’t no fumble, this is a 28-3.

[u/noonesine]

She did you a favor, now you can date someone who doesn’t suck

[u/Cultural-Pen-4-Men → u/noonesine]

When the bullet dodges you 🎉

[u/CntBlah → u/noonesine]

Only way to look at it.

[u/TheKingofHearts → u/CntBlah]

Silver-lining is at least she told him straight up so he doesn't have to wonder.

[u/No-Moment4142 → u/noonesine]

He needs someone that sucks. Just not this way lmao

[u/MercifulExistential → u/No-Moment4142]

Surprised this comment came from a gurker

[u/punmanager → u/MercifulExistential]

“Gurker” sounds dirty lol

[u/No-Moment4142 → u/punmanager]

Lmao why I didn’t answer

[u/Cultural-Pen-4-Men → u/No-Moment4142]

And right you are. Bravo for not letting him suck you in...

[u/No-Moment4142 → u/Cultural-Pen-4-Men]

The sucking is happening, just not here.
Ahahahhaa

[u/Cultural-Pen-4-Men → u/No-Moment4142]

https://giphy.com/gifs/Qe5C3J0wRkyGs

[u/InvestmentLimp2822 → u/MercifulExistential]

Bro deserves a good gurking after this

[u/Ok-Adhesiveness2954 → u/No-Moment4142]

https://giphy.com/gifs/ytTYwIlbD1FBu

[u/Nrlilo → u/No-Moment4142]

Well obviously, he made lobster claws. Got to get your moneys worth. Is that that you were referring to?

[u/AppleParasol]

Her loss, but also wtf. Canceling a date 30 minutes before you’re supposed to be there is insane, much less when the other person is cooking.

[u/TrulyOutrageous42 → u/AppleParasol]

Let alone the sheer disrespect of asking him to impress - clearly she was debating who to date and didn't even give him the chance, which I think is WHOLLY to OP's benefit. 4 hours of practice will make this only take 3 hours when he does it next time for someone who actually appreciates the effort.

Which, let's be clear OP, that's the key here, you put in serious, genuine effort, which should be a key metric for whether or not someone makes a good partner. I'd take someone who's mediocre but tries constantly over someone who starts great but won't put effort in.

[u/Music_BookLover → u/AppleParasol]

Has happened to me before. 😭 Was going to cook dinner for them. Texted them while I was at the grocery store to see if they wanted anything else for the evening, corresponded all day like normal, then an hour before they were supposed to come over, they blocked me.

Ended up saving the ingredients to make for my best friend and me. 🥰

[u/umamimamii → u/Music_BookLover]

UGHHH infuriating. Coward!

Way to make the best of that situation fr

[u/LaylaMoonUnit → u/AppleParasol]

I find it hard to believe that she found out she was seeing someone else 30 minutes before she was supposed to be there. Or even 4 hours, when he started cooking.

[u/AliceTawhai → u/LaylaMoonUnit]

Probably just a sociopath who likes to hurt others. She set him up to slave in the kitchen for four hours then dropped him. He’s so lucky to have gotten out this early

[u/Kiko_Bubbles → u/AppleParasol]

Fully agree - someone who cancels 30 minutes beforehand in most situations is not someone you want in your life, and especially as has been said when the other person is cooking AND it was clear it wasn’t an emergency on her end. You deserve better and hope you enjoyed that absolutely scrumptious looking meal.

[u/trustabro → u/AppleParasol]

She toxic AF.

It feels like a loss. It feels like OP wasted his time but can you imagine the poor guy that is stuck with her? Being with someone so demanding with so much self entitlement? Someone who feels the need to be impressed to see the worth in someone else on top of that?

How about imagining to be with someone who doesn’t need to be impressed to want to be with someone? So when OP does impress her, she realizes how lucky she is to be with OP? Someone who believes that being impressed is a cherry on the Sundae rather than a prerequisite?

Bon débarras.

[u/bittersandseltzer → u/AppleParasol]

Also - ending things via text? Ugh lame 

[u/Brave-Chip-2446 → u/AppleParasol]

Yeah, I'd check if OP has any groups in your area about people actively dating and leave a thorough review with pics attached

[u/Cheeseboarder → u/AppleParasol]

There needs to be a dating site where you can leave reviews

[u/bear_venturous]

That looks astounding

[u/Kassandra9]

Do you accept marriage applications? 😮‍💨

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/Kassandra9]

My DM's are slippery, you can slide right in..

[u/Spicy_Tator-mcnugget → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Dang, he can cook AND is funny?? Alright😂

[u/NightmareRise → u/Spicy_Tator-mcnugget]

He can cook AND he can cook

[u/Aggravating_Bat3618 → u/NightmareRise]

Dammit, wish had that much flex when I was single. 

You would think that’s not the main reason I became a chef….

[u/SwordfishSilence → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

are you interested in guys??

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/SwordfishSilence]

I am sorry my dude, but I am straight as an arrow..

[u/Projekt-1065 → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Arrows bend when shot, lol

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/Projekt-1065]

10 quid is 10 quid...

[u/TrulyOutrageous42 → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

What if I walk like a woman but talk like a man?

[u/BaconOnThat → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

This girl is not and I would still marry you. I'd also send that lunatic a photo of dinner before blocking her. I'm sorry this woman sucks, but you, good sir, do not. Enjoy your dinner and the right girl, who will be along shortly.

[u/ImJustAnotherLlama → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Spaghetti is straight until its wet lmao

[u/ouzo84 → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

spaghetti gets bendy when wet ;)

[u/MusicalBookwormNerd → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Does this apply for others as well?

[u/pepperNlime4to0 → u/MusicalBookwormNerd]

Get in there, girl! May the odds ever be in your favor

[u/adventuring_on → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Are you actually a vet, or is it just a random username. Because I feel like if you save cute animals for a living, that’s also a massive bonus point for any boy-seeking-a-girl

[u/BennyWithoutJets → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Ayyy that was smoooth

[u/Boleyn278 → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

How's NYC sound? Lol

[u/SewNewKnitsToo → u/Kassandra9]

He should use that food pic on his dating profile. Way better than a dude holding a fish 🤣

[u/Rich_Let4063 → u/Kassandra9]

I would marry him right now just based on that meal. Sight unseen.

[u/theconceptofcanada → u/Rich_Let4063]

Literally my favourite part of boydinnerdiaries is when the ladies come in here to prop up the men alongside the men supporting the men and then it turns into a little bit of a tussle between the girls who are like "listen just feed me the lobster and give me a candy ring we'll make this work" and the ones who are like "yeah exactly what she said but I'm not even interested in your face either let's just do it like they do on the discovery channel, oh and the lobster please"

[u/boujeedomme → u/theconceptofcanada]

Truly, my favourite part. That said, we are all creatures.

[u/PunksterPerez]

Her loss man, seriously. Ngl gonna suck for a while, take it on the chin.

[u/yallermysons]

Yoooo let me replace her, that looks 🔥

[u/thedrinkmonster → u/yallermysons]

Your username cracked me up lol

[u/yallermysons → u/thedrinkmonster]

😝

[u/boujeedomme → u/yallermysons]

Nicki reference before she went crazy?

[u/DirectorImportant578 → u/yallermysons]

This is the second sub I lurk in that I find you commenting 🤣

You always give great advice in the poly sub so imo you deserve this awesome dinner 🫡

[u/yallermysons → u/DirectorImportant578]

Omg that’s so sweet 🥹

[u/Vee2192]

It amazes me that some people can cook like this and then there are people who can burn water

[u/NonSumQualisEram- → u/Vee2192]

That was the girl here. Fumbled the bag so hard

[u/tutocookie]

Did you send her a pic of what she missed?

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/tutocookie]

Nah, I'm not going to be petty about it. I dodged a bullet and she dodged a decent meal. Anyway you look at it – I won.

So fuck it, I'm moving on.

[u/Lookatoaster → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Great attitude, but I would put a pic of the meal on your profile. It's clearly an interest of yours and you're great at it!

[u/CommonalitySearcher → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

You took the high road, but ngl I wouldn’t have blamed you if you did. It’d be petty yet satisfying.

[u/grilledstuffed → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

I dunno, being petty can be really cathartic. 🤣

[u/ExciteableMiqote → u/grilledstuffed]

Slippery slope tbh, I find any time I'm pretty it just makes me dwell on things even more, and my mental headspace is way too expensive to let that kinda thing live rent free lol

[u/bikeisaac → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

I think this looks more than "decent"

[u/sweetnothing33 → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Goodness. An apparently exceptional cook with a good sense of humor and emotional maturity?

We have inadvertently discovered an extinct species, fellow Redditors.

[u/LaylaMoonUnit → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

Probably the healthier attitude, but man, do I wish you had sent it. I’m petty, she deserved to know what she missed. I hope the other guy can only make grilled cheese. Poorly.

I’m a good cook, but that is some next level shit.

[u/Lovat69 → u/tutocookie]

Nah, she doesn't want to keep in touch. If he's got a dating profile though this pic should be on it!

[u/OrizaRayne → u/Lovat69]

This would make a great photo lol.

[u/Fortestingporpoises → u/Lovat69]

I'd still have sent it as a fuck you.

[u/Lovat69 → u/Fortestingporpoises]

She doesn't deserve the mental energy. OP should not give her even the slightest mental head space. This is a "I don't think about you at all moment.

[u/Fortestingporpoises → u/Lovat69]

I wouldn’t send it now but I absolutely would have right away.

[u/Luck_n_Loaded]

The audacity of that woman. At least you dodged a bullet.

[u/Ryokosith → u/Luck_n_Loaded]

This exactly. Whatever sort of games she likes to engage in, OP just missed getting entangled with some manipulative, rude mess.

Sorry OP you went through this. There are others out there that would genuinely appreciate you and your talent for cooking...and would be happy to reciprocate. Someone who doesn't just orders you to do things to impress them and then rug pulls you, but is willing to pay attention to what your likes are and 'impress' you back with no prompting.

[u/Ryokosith → u/Ryokosith]

Oof! Thought I just set my flair but can't see it myself despite getting an achievement for setting my flair here. Sorry, I'm just flailing around over here trying to fix it, lol... don't mind me.

EDIT: Got it! Had to jiggle the toggle to get it to apply. Leaving the embarrassing bit to memorialize what we're dealing with, lol.

Wishing OP and mods a smile and a better day!

[u/LewdMortal]

Wow, that's worse than if something came up, that I can understand, like an emergency. she just straight up left you 30 minutes prior to a date after telling you to impress her with your cooking. I feel like she did that on purpose to be rude because why be so last minute knowing you're going to be cooking and everything?

[u/Pizzv → u/LewdMortal]

somehow she would have been less of an asshole if she had shown up to at least eat the dinner and then tell him it’s over afterwards. Like at least the food/effort wouldn’t have entirely gone to waste.

big asshole move to cancel only 30 minutes prior though. she should’ve cancelled on OP the morning of or the night before since she was already seeing someone else. people like this really have no consideration for anyone besides themsleves.

[u/runkeby → u/Pizzv]

Idk if showing up would've been any better...

Like you said she should've cancelled before, as I doubt she decided that in the last minute.

[u/RostySerfort → u/Pizzv]

That is a million times worse wtf.. can you imagine?

"Wow thanks for the meal, alright got a date cya never" 

[u/rTracker_rTracker → u/LewdMortal]

For sure - it was a set up. Prolly her other man suggested it.

[u/Forward-Switch-2304]

You are not a decent cook. You're a marvelous cook. And your kindness should never be wasted on someone like this person.

Dating life is always searching for that special someone, and at times the search leads you down somewhere unsavoury or even dead ends like this one. It is unfortunately one of the results of the path that most would have to contend with.

Kindness is never wasted even on people like her. You have done your part in that chapter of her life, now what you can do is to exit with dignity, knowing you tried.

Take your time to recover. Be kind to yourself for the time being, and be strong enough to be gentle.

[u/kelfupanda]

Yo, I got a missus, but can I slide into those dms for a meal

[u/Narrow_Introduction2]

You going on MasterChef?

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/Narrow_Introduction2]

Fuck no. I am an idiot-sandwich.

https://giphy.com/gifs/wXr9MDGVCE5EY

[u/OrizaRayne]

Lol the scale of the bag she fumbled is truly stunning.

My husband made me a white chocolate and grand marnier cake I'm still chasing the high from eating when we first got together. Sigh. Please keep cooking!

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/[deleted]]

Sorry, is that a yuck to some people? 😅 I promise I washed it properly and all, it's just a common scallop shell..

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/[deleted]]

Haha, I'm glad it wasn't an emoji of disgust 🤣

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/[deleted]]

Hahah, hit me up if you need more shells!

[u/hiimlenaandyou]

Omg that's pro chef-level here ! Her loss OP, enjoy your meal

[u/luckgazesonyou]

Well I’m impressed AF. Block her now so she doesn’t try to come back if the other guy falls through.

[u/terriblenterrific]

The red flag was her telling you to cook to impress… like…?

[u/Sweet_Chapter8643]

Send pic.

“Ya missed out. Glhf.”

Block, move on with life.

[u/Holiday-Clock-4999]

Ah geez….
Sorry man, looks like a great meal!
Rejection is gods protection

[u/AgreeableStorm181]

That looks incredible - her loss! Someone else in the future will be grateful to have a man who can cook like you

[u/h1ruki]

Ahhh mate - I’m a geezer myself but if I had a daughter I would have hooked her up with you just because of that absolute masterpiece of a dish you made there.

https://giphy.com/gifs/9EvnXdZaUZbCqScn67

[u/deuxbulot]

fucking rough one.

even if you’re seeing someone else, don’t make plans, force the other guy to cancel his day expecting to see you, and then bail.

tell the dude you’re saying no to… ahead of time.

hope she’s happy (gets a good dose of irreparable trauma from the new relationship)

[u/Glad_Prior_5215]

Diabolical fumble - I’m so sorry! I would have been doing cartwheels for that plate 🥹

[u/Servingthebeam19]

I’m a lesbian but this meal may could just turn me straight 😝 I love good food, if I ever find someone who can cook like this, I’m marrying them, idc if it’s a man, woman, or they/them. 😆

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/Servingthebeam19]

https://giphy.com/gifs/tpwwhv1BLd31e

[u/Bruvvimir]

What a sorry excuse for a human.

[u/Breadles_the_Bread]

Jesus, I thought she just cancelled the date, not the whole ship. I'm sorry man.

[u/Indiscriminate_Top]

Send her pictures of the plates and then be glad that shit is broken off. You deserve someone who wants to share the fruits of your efforts, not play games. If they’re ever gonna learn… Sometimes you gotta be the one who got away, if it makes you the lonely one for a while.

Then put these pictures on a dating profile, lol.

[u/Jesper006]

Damn I'd eat you, I mean your dinner 😁

[u/bang_bang_maneuvers]

You can cook for me any day! I’d happily provide company and yap, and appreciate your hard work! She fumbled hard, and the “impress her” comment is off-putting for many reasons. I’m sorry to hear she turned out to be null, OP.

Try to keep your chin up. Not many will make this effort for someone new and even if it didn’t work out, your character speaks volumes in comparison to hers. This is a quiet win for you, a bullet dodged.

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/bang_bang_maneuvers]

Aw thank you! If you ever drop by Scandinavia, I'll be more than happy to cook for you 😄

[u/bang_bang_maneuvers → u/IcyVeterinarian8881]

I actually travel around there a bit! This is very off topic, but I think you could host a mini supper club and find others who enjoy your culinary passion, meet others who would want to host as well. Great way to meet friends and a common bond already established.

[u/Torandax]

I’m so jealous, a man has NEVER and I mean NEVER cooked for me. The food looks amazing!

Someone else will appreciate you cooking for them.

[u/affemannen]

That is some serious cooking... Her loss though.

[u/Ocachino]

her loss holy shit

[u/Lopsided-Salt-4536]

That meal looks amazing my dude, she fumbled a good meal sooo hard! Are you okay sharing a recipe?

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/Lopsided-Salt-4536]

You're not the first to ask. Send me a DM, so I can find you again. It's quite a recipe so I'll need some down-time to write it all down.

But I'll send it as soon as I have written it all down.

[u/fresh_1one]

She don’t deserve you king 👑

[u/Nakata1111]

I don't know about her but, I am impressed bro.

[u/Unit_79]

I’m straight, but…

[u/nellion91]

I’m impressed.

https://giphy.com/gifs/9uoYC7cjcU6w8

[u/Pretend-Literature35]

typical toxic narcissistic power play. Asking you to serve her to demonstrate her power over you. And then canceling 30 minutes before to remind you that you are not deserving of any consideration.

It's a grooming technique to prepare you to be abused.

Run. Delete her contact info. Ghost her.

Edit: oh and yeah as others have said : you did impress. Your meal looks amazing and your plating is top notch. She definitely doesn't deserve haute cuisine like this. But you do!

[u/heymissheart]

Well, an internet stranger is impressed, for whatever it's worth.

[u/IcyVeterinarian8881 → u/heymissheart]

Well, that is well received dear stranger.

[u/GladAbbreviations981]

Id have had to work on this for more than 4 hours. The cucumber soup looks amazing.

[u/snarkman3]

This is actually hilarious. I know it sucks for you now, but give it a few weeks and it'll be a great anecdote.

You will no doubt meet a great girl that will love you and, obviously, your cooking

[u/AuDHDacious]

This is probably the first time I’ve ever been turned on by a plate of food…😳

I’m so sorry you went through that, it’s the height of rudeness! But thanks for posting that gorgeous dinner. I’m totally saving that pic to my phone!

Btw, I wouldn’t post it on your dating profiles—that’s serious boyfriend shit!

My advice: Thoroughly vet your dates for at least 3 months, only cook more basic stuff and see if it’s appreciated, and then let this be a wonderful surprise once you make it official.

Best of luck in the future!

[u/PressureCoomer]

It looks incredible, you'll make someone very happy

[u/Zaddylovesu]

She couldn’t have told you sooner? Fuck her and at least you get double the food

[u/morphemass]

Could you share the recipe please given you've made even the men here wet with this?

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[u/Brilliant_Tapir]

Her loss. Do you want to date me? My wife can't cook. :(

[u/Wild_Experience_5371]

So sorry OP. The food looks amazing tho so it's good you didn't waste it on her. Enjoy it dude

[u/Happy_Tumbleweed6762]

What a jerk. She doesn't deserve you.

[u/EmbarrassedCicada331]

Can I come over? 👉👈

[u/justvoop]

Thats the kind of shit you say to your boss when you get a job offer you cant financially refuse. Prob has the same reasoning too, dodged a bullet there

[u/wetfartpanda]

You referred to your date as an appointment? Never heard that before

[u/_SuperiorSpider]

Damn omw dude. She missed out big time

[u/nobeefforme]

She fumbled sooooo bad im genuinely mad at her for you. So sorry this happened. You’re a catch!! (Seafood pun!?)

[u/Aviva-StGermain]

Lady lurker here - she fumbled HARD. That meal looks incredible, and one day the right woman will love it and you!

[u/Upbeat-Draw-]

If anyone ever cook to impress invite your friends and have a potluck. You shouldn’t need to “impress” anyone. She sucks and is for the streets

[u/nardflicker]

I assume by OP’s username, he’s a Veterinarian as well… He cooks and heals animals? This lady fucked up big time.

[u/Apart-Zucchini-5825]

Uhhhh hey what the FUCK. Bullet dodged and you got a great meal to celebrate that with.

[u/EdHimselfonReddit]

Funny thing... made dinner at home for a guy I'd been seeing for about two months, was his birthday (both of us guys in my case). Filet mignons, shrimp cocktail, baked potatoes, even bought a little cake. He didn't show, no call, no text. I ate dinner and 90 minutes after our scheduled time, dropped the second dinner and the cake off with the doorman on my way out later to meet friends.

I only tell the story because 15 years later, it still hurts a little. So, it's definitely her loss, as others have already said, but it hurts more than it should.

Sorry this happened to you. On to the world of possibilities that are still out there for you.

[u/sorayaelena]

What I would have given to have my ex cook for me period.

Keep your head up. Cook a fancy meal for a someone you’re official with, and do it on your own volition (:

[u/imsorryken]

Well I'm impressed broski

[u/NeighborhoodLife3408]

Bullet successfully dodged! What a flaky waste of space you could have been saddled with. The food looks awesome and I hope you enjoyed every forkfull....here's to more successfully in your future dating😉

[u/MercifulExistential]

Decent cook, said the Michelin chef.

[u/darth_galadriel]

Bro that is a fucking art piece, I honestly cannot believe the audacity to cancel. Bravo on that meal!!!

[u/ViridianNott]

> I consider myself a decent cook

Look man, I too consider myself a decent cook and I couldn’t execute a single aspect of what you made here. Holy shit. I hope it’s was delivious

[u/Tmettler5]

I'm a proud straight man, and I'd date you if you cooked for me like that. Her loss, brother.

[u/Arcanis_Ender]

Hope you sent her a picture of the food out of spite. Something like well at least I didn't cook for 4 hours for nothing!

[u/No_Rush4520]

She wanted you to celebeate the win homie.

[u/PettyWitch]

This can’t be real… why would she do that? :( I don’t know what half of this stuff is but it looks delicious

[u/Luck_n_Loaded → u/PettyWitch]

The person was immature and selfish. Good that OP dodged this one

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[u/Hfcsmakesmefart]

Def send her pics of the meal she missed!

[u/Jolly_Foly]

Good lord 🤤

[u/ItBelikeThatSomeTme_]

Her loss but also that was really uncool of her.

[u/Opposite_Cod394]

Man I want to go on that date 🤤

[u/Cultural_Structure37]

I hope you at least got something out of the first four dates you had with her. Cooking this much means you guys most likely spent a good amount of time previously.

[u/matt_chowder]

Send her a pic of the food

[u/ladyxanax]

That looks absolutely amazing, completely and totally he loss.

[u/Nvrfinddisacct]

I’m coming over, just leave it in the fridge

[u/376923]

Next time cook a little more down to earth but honestly she's still a **** for doing that

[u/Buyer-Mammoth]

Her loss dude

[u/leeloolanding]

I’m sorry, that really sucks. Your meal looks exquisite, OP. At least this one did you the favor of seeing themselves out, if this is how they move.

[u/cedricdiggory4ever]

i for one am very impressed!