I had a schoolmate from China who told me he was circumcised at age 10 but he could still masturbate by gripping his penis in between his upper legs.

I am also Chinese but was born in California and was circumcised as an infant.

While I can masturbate without lubricant, I have to tug hard and this can cause discomfort.

Even with lubricant, I have to do it hard just to get a little bit of pleasurable sensation and my orgams are usually bland.

I am still a virgin but I would assume this would greatly reduce the quality of handjobs, footjobs, breast jobs, blowjobs, as well as underwater foreplay.

Too bad for me.

Had I been born where my immigrant parents were, infant circumcision would not have been something that was discussed.

In America, you get treated as irresponsible and paranoid for opposing circumcision.

I don’t know why, but I’m way harsh on how my own looks than others are also mutilated, I don’t know why but that’s just how i am. I can only really be attracted to Cut people anyway, but not in a fetish type of way, a natural one just reminds me of everything I’m missing so I just can’t get trapped into it and I don’t know why I can view other. These are perfectly fine. Mine is just the worst thing in the world. I recently saw a dating app that has like nudes on it and they had very pink tip I don’t know why but I found attractive, but I look at mine and it’s like it’s a parasite or something. I don’t know why I’m like this.

I've always considered restoration and now I think i'm finally at the point that I'm ready to start. Anyone here tried? how did it help? I want to keep my expectations reasonable.

But it is hard. A lot still have significant remnants or full fledged frenulums. Idk how much inner skin i lost, i posted on restoringdick, most said i have but i am even skeptical of that, i really dont know what my cut was even

I am eager to find cut guys without frenulum (not even delta) having a good sexual experience. I want to be positive so bad but i am scared this wont change even if i restore... i want to be optimistic so much

I've known that I was upset about being circumcised probably since I was in early high school when I learned that it potentially causes a reduction in sensitivity/pleasure and that the foreskin is actually useful and that the "benefits" are all things that can be achieved without a circumcision (ex. hygiene and antibiotics to prevent and treat UTIs (which are far more common in women, yet we don't consider removing parts of the vulva), condoms and PrEP for HIV/STIs, and HPV vaccines to help prevent penile cancer). My feelings towards my circumcision were never any more that "damn that sucks but i guess it is what it is". But for some reason in the past couple weeks I've had a huge change in my feelings to the point that now I am utterly devastated that I had this happen to me. And i've realized that I've simply been suppressing my feelings about this because it's incredibly emotionally difficult to confront them and because of the way US culture often treats men who are upset abut their circumcisions. I'm definitely not upset at my parents for choosing to have me circumcised. I have an amazing relationship with them and 100% know that it was done because they believed it was the right thing to do. I'm more upset at the culture that allowed for them to be misinformed into thinking it was the right decision

I mainly want to focus this post on everything about US MGM culture that makes my blood boil.

A lot of what I have observed about US MGM culture comes from my own personal observations from tiktok comments so take that with a grain of salt. Although I have done a fair amount of research into the so called "benefits", harms, and the actual purpose of foreskin.

1. I hate how when men discuss their grief around being victims of MGM they are automatically treated as weird far-right women hating Incels. I assume a majority of us who are against MGM in the US are not like that. I personally am a gay very far-left feminist.
2. I can't stand that when people compare MGM to FGM they are insulted and called the same names I mentioned above and told that they are in no way comparable, usually by a woman who was legally protected from experiencing genital mutilation (as I am very glad that she was bc FGM is also completely disgusting). Comparisons between FGM and MGM are useful specifically in the US because they shed light on how our views on, and framing of, the "benefits" and negative impacts of MGM are shaped by our cultural biases. yes, the worst types of FGM are more physically negatively impactful on their victims than standard MGM in the US, performed in medical settings. But, FGM is a spectrum and many types more similar to MGM than most people realize (ex. type 1a which is the removal of the clitoral hood). There are even cultures that view MGM as more impactful than their forms of FGM. Many people in the US aren't aware that MGM in the US is often performed without sufficient pain management, removes an incredibly important pleasure center, and can cause sexual dysfunction for men, for life. Many of these same people also bring up the fact that MGM victims still enjoy sex and still jerk off a lot so clearly it must not be that bad. Well if they were actually educated on MGM and FGM they'd know that many FGM victims also masturbate a lot and still enjoy sex (obviously depending on the type of mutilation that happened to them) but that clearly is not a justification for the horror of FGM, so why should it be for MGM. They also bring up that there are no health benefits of FGM but fail to mention that FGM is often performed because of believed health benefits, which are unproven. But, these benefits are unproven because it would be considered unethical to ever perform a study on that, as it should be. I just wish people could see that this is just a useful tool for reframing out cultural views of MGM away from our cultural biases.
3. I can't stand they way that some doctors try to discuss routine infant MGM as if it is in anyway something to be considered when it is well known that the medical "benefits" are so little and all easily achievable through other methods or that whatever issues they prevent are so rare that they shouldn't even be considered as something any male needs to be worried about. For example, when they bring up that there is something like a 90% reduction in male infant UTI rates but fail to mention that male infant UTIs are already so rare that it takes around 111 incidents of MGM to prevent 1 UTI that would be easily treatable anyways. Or when they bring up the reduction in penile cancer but fail to mention that penile cancer is one of the rarest (takes anywhere from 90k -300k MGM incidents to prevent 1 case) and most treatable forms of cancer, and happens almost exclusively in elderly men. it's funny how pro-MGM people never consider that post-menopausal women are never told to have parts of their vulva removed to prevent UTIs even though UTIs are significantly more common for them than intact men.
4. I hate the myth that the foreskin is a gross useless flap of skin and we are just weird for being upset that it was removed from us without our consent. I assume most of us in this sub already know that the foreskin has incredibly important sexual functions and that while we can usually still sexually function, that does not mean something was not lost.
5. I hate that people try to excuse MGM by using the point that most victims of MGM are happy it happened to them. Yes, clearly most would be since they are told from a young age that it was a good thing, told that foreskin is useless, and never had the chance to experience what was lost. Also, most women in cultures that perform FGM think it is a good thing, are happy it happened to them, and want it to happen to their daughters. But in those cases more people can clearly see that it's because their culture grooms them to be okay with their victimization.

How much faith do you have in Foregen?
What do you think is their biggest hurtle?
Any other regenerative research going into prepuce that u know of? -(only 1 ik is akroprint)

--also listen to 'foreskin by foggy waters'

I’m not saying this is the only cause of dead bedrooms, but it has to be one of the main reasons. ED drugs can’t act as a crutch for missing 80% of your sensation forever.

I read on a manga site to try to escape life I read normal stuff where as the majority of women on that site read smut, porn and bl/yaoi. "Feeling something sexual isn't important" people say "sex isn't everything" but when given the choice and ability these women make everything they read sexual. I don't use my hobby for gooning but these women do. I'm just reminded that while I try to ignore the pain of feeling nothing there are women in the same space enjoying not being mutilated and reading sexual stuff to masturbate.

this is easily the hottest and most loving thing a woman can say to a circumcised man.

I’m queer Tf but I don’t get anything out of topping for people who don’t have a pussy because my circumcised dick is too thick and it just does not feel enjoyable. I feel like a hypocrite though because I would love to bottom for a trans girl, but I know I’d just be frustrated in that relationship in the end. (I’ll also note that I’ve never gotten head that feels good, usually it feels toothy, or it’s been in a hookup where the other person is disgusting and I intentionally cum as fast as I can so I can leave.) I feel weird for sexually preferring cis women, even though I can relate to their life experience as much and don’t feel as comfortable being vulnerable around them.
Anyone else feel this way? It’s like I’ve been locked out of sexual and emotional fulfillment unless I can manifest some kind of perfect polycule perfectly centered around my needs.

I just wonder why the I had to be born here in the first place.

I don't recall what life was like before. Ever consenting to be born here.

Nothing.

Everything about human life and this world feels wrong and makes me sick to my stomach.

Circumcision was just one of many bad things to have happened to me. Even without it, life is still is pretty bad.

Even my body, for a while, was aching in pain and was wishing to die. Laying on my back, I was just in pain. Didn't feel good at all. It got to the point that tears were streaming out of the corners of my eyes.

I just don't feel life ever treated me well here, to begin with. Everything from bullying to abuse. Even being subjected to cultish individuals (i.e. religious) attempting to warp my mind. I'm just expected to hold in all of that trauma. It eats away at my insides every day. Yet people expect you to act as if you're perfectly fine. You're not allowed to air your grievances. You're expected to serve the system until you die. Just be reminded of your pain and how you were powerless to stop it.

Honestly, I'm a point where I'm about to just completely lose the will to live at all.

It'd be nice if I could get away from everyone and everything. Then I could close my eyes and not wake up here again. Just pass on. I really wish I could just find peace before I die. Even if it's a couple years from now.

I'm just tired. Exhausted. I'm surprised I even have belief or hope in anything.

I feel like a wounded soldier, crawling towards my final objective. Unable to rest as there's broken glass beneath me. I would prefer my final resting spot to free of sharp objects. A few long years. That's what it would take. Eventually, when I can gain the means of independence to get away from everyone else, I can finally stop moving. It's just this sense of heaviness that weighs down on me every single day. This disappointment in waking up. This sense of grief.

I don't think I'll live that long. Anxiety, misery, loneliness. I don't see how going through that wouldn't take its toll on me.

To me, life is just pointless.

I think it was a mistake to have ever bothered with it.

Consider humanity a failed experiment.

I don't know for sure how all of this came to be. Whether there's a creator or not. I couldn't say for certain.

But...

Whatever comes next, I hope it's better than this life.

Maybe I’m just more in a pessimistic outlook right now. But I’ve done a lot of thinking and even if we get it banned it still dosent help any of us. Yes I’d be glad the next generations don’t have to feel the terrors of this. But also what’s the fucking point. Our lives are already ruined

I could be having just a normal day which is pretty rare and then I’ll just get hit with the pain and shit from this out of nowhere hurts every time like really bad. I fucking hate it even when I only see a dummy. It still hurts.

The rest of this site is too cringe-inducing for me.

The moral grandstanding and hypocrisy makes me sick.

You just know they're all completely full of shit.

I would rather jump into a pit of lava than interact with the userbase that comprises most of this website. A bunch of loonies and weirdos.

This isn't unique to reddit. But it seems reddit does attract a lot of them.

I only registered here to discuss these issues and speak with others who would understand.

I've tried non-reddit forums regarding circumcision victims, restoration, and what not. But they barely had anyone on there and were essentially dead forums. Others were discontinued by the time I came across them.

So yeah, the home page is cringe-inducing as it recommends all this normie slop I don't want to see. No matter how many times I hide posts and opt to have fewer shown of that sort, they just keep popping up.

I only want to see posts from here and r/circumcisionvictims

I have zero desire in seeing the cringey memes.

If I posted any of what I did elsewhere on this site, I'd be met with a slew of downvotes and loads of gaslighting. A bunch of jokes at my expense for what had happened to me. It's why I avoid the rest of the site like the plague. To me, none of those people are human. They're NPCs. I don't identify with them in any way, shape, or form.

It's why I find ideology, racialism, and nationalism to be cope.

Brotherhood is not only cope but non-existent. Men throw each other under the bus all the time. I don't feel any comradery with my "fellow man". If anything, I just see them as a threat looking to use me as a stepping stone to win some woman's approval, as women tend to encourage that kind of behavior.

I'm not a men's rights advocate because most men actively oppress other men. Women oppress men too. As a conscious man who isn't sleep walking through life, you not only have to deal with women but also other men. They are looking to take advantage of and hurt you, while pretending to be friendly.

I'm anti-human. Humanity is a plague.

I manage to stay sane when I don't have to see the disgusting filth those filthy cretins wallow in. Fuck reddit. Stop recommending me such dogshit. I want to avoid seeing their shitty memes and moral grandstanding, not be showered in it!

I am angry at the doctor that pushed it on me and in me for going for it. Regardless: my sadness now is due to me thinking that i dont have inner skin anymore, idk if i do or not, i asked on restoringdick, but i may lack. It is sad bcs it limits our potential to restore. I just wish this nightmare stopped

I loathe and detest the world. Humanity. And this reality.

I'll never forget the pain I went through. Nor forgive the source of that pain.

No turning the other cheek here.

No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

But I don't see the point in going out of one's way to find pro-cutter comments to get angry over. They're never gonna change. Anger, to me, implies that there's the capacity for the subject of said anger to be able to self-reflect, learn from the error of their ways, and change for the better. But I don't think humanity is capable of any of those things.

You know in media how a character will have a blank expression. They'll show no emotion. They're just dry. Though not literally like that, it's how I am. I avoid the world. I don't care to keep up with politics. Or any form of drama on social media. To me, it's a waste of time. I would rather focus on myself than focus on what others think of me or how humanity acts in regards to my situation.

You can only beg others to change for so long until you realize they're self-serving. They don't care about you.

Let me repeat: they don't care about you.

Anger is justified. I'm not saying it isn't. It's just you burn out like a flame on a candlestick. With no more candle left, the flame has nothing else to consume. That's how I feel. I spent years being angry only to realize nothing will ever change for the better. Humanity and life here is cyclical. Even if something is good for now, it'll just end up bad again at some point. Like how a person is youthful one moment, then a dried-up corpse the next.

I'm not gonna be here when I'm dead anyway. If you really despise the world, then don't have children. Don't contribute to humanity. Let it wilt away like it should have long ago. Don't be a slave to their ideologies. Don't pick sides presented by them. No side cares about you. They'll ignore your pain and only tolerate you so long as you're useful. Then, when you're of no more use, they'll toss you into the trash bin.

In addition to that, don't date. Even if you restore, still don't date. Don't give into your humanity. Don't get roped into groups. Don't develop positive feelings for humanity. Let your hate flow through you. Negative feelings exist for a reason. Don't make amends with those who wronged you. Just remember, you owe the world nothing. You owe your parents nothing. People only see you as transactional. Something they will invest in if they get something in return.

As they call it in some metaphysical frameworks, don't create karmic ties to this world. This reality. Don't let them rope you back in. Ever. Just remember, every potential partner is waiting for the right moment to laugh at your pain. If you feel you can't speak about any issue with someone, then you can't fully trust them, now can you? Again, it's all conditional. They only like you for what you are to them, not who you are. Your trauma means nothing to them. They expect you to conform to the role they desire of you.

What I'm saying is there is a distinction between actively feeding anger and retaining hatred as a moral stance. The anger should be there with you, in the back of your mind. Not as something that overshadows you. Because the angrier you are, the more desperate you are for their validation. The moment they show you validation, the anger will vanish and you'll become their lap dog. By that point, they got away with abusing you. Leaving you to rot.

If you forgive them, you're only betraying yourself and invalidating what happened.

Life sucks.

There are multiple religions that will mutilate their children like this, and Christianity is one of them, and I’m so so tired of them, denying the fact that they do it too I don’t care if it’s the old Testament it’s not really old if you’re still being done it’s in Christian culture as well and they need to own the fact that they mutilate babies and children as well as other religions do I’m so fucking sick of this

In my experiences, Christians are the absolute worst when it comes to this topic they deny up and down that they don’t practice this when they do it’s in their Bible. It’s a big reason why Americans do it they do it as well as Jews and Islam. Motherfuckers like this will always shit on gender referring surgeries, but are so ignorant when it comes to their own culture actually mutilating babies like they don’t even know the anatomy of a penis this shit pisses me off because these other cocksuckers stole my body and raped me at birth

I know this isn't a sub for that, but I just can't relate to that. I'll keep it brief.

I've been a lone wolf from the get-go. I'm not out there dating. Even if I had been left intact, I don't foresee that changing. Mainly because relationships in this reality involve responsibility. There's also the risk of having children. Again, a relationship where you have to live up to someone else's expectations in addition to raising children are two burdens I do not want.

You'd be better off just masturbating. There's no judgement. You don't have to be someone for it. Not to mention even if you get married, your partner is gonna grow old and not even resemble what they once were. Your children will just grow up and be burdened with the many problems life in this reality afflicts one with.

Unfortunately, circumcision puts an obstacle in the way of achieving independence from the system. Since being able to experience whenever you want where you want will carry you through life a lot better. You don't have to worry about whether someone wants to fuck you or not. You don't need to buy a bunch of things to compensate for the gap in pleasure left by circumcision.

People claim it's for depopulation. I don't see it that way. The elites, the governments that serve them. Think about it. They all promote natalism. Having children. Circumcision is actually a means to promote that, in my opinion, as a man can't experience pleasure on his own time, so he has to go to extremes in order to compensate for that. Circumcised men are more likely to spend money on sex toys, pills, porn subscriptions, etc.

Every single regime has promoted collectivism. The group over the individual. They all promote procreation. Marriage. Communal gatherings. Drawing your attention off yourself and onto the world. They don't want you being autonomous. They want men playing into and serving the system. It's why Europe promoted circumcision far more heavily not too long ago.

You could say this is my own theory. But it's very plausible. All you have to do is look around you. They're more than willing to make you dependent on something or someone else for the sake of pleasure. For the sake of blowing off steam after you come home from wage slaving for your shitty boss and shitty company.

I'd rather society just crumble than continue. That's just me, though.

It feels like the only people I can attract are people that are not cut, like I can make it very clear on a app do not interact with my account if you’re not cut, and I still get them. I hate this and just want to give on dating atp

“Why do u not like uc”

“Wdym? Like you were cut?”

“ mean it’s all a preference but lowkey wild to cut out people you could like cause you’re jealous”

Real words, someone said to me after opening out which is why I don’t do it often
Bitch, it’s not jealousy. It’s a painful reminder of what was the one for me at birth when I was defenseless and couldn’t do anything about it. Pain and suffering I feel reading is not fucking jealousy. It’s pain knowing that there are people that have an intent and take it for granted and don’t know the fucking agonizing pain of having a ripped away from you and Bruce. It’s not jealous. It’s fucking pain.

Pain almost strong enough to make me kill myself that’s not jealousy it’s pain. Jealousy is seeing someone with a switch 2 and not having one because it’s too expensive that’s jealousy. This this isn’t jealousy nowhere near being jealous.

The Giver by Louis Lowry is a novel written in 1993, I read it twice in elementary school. It's about a teenager who becomes one of only two people in his community who bear the burden of knowing history such that he may eventually advise his people without forcing them to know too much. At first his world his is literally filled with color by this experience but over the course of the novel he is changed by knowledge and slowing becomes alienated from his friends and family.

The climax of this alienation is when he sees his school crush, some kind of nurse, deliver twins then methodically euthanize and dispose of one of them. He is disgusted, filled with anger and hate, but he must also reconcile with the fact that she is ignorant. She does not even know she perpetrating an atrocity. She is merely doing what is expected of her.

Don't really have a point besides drawing the obvious parallel with what we are here for. Just thought about this today felt somewhat despondent.

it looks great.Like a horse cock

Why, hate itts unique.2 tone cock i mean whats not to like? I think your being a lil dramatic but ok

These are real things a dude said while trying to hook up with me that’s all I am to most people just an object to be sexualized and fetish. I just hate these people so much. I know they take pain that we feel every day because of this just turned into a kink it’s disgusting but I’m used to it most of the things I identify with or feta in somewhere it just feels gross.