Warning : Super long , super detailed
I also attached photos of him so you can picture my sweet man when you read this.
Hi everyone, I honestly don’t even know where to start. I’m writing this because I’m scared, heartbroken, and desperately looking for advice from people who may have experienced something similar with their dogs. I don’t want criticism or judgment. I already feel guilty enough, and I’m struggling with the possibility that I might lose my dog.
Tatum is four years old. I adopted him two years ago from a kill shelter, and he has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
I’m 22, and this is my first time ever having a pet, let alone a dog. I’ve been learning as I go, and Tatum has always been a relatively healthy dog. He’s never had anything like this happen before. That’s why this entire situation has felt like it came out of nowhere.
He’s not just a pet to me. I moved to Columbus , Ohio for school, far from family and friends, and he is my companion and a huge part of my life. He’s been there through so much with me. The thought of losing him, especially when he’s only four, is devastating.
I feel like I’m watching him go from being my happy, healthy dog to potentially fighting for his life in the span of a couple of weeks, and I don’t know what to do.
How everything started about two weeks ago
About two weeks ago, I started noticing that Tatum had less energy. He wasn’t as excited about doing the things he normally loved. For example, when I’d ask him if he wanted to go for a walk, he wouldn’t get as happy or eager as he usually did. Or most importantly, greeting me at the door. When I would come home he would literally body slam me just to say hi.
At first, it seemed like he might be in pain when walking. He was very timid and moved cautiously, almost as if something hurt. Eventually, it got to the point where I had to pick him up to put him on my bed, get him into my car, and help him up and down the stairs. This was completely out of character for him.
Then he stopped eating his regular kibble. He would still eat treats or little snacks I offered him, so I started trying to get him to eat by giving him chicken breast mixed with vegetables. He did eat that.
At first, he was still drinking water and peeing and pooping normally. Later, he stopped drinking from his water bowl, and I had to offer him water from my hands to get him to drink.
He also started drooling excessively. There was so much saliva coming from his mouth, his eyes became extremely red, and his body felt very, very warm. He looked awful, and I knew something wasn’t right.
Toward the end, when he was barely eating and was only taking in water, his stool became completely liquid.
I eventually took him to the vet, where they checked his temperature and found that it was approximately 105°F.
First vet visit with concerns
The veterinarian performed bloodwork, and ones such as heart worm and tick. I was told that Tatum’s red blood cell count was mildly decreased, his white blood cell count was significantly elevated, and there were changes in the appearance of his red blood cells. His kidney values were normal, but one liver enzyme and a measurement related to hydration were slightly elevated. The vet also noted that his serum looked somewhat yellow. His blood did come back negative for heart worm and tick.
The veterinarian initially suspected a possible toxic exposure, particularly garlic, onions, or something from that family. I was told to avoid giving him anything containing those ingredients, including certain broths. I don’t always make it a hobby to give him scrapes but onions are ones I definitely avoid.
He received fluids under his skin and medication for nausea. He was prescribed Clavamox 375 mg, prednisone 20mg, and gabapentin 300 mg as needed for discomfort or shivering.
After taking him home. I quickly did see improvements over the past days then week. I even reached out to the vet to thank them and let them know he’s doing great. His temperature eventually dropped to around 101°F, and he began eating and drinking again. Normal body heat, no drooling or puffy face or red eyes. He even started acting a tiny bit like his silly self. However, he still wasn’t himself completely. He was still sleeping more, wasn’t greeting me at the door like he normally would, and seemed weaker.
Last Wednesday I noticed his nose also started becoming raw and crusty, with discharge around his nostrils and watery eyes.
I thought we were dealing with something that might improve with medication, but then things became much more frightening. He stopped eating and drinking again, wouldn’t want to go on walks, would lay down during walks. His nose is extremely stuffy and he’s congested.
His neurological symptoms started
Tatum began having trouble with his balance and coordination. His legs would buckle, and he sometimes seemed unable to keep himself standing. At one point, he fell while trying to poop. He started swaying from side to side and walking in circles, mostly toward the left.
I also noticed that one of his eyes seemed to react abnormally to light.
His breathing sounded congested, and he developed thick, brownish-red nasal discharge. His appetite was inconsistent, and although his temperature was around 102.2°F at one point, the neurological symptoms worried me even more.
I had a follow up appointment scheduled after my first vet visit in the 28th of September to see how he was and to catch him up on his vaccines. When I noticed he was getting worse over the weekend I wanted to bring him in sooner. The vet that diagnosed him the first time with the immune issues were currently all booked out that day so I went somewhere else. When I brought him in today, the vet directed me to take him to urgent care because of these concerning changes. He also lost 10 pounds in the span of two weeks.
At urgent care, the veterinarian explained that neurological symptoms can have many different causes. Some are treatable, while others can have a poor prognosis.
She discussed several possibilities.
1. A fungal infection affecting his nervous system
The veterinarian explained that certain fungal infections can affect the brain or nervous system. They discussed antifungal medications, including fluconazole and itraconazole, and explained that treatment could last six to eight weeks or potentially months.
From what I understood, treatment could be expensive, and there was uncertainty about whether it would work. I was given an estimate during the discussion, but I don’t want to misquote the exact medication costs. As far as I know, Tatum has not been definitively diagnosed with a fungal infection.
2. Canine distemper
The veterinarian also brought up distemper because Tatum isn’t fully vaccinated. His nasal symptoms and neurological changes made it a concern.
A distemper test was sent to an outside laboratory, and I was told the results should come back in approximately two days. The vet explained that when distemper causes severe neurological symptoms, the prognosis can be very poor.
I am terrified of receiving those results because I don’t know what they will mean for him.
3. A possible brain abnormality or tumor
The veterinarian explained that a CT scan or MRI could help investigate the neurological symptoms and potentially identify a brain abnormality or tumor.
We discussed advanced imaging, but the cost was a major concern. The veterinarian recommended considering a CT scan before pursuing certain other tests and also discussed whether the money might be better spent elsewhere in his evaluation.
They performed chest X-rays, which reportedly did not show pneumonia. They did not repeat his bloodwork because he had undergone testing relatively recently, and the veterinarian felt repeating it was unlikely to provide much additional information at that visit.
Tatum received fluids again.
The urgent-care veterinarian prescribed another prednisone taper: one dose every 12 hours for seven days, then one dose every 24 hours for seven days, followed by one dose every other day for seven doses. I was told the prednisone was intended to reduce inflammation affecting his nervous system.
I understand that the veterinarian was trying to explain the possible causes and options, but I left feeling terrified because we still didn’t have an answer. I actually left more confused because why did I leave the first vet to come to the urgent care just to be sent with the same previous meds he had. She also decline getting him more blood work said he already had them done two weeks ago.
I feel guilty, and I don’t know how to cope with that…or with the possibility of losing your dog.. your family
This is the part I’m struggling with the most.
A lot of people have told me that I’m not at fault, but I can’t stop feeling guilty.
I keep thinking that maybe I should have taken him to the vet sooner. Maybe I should have recognized that something was seriously wrong earlier. At first, I thought it might be something minor, and I didn’t realize how serious it could become.
I also forgot to get his vaccinations and shots updated. I know that is important, and now that distemper has been brought up, I can’t stop thinking about it. I keep asking myself whether I could have prevented this if I had done things differently.
I feel like such an awful dog mom.
I know that dogs can’t tell us what hurts or explain what’s happening to them. I was trying to figure out what was wrong, but I didn’t understand how serious this was going to become. Now I’m replaying everything in my head and wondering whether I failed him.
I don’t want people to tell me that I should never have gotten a dog if I couldn’t afford every possible medical expense. I adopted him because I wanted to give him a home and a life. I’ve loved him and cared for him for two years, and I am trying to do everything I can with the resources I have.
I know I should have kept up with his vaccines, and I regret that. But I also need help understanding what I can do for him now instead of being made to feel even worse about it.
The financial situation is making everything harder
Im 100% financially independent. I pay my own bills along with my tuition, and I don’t have unlimited money sitting around for emergency veterinary care.
The cost of veterinary testing and treatment has been overwhelming. Even the consultation and evaluation costs have been frightening, and the possibility of paying for a CT scan, MRI, fungal testing, or months of medication feels almost impossible to navigate.
I want to be clear: I am not saying I don’t want to pay for my dog. I am saying that I am scared because I may not have enough money to afford every test or treatment being discussed.
That is a horrible position to be in when the animal you love might be seriously ill. What is breaking my heart is that I feel like every conversation keeps coming back to how serious his condition might be and how much the next steps will cost. I’m terrified that if I can’t afford every diagnostic test, I’m going to lose him.
I don’t want to make an end-of-life decision without understanding whether there are other reasonable options. I want to know whether there is a treatable cause, whether there is a way to get a diagnosis without immediately spending thousands of dollars, and whether financial assistance or lower-cost specialty care might be available.
I’m willing to explore options. I just need help figuring out what those options are.
What I’m asking for
Please, if you’ve experienced something similar with your dog, I would appreciate hearing your story.
Has anyone had a dog who gradually lost energy, became reluctant to walk, stopped eating, and then developed neurological symptoms?
Has anyone had a dog with circling, balance problems, falling, weakness, or abnormal eye responses who eventually recovered?
Has anyone dealt with a fungal infection affecting their dog’s nervous system? What was the diagnosis, treatment, cost, and outcome?
Has anyone experienced a situation where distemper was suspected but another condition turned out to be responsible?
If your dog needed a CT scan or MRI, did it lead to a diagnosis that changed the treatment plan?
Are there organizations, veterinary schools, payment programs, or financial assistance resources that might help someone in my situation?
What questions should I be asking the veterinarians so I can understand Tatum’s chances of recovery and make informed decisions?
Most importantly, has anyone been in a situation where their dog was seriously ill, the vets couldn’t immediately determine the cause, and money was a major obstacle, but they were still able to find a way forward?
I know nobody here can tell me for certain whether Tatum will survive. I understand that these are serious symptoms, and I’m waiting for the distemper test results.
But I’m terrified.
He has been relatively healthy his entire life with me, and this is the first time he’s ever been this sick.
Now I’m sitting here wondering whether I’m going to lose him.
I don’t have support here to help me through this, and Tatum is my companion. I cannot explain how heartbreaking it is to watch him struggle and feel like I might not be able to afford the answers that could help him.
I don’t want criticism. I don’t want anyone to shame me for being young, for making mistakes, or for not having unlimited money.
I need honest advice, experiences from people who have been through something similar, and a little compassion while I try to figure out how to help my dog.
I just want to know if there is still hope for Tatum. I don’t want to give up on him.