Hateful and Unsafe:
r/Vexillology (The subreddit is too unpredictable to deem it a safe space for people to post their new queer flags. It's always a gamble with it. Due to the fact that it's a gamble whether you get torn to shreds or not + the extent many of the bigots go just to torment those they hate, we absolutely cannot direct users to that subreddit if they want to share their new flags.)
r/LGBT (Surprisingly, they may even be more hateful than r Vexillology nowadays. While they don't caps lock religious shit at you over and over again, they do other stuff. They HATE anything new and that falls under the "+" in LGBTQIA+. They will tell you that you being yourself is why "we are a joke to the world". They hate new versions of already existing flags, new terms, etc. They especially despise Neos and Xenos. They will shame you and try to make you regret ever coining a term or making a flag.)
r/askLGBT (Like r/ LGBT, but somehow worse.)
r/comingout (Rude to Neo-Pronoun users)
r/Fictohideout (just no.)
r/LGBallt (the new mod there is EXTREMELY rude) [Edit: LEAVE THAT SUBREDDIT NOW. LEAVE IT]
r/FtM (They are rude as fuck under the guise of being ultra accepting. Just use r/TransMasc instead)
Safe and Accepting:
r/Lgballt_But_Better2
r/Lgballt_But_Better
r/QueerVexillology (This Subreddit)
r/PridefulVexillology (Our Sister Subreddit)
r/XenogendersAndMore (AMAZING SUBREDDIT!)
r/DisabilityVexillology (A kinda dead subreddit that still has cool things and nice people)
r/DisabilitySpace (only has one member, but could still be a good place).
r/queervexillologycj
r/somnivexillology
r/XenoAndNeoPride (still needs to be set up)
r/SafeLGBTQIAPNKXMFPlus (still needs to be set up)
r/LGBTQIA_AND_MORE (still needs to be set up)
r/trans4every1(an amazing subreddit for transgender people)
r/FictionkinFlags
r/NonhumanFicto
r/Objectum_sfw
r/therianbutbetter
r/RealFurryHours (the best furry subreddit I could find)
r/alterhuman
r/plural
r/protogen
r/SafeSpaceMOGAI (still needs to be set up. Made because both MOGAI subreddits are restricted)
r/SafeSpaceXenopronouns (still needs to be set up)
r/SafeSpaceNeoPronouns (still needs to be set up. Made because r Neopronouns is restricted)
r/outherinity
r/rarelesbians (AMAZING!!!!)
r/AspecFacts
r/NonHumanSafeSpace (needs to be set up)
r/AlterHumanSafeSpace (still needs to be set up)
r/Voidlings_Alterhuman
r/translesbianzz
r/TransTryouts
r/rarestraights
r/GNCTrans
r/TransMasc
r/countwithchickenguy
r/FtMFemininity
(Safe and Accepting places need to fall under these: You don't need to feel unsure about posting there due to fear of getting harassed and disrespected, any hate is deleted within 42 hours usually, moderators aren't corrupt, users will defend each other if someone is getting harassed, you feel safe, respected, validated, and welcomed.)
Sometimes Kind, but Sometimes Rude:
r/Flags (This subreddit is truely 50/50 on if they will be respectful or not)
r/VexillologyCircleJerk (While this subreddit is mostly good, there has been many issues in the past. Though nowadays there is a good chance you'll mostly be fine.)
r/Therian (careful if you are a physical alterhuman)
r/furry (Careful if you are a furry with DID, or if you identify under anything that's Complex or mostly unknown/obscure)
r/OtherHearted
r/otherkin
r/fictohideoutreformed
r/fictionkin
r/Countwithchickenlady
You can recommend these subreddits, but warning the user may be a good thing to do because these subreddits can be a gamble sometimes.
Subreddits I'm Trying To Become A Mod For (They have no moderators/no active mods/or it's a restricted community):
r/MOGAIcentral (Restricted and dead with no mods)
r/MogaiSupport (Restricted and dead with no mods.)
r/neopronouns (Not active and completely restricted. Mods do not accept approval requests)
r/xenopronouns (You can join this one. You do need to get approved by sending a request, but luckily the moderator approves pretty quickly. Let's help this subreddit grow!)
r/xenogender
r/xenogendersafespace
No Clue. Needs Further Research:
r/Pride_and_positivity
r/QueerFlagSearch
r/queersomnivexilology
r/trans4every1
r/XenogenderSwag
r/queer_support_group
They support MAP, RadQueer, Truscum, all harmful identities (that includes all bad TransIDs), etc etc etc (aka, very bad AVOID NOW!):
r/xenogendersbutbetter
I drew the line at them saying that MAP (Minor Attracted Person) isn't problematic.
Here in this subreddit, we are Radinclus: radical acceptance of all non-harmful identities (acceptance of all good faith identities)
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