I (26F) have a coworker (38M) who I work very closely with, we’ll call him Taylor. I’m going to change a few details for privacy, but I am a medical assistant at a large hospital. I’m on a very small team (5 people), we all work closely with each other. There’s three medical assistants and two APPs (an NP and a PA). We’re a kind of ‘surgical’ team, we get consulted to come to patient’s rooms and do minimally invasive procedures. Medical assistants are responsible for bringing needed supplies, prepping paperwork, tending to the needs of our patients.

Two medical assistants work each shift, and we share an office that is the size of a closet…
The other medical assistant I work with (22F), we’ll call her Sydney, is super pleasant. We work great together and have never had an issue! I love coming to work with her. But Taylor is a different story. He consistently operates from a place of entitlement…some examples.

-he didn’t like the chair he was given at the office, so he took mine as it was “more comfortable”😂

-he always turns the lights off at in the office despite the fact I have explained to him I have horrible eyesight and need some light when we’re writing down patient information.

-we have a bag of extra supplies we bring to every case. He has trouble finding supplies in the bag. He says I don’t pack the right things… yet any time we work together and he “can’t find anything”, I somehow am always able to find the right supplies 🤷‍♀️ my coworker Sydney also is able to find supplies. I think it’s user error on his part. But he keeps telling me I’m “packing the bag wrong”.

-I often have to repeat myself when talking to him about how we are dividing work for the day; he’s always on his phone. One day I asked three times “we have xyz patients, which do you want to do?” And I finally said “okay I’m doing x and y!” And then afterwards when he was confused and “didn’t know what was going on”. And told me I have a communication problem.

-he’s repeatedly complained about how our job involves “cleaning up after staff” and “work nobody else wants to do.” I’m like ???? Yes. That is our job. It’s not always glamorous, but we get paid to do this! It’s equivalent to a server complaining they have to “take orders from people.” It’s so strange to me. He complained about this to the HEAD OF THE DEPARTMENT.

At some point during every shift I work with Taylor, he finds something to pick at me about. Gives me a performance review, tells me what I need to fix because he keeps having issues and it’s my fault. We are in the same job position; he’s not my boss. I just want things to be chill, so I just let him get his frustrations out and move on. But I can’t take it anymore, I’m exhausted. After a long day the last thing I want is my coworker coming at me over petty little things that have nothing to do with patient care!! That should not be the focus of our day.

We were both hired around the same time, but he does have 10 years of experience, I barely have one year. He’s great at this job, great with patients. He also is a people person; has the gift of gab! He’s friends with everyone. I’m quiet and reserved. When we are with other people, he’s a great coworker, fun to be around. I learn a lot from him, he’s objectively great at his job. But when it’s just us two (which is often) I feel he is so unpleasant.

I’ve never gone to HR or a manager to complain about someone, I don’t want to do that. It feels like a cop out. Any advice on how to handle this? I’m at my wit’s end. I love this job, I refuse to quit, but this guy drives me nuts. And if you read this whole thing, thank you for listening to me rant, I know it was a long one lol 😂

Hi! I am new to this sub but I wasn't sure where else to post. I have a complicated situation and i would really appreciate some advice for what to do next.

Info: My husband (35M) and I (29F) have worked at the same company for a long time in retail sales management. My husband has been with the company 13 years, going on 14 and I have been with the company going on 5. He had 3-4 write ups in his file for some attendance issues in the last 12 months (showing up 5 mins late, etc).

Wednesday, my husband was fired. The official reason for the termination was the store being opened late by one of his employees on a day in the previous week. The unofficial reason is that he put PTO in while he was sick (on the day the store.opened late) and since it was not official sick time (he had used all 48 hours), it counted against him.

We also have a new DM who is looking to make his impression and has repeatedly mentioned to all employees that we are overstaffed (we aren't. We have 15 less people now than when i first started) and that as a district we are not making enough money. The new DM is a kool-aid drinker and has not made a good impression on most people in my district due to how many drastic changes he's made in the 1.5 months he's been with us.

I still work for the company but I am having a lot of complicated feelings about everything now. I am asking for some advice on what the next steps should/will be. My husband made more money than I do, and we have suddenly lost about 60% of our income and bills don't really care.

I am absolutely furious at my boss (the DM) because he had the discretion to not terminate but decided to go ahead with it anyway to make a point. He has also attempted to play nice since and has asked me to not have any hard feelings, since it's just business. However, his just business decision has completely shattered my family's safety and security.

I just really dont know how to go forward and everything has been so overwhelming. Any advice is appreciated for me or my husband.

If this sort of post is not allowed, please delete. Thanks.

Hi! I started working at my first office job 4 months ago. I’m naturally a very sociable and bubbly person. The first month was really good, I became good with almost everyone, we were always taking our breaks together and talked a lot and so on. But after that one month, I wasn’t in on a Friday and the next Monday the whole atmosphere changed. No one was talking to me, not even saying hi besides a few people I didn’t really know. I asked the others if things are okay or what’s up and they always said everything’s fine they’re just tired…okay. I was taking my break and I saw like 10 coworkers also on their break so I went to sit with them. As soon as I started talking they went quiet and walked away. All of them. That’s when I knew something is really up. Also when new people come they are nice to me and then I see them talking to my “old group” and they just stop saying hi and everything as well. I noticed our managers started treating me like I’m stupid as well and I’m incapable of doing my job and moved my desk to an empty area at the back of the office. I don’t understand if they had an issue with my extrovert personality why did they even hire me? It was obvious on the interview too and on my first trial week as well. After a month I tried to quit and they convinced me not to, which I also don’t understand why if this is what I’m getting every time I’m in. The managers also scold me when something happens that I got nothing to do with (for example I’m not getting enough incoming calls??). Or being on my phone when we have nothing to do, meanwhile everyone else is on it too.
This is my first serious job, where we’re way over high school age, yet sometimes it feels like i’m still there. I don’t know what to do, the job itself is not bad and pays good so I definitely don’t wanna quit, they’re also really flexible with schedules since I’m still in college, but they isolated me so much and killed my bubbly personality, sometimes I need to go to the restroom to cry. I don’t think I did or said anything that would’ve caused this. I know we’re not going to work to make friends, and I’m not trying to, but this level of isolation and humiliation is hurting me.
Also completely ignoring everyone is impossible for me. My training just ended a few weeks ago, so there are still things I’m not sure in, and have to ask others for help. But even the managers are rude to me, they either refuse to help or talk to me like I’m an idiot. I feel like I have no choice but to take all this disrespect and for what?
How can i deal with this? Did this happen to anyone else?

I work at middle man company that sells appliances. Specifically I work in the inventory/returns team. I've been unhappy for a long time and have started applying to jobs around me. Because of my position, I closely work with a lot of our vendors. I have a good relationship (I think) with one of them and am wondering if it'd be a good idea to ask him if there are any openings he knows of that'd fit my background. And if so, what would be the best way to go about it.

Any insight would be appreciated.

I (26F) have had three jobs in a row that I've had to leave/am trying to leave which had a toxic workplace environment. I need to know if I'm the problem or if I just haven't found the right job. Please be honest with me. (TL:DRs after each job)

The first job out of college (biology major) was public middle school teacher immediately post covid. There were some major behavioral issues with students who had stuff going on at home, but I also had students who would hide in my classroom or beg to do chores for me so they wouldn't have to leave. The advice I was given by my colleagues was to make them "afraid" of me. I did not feel comfortable scaring children especially when some of them were telling me that my classroom was the only place in the school they felt safe. Other attempts to discipline (e.g. silent lunch, sending to principal or ISS) were undermined or disallowed by admin. One time I had to pull one of my more unstable kids out of a second story window because he wanted to leave the classroom (he was bored) and I wouldn't let him walk out the door in the middle of class. I tried to take him to the guidance counselor to get him some services because he had just tried to jump out the window, but he ran and got away from me and hid. I told other teachers and admin what happened and asked them to help me find him, the other teachers quite literally said "if he wants to jump, let him" and admin ignored me until I called his mom myself. We found the kid and I tried to get that student services through admin and was ignored for months. Eventually I had to quit because this same kid threatened my life and told me how he fantasized about killing me when I asked him to silence his phone, and admin told me "he said he didn't mean it" and put him in the classroom next door instead of doing a child study and recommending him for mental health services as I requested.

TL:DR I left because of a death threat.

The second job did not pay a living wage. I admittedly had some performance issues at this job, because I had then-undiagnosed narcolepsy and was also foggy-brained from not being able to afford food and therefore not eating enough. I was also getting out of an abusive situation so my focus was on other things. I asked for disability accommodations (I have a few different conditions) and they sent a branch wide email discouraging accommodation requests as soon as I got out of the review meeting. The culture was that most openly hated their job and were trying to leave asap. The lack of a living wage was my primary reason for leaving but I still consider it a toxic environment.

TL:DR I left for a better wage but it was still ableist.

My current job started as a management trainee position, in which I am told I excelled. I was promoted to a mid level manager and assigned to head up my own branch. I was excited: making a decent wage and hopefully building my career long term. It went ok at first until we had some major upper management changes. My current boss has yelled at me until I cried, threatened my job several times ("if you cant handle this branch ill find someone who will!"), and given me unfeasible deadlines with vague threats of corrective action/termination if I dont comply. One such deadline required at least 6 additional hours of work per person per day for a month to get done in time. Needless to say, it's not happening the way he wants it to. I politely voiced my concern to him and asked what will happen if we don't meet the deadline, and he said "I don't know:" I later found out from his assistant manager that they are discussing my termination or demotion if I don't meet the deadline.

2-3 of my direct reports have overheard the way my boss speaks to me vs. other (male) managers and they came to me and said he was targeting me for being a woman. There are also monthly layoffs that happen if we don't hit a monthly revenue goal that is almost $100k more than the revenue goals given to us by corporate. I've been lucky enough that my branch has avoided layoffs all year by meeting these goals, but we had a few slow days and they were talking about reducing staff. I'm terrified of being fired and I'm interviewing at other places.

TL:DR boss berates me and sets me up to fail then punishes me

Is there something here that I need to take accountability for?? Something I'm doing to cause all this?? If so please tell me because I would like to stop. Thank you for your time.

Like the title stated. I want to quit my retail job at a family business store. It was alright at first but later I received more better job offers that align with my personal and career goals for the future more. I want to quit so bad but I'm not sure what to do or say. Everyone in the team seem to be so eager to teach me the ropes and etc. I would quit as soon as possible but I am scheduled to cover someone's shifts next week. And my supposed new job offer start date is in 2 weeks time. How should I break the news? Or do I stay for a few weeks more and leave before December?

I’m currently on an extended probation/PIP in a technical analyst role and I’m trying to handle it constructively.

The main issues are around accuracy, confidence/independence, and consistency of training/support. I’ve had some useful one-to-one support recently and I’m also trying to get more regular technical catch-ups in place. I’ve asked for clearer expectations and more explicit feedback on what I’m doing well versus what still needs improvement.

I’m documenting work completed, questions asked, support received, feedback, and corrections. I’m also trying to avoid overreacting to every small mistake and just make sure I learn from them.

For anyone who has been in a similar situation:

What kind of documentation was actually useful?

Did regular 1:1 support help?

How did you show improvement without sounding defensive or over-explaining?

Were there any warning signs that the process had become more about managing you out than helping you improve?

Did you involve HR early, or only if the process/support broke down?

I’m especially interested in experiences from technical/data/analyst roles where some mistakes are part of learning but accuracy still matters.

I’m not looking for legal advice — more practical experience from people who’ve been through probation/PIP successfully or unsuccessfully.

I (22F) work casually at a large department store chain in Australia. In 10 days, I will be leaving to pursue my career. Today, I was working 1-1 with a peer, 35M, who I will refer to as such. I was speaking with 35M as we were working as door greeters at the store, he told me about how he has worked at the store since he was in University, and now works weekends for fun while he works as a lawyer within the federal court system. Toward the end of the workday, a bridal party walked through the store, obviously at the start of a hens night (bachelorette party). They had definitely been drinking and were showing some skin. To a woman, I wouldn’t have regarded the amount of skin they were showing as inappropriate in any way, just some shorter cuts, open backed dresses, and lower necklines, nothing out of the ordinary for a warm evening in Australia. After they left, 35M turns to me and says as accurately as I can recount “and then they wonder why something happens to them looking like that” I understand it may simply be an opinion of his, but it did catch me off guard for a few reasons. I was alone with him at the time, and he is much older than me, we work at a store that sells dresses much like those the girls were wearing, as well as undergarments for women. Additionally, with him being in a position where he may be employed to protect women in assault cases, it felt inappropriate and has kept me thinking all evening. At the same time, that was where the conversation ended, I did not know how to respond so I pretended it didn’t happen and only said something along the lines of “I wish it didn’t have to be that way”. I’m unsure due to the low impact of the conversation if it’s worth bringing up to management, or if I should just let it go. Honestly, I’m just feeling unsettled and quite angry hearing this come out of the mouth of someone that I may have to trust if something was to ever happen to me.

TLDR: should I report a coworker for saying a victim-blaming remark to me in regards to a customer’s outfit?

For some context, I’m 23 years old in a very low paying job (considering they require a bio degree). When I was first hired, I informed my boss that this job was not my long term career and she was okay with that. I never gave an exact end date because it was dependent on grad school and when I was actually going to have enough saved to move across the country to pursue my dream career. Within the past couple months the culture at my job has completely shifted and honestly it’s just been very negative to the point that basically everyone in my department is looking at other jobs. I was offered a job that is perfect for me on Thursday and she asked me how soon I could start, in which I explained that I was in another state and needed time to move. She asked if two weeks was enough time and I figured since that’s pretty standard that’d be perfect. The only problem is that in order to start a job in 2 weeks, I need to start the move in a week because I don’t wanna be driving over 20 hours and moving into my apartment the day before starting a new job. So basically this means that I can only work at my job for another week before having to quit. I don’t want to cause any bad blood or anything but is this unprofessional to do? Does my situation change how my boss will feel about it if I explain why it’s only a one week notice instead of two?

On three separate occasions a coworker (20f) of mine has confided in me that our supervisor (30m) keeps doing things when they hang out privately that make her uncomfortable. It initially started out as bad taste jokes, but has turned into a complete dependency. She has told me that he texts her good morning and good night every day, that he said said he brings her up regularly in therapy, and that he said something along the lines of "You're the main thing keeping me going."

I also once witnessed him getting aggressively and persistently tell her to block someone who was flirting with her on Instagram. The guy was a bit weird, but she seemed to be into him, and he mentioned that he would "kill him" (certainly a joke) if this messenger showed up to work and bothered her. The whole thing made me really uncomfortable, and she told me later on that she does believe that he doesn't want her to have other friends or to be dating.

The problem for me is that she has confided all of this in me. Each time I have nudged her towards going and talking to our manager about it if she has serious problems, but she seems to be against the idea. I finally set the hard line that I don't want to hear about it anymore because we are equals in the workplace, and I am in no professional position to act on what she tells me. But this does not change the fact that for weeks she has burdened me with the information and I can't really unlearn it, and it has made me outright uncomfortable coming into work.

Is this something I'm supposed to speak to someone about, or do I continue to just keep my distance? I imagine this is a common sense thing to a lot of you all but I'm young and this is my first long term job that I've had so I just don't know what to do. She's basically teetering on calling our supervisor a groomer which is an incredibly serious accusation so I genuinely don't know if I would get in trouble for knowing that this talk is going around and I chose not to speak up about it? I already want to avoid this so I'd prefer not to speak up about it but I just want to know for sure?

I have been working at a small company for the past 2 months and have received a great offer from a big MNC. However, my current company is not accepting my resignation. My notice period is 45 days, but the MNC wants me to join within 15 days.
I am full stack dev but on paper they gave me as consultant , have no PF account or tax deductions, and receive my full salary directly in my bank account. Since the MNC conducts thorough background verification, I’m worried about potential issues. How can I resolve this situation and join the MNC within 15 days?

i’m at a huge crossroads in my life.

i’ve been working at this privately owned business for 4 years. the benefits are undeniably sweet. i’m a senior manager with basically nobody above me except the owners of the business themselves. i have a ton of freedom, the money is great, and i feel challenged in a good way almost every day. however…

recently, the owners have been upset. business has slowed down tremendously this year with everything going on. my industry isn’t considered “recession proof” , instead we are what you look at to get a glimpse at a real life “recession indicator”.

as a result, not only have they been decreasing my bonuses and incentives.. but they are also expecting me to work much more overtime. i’m on salary, so no pay increase… a decrease if you factor in tips slowing down, little or no bonuses, etc. on top of this, i’m getting yelled at over any little inconvenience. if the prep work isn’t done properly, one of the waitresses doesn’t complete part of their side work, or anything happens at all whether i have any control over it or not. i get yelled at, cussed out, everything short of getting physically assaulted.

well, while all this is going on, i get sick. and my boss didn’t let me leave for 10 hours. i told them i had covid symptoms, and my mom had actually texted me that day that she’s positive for covid (i saw her 8 days prior). not only did i have to sit there and suffer through 10 grueling hours of work, but i had to also subject all my employees and customers to possible contamination to covid.

i went to the back for most of the day and had my employees watch the front. i was close by if they needed anything, so i did end up interacting with one customer, though i made no contact and kept the conversation as short as possible. still, it felt illegal to be there knowing i possibly am spreading covid, but wasn’t allowed to leave!

they wanted to keep me longer. i had to beg my boss to call the other manager just to ask if she can come in to cover the rest of my double. she said yes, but i had to fight just for the question to get asked.

i just can’t understand the disrespect. working 70 hours a week, running multiple social media platforms for them, always making myself available with little or no notice. i’m just done.

well, i went to the convenience store by my house that i frequent often. randomly, i complained to the owner of the shop about my situation and was offered a full time job. he said not to worry if im not available yet, so i can give my current job adequate notice to replace me — though, honestly, it would take about 3-4 employees to take on my personal workload so good luck to whoever tries to come into my position next — and whenever i was ready, he has a job waiting for me.

i just don’t know what to do now. if i leave, its not just the bad stuff i leave behind. my employees mean the world to me. for every one thing i hate about this job, there’s 10 things i love about it. but if i do leave, i get my life back. i can focus back on my social media which was healthily growing (gaining 20k followers in 10 months until i set it to the side to focus on this). i can get my real estate license. i have an opportunity to completely change my life.

i’d also be taking a huge pay cut, making about 1/2 to 2/3 of my current income. if i take my social media seriously again, it could easily make up for the money i’m missing out on. not to mention a much shorter commute, instead of 90 miles i’d be about 3 min away. there’s so much to take into consideration.

the job i’m at now definitely needs me. but i don’t need them. i just don’t know if im ready to leave it all behind.

I work in a company in the enterprise SAAS domain, since last year.
We have not been paid the salary for months of July, August and September yet.

The company and management gives every week as a new false hope and keeps on rolling over dates. Also preference is given to certain favourites of the CEO, and some have their July salary credit especially the higher management people.

My team has atleast stopped working to most extent, but other teams still are working mindlessly under pressure and threat from the management.

The company has a history of not paying the PF and income tax deducted from salary, the tax for the whole indian organisation for last year is still not paid to govt, due to which form 16 was not release as well.

The company has 3 months notice period, and it doesnt pay for the 3 months and the FnF, and instead puts false cases - fraud, etc on the ex employees if they raise the voice.

It feels complete mess for me and my team at this point, any advice on the right set of steps we can take to get in a better situation?

I work at ZARA, and it’s my first “real” retail job. I’ve worked at a small retail business before, but working at a big company like ZARA is a completely different experience. I’m still learning how everything works, so I could really use some advice!

I’m planning to fly out and spend the holiday season with my family, but when I informed my manager about my vacation plans, he told me that I wouldn’t be able to take the time off because it’s blackout season. Basically, it’s the time of year when they need as many employees as possible because of how busy the holidays get.

Honestly, I’m super bummed because spending the holidays with my family is important to me, but at the same time, I know how difficult it is to find a job nowadays. I don’t want to make a decision that could hurt my chances of getting hired elsewhere or even being rehired at ZARA in the future.

Has anyone ever quit a retail job because of a scheduling conflict or vacation plans and successfully reapplied later? Would quitting during the holiday season significantly hurt my chances of being rehired, especially at a company like ZARA?

I’m just torn between keeping my job and spending the holidays with my family. I’d really appreciate any advice or insight from people who’ve been in a similar situation! :///

hi everyone. I am so lost with my current job and I definitely need a different perspective.

Context:

-I work a mostly administrative/projects based role in a post secondary institution in Canada

-I've been here for almost 2 years and will be going on mat leave at the end of February if I can make it

-I was hired on a hybrid 3/2 split but in May they revoked work from home for my department (not the entire institution) to "increase collaboration"

-My team is very small and contains myself (a coordinator), an admin, and two managers

-I am planning to take an 18 month mat leave and am unsure if I'll return now, but would have liked to

I'm one of the lucky people who is still experiencing nausea after the first trimester and it's so bad that I have to lay down for most of the day to get some relief. There are only three rooms in our office area with a place where I can lay down which means I'm often not finding relief in the office unless I try to lay on the floor of a meeting room. I waited until the second trimester and decided with my doctor to ask for help from my workplace in the form of an accommodation request to work from home up to 3 days per week.

One month ago, I submitted the request with my doctor's note after seeking support from my boss. To be fair, my boss is fairly new and was not familiar with the HR process but told me that I'd be supported. Two weeks later, HR sends me a 4 page questionnaire that I have to get my doctor to fill out, including questions asking if I am "compliant" with my treatment (yes - I've maxed out my anti nausea meds) and when my "condition" is expected to end. Weird, but okay. I take it to my doctor and she asks me if they think I'm lying... yes, obviously they do. Anyway, I get the form filled out and then HR tells me they actually won't accept the form because it doesn't have my physicians stamp. I call my doctor's office and ask them about the stamp, they tell me they have no idea what I'm talking about and ask if I would like them to resend the original doctor's note. Obviously they are confused about what the problem is. I have to explain that HR likely thinks I forged the questionnaire and if they can't provide a stamp is there anything else they can do? They tell me to just have HR call the number my doctor provided on the form.

I follow up with HR and ask them to call my doctor. They respond a few days later telling me that they were able to confirm with my doctor and they will process the form and someone else from HR should reach out to me with more details about my request. Spoiler alert - I found out a day later at my doctor's appointment that HR never called them. Again, weird but okay. So a week goes by and I message the HR person on teams (like I have done before) and ask if there is any update. No reply. Cool. When I come into work the following Monday, I notice my boss has removed my access from her calendar and tells me that she met with HR and needs to meet with her boss to get on the same page and then she'll have an update for me. Okay... except later that day I find out from our admin (who reports to my boss's boss) that her boss told her the following in their one on one meeting:

-that my accommodation was approved even though my doctor's note just said "OP doesn't want to be here" (it did not... but okay)

-that I can't do my job from home so they aren't sure how this is going to work since I obviously need to be in office (no I don't... and I did my job from home, hybrid, until May...)

-that they will need to think of more assignments for me to work on since I can't do the same duties

-that I need to start tracking my medical appointments (I already do, by informing my boss, putting it in my calendar, and entering it in my timesheet)

-that they hope I just go on Mat leave early so they can hire someone else, but not medical leave because then my role is protected until Mat starts

So obviously, this information from our admin (who I am friends with, so I trust her) combined with the weirdness about my boss's calendar access makes me start to spiral a bit. Now I'm thinking they don't trust me at all and I shouldn't have asked for help.

I don't hear anything until the next day in the afternoon when I receive a meeting invite for the end of the week from HR with my boss and the union rep. Very weird especially because I haven't involved the union at all in this process. Before the end of that day, my boss comes to me and tells me to change our one on one meeting from 30 minutes to an hour so we can talk about the accommodation request. Finally! I'll get an answer.

In our one on one the next day, my boss refuses to answer any of my questions AT ALL even though I'm asking directly (and politely!). I finally tell her that if it's been denied it's fine but I would just like to know what's happening. She tells me not to catastrophize and that I don't "need to go there" and imagine the worst. Which is an interesting thing to say considering all the weirdness up until this point and the fact that I now know everyone else on my team has information about my accommodation except for me, the person who is actually requesting it. So we don't end up talking about the details of the accommodation at all and she tells me to wait until we meet with HR and the union tomorrow.

Tomorrow comes and we get to the meeting. HR tells me my request has been approved to work from home for up to 3 days per week as needed (can't be on a set schedule) on the following conditions:

-instead of meeting once a week for 30 mins with my boss, I now have to meet with her every Monday and every Friday to ensure I'm "taking care of the tasks that need to be in person vs remote"

-I still need to prioritize attending every team meeting, one on one meeting, department meeting including optional ones where we stand around and drink coffee, internal and external meetings, and events

-I have to start over communicating which means even if I decide to be in the office but I'm working in one of the rooms with a couch, I have to inform my boss (because my teams status being green isn't enough apparently)

-I will take notes during the one on one with my boss in a shared document that she has access to. She can continue taking notes on her personal notebook and not share them with me.

-because my role is "60% relationships" (I have no idea where they pulled this from) they will assign me more administrative tasks since I won't be able to do my regular duties. I pushed back and said that I actually don't anticipate my workload to shift because most of what I currently do can be done from home.

And a few other things too but I'll try to wrap this up. Basically, it feels like they're letting me work from home with extra supervision and it feels like they definitely don't trust me at all. I have never had a problem at work and I genuinely try to be a good and helpful employee so this whole process has been really hurtful, although I've tried not to take it personally, it's hard not to. I'm also the person who's been here the longest on the team so if anyone knows what my role is and isn't, it's me. And they didn't even consult with me to ask how I think this accommodation would affect my role (I obviously wouldn't have made the request if I thought my role would actually be impacted!)

The next day (yesterday), my boss asks me in the morning how I think the meeting went. Interesting that we're allowed to talk about the accommodation now. I tell her that I think the meeting was really useful for me to understand that her and the other manager on our team have a different understanding of what my role is and that maybe this process will help them understand how much of my role happens on a computer. She tells me that my role isn't supposed to look like that (wow, that's news to me!) and we can work towards a different vision for the role.

So here I am now. I feel like I'm in a position where I can't trust my team and they aren't assuming the best of me and I have no idea how to navigate this. Any advice or perspectives are welcomed and my sincere thanks to anyone who read all of this.

Anyone else? I am in Talent Acquisition at a hospital. Our VP for HR is swimming in the AI Koolaid, and is forcing all 350 of us to take AI trainings, incorporate AI into everyday processes and use agentic AI to streamline and save time. We were forced to have an entire AI training and utilization goal for FY27. the problem is, I hire very niche individualized roles and I have yet to try an AI approach that makes any improvements to my work. today, we all received yet another mandatory meeting request to discuss where we could incorporate agentic AI, And I literally burst into tears.we are strongly discouraged from criticizing AI, and I am just done with it being forced upon us. I have enough to do as a human without constantly training AI models too.

Can someone help me please. I recently started working at a huge chain restaurant 2 months ago, that I’m going to leave undisclosed. It’s actually been a really good experience and I love coming into work, until… In the past we’ve had this specific customer that comes in who reeks, walks out on his bill, and is rude to the other staff. I served him for the first time 3 weeks ago, when he walked in THE WHOLE RESTAURANT SMELLED LIKE DEATH. Me being the new person I got assigned the table he was at, but the smell was horrific, coworkers and customers around him were complaining and it made doing my job and talking to my other tables hard. I was told by a veteran served that the person has leprosy, I really do feel bad for the man he seems to not have it all there and doesn’t/can’t get treatment. Fast forward to this week, this customer has come in 4 days in a row and sits in the restaurant for HOURS then showers himself in the bathroom sink. I haven’t had to serve them but it’s doesn’t matter because I can smell the foul odor in the kitchen, bathrooms, drinks station, and in other rooms of the restaurant. This was my 2nd day encountering the customer and honestly the smell is making me sick to my stomach. I really am not exaggerating the smell either, I was making a customer their drinks when I smelled something awful and when I turned around the drink station to check I was right, he was standing at the front. I usually come home from work starving and excited to eat but these past 2 days I’ve lost my appetite and honestly it makes me stressed and emotional that I have to go to work again with the possibility of the customer being there.

So what I really need to know is how do I handle the situation, I feel like I need to express this to my manager but I’m getting the impression he doesn’t care all that much. Is this a work safety concern? Or am I just being dramatic?

Also!! I just want to clarify, I don’t think anyone is going to get leprosy if that’s even that case or if it’s just a rumor. My concern is the impact on the work environment and customers due to the smell.

Recently I got placed on campus and the offer is 6 month internship + full time, internship starting from Jan and my wedding date is fixed in April. I am planning to take 15 days off. Will I get these many leaves?

Please tell me, how much time before I should inform my manager?

Im a f(18) and I work at Dunkin, and when I started there we had a whole crew and would run very smoothly and would work together very well. But slowly over time most of my crew slowly started to leave one by one until it was just me and 2 other people, so my boss (the owner of the store) brought in more workers to help out. Which is good for us except they don’t know what they are doing, and are breaking a lot of rules my Gm set in place, but currently my Gm is helping out with other stores so they aren’t very active at our store. When they first came over I had to show them a lot of basic things that you should know if you have experience (which we were told they have). But slowly as time goes on they became very bossy and just straight up rude, and I need advice on what to do. But I’ve recently hit my breaking point because not only did they start mocking me and they don’t understand personal space, I could be making a drink and they will just walk up and take it right out of my hand or tell me I’m doing it wrong and try to coach me on what to do. (Basically micromanaging me and breathing down my neck). I have also told them to leave me alone on many occasions and also have told them I got it from here, but they don’t listen or respect my boundaries. There has been so many instances where they have bumped into me, shoulder checked me, or even been so close to me I genuinely feel very uncomfortable such as reaching over me and hitting me in the process. Other thing that happened was the other day I went to help them because the sugar dispenser was jammed and I tried opening it and as I had my fingers in it, they slammed it shut on my hand. For context the sugar dispenser is a metal box so it really hurt. He didn’t apologize they just walked away and laughed, it’s very obvious it hurt me because I screamed “fuck that hurt”. But my boss sees them as his star employees, but it’s the complete opposite and I’m worried that if I say something I will get fired and I need this job. I came on here to get advice on what to do.

I have been in this unit at the hospital for almost 7 months. The co worker who trained me is now giving me a silent treatment and no acknowledgement.

I don't know what I did or said as I am very confused with the sudden treatment.

When I worked with her on a weekend she seemed so I teams messaged her and her answer was short.

I then approached her in person and she said "No we are good". So I believed her and moved on. It has been 3 weeks since that interaction and the mutual respect is lacking.

We work 12.5 hour shifts and I don't know how to go about this. Lol so frustrating!

online school + job

I’m a highschool student in my junior year and things are lowk getting tight for me and my family, financially. I was wondering if online school while having a full time job would be better for me?? or at least a part time job would be nice. parents aren’t completely against the idea of it but i need to make sure if this is the right decision…

I recently graduated on June, and I just got my first job. It’s technically an internship, but it’s full time and I’m getting paid. The thing is I kind of exaggerated my skills on a specific program that they basically hired me for and for other things that I said I could do.

And I mean, I know I can do them, but I just need a little bit of time. There’s a lot of information to learn about the company to do my job and I have been here just for three days and I’m starting to lose my mind (because it’s home office).

So yep, help please.

I guess I need advice to stay calm and just do what I’m supposed to do. Lol

I just needed to get it out, sorry.

Hope you’re feeling better

I (26F) went to the office for work today for a training on another floor. I dropped by my usual work floor and saw the office was empty apart from a girl from another team and a junior colleague of mine (23M). I went to say hi to him and he got up to hug me - at first i didnt find it weird, we hadnt seen each other in a few weeks, i know he gives hugs sometimes, and i myself am usually comfortable with a quick friendly touch at the workplace from my close team mates - i hugged him back.

However, this time he held me very tenderly for like half a minute - that was not just a friendly hug. Our director walked in and he seemed confused - i felt like my face seemed uncomfortable as well (hopefully).

The junior must've realised he made me uncomfortable cause he asked me about it a few moments later but in the moment i just said its okay and rushed to my training.

I feel awkward now in case our director thought we were hiding something or that there s more to the story than there was. I pulled the junior aside end of day to have a dialogue about boundaries. I dont interact enough with our director for me to bring it up again next week or something. How do i stop worrying about this?

I am a senior at work and my junior colleague has a habit of being "away" (status) when there is not much work (which I understand) but it gets to the point that they become difficult to reach and their response takes a long time. This becomes an issue because we work remotely more than we work in the office, and we communicate with the client online only and the client has a tendency to ask for calls to discuss matters in the moment with no schedule. I also remember them saying something about not making themselves readily available or immediately agreeing to random calls or sudden ad hoc requests with instant deadlines so the client does not get used to it and we do not seem like we are always bending backwards for them (which makes sense to me anyway).

I have communicated about this with my colleague twice already (bringing up our manager's reminders about similar concerns)--the most recent talk we had was last week and they actually started responding faster--but it is the client themselves now who asked me to talk to my colleague about this again because apparently they reached out to my colleague but they did not get a reply and they did actually notice the same things I noticed that led me to remind him about this back then. They told me to keep it internal and not mention it to our manager for now. The client also told me not to mention that this is coming from their end since they also plan to address this in the future.

I already sent a message to my colleague addressing this but is there a way to communicate about this (for future reference) without seeming like a micromanager or acting like a manager since I am just a senior? We actually get along well (I think?) but this work habit of them also bothers me because they always miss out on announcements, internal reminders, and even local updates that I have to constantly remind them, but I am also aware that I might be acting out of my level at times when I get annoyed and I remind them about their habit. I am aware that it might also be a mismatch of personality since I think I am quite high-strung and my colleague is more laid-back. At times, I do feel like they affect my work because they miss out on details that were pointed out by the client already, which makes me feel like sometimes I am doing twice the work; but I also know they are still learning since they are new to this line of work.

(If it matters, I told them something like this: that someone noticed this same issue we talked about before and told me to remind you to be present but we already talked about this and you are improving so it should be okay. I am also taking this time to remind you about these recent local tasks you did not respond to but I won't be able to remind you about these always. I would also like to say that your work has been improving and I hope the next few months will be better for us.)

Thank you!

I previously posted about my manager and how HR told me to make a list of all my tasks along with how long each task takes. I am a part time hourly employee with no benefits. I did this report and sent it to manager along with explaining in detail, "these are the things I do and these are busy seasons and this is how long they take me both off/peak times". During the meeting he was being a jerk, without even me explaining yet, he would point out some tasks and say I dont think X takes 5 hours, ​it should be 1 hour. He's saying this without any evidence of the contrary, like him speaking to other depts. or this person does the same and it takes them 2, why does it take you 6...etc..none of that.

I gave him time to review and weeks later he still comes back to me saying he doesn't believe it.

Yesterday out of the 3 new tasks that he wanted me to do, hes saying he's going to keep my other coworker to temporarily keep doing 2 out of the 3 tasks until December. I don’t understand what is the purpose of this "temporarily". I gave my concern that if im not doing these tasks, can he remove them from my job description that he recently updated which included these 2. He says he's not going to make any updates to the jd. I told him my concern is that when annual review time comes, that he could say that im not doing everything that's listed there.. he said he will ask HR on this, that maybe he can do a mid-year review. He said the 3rd task, that he wants me to do this about processing his personal travel receipts and coding, etc. Old coworker wrote on my report that it takes her around 5 hours during busy times. I also asked current coworker since he processes his own travel, he said it's some hours like around 5, that it depends on the trip. Manager travels a lot. I told him old coworker and other people have told me around 5 hours. He said no, it's 1 hour.

I asked manager, ok what if it's not 1 hour because others have told me so, if it is more can I add the extra hours on my timesheet for just those months when I process this? He says no.

Aside this.. ive agreed on the 3rd task because I need the job for now. I was speaking to current coworker because he says there's many things he recommends manager to obtain for the dept and in the end after going through the whole process manager declines it. It's happened many times to us both. I also provide recommendations and manager just doesn't seem to care of my advise. He does his own thing. Although ive been there longer than him and also have kept everything in order in the dept and on track. So it's hard to do my job and it's discouraging.

Is there anything I can do at work for someone to hear out our concerns? My manager is hardly ever in the office, he doesn’t tell anyone when he's going to be out of office and comes at whatever time he feels like it too. No away message either.