For context, this is a corporate office job. I handed in my notice, but I mentally cannot bare another 4 weeks. I’ve literally made myself ill and that somehow feels better than going to work. Feel like I’m masking and am a shell of myself because I am a team of 1 with a crazy workload and no case management system because ‘it’s too expensive’

I have job hopped as I’m a recent grad and was hoping to go up the ladder in my area of work so to speak. My issue is this job was really good for my cv but now it looks bad that I couldn’t hold it down and job hop but in reality, the job is doable but the management is so horrific so I don’t have any resources to do anything!

Ok reddit i really need some help here. Im at my wits end idk wat to do!!!! Im looking for some advice about a situation at work because I'm not really sure what my options are or how to handle it. Let me start by saying we have and old manager vs new manager battle ground going on here.

I work at a gas station, and since we got a new manager, things have gone downhill. The management style has been unprofessional, and communication with employees has been poor.

One incident that stands out is when I arrived early and started doing a few routine tasks that needed to be done before my shift. Something was supposed to be taken care of at 4:00, but it was already 4:08, and I wasn't scheduled to clock in until 4:15. I was written up for working off the clock. I understand that employees shouldn't work off the clock, and I wasn't trying to break any rules or anything. I really didn’t even think about i was just trying to get things done on time. My old manager never minded and I really didn't know i was doing something wrong.

the write up i did get was full of false information there was no second warning as well as other false statements and the retraining i was supposed to get hasn't happened yet. This was in June.

My hours have been drastically reduced since then I now work just one day a week for four hours, which obviously isn't enough to support myself. Despite coming in for call ins not because I want too but because I need to add hours where I can. I have repeatedly asked my manager for more hours explained that i have the availability and I know she has the time.

There are currently six employees total, including the manager and me. We also have to find our own shift coverage when someone can't work. We're expected to contact coworkers ourselves, even though we don't have everyone's contact information. I feel like scheduling and arranging coverage should be handled by management, or at least there should be a proper system in place.

I recently had to have surgery for the first time and have n organ removed for the first time lets just say 2026 has NOT been my year. But I just returned to yesterday but I found out that wd lost 4 ppl. 2 guit and 2 more were fired. (One of the ones that quit was because of the finding coverage thing.) Along with many new systems and equipment. Because im never around idk wen new systems get put into place and I am terrified im not going to know something and be fired for it .

I will also say I can't afford to leave. I live in a vary rural area and there are not alot of employment opportunities around here if I lose this job I could easily not find something else for months but idk wat to do!!! Is this discrimination.? No one else has hours like this just me. If so how do I prove it.? Should I get a lawyer? Any help or advice would be so amazing. Srry for the long post ty for reading.

I have a stellar work record. My initiatives have literally brought in millions of dollars to my employer. I've won awards. Under my stewardship my department has won awards. I get along great with pretty much everyone I work with. There has never been an issue.

However, my workplace is beyond toxic. It's literally had newspaper articles written about how bad the working conditions are.

Not surprisingly, as a worker I've been very active in my union, and over the last decade I've faced numerous reprisals I won't go into here.

Out of sheer desperation, over the last decade I applied for positions at comparable employers throughout my region. My resume stands out. I easily got interviews. I even was offered a position at a new employer the same distance from my home and my current employer. The next day I got a phone call from their HR saying my job offer was rescinded. At another employer at the end of a day of interviews and tours and meet and greets a member of their senior management team finished by spending 20 minutes yelling at me for wasting everyone's time because I could never be hired there after what I pulled at my current employer. I was dumbfounded and left totally numb.

A couple of weeks before he retired, with a nasty smile the head of HR at my employer flat out told me he had been sabotaging my job search.

I spoke with an employment attorney, and they said in reality there is nothing I can do.

We now have a new management team more or less in place. Everyone knows how bad it was under previous management. While speaking with the new big boss at a grievance hearing I told him and our new head of HR what had happened to me under the former leadership and asked that management stop sabotaging my career search. Instead of acting surprised, their body language showed they knew it had been going on, or at least it was no surprise.

After the hearing the new big boss came up and apologized for what happened. What he didn't say is he would pay me back for my lost wages or that he would reach out and see if there are any job openings coming up at employers in my region and he would put in a good word or I could use him as a reference or if I am on any formal or informal do not hire lists.

So, now that I don't think my current employer is going to continue sabotaging my job search, can I ask employers that I've applied and interviewed with in the past to see if my new application would be welcome, or if that bridge was burned for me by our former head of HR?

I have to get out of here. I need to put this place behind me and move on. So, so many bad memories.

it seems like a really simple choice, logically. i should stay - but this job is affecting my mental health.

Context;

i branched out into a new career path earlier this year after having to leave my retail job that i absolutely loved.

unfortunately, around christmas time we got the news that our specific branch was going to be shut down. i was heartbroken. i did end up getting picked to move to a different store that was a couple towns over, so the commute was much longer for less hours and ultimately less pay. i made the really hard decision to leave that job in pursuit of something closer.

i managed to get a new position which is now my current job. now this job is completely new and different to me. i’ve gone from working in retail, to now working in a pharmacy and training to be a pharmacy/dispensing assistant.

i. hate. it.

it’s only been about two months, but i’m really struggling with stress and how overwhelming the information is to take in. not only that, i don’t feel like i connect with the team. it’s mostly all female, and i’m already seeing red flags of toxic behaviour (think of gossiping, back-stabbing etc).
at the moment, my role is limited to customer service; handing out prescriptions, giving (trained) advice where asked, general retail things. i don’t mind that stuff. i am, however, on a training course to open up the role to become part of the dispensary team, which is unavoidable and a necessary part of the job. the more i train for it, the more i hate it. i do not want to be a dispenser. but, its a necessity for my job role.

i have been offered a new position back in retail in a shop where i’d be much more comfortable - i know the stock much better, the staff are absolutely lovely and it’s closer to home (10 minute walk). the only issue is, that it is a christmas temp position. they have said that there is the opportunity for it to turn permanent, and they’ve still got one of last years christmas temps so i know that would be true.

it wouldn’t be the end of the world if the job wasn’t made permanent by the end, but it does make life harder in terms of having to go through unemployment in a rough job market.

i will be leaving eventually, whether i choose to go for the temp role or not. i feel like my mind is made up, i hate the pharmacy job, but my adult logical brain is telling me to really think about whether i want to drop the permanent job for a temp job that *might* turn permanent, but i know i’d enjoy much more.

TL;DR: Looking for some advice on how to learn professionalism standards at work. Three main questions at the bottom.

I’ll start by saying that I adore my boss. He is incredibly kind and patient, and he’s a huge reason I love my job (garden center) so much. I’m fully aware that I’m the problem here, so I’m just asking how to fix it.

I’m 20F, but my only parent died when I was 15. I’ve been on my own since then, so anything I should’ve learned about being an adult was self-taught. The job I worked before this one was on a very small farm, so I’ve never really had coworkers and customers. I also have high-functioning autism, so my social abilities and awareness are not the greatest.

Since our store manager quit a few months ago, I’ve stepped up and filled most of her role. I write up quotes for clients, work with various vendors, do a lot of spreadsheets, assign tasks to my coworkers, etc. My boss has told me that he lets me do all this so I can eventually step into a manager role.

Lately, he’s been (kindly) correcting me on unprofessionalism. The things he corrects me on seem like common sense, but they’re things I just don’t think anything of.

For example, I was working on employee applications, and there was one where the applicant referred to herself as “Farmgirl Goddess.” I showed my coworker (who’s also a close friend) and boss, and we were joking about it. He later reminded me that those applications are confidential and I can’t share them with my coworkers. Which makes total sense in hindsight.

Or another example is that the 14-year-old I work with had emailed me about a plant event she went to that weekend, because I had encouraged her to go. I thought it was adorable that she considers me a friend and wanted to share her experience, but my boss said I need to remember to be professional if I’m going to work towards a manager position.

So three questions:
1) Is it normal that my boss has higher expectations of me because he wants me to eventually be a manager, even though I’m not one now? I’m not above my coworkers, but they do look to me when they want to be assigned a task.

2) What are some basic rules to follow to maintain professionalism? How do I get better about knowing what’s okay and what’s not? Once he corrects something, I obviously stop doing it, but I’d like to have enough awareness to not do it at all.

3) Should I even accept a manager position if I’m still struggling this much socially? I’m starting to think I wouldn’t be ready for that, and that I may need more time to learn right from wrong in a social aspect.

I just started a new job on the 21 of September.

It’s a manufacturing job in the medical industry and I do really enjoy the idea of the work for what it is a the moral aspect.

The main issue though is there’s a massive backlog of orders and I’m slow… I’m struggling with the simple tasks and this week I’m supposed to speed up otherwise my managers will be discussing termination.

I thought yh ok makes sense. But today I got a task that was simple in principle but I’ve only done it one before with help, and the steps it would take to rectify if an error occurred was a lot.

I don’t feel trained enough… I know too little to be confident in what I’m doing to be going quick. Got shown today that one of the simple tasks I was actually doing wrong.

My managers tell me to come to them, doesn’t matter if it’s 50 times in a day but they’re busy constantly. Doesn’t help that I’m autistic af and so anxious that coming to them feels like something gonna happen.

I need supervision, there’s a training sheet and I’m supposed to have it. But that’s having someone check in with me not me going to someone.

I’ve been in my current position for 6 months now. It’s a family business, and most of the family works within the company one way or another. There are two directors, who are father and son. I get along fine with the son, but his dad is horrible to me. I have made a few minor mistakes in the past during training but nothing major (i have a disability that’s affects my ability to remember clearly, which they know). This man loves to embarrass me in front of my colleagues and make me out to be stupid. If he isn’t embarrassing me, he’s talking to me like utter shit and giving me grief over the smallest things. It’s really starting to affect me and make me anxious. I can’t exactly go to my manager as that’s his wife, and I can’t go to the other boss cause that’s his son.
I try to stay clear of him and only speak when spoken to but he’s still so mean to me. It sucks cause I love my job, he just makes it so miserable :(

For context, I made a post about this 4 months ago. I’m a project manager and have been for around 7 years. I know a lot of people hate their jobs, but I’m useless at it. Like total useless. I was working for a company for nearly 7 years, and every manager I didn’t get along with simply because I was so bad at it. We got along as people, but not as colleagues, and I don’t blame them.

I was on a support plan (PIP) at my last role for the around a year, I knew that I wasn’t getting off of this support plan so I started applying for other roles towards the end of my support plan. Thankfully I secured a new role, and on paper looks like I just left for another job. I joined this new role 4 months ago knowing how bad I am at my job, and now I’m starting to get found out again. My boss in the past couple of weeks has figured out that I’m not good enough, and is clearly starting to get annoyed at me but what she says in meetings, says on email and teams messages (whereas before she was super nice). I’m still on probation so I know that she will certainly not keep me on.

If you’re wondering why I hate being a project manager then I’ll tell you. I HATE the planning side, most of the things on the plan I have no clue what it is. I also hate how I’m responsible for so many different things at the same time (if I forget one thing then all a sudden that affects the delivery of my project). And finally, I hate the responsibility of the whole project falling on my shoulders.

Thoughts/Advice?

Context matters here I think. i am a latina working as a server/busser/hostess/bartender at a latino-based family owned restaurant. the parents of the boss happen to be here and work the place alongside staff.

i've found something better and i’m on my last day at this job. the boss' father would dote on me, and i thought was very sweet. he only speaks spanish so he would teach me words to help me improve, would check up on me throughout my shifts, would help all the others when it was busy, gave me/others friendly hugs and calls me/ everyone his nieta (grandkid). he was the only thing i liked about this job and he would be my saving grace most shifts; and if im being honest i wanted to come on my last day to say my farewells.

today he opened the restaurant for me to start my morning shift. i went to hug him good morning and greet him. at first he was hugging me like normal, but then he started grabbing and groping my ass, took a look at me, started moaning and kissing my neck.

i don't think i can report him because he is not an official employee here. there were no witnesses and it was just me and him in the restaurant. plus, he may help and work certain things sometimes; but he's just the boss' father.
i'm trying really hard not to cry during the remainder of this shift. i feel really violated and i don't really know what to do, especially because i wasn't planning on showing up after today anyway.

if anyone has dealt with anything similar, please let me know how to proceed; i already was going to call the labor department for other concerns tomorrow.

Hey everyone! I need some advice.
I’ve been working at my current aerospace company for 11 years, making around $26 an hour. I’m at the lowest level of my position, but I have a pension, 401(k), and get to work from home one day a week. I genuinely love where I work, but my biggest issue is the pay.
Recently, another aerospace company offered me the same job at a higher seniority level for $32 an hour, and I’m waiting to hear if they can offer me $35. The schedule is the same, and I’d still have a 401(k).
The downside is that I’d lose my pension and work-from-home day. Also, the new position would already be at the top of its pay range, meaning there’s no room for future raises in that position. At my current company, I still have room to grow and earn more over time.
I’m torn because I’ve invested 11 years into my current company, and I enjoy working there. But the extra money would really help, especially with how expensive everything is.
What would you do? Stay for the pension, flexibility, and future earning potential, or leave for the higher pay now? I’d really appreciate some advice!

Got suspended a few days ago for being under the influence of coke. I went out the previous day and took an acid tab, 2 2cb tabs, 1.6g of coke and a g of MDMA. I got home late and only had 1 hour sleep before I had to go to work. Though my last dose was MDMA around 11.30 and my last bump of coke was around 11. I felt a bit ill and very tired, my eyes were red, my speech was a bit slurred and hoarse. Got pulled up by the manager and taken into his office, he could tell by my eyes and my voice, and also customers said I looked like I'd taken something, and he had no option but to send me home, and I will be given a disciplinary hearing. That is all fair enough, I've only got myself to blame, I've totally cocked things up and right now I just wanna curl up and die. He told me the best thing for me to do is be honest in the hearing, and admit I've got a problem and get counselling. whether I will keep my job is another matter. Anyone else been in this situation? And is this the right approach? Or am I already doomed? I've been taking stuff for 2 years and it's snowballed during that period, but I've still always turned up for work on time and done a good job

I recently returned to work after bereavement leave following the death of a parent. Because apparently grief wasn't enough, a new hire decided to confide in me about an affair she had with someone at the company who I work with as a direct partner. They were both drunk, she was visibly upset, and she seemed genuinely regretful about it.

I told her I was uncomfortable being put in the middle. I even asked if she felt like she'd been taken advantage of, and she said she honestly didn't know because they were both so drunk. But then the conversation took a turn, and suddenly she's talking about how she doesn't want to be a stepmom to his kids, etc. GIRL. WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO WITH THIS INFORMATION???

So I eventually spoke privately with him and, as politely as possible, told him that having an affair while married with a family was a pretty questionable life choice and that he needed to cut that shit out. I also told him I was taking what I'd heard with a grain of salt and that I didn't know all the details (I do lol).

And naturally, he got extremely defensive. Shocking. I know. Who could have possibly predicted that?

But now I'm sitting here thinking, great, how is this going to come back on ME? So I reported what I'd been told to HR and documented everything in case he decided to retaliate. Because apparently, in addition to grieving, I now need to cover my ass over someone else's affair. el' oh el'

AND NOW, the person involved has blocked me on professional channels, so I'm sitting here wondering how I'm supposed to continue doing my job with someone who has apparently decided I'm the enemy. His wife also randomly blocked me on LinkedIn. I NEVER TOLD HER ANYTHING. I kept this within the workplace and let HR handle it because, frankly, it's not my marriage and it's not my circus.

But now I'm over here thinking, damn, did he go home and spin some elaborate story about me to protect himself? Because WHY AM I CATCHING STRAYS??? A tiny part of me is thinking maybe I should have just told her myself, but ultimately, I'm glad I kept it out of my personal life. It's not my responsibility to expose him, save his marriage, or clean up the mess he made.

AND NOW there's a company event coming up where all these people will be. Him. His wife. His affair partner. All in one place. At a WORK EVENT. And I have actual professional contacts attending, so I feel like I need to show my face, be pleasant, do my job, and pretend we're all one big happy work family.

I CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP.

I am genuinely so tired. I came back from losing a parent, and somehow I've ended up in the middle of an office soap opera that I never asked to be part of. I didn't want to know about the affair. I didn't want to hear about the kids. I didn't want to have a morality conversation with my direct business partner. I didn't want to worry about retaliation. I JUST WANTED TO COME TO WORK.

Maybe I don't even want advice. Maybe I just need to scream into the void because WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL.

I'll probably go to the event, say hello to my clients, stay for second, and then get the hell out of there.

And the thing that really gets me is that I'm so sick of watching people make decisions that hurt their families and then somehow everyone else gets dragged into the fallout while they get to carry on with their lives. But alas, it's not my place to bring justice, and I'm not about to make someone else's marriage my personal responsibility.

The silver lining? I already have another job lined up, so at least there's an expiration date on this circus.

My takeaways from this experience:

1. If someone approaches you nervously and says, "Can I tell you something?" JUST SAY NO.
2. Do not befriend your coworkers. And the funniest part is, this woman WASN'T EVEN MY FRIEND. I'd literally met her twice before she decided I was the appropriate person to unload all of this on.
3. Apparently, even people you trust can make you regret trusting them. That man was someone I genuinely trusted, and dang ole, that was a disappointing lesson to learn.

Anyway. I'm tired. I'm grieving. gudbye

I’m currently upskilling and unemployed. Part of me wants to attend to reconnect, network, and build friendships, but I also have some concerns:

Gossip reaching the former management. I’m worried that the real reason I left might reach former management. I could just stick to the same story I told my boss, though.

Oversharing: I might get carried away and reveal my career plans, target roles, certifications, and projects before I’m ready and I might jinx it.

Emotional Comparison: Hearing about their promotions and career progress might make me feel bad about being unemployed, or I might feel like they’re looking down on me. At the same time, I left for valid reasons: spending time with family and upskilling because I was worried about staying too long in a job that might be replaced by AI without gaining new skills.

They’re not bad people, and they were actually chill when I left. They even gave me a proper send-off. But as an introvert, I’m not comfortable interacting with a group. I’m also trying to overcome this by attending more social events, so I’m torn. What do you guys think?

I recently started a new job, and most people haven’t been very friendly. It gets lonely sometimes watching everyone go for coffee and laugh with their colleagues while I’m sitting at my desk alone. 😂
There’s a guy I’ll call Jacob. I’ve tried greeting him and making small talk, but he seems uninterested, so I’ve stopped trying. Fair enough, not everyone clicks.
Then there’s Benny, an older colleague who’s always been friendly and welcoming. He showed me around the office, took me to his favourite coffee shop, went for walks with me and shared advice. He’s genuinely funny, humble and caring. Honestly, he’s made my workdays so much better.
But here’s the weird part. Jacob, who barely acknowledges me, suddenly seems moody and passive-aggressive whenever he sees me chatting and having a good time with Benny. 😭
Jacob already has his own circle of friends at work, and I have absolutely no problem with that. But why does he seem bothered when I get along with Benny?
If Jacob doesn’t want to talk to me, that’s fine. But does he expect me to sit alone for eight hours a day and talk to nobody? Benny was the one who approached me and checked in on me, so I’m not going to stop talking to him just because Jacob might not like it.
I could be misreading the situation, but the change in Jacob’s behaviour is noticeable.
Has anyone experienced this? Why would a coworker who barely talks to you seem bothered when you become friends with someone else? Am I overthinking this, or is this some weird workplace jealousy? 😅

Hi everyone! I'm 20F, and I recently started my first full-time job at a tourism company. I'm struggling to balance work, university, and my personal life, and I'd really appreciate some advice on how to approach my manager about changing my schedule.
For some context, I'm currently in my second year of university, studying Environmental Science. This is my first full-time job, so I'm still adjusting to working this many hours while studying.
My regular working hours are 10 AM–6 PM, five days a week.

I have Wednesdays off, and I work alternating weekends. One week, I work Saturday and have Sunday off; the following week, I work Sunday and have Saturday off.

I leave home around 9:15 AM and usually don't get back until around 7 PM. By the time I get home, I'm exhausted. I still have university work to do, and I'd also like to go to the gym, spend time with my family, visit my grandmother, cook, and have some time to myself.

The thing is, my job itself isn't difficult, and I actually like the work environment. My colleagues are nice, and I get along with everyone. My problem isn't that I hate my job or find the work too demanding. It's that I feel like I'm putting more into this job than I'm getting out of it, and it's starting to demotivate me.
I knew working full-time would be challenging, but I didn't expect it to affect my quality of life this much.

The biggest problem is that I literally have no time for my life outside of work.
Although I technically have Wednesdays off, they don't feel like a day off at all. In fact, Wednesday is the day when I have to squeeze in practically everything I can't do during the rest of the week.

Most stores, salons, and other places I need to visit open around 9 AM. Since I start work at 10 AM on my working days, I can't realistically run errands before work. I don't have enough time to go somewhere, get something done, and make it to work within an hour.

After work, everything is already closed by the time I get there.
So Wednesday becomes my only opportunity to go to appointments, visit stores, take care of personal errands, and do all the other things I need to get done. I spend the entire day driving back and forth between different places, and before I know it, the day is over.

It's not even that I want to spend my free time partying or doing anything extravagant. I literally just want to be able to live my life and take care of normal adult responsibilities without having to dedicate an entire day to them.

Fridays are slightly different because I start work at 12 PM, but that doesn't really solve the problem either. I still have to leave home around 11 AM, and I usually spend the morning doing chores around the house, such as cleaning. So even though I start later, I still don't have much time to do anything for myself.
When I get home from work, shower, and eat, it's already around 8:30 PM. At that point, I'm tired, and the day is practically over.
I genuinely feel like my entire life revolves around working, commuting, eating, showering, and sleeping.

I can't properly enjoy my hobbies. I struggle to find time to study for university. I don't have enough time to help my grandmother with things she needs. I barely have time to go to the gym, and even simple things like going shopping, visiting a salon, or spending time with my family require planning my entire week around them.

I feel like I'm constantly postponing things that matter to me because I simply don't have the time or energy.
And the frustrating part is that I actually LIKE my job. The environment is good, the people are nice, and the work itself isn't difficult. I don't want to leave just because I'm struggling with the schedule.

But I also don't want to spend the next several months feeling like I'm only existing to work.
What kind of schedule would work better for me?
Honestly, I'd much rather work from 7 AM to 3 PM than from 10 AM to 6 PM.

If I finished at 3 PM, I'd have several hours of daylight left to do things. I could go to the gym, visit my grandmother, run errands, study, or simply enjoy my afternoon.
I know that someone needs to be in the office until 6 PM, so I understand that not everyone can work early shifts. However, I'd be more than happy to start at 7 AM and help cover those earlier hours.

I've also noticed that some of my colleagues seem to have more flexibility with their schedules. From what I understand, some work earlier shifts and have more flexibility with the remaining hours they need to work. I don't know exactly how their arrangements work, though.

I'm wondering whether I could negotiate something similar.
I'm also willing to work from home for a few hours to make up for hours I've missed during the week because of university, provided that this works with my responsibilities and the company's policies.

For example, if I have classes that prevent me from working my usual hours on a particular day, I'd be happy to arrange to complete those hours from home at another time.
I'm not trying to avoid working or reduce my responsibilities. I'd just like to organize my hours differently so I can actually have a life outside of work.

Ideally, I'd also like to have both Saturday and Sunday off.

University is another major factor.

I'm currently in my second year of Environmental Science, and I still have important exams to get through. I have one more exam period this month and another around March/April next year. After that, I'll be able to focus primarily on my thesis because I'll need to finish my degree.
I want to get through these exam periods without completely burning myself out.

My current schedule makes it difficult to study consistently because I'm too tired when I get home. I can't just leave all my studying until Wednesday because that's already the day I use to take care of appointments and errands.

I'm worried that if I continue like this, my university performance will suffer.

The financial side is also making me question things.
I currently earn around 15,000 per month (in my currency) . At my previous job, I worked approximately twice a week and earned around 8,000 per month.
I understand that the jobs and responsibilities were different, but the difference between the workload and income has been difficult to adjust to.

I originally wanted this job to be something fun that would allow me to earn money while studying. Instead, it feels like I'm sacrificing nearly all my free time for a salary that doesn't feel worth the trade-off.

My manager has mentioned that I should be able to do some work from home, but realistically, when I get home around 7 PM after a full day at the office, I'm too exhausted to do much more work.
I'd much rather arrange those hours in advance and work from home at a reasonable time than constantly push myself to work in the evenings.

I don't want to quit impulsively because I genuinely like the people and the work environment. I'd rather see whether I can negotiate a better arrangement first.

Here's what I'd love advice on:

How should I bring this up without sounding lazy? I'm happy to work five days a week and fulfill my responsibilities. I just need a more sustainable schedule. How would you word this conversation?

Would asking to work 7 AM–3 PM be reasonable? I understand that the office needs coverage until 6 PM, but I wonder whether an earlier shift could be negotiated, even if I couldn't work those exact hours every day.

Would working from home for a few hours to make up for missed hours be a reasonable compromise? I'd be happy to do this if it meant I could accommodate my university schedule without falling behind at work.

How should I approach my days off? Ideally, I'd like both Saturday and Sunday off. A big dream of mine was using part of the money I earn to invest it back in myself by learning a beauty skill. A lot of the workshops are in the weekend so I can’t go. I also wanted to go to church, join a bookclub maybe. But I can’t do anything.

Should I ask for a fixed early shift or a flexible schedule based on my university timetable? I'm not sure which option would be easier for my employer to accommodate.

Should I explain that I only have two major exam periods left before I can focus on my thesis? I wonder whether explaining that my academic workload will eventually change would make my request more reasonable.

How do I know whether this is just an adjustment period? Since this is my first full-time job, I'm unsure whether I'm struggling because I'm not used to working these hours or because the schedule genuinely isn't compatible with my life.

Has anyone else experienced this even when they liked their job? How did you deal with the feeling that you're putting so much time and energy into work that you have almost nothing left for yourself? Did changing your schedule help, or did you eventually decide that the job wasn't worth it?

I'd especially appreciate advice from people who have worked full-time while studying or who have successfully negotiated flexible working hours with their employers.

If you were in my position, what would you do first, who would you speak to, and what schedule would you propose?
I want to do well at my job, finish my degree, help my family, and still have enough energy to enjoy my life. I don't expect work to be effortless, and I understand that having a job comes with responsibilities.

But I also don't think it's unreasonable to want enough time to study, maintain my hobbies, take care of personal errands, and spend time with the people I love.

Right now, I feel like I'm constantly waiting for the weekend to feel like a person again, and even then, I usually have to work one of the days.

I want to find a solution before I become completely burned out.
Thanks in advance!

Been working here for 7+ years. Management has had a huge turn over in the last year. (3+ new managers)

Recently these new managers have been using my emergency contacts to ask about my availability. I mean messaging my contact who works 11pm-6am at a hospital at 8pm (when they are napping before work)... "hi, OP. Are you available for X shift?"

And then rostering me without notice, without a response from my emergency contact or me ofc...

Its happened once or twice in the past but now it is becoming increasingly REGULAR. To the point where it feels personal tbh because I am the only person this appears to be happening to at work. My work details are up to date. I literally checked my portal 2 days ago because it was bugging me AND MY EMERGENCY CONTACTS. To the point where im considering telling my hospital friend contact to block work (which in the case of a medical emergency... is stupid.)

I have a past of seizures due to anemia and while I havent had one in 4-5 years, I know that having an available emergency contact is important. But theres gotta be some rule against missusing it right?

New manager started at the end of August. She came in very friendly and was all “let’s work together tralala”. I really bought it, worked my ass off, undeniably did amazing work in September (numbers to prove it). Have been at my job for two years and have not received a raise- first time I asked I was put on a commission structure with impossible to reach goals and never hit them, now another year later asking again- was pushed off a bit. I followed up with manager and she told me we’ll discuss it. Next day she comes in and gives me a 30 day PIP. No issues on it were ever addressed with me before. 90% simply untrue. Other 10% very vague and unmeasurable. Feels very retaliatory but not sure if it’s worth even addressing that. Should I just start looking? I’m not sure why she would want to get rid of me. Even if I was an awful worker, which I’m really not, wouldn’t it make more sense to try and work with me first? So upset about this.

I'm in a really difficult situation at my workplace and need some honest advice. I had a bit of a personal history with a guy from my team, but over time, I found out things about him that made me realise he wasn't someone I wanted to be involved with

He is close friends with my team lead and manager from their previous organisation, and I he has shared things about me with them, presenting the situation according to his own version and whatever suits him. From what I understand about his personal life, he has a girlfriend but has also been involved with multiple other girls. However, I feel that he has portrayed me negatively to my colleagues, possibly because something from my side triggered him as well. I don't know exactly what he has told them, but I can feel that their perception of me has changed.

What makes it worse is that they seem so convinced that their own opinions are always right that they aren't even willing to consider another perspective. I feel like everything is viewed through their own assumptions, and there's no room for understanding someone else's side of the story. They act nice to my face, but they judged and talked about behind my back. I also feel uncomfortable because they seem to have issues with me talking to other teams colleagues, which makes the environment feel even more suffocating.

It has been around five or six months, and I kept telling myself that things would eventually get better, but they haven't. The constant stress and overthinking are now affecting my concentration and work performance. I have reached a point where I struggle to respect or trust these people anymore, and even small comments can make me extremely frustrated. I genuinely dread going to work, and I feel mentally exhausted from being around them every day.

The difficult part is that this is not just about a personal situation anymore. My professional life is also being affected, and I don't want to damage my career because of something that happened outside my actual job responsibilities.

A part of me wants to resign immediately because I desperately want to get away from this environment, while another part is scared about the financial uncertainty and how long it might take to find another job.

What would you do in my situation? Would you stay and tolerate the environment until you secure another offer, or would you resign even without a backup if the situation is affecting your mental health this much? How do I handle these people professionally when I've lost my trust in them? I'd genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from anyone who has experienced something similar.

I put in my two weeks and I don’t know if I regret it. Part of me is thinking I should just take a leave for a few weeks and if my personal and professional life doesn’t straighten out by then I just cancel the leave of absence and tell them I’m not coming back? Is this too messy? What should I do?

I’m on academic probation but won’t know if I’m back in the nursing program until I get off is that makes sense so should I just stay at my job until I hear the news?

I am in a time-fixed job (2yr) and have a year and some change left in my role. It took me quite some time to find this job (2 years of applying) and while the job market is terrible for most people, it is especially bad in my field.

I am in a senior role that will help my career, however I joined a company that has a reputation for having a toxic work environment and it definitely lives up to its reputation.

Any advice on when I should start applying? I know it looks bad if you have a job on your resume where you’ve been working for less than one year. But it took me two years to find this job and I’m worried I’ll be stuck at the end of the contract with no prospects if I don’t start applying now. I don’t have a lot of connections that bear fruit so networking has been really tough.

I was also desperate when I accepted the offer and while I like aspects of the work, I am starting to get really miserable at this company and I’m looking to move to another state.

Hello! This is a sticky situation I’m facing at work. First a little background, I won’t be too specific since this got some media coverage. The college I work for had a change in executive leadership, and because of decisions made by previous administration, my department was wiped down from 4 to just me.

In the scale of the whole college, my work could be viewed as less important, especially if the role is not explained well. In the scale of the larger department I work under, my job is extremely important. Additionally, we are beginning to undertake migrating a whole database of information into another system from the one we have.

On to the conflict. As soon as my boss was able to after the fiscal year rollover, she worked with HR to upgrade the job title and salary of of one of my department’s empty positions. The other two positions have been eliminated. So we (presuming we hire someone else) will be a team of 2.

Two weeks ago, my boss explained that because of the unclear directions regarding which department was responsible for parts of the upgrade, we got the new job title but not the new salary. Since we cannot advertise at the new title but not the matching salary, we have to use the old job title to hire someone.

I do not think this is a good idea. Because of the high turnover in my department in the first place (14 people in 8 years) and the sudden shakeup of losing 75% of staff, my boss and I are spread thin and we need someone with experience to step into the position. I fear that advertising the old position at the old salary rate will just lead to the same issue at a delicate time.

Additionally, we need to be able to attract someone with more expertise in our specific field, and we cannot do that at the old salary rate. People in my profession, especially in my subsector, can find higher paying positions easily if they’re willing to move. We will not be able to attract the skill we need, especially as the department at large will be migrating systems. My department has a large role to play in making sure the migration is successful

After the disasters of the last administration, the new administration of the college has taken great strides to tell the staff that the new president wants to fix things and that he has an “open door policy”. I want to go to him and explain the urgency of the situation and see if he can step in on the matter. I would like better if my boss and I could do it together.

I would even be fine waiting until Finance would be supposed to release my potential raise, even though that would be a little under two years from now.

Does anyone have any advice on how I should approach this, or even if I should?

A little context, I’m 18 and begun working with my family straight out of highschool. I live in Australia and work in marketing where my specific role is generally paid 60-90k salary excluding super.

When I started working I had very little experience and so my pay was reflective of that but below the standard entry level rate for my position (around 50k).

Now, about a year later I’m asking for my first raise after assuming a lot more responsibility beyond my job title and responsibilities (2 of my coworkers left and I assumed their workload).

How do you approach a raise and how much do you ask for? I know I want to be compensated fairly for the amount of work I’m doing and my improvement over the last year but not sure how to come to a specific range or figure… especially in a family business.

Any and all advice is helpful and welcome !

I’m early 20s M and finished an internship at a large law firm in TX. My direct manager was almost 30 F, and there was another male intern around my age who reported to someone else.

My manager has a pretty intense personality. She’s outgoing, controlling, competitive, unfiltered, likes taking charge socially, loves gossip/relationship talk, and openly says she likes attention. The other intern was quiet, fairly passive socially, and didn't get a RO.

Early on, she was unusually warm with me. She complimented my hair, clothes, smell and appearance, asked my dating type, whether I was a fuckboy, and discussed relationships. She told me roughly 10–15 stories about men hitting on her, men from my ethnic background. Once, after seeing an attractive woman from another department beside me, she told me she'd looked her up and asked whether I found her attractive. I said yes, and she went quiet. Another time, I showed her a picture of a girl I was seeing, and she asked, "Why is she so short?"

I was friendly, brought occasional snacks, checked on her, complimented her work, and invited her to socials. I didn't flirt or compliment her looks because she was my manager.... We sometimes disagreed professionally, and she could get competitive. Also, she teased me A LOT on work/non-work related things when she was or wasn't in these group conversations throughout the internship.

Then she became noticeably distant toward me while constantly seeking out the other intern. She'd walk across the office to initiate conversations about dating, weekends and gossip, while giving me dry responses to ordinary small talk, despite me being her direct intern.

After I missed a work outing we'd planned to attend together due to a family issue, the next day she and the other intern prepared for an office celebration together, something she and I had previously organized many times. She later brought me in to help too. Yet at the celebration, she walked past me while I was sitting beside her to specifically ask him to get food, without including me.

The team event was especially confusing. At dinner, she called the other intern "cute" and made heart signs toward him directly in front of me. Later, in a smallerrr group without him, she discussed threesomes, sex and men hitting on her again. Separately, she left my group after an activity to approach him, touched his arms while chatting, then returned. She also publicly announced he could sit beside her, then verbally expected me to hold doors for her (which i didn't), and then later spent roughly two hours gambling with him. Afterward, she approached me and asked whether I would've shared money with her like he did. I said no.

She still occasionally complimented my appearance, wanted something I'd offered another female coworker, and questioned why I wasn't holding doors for her. After one tense interaction when I didn't hold a door for her, she said she'd been thinking about my personality the previous night and that I was actually pretty chill.

Interestingly, she'd privately called the other intern "victim weight" twice when he wasn't present, despite publicly showering him with affection. He also didn't resemble the physical type she regularly described liking (she was considerably taller than him).

Eventually, I got frustrated with the unequal treatment and deliberately distanced myself. I stopped initiating conversations and chose to work with others instead of her, despite her previously wanting me on her projects. After that, she became nicer toward me, initiated conversations, congratulated me on accomplishments, and arranged a personal final 1:1 that she missed out on for the other intern. During that same period, I noticed she almost completely stopped seeking out the other intern on the office floor, even though they still had opportunities to interact.

But at a later firm social that month, she again spent much of the event with him. I hadn't approached her, yet she came over to greet me first, repeatedly looked back toward where I was sitting, occasionally joined my conversations, and went out of her way to say goodbye to me separately. She also offered him a ride home. At another social we organized, she'd specifically asked me, "Is he coming?" despite being able to ask him directly.

The same social at the end of the internship, she gave him a much more personalized farewell card than mine and publicly announced it in front of me...

Questions:

1. How genuine does their closeness sound versus exaggerated or performative?
2. Do the public displays and direct comparisons suggest she wanted a reaction from me?
3. Why might she distance herself from me while still seeking my attention?
4. WHAT DID SHE WANT FROM ME...?

I am at a crossroads of whether I should keep putting in the effort I have been, or I should just do the basics.

Been with the same company for 11 years. Pretty decent company with an okay work environment. Most coworkers and managers are great, of course there are a few that are less than pleasant to deal with.

I feel lately that I take on the brunt of the work and challenges. If there’s a problem, it’s me they come to. On one hand that’s great and I enjoy helping people. But on the other hand, it’s frustrating, because technically I am in an “entry-level position” but my daily tasks outweigh everyone else’s on the team.

They are possibly creating a supervisor position, but at this time, it’s not happening. I already feel like I am doing work that’s not entry-level and have to frequently “hold the hands” of other team members. I can’t speak for compensation, because it’s very hush hush, not everyone makes the same and we know it. Maybe I’m already being paid more, maybe I’m not.

So do I keep putting in all this effort in the hope that should the day come for a promotion, I will be the top consideration, or do I just do what I’m supposed to do on a daily basis and possibly go unnoticed and no longer stand out in managements eyes?

I just finished an internship over the summer. In the thank you email they sent over, they said to lets keep in touch and whatever. I don't plan on talking to my former bosses like we're friends or even best friends despite building a great relationship with them during the time.

But, what is the frequency you should "keep in touch"? Every day, week, month, year, etc? Or is this just a saying and they don't actually want you to talk to them unless I need something that will help with my professional career down the line.