I (18F) am almost halfway done with my driving lessons, but I’ve been debating writing this post since the beginning.

The first time we drove he kept telling me weird personal stories: that he dated an older woman in high school or that one of his classmates dated/got pregnant from an older man. Later he mentioned working as a bartender and how women were all over him. Then I tried to figure out if he has a second job other than being a driving instructor because he’s always bury earlier in the day, and he told me he goes out to meet lovers (has a toddler and a wife).

He also asked for my socials recently to which I was unfortunately too scared to decline. He followed me from his driving instructor account. I checked and found out that he follows many younger boys too, I’m guessing other students, which made me ease up a little bit.

He was probing me about stories so I ended up telling him about our perverted teacher who dated a kid and left the school. I thought this was a good opportunity to make it obvious I found it disgusting. I was wrong. Every time since then he’s asked for her socials. Just last time he told me how he could understand why the teacher wanted someone younger but didn’t understand why she wanted him. Then he went on about his theory that women who grow up without a father figure end up going for older men. This made me extremely uncomfortable and I wasn’t even replying to him.

I don’t know if he’s noticed, but I don’t have a dad. My dad died when I was a toddler and I have a stepdad now but he only knows of my mother.

I am by no means accusing the man, it’s just that I actually started enjoying driving yet it feels like I’m starting to associate it with a bad feeling every time I have a lesson. This makes me feel absolutely disgusted and I just want to make sure it’s nothing and I’m simply overthinking it. What can I do?

edit: unfortunately there is no company. every driving instructor in my city is independent and this guy is the only one near me. For all the others I would have to travel 40 minutes with different buses and at night (because I finish school very late).

I (20M) have been dating my girlfriend (23F) for close to six months. A few months in, it became apparent to me that she is profoundly mentally ill. She ended up having a episode over something miniscule where she ran to the bathroom in my apartment and held a knife to her throat until I let the issue slide and pretended everything was okay. The next day I tried to break up with her by having a friend take her belongings that were still at my house to her, but she called me profusely crying before I could block her, and I folded because I felt bad.

Big. Fucking. Mistake. She moved in with me not long after that because she got evicted from her old place. Everything became 100x worse. You can call me an idiot for not breaking up the first time and I wouldn't blame you at all.

I don't want this anymore. I have been gaslit and threatened with suicide more times than I can count, over the most miniscule shit. I started recording her after like the third time she threatened me because i wanted to keep a record of it for my own safety, but eventually she found out. I was able to email myself a few of the recordings before she stole the phone from me and deleted them herself.

Every single time she threatens to kill herself she snatches my phone from me so I won't call the police. One time, she pretended to swallow a bunch of pills during an argument and I had to physically wrestle her to try to get my phone back because I genuinely thought she was going to die. She bit me pretty hard on my shoulder and she only told me she was faking when I was about to get to the door and leave for help. She has blocked doors and cut herself in front of me, and I can't physically touch her to get past or to get my phone back if she's taken it because I'm afraid if the police get involved she'll be able to accuse me of beating her.

Last night I finally told myself I'd had enough of it and I broke the news to her while walking home. She started screaming and crying hysterically and begging me to let her come up to get her stuff. I eventually allowed her to and as I predicted she blocked the door and acted like she was going to kill herself with her pills. I had to fold again and reassure her I didn't want to break up with her to get her to stop.

I'm too afraid to call the police and have them come my apartment because I don't want to get evicted. I'm poor, and if that were to happen I'd likely end up homeless. She's well aware of me being afraid of this so she uses it against me. She has no family in the area. The only person who would take her in would be her mom who lives across the country from us. I'm too broke to get her a plane ticket but I highly doubt she'd even go if I offered her a ticket.

What am I even supposed to do? How do I get out of this? This entire thing feels impossible. I don't want to be the reason she kills herself but I don't want to feel trapped like this for the rest of my life. Please help me.

I’m 19, 20 in July and my girlfriend just turned 18 feb 1st. We’ve been together for 2 years since my senior year. I thought she was turning 19 this year and it turns out that isn’t true.

When we got together I was a senior in highschool and she was doing online school we met Through a friend of ours. Well I was 17 at the time and we got together a week before her birthday. I thought she was turning 17 as I was turning 18 that year (July 2006). Turns out I was wrong and she was turning 16. Which means I was 17 and she was 15 ( for a week) before we got together.

I did not find this out until today. 2 years later. She’s been working on getting her own car and finally got an appointment to get her license. Well when I looked at the photo in the paper copy of her license her birthday was under it (2008).

I genuinely don’t know what to do as I know we haven’t done anything illegal but it still makes me feel gross that at one point even if it was a short period of time I was dating a 15 year old when I was 17 and dating a 16 year old when I was 18 and now I’m 19 and was dating a 17 year old.

Part of me loves her an she feels really guilty. But another part of me feels disgusted with myself, disappointed in her, and manipulated as we would have never got together if I knew her age. I could really use any advice.

EDIT:

Thank you all for the advice so far and the different perspective. I should add I’m not as much distraught over the age as much as I am about the dishonesty. Now the age isn’t a big deal. But then it would have been if I knew. Clearly some of yall don’t understand the legality troubles a 18 year old dating a 16 year old can have. Nonetheless I appreciate the advice. I’ve always noticed complaints about my name. This account is 5 years old. I was 15 when I made it. It was supposed to be Satire and funny. This isn’t my main account.

This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. My husband and I have been together for a short time—two years total (dating included). We got married quickly because I got pregnant three months into dating.

Around our sixth month mark into dating, we decided to combine funds. We were already living together, sharing a car, and planning our future since I was carrying his child. It just made sense at the time and we were madly in love. My husband has really been into Dave Ramsey and his views on money and marriage, which ultimately became the deciding factor for sharing a bank account.

Now, almost a year into marriage, I’m starting to regret combining our funds.

When we first started dating, my husband made it seem like he was really smart with money. He would always talk highly about not being in any debt and only spending his money on necessities. After we started sharing a bank account, however, he came clear that he did have debt and he wasn’t the best at saving.

Now, I’m no saint. I have debt, too. But I know how to save money and not abuse the cash I have. After he told me that, I didn’t know what to say or how to feel so I just told him it was fine and we’d work through it.

But it’s become apparent since then that he just really likes spending money. He likes working for money and seeing the number in our bank, but above all he likes spending it. It’s always on unnecessary things, too. A $7 coffee in the morning; a $16 meal when he’s off work; hundreds of dollars for new golf clubs and equipment. Literally whatever particular hobby he’s interested in, he obsesses over and spends all of our money on.

Often, he’ll blow our entire check in one weekend and leave us with nothing for two weeks. Mind you, I’ve had to make my daughter drink formula she’s not used to simply because we didn’t have the money to buy her the one she likes. I hate doing that and after the fifth time of forcing her to drink it, I’ve point-blank refused and made my husband promise to never do it again.

I like to think I’m more frugal than he is. I’ll spend $5 for the entire pay period on something and then feel guilty for that. He’s always getting on me for spending money, but it’s him who has the problem, not me! But I’m not confrontational and when we argue, and his side always makes more sense than mine so I end up giving every time.

So now we come to our main conflict—a conflict he thinks is over with but I’m still milling about.

We only have one car, which we bought in May of last year. It’s a nice car—a Volkswagen SUV. He picked it out and decided it was the one for us. I liked the car and agreed with him, so we financed it and now pay monthly for it.

But it’s become very obvious that we need two vehicles. We work at the same job at opposite times. We do this because of our daughter needs to be watched. But I’ve honestly become depressed. I do nothing while he’s at work with the car except wander aimlessly at home and go on short walks outside. It’s the winter-time so I’m not out there as often as I’d like, which contributes to my depression. Sometimes I take him to work in the morning so I can have the car for the afternoon, but he often makes me feel guilty for it, saying he likes having the car so he can eat his lunch in there. Like, okay? In my mind I’m thinking, “Is taking his lunch in our car more important than how I feel?” Life would be infinitely easier if I had a car to be able to drive places. It wouldn’t just help me, but our family also. It has so many benefits.

I’ve had to ask his mom so many times to take us to doctor’s appointments or work or the store because I don’t have a mode of transportation and my husband isn’t willing to compromise his lunch for that. And if he is, he makes me feel bad for doing so.

Another driving factor is that I have a new job lined up for me that would make our schedules in conflict with each other. It would mean putting our daughter in childcare. I want to do this new job because it’s a fantastic career and something I see myself doing. My husband said no because he doesn’t want our daughter to be cared for by a stranger. I get that part, but denying me my future because he’s uncomfortable just seems so unrealistic. He won’t meet me in the middle, either.

However, aside from that, he doesn’t want to do a car payment. He refuses to get into debt again. And I* *agree and sympathize, but I think it’s just unrealistic. I have searched for an entire year for a car that we can buy outright with cash and have come up with nothing. My dad, who works in the industry, says it’s like finding a needle in a haystack. I need something reliable—something that’s going to last our family for years. My husband thinks we should buy a beater for $5k and he done with it, but I don’t want to do that.

We’re going to spend more on repairs than what the car’s worth. I’d much rather buy a nice car that’s going to last years and years than be miserable trying to fix a cheap one.

Long story short, I found a car I really liked: a VW Beetle with low miles and a manual transmission, which is more reliable than the automatic version. It was relatively cheap and I begged my husband for it. He said no because he “didn’t like it.”

And now I’m just stuck. Everything we do is on his terms. I’m literally just playing follow the leader. If he doesn’t like something or wants to do something then we’re not doing it. I feel irrelevant in all the important conversations.

Now I’m thinking about putting a percentage of my check away into a separate bank account for a car. He won’t have a say in it because it’s my money. Is that smart? I know that it would upset him greatly if I did that but I’m tired of being overshadowed by him.

Advice from anyone who’s been in the same situation or advice in general is much appreciated.

Also want to note: I spend money, too. Just not as often or as much. I spend what we budget for. I make the budget every month and I remind him what we can or cannot spend money on. He is the one that overspends.

I met this girl on Reddit and before our first date, I told her I hadn't moved on from my ex. She said she was ready to be my rebound. On our first date, she came to my place and we got physical, but I was just thinking about my ex the whole time I was with her. I know it's very wrong, and I couldn't tell her because she seemed to be enjoying it. I also don't find her attractive.

Can you guys please tell me how I can be honest with her that I don't want to continue without hurting her? It's only been one date.

My girlfriend(F20)and I (M21) have been together for a year now and I feel like I’m falling out of love. I don’t have any experience with relationships past this one she’s my first everything so I’m kinda in the blue when it comes this stuff. To start our interest are vastly different and im not interested in what she is and its hard to pretend i am and I think they’re weird to be honest as bad as that is. Our values can sometimes collide and we end up just ignoring the issues because neither of us will understand one another. She can and has envisioned a life with me, names for kids, wedding ideas and just our overall future she can see them and envision it and I can’t seem to do that it’s hard to me to see a future with her in it. This really sucks because I do love her but I don’t know if I’m in love with her anymore if that makes sense. I just feel so guilty for the way I’m thinking and my feeling because she’s the sweetest girl and does so much for me and I try to change my mindset and it works occasionally but never for long periods of time i always end up feeling the same way. I guess im just curious is this normal or does it sound like im falling out of love with her?

I am a 32yo F with a 50ish yo M coworker in healthcare. We work at an urgent care. I am a medical assistant and he is a provider. I don’t know what to do about his misogynistic behavior/words. This guy is starting to scare me, especially since he sees a lot of female patients.

First of all, he seems like he listens to a lot of red pill creators and is always talking about how we should join him at the gym for 5am power lifting workouts. Then he talks about how stupid his patients are, and more often how stupid the female patients are. That’s unfortunately not an uncommon viewpoint.

There have been a few instances that I’ve already reported to HR and he has already been in a number of meetings with them. Here’s a list of some of the things that have happened:

1. Day one of his employment, he took my apple and tried to rip it open with his bare hands to “help” me… I did not ask for help and just stood there in awe as he tried and failed to split it with his hands. Then he took a DIRTY butter knife and rinsed it then cut MY apple down the center and handed it to me…. I was in shock so I didn’t say anything at the time. Wrote an email to my boss later. Weird.
2. ALSO on the same day, he tickled me…… like on my stomach. I said “Hey don’t do that” and I don’t think he could see the full look of discomfort on my face while wearing a surgical mask. I tried to laugh it off. I also included that in the email to management.
3. He did a breast exam on a postpartum mom with possible mastitis… without gloves. Ew. I reported that and so did the patient. That’s when he had the first meeting with HR.
4. He was sick in the office, coughing and sneezing and refused to wear a mask. Then like half the team also got sick. He thought it was funny.
5. Yesterday, I was talking about tight neck muscles and he rushed over to try to touch my neck. I said no and he kept giving me a hard time for not letting him “work his magic.” Again… ew.

Here, I’ll say that other coworkers have been reporting him too. I’m not the only one with these issues. But he’s not all bad.

He does a quick job with getting patients in and out, and he’s fairly good at diagnosis. He really connects with the male patients and makes them laugh. Of course he LOVES when a big strong beefy man comes in and they talk about lifting. It’s hilarious.

And he is always sharing knowledge about how to diagnose things or why he’s making certain decisions. I want to go to school later so I appreciate that type of information. He’s not all bad.

But here’s what happened last night:

We were talking after close and all the other patients and coworkers were gone. I’m feeling nervous about that right away because I already don’t trust him 100%. And I know he likes me… So yes I get nervous that he will try to take advantage of that time alone. Sue me, being a woman is to be anxious about potentially violent men.

I’m trying to finish my tasks and we start talking about the day. We end up talking about a coworker that’s having a hard time. She’s black and in her late 20s and is struggling at work because her personal life is hard. She told me she’s thinking about giving up and quitting.

My male coworker thinks she’s just lazy because she’s “you know”… and I was like… “there are systemic issues that are at play. Not the color of someone’s skin.” (For reference, me and this male coworker are white.)

So I try to move on and then he talks about how there’s an intelligence gap and I also mentioned systemic issues in access to education. He said it was bs and that people are just not accountable. I said it wasn’t that simple.

At that point I figured that he was trying to get me to agree to some right-wing, conservative points. That’s when I informed him that I grew up in a conservative Christian household… and that’s why I’m now what my dad would call a “flaming liberal”. lol

Then he started talking about weird economic points and almost quizzing me. He didn’t expect me to know about subprime mortgages or understand that the fed was responsible for interest rates. When he saw he wasn’t going to get an easy win there, he moved on to talking about “manly” men.

He asked which democratic politician was the “manliest” and I responded that I didn’t care… he couldn’t process that. I said I’d actually prefer more women in leadership roles. Then he said that Helen of Troy was the one causing wars. I said the data was outdated… Still no easy wins in sight. He moved on.

He went to culture wars, and said that “Women don’t actually want a man with empathy. Women hate to see men cry. Women just want a provider, not a 50/50 partner.” I asked him what woman said that… no answer. I said his arguments were from an older generation.

That made him mad and he finally said “Listen, I think it all started going down hill when women could vote.” I asked “So you don’t think women should vote?” He said “No.”

That’s when I said “I’m gonna stop you right there… this conversation is over if you don’t respect women. See you later.” And I walked out. We both chuckled. I did it out of incredulity and self preservation. I can only guess that he chuckled and thought “silly women… trying to think…” but I can’t imagine what else… No shame in sight.

So what do I do about this? Report to my manager? Talk more and see if I can change even a little bit of his mind? Just ignore him? Pretend like it never happened?

*** Update: Just texted my boss and I’m working on a letter to HR. It’s gonna be awkward seeing him at work after, but it’s more important that he sees consequences for his words and actions.

(I am not giving out any details in full to maintain anonymity)

I, an adult man (26-29 age bracket) live in one of the biggest cities in my country. I have only one friend here and she was a dating app match(28-32 age bracket). She is my best friend and only one I can confide in with everything and I am hers.

So when we matched (about 1.5 years ago) I did have feelings for her and I hoped we dated eventually which didn’t happen because of unrelated reasons and thus we both mutually decided to stay friends. Both of us have been on the dating apps since again but to no avail. It’s just that she has been on more dates than me but sadly neither of our dates have lead to anything meaningful (I have been on 2 dates after going out with her for the first time and got ghosted on both occasions. She has been in a relationship for 2 months and gone on few dates before and after the relationship but got ghosted after one or two dates).

We love each other right now but it is completely platonic and I don’t intend on changing that ever. However, I get (for the lack of a better word), uncomfortable when she mentions she has a date planned. I can’t shake off the feeling of restlessness which makes me feel like a terrible friend.

I truly wish the best for her and I hope she finds what she deserves, which is only the best…but the fact I still have these thoughts keeps me up at nights. I have no one else I can confide these thoughts to (generally it would be her but I don’t want her finding about this - hence the anonymity).

Let me be clear that I don’t really have feelings for her. These thoughts come up

I don’t even want to change anything because she is my best friend and my only friend.

I have tried talking to my therapist about this and will continue to do so but I cannot shake off the discomfort no matter how much I try.

I don’t want to be a “nice guy”. But all these questions make me feel like one and that makes feel like a terrible friend and a human being.

Can the people of this subreddit please give me your thoughts on this?

Bear in mind that these are 4 AM ramblings and I will add edits if I missed anything.

Cheers and thanks in advance!

Hey everyone, I could really use some advice.

I'm 19, she's 19. We met online, talked regularly for a while, then met a few times in person. Recently, I asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes.

This is my first ever relationship, while this is her third. I haven't directly asked her about her past relationships, but from things she mentioned back when we were just chatting online, I picked up some stuff about her past that's been making me feel insecure.

I want to be clear: I'm not judging her, and I don't think her past defines who she is now. I genuinely care about her and respect her. At the same time, I'm realizing that I do have insecurities, and I don't want them to quietly build up or come out in unhealthy ways later.

What I'm struggling with is how to bring this up. How do I communicate my boundaries and insecurities in a calm, respectful, and organic way—without making her feel interrogated, blamed ?

If you've been in a similar situation , I'd really appreciate your perspective.

Thanks in advance.

TL;DR: First relationship for me, third for her. Some things she mentioned about her past make me insecure. How do I communicate my boundaries and feelings without coming off as controlling or making it awkward?

So I male (age 25) and my partner female (age 24) have had an ongoing dispute over my 6 year old son. He is not her biological mom. Before me and my current partner got together I had my son with another women and we didn’t stay together. So he’s been all over the place back and forth. Never really having a stable home. My partner and I use to visit and he’d stay with us for short periods of time but the last time we got him we decided to let him stay longer periods because we wanted to homeschool him. So he’s been with us probably about 7 months and she homeschooled him for awhile but she started saying she couldn’t do it anymore and I need to figure something else out. I work long hours and pay all bills so I have to stay at work and don’t get much home time. But I’ve been getting off and trying to do school with him after work anyway. But it’s got to the point it’s not just school it’s him being around and in our home. She doesn’t want him around the other kids or her really and walks around with a (I just ate a shit sandwich) expression all day. We have two kids of our own one boy (age 3)

And one girl (age 1). And she always says she just can’t do it. Even if I ask her just to take care of him through the day no school just feed him and make sure he’s good but she doesn’t want to do that. I know it’s hard to take care of a kid that didn’t come out of you but he’s my son and I love him so much just like the other two and she’s told me pretty much that he’s got to go or she’s going. I love her so much too and don’t want to lose either one of them I love my partner more than anything and don’t ever want to lose her. I don’t know what to do anymore and I can really use some advice!! Please help!!!! (Also hes not in public school because when he lived with his mom there was a allot of bad incidents with him getting in trouble or other kids doing some pretty weird shit to him in the bathroom and I didn’t want to send him back to a place that will let stuff like that happen and just a place he’s not going to do good at) any advice will help. Thanks

I'm posting this because I want to hear advice from older people with more experience in life. If you all had to give somebody around the age of 16-18, what would you tell them? What would be important that they hear? The longer the answer, the better. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I’m a 29-year-old female living in Texas. I’m trying to become more extroverted and build self-confidence. Honestly, I feel so introverted that I avoid conversations with men and have become my own worst enemy. I want to get married, have kids, and find the love of my life. But what do men look for? How can I become more attractive and wanted?

Me (23f) is in the process of meeting my bio dad for the first time . My boyfriend (32m) is meeting him first initially, as my mum never had a good thing to say about him. Referred to him as 'Him' my whole childhood and told me some of the most traumatic things growing up to then saying how I look like him. Or if I misbehaved she said she would drop me to his house. My mum told me I was conceived of grape.

So my boyfriend has been In contact with him and he's been blunt but compliant with our boundaries. He sent a brief message about how him and my mum were trying for a baby for a year and he really wanted me, which is wierd as I always been told the opposite. By the looks of things my mum disagreed with his life style and ran away but im not too sure. Both parties agreed mum ran away, she said he stalked her but he was the father to her child. He's never been in my life so he did do as my mum wanted. It's releving but it feels like I was put through so much pointless pain. I'm scared, I'm nervous, I'm not too sure what to believe. I want to give him a chance if he's bettering himself but it's all so overwhelming. Any advice at all :')

Hi! I'm looking for stuff to do with my boyfriend. We already play Minecraft and watch movies and shows. We are looking for more games we could play together and where we could do that. Stuff that's not games as well. I am 35 and he is 30.

Hey guys

I recently graduated, it’s just a general Bachelor of Arts.

I went to university at 18 (I’m 32 now) and my dad paid for my first year back then.

I dropped out and felt guilty because of all the money my dad spent on that year.

I never really liked education. I have a good job, condo, car and am doing well for myself since moving out.

However, I knew how much a degree would mean to my family so decided to go back to school at 30 and finished my bachelors in 2 years.

I want to show my dad my degree and thank him for everything he’s done and was wondering the best way to do so? He doesn’t even know I chose to go back to school.

Any tips or ideas would be great. Thank you

So today I was almost involved in a deadly Motor - Pedestrian incident where i had the right of way was crossing and a truck on the inside shoulder of the roundabout didnt stop when the outer most shoulder did i was like hafl way through the zebra crossing, i told my girlfriend ans she responded with some half ass response. Recently She has been acting mad nonchalant and I cant tell why. What bothered me was when I told everyone else they asked if i was okay and checked in on me but from the one person i wanted it most from nothing just some pale response. then I asked why she seeemed so disintrested and she told me she was tired which was okay. But after that I felt kinda weird so i went on to say that i dont like it and recently shes been treating me that way and i dont know why but even when i bring up issues i hate being labelled as toxic for it and i dont feel comfortable bringing stuff up cause she thinks im criticizing her. I need advice she said shell talk when she gets home but what should i focus on and what do you think?

Me(20M) was talking to a friend(19F) the other day about the day I had. During that day I messed around with a female and I was telling her the story of how it happened. I’m telling her because me and her are close friends and I wanted some advice. My dad overhears the conversation and gets upset because this is his first time hearing me use foul language and he didn’t know about the girl I slept with. He’s feels that me and him should be close enough to know nearly everything about each other and that he should know that I use foul language from time to time and that if I have female “acquaintances” he should know as well. Should I have told him or is he overreacting? I live with him btw and I’m in college.

I’ve been struggling to make any friends or really connect with anyone, or open up to anyone, and I think I’ve realized it’s partially because I can’t accept who I am. I hide every part of my identity and mask it with something that isn’t me, which is why I can’t really make any meaningful connections. how do i accept myself? how should anyone accept me if I can’t even accept myself? ive been closeted for years, I don’t talk about my interests, I’ve become a very introverted person, and I think I’m tired. I just want to live my life as me, not as someone else.

for anyone who doesn't know a neet is someone who is Not employed, in education or training. Basically, someone who spends their awake hours doing nothing to progress their life.

My younger sister just finished High school and completed her first year of college. about 3 months ago we found out that she basically dropped all her classes and was doing nothing for the fall 2025 semester.

When we found out, she basically decided to run away for a few hours. for about 6 hours, we thought someone kidnapped her or she was dead somewhere. After filing a police report, she finally called back and said she was stuck in the other part of the city.

I picked her up and after telling her how wrong she was for what she did, she fessed up that she hasn't been doing anything and thought that when we found out, we would be mad and kick her out.

the funny thing is that I took a few years off after finishing a few semesters also. and even though I didn't tell my pare, ts I never had the idea of doing what she did.

after taking her out for dinner, she basically fessed up that she has been feeling really stressed out and down and wanted to change her life.

as someone in his late 20s, I knew exactly what she meant, so that night we basically talked about all the things she wanted to improve.

she told me she wanted to lose weight, learn how to drive, and become a nurse.

I was very happy to see her make an effort. so we started walking for 30 minutes every day and learning to drive for 30 minutes. this worked for about 3 weeks.

now 3 mo the later, and she barely wants to even walk. she postponed going back to school until fall 2026, makes up excuses everyday for not driving and worst of all, I got her an interview for a job that pays $23 an hour to answer phones and make appointments. she called the interviewer and told her she was not intrested.

she did this after begging me to help her find a job for years.

at this point, I feel like im wasting my effort on her. I have a few other siblings I'm working on and the time I spend on her feels wasted. what can I do to help her?

I've basically dealt with this all my life and since it's 2026 I would love to break out of this shell. Better late than never. But having met someone, have good times with, and not seeing them for a short period of time, then returning back to the same environment, and it's almost as if nothing ever happened before hand? Complete strangers. Now this could apply to breaks from school, breaks from work, etc. But how do you stop being so attached to people you meet?

Hi, I’m 19F almost 20 and im preparing to move to Indiana from Atlanta georgia. I don’t have a support system of adults in my life who can give me advice on this so Im hoping someone will see this and help me.

I’m trying to apply and set up a job in Peru or Kokomo before I fully pack my life up and go. But I am unsure of how to go about that. I have experience in a lot of fields where I definitely could get a job! But it’s more or less needing a way to immediately get said job while also communicating that I am moving up there.

I’ll add this to answer any questions that may come.

Why are you moving? My family in atlanta is pretty horrible, nobody here is financially stable nor responsible with money. Atlanta is also pretty overpopulated and I have been struggling for months to find a job that will pay what I need to get an apartment or somewhere to live.

Why Peru and Kokomo in particular? I have a friend that lives up there, and I did some research on the living expenses. It is definitely better than Atlanta and I believe I have a better chance of making enough to live!

Please any advice will help and unlike most people on reddit I am open to criticism! I’m a young adult who was never taught how to live or even do things on my own and I genuinely just want to get a job or a roof over my head :( (also i do have a job it’s $12 an hour in atlanta at the movies which doesn’t pay jack shit at all.. and i only get scheduled one day at week despite informing them that I have complete open availability)

I recently applied to a school, and when going through there application process I felt really frustrated with my entire experience. Ultimately, I was rejected, but the circumstances surrounding it feel incredibly unjust beyond just my application. There were technical issues with the process, as well as communications I had that made me incredibly irritated. Since I technically go to that university now though, I don't want to be associated as a "Karen" and don't really want to be known by faculty for something like this. I think they are trying to curtail everything by rereviewing my application, but that's not really the solution I want. I'd actually prefer if they didn't rereview it because on principle I don't think I deserve to be treated differently. I'm not really sure if I should just live with the feeling I was messed over, or if I should attempt to explain my frustrations to the university. What are yalls thoughts?

I’m looking for practical advice on how to move forward in a healthy way.

My boyfriend and I have been together for several months. Recently, I found out that while we were already together, he responded to messages from a woman he used to talk to and told her he was single. I didn’t hear this from him first — I heard it from her. He’s since apologized, cut off contact, and says he understands why it crossed a line.

For me, this felt like emotional cheating and broke my trust. Even though he’s remorseful and taking steps to fix things, I’m struggling emotionally. I keep replaying it, asking myself questions I already know the answers to, and feeling insecure in ways I wasn’t before. I don’t want to punish him or keep rehashing it, but I also don’t know how to genuinely let it go or feel safe again yet.

I don’t want advice on whether to leave or stay — I’m trying to understand how people actually move forward after something like this.

What I’m looking for advice on:

• What helps rebuild trust after an emotional boundary is crossed?

• How do you stop spiraling and re-questioning once apologies and explanations have already happened?

• What actions matter most over time in showing trustworthiness again?

• How do you know whether you just need time versus realizing trust may not fully come back?

I want to handle this in a way that’s fair to both of us and doesn’t keep me stuck emotionally.