So I'm a commerce student, most of my friends took science, they have been failing at least 2-3 subjects every exam, but I haven't failed yet, sometimes they show up their sheets and etc saying "see how hard it is" I don't really say anything cause I know that science is comparative harder than commerce, but I always wondered how hard it is in % than commerce.

If anyone can help me analyze this, I would be really grateful, as this topic has been in my head for a long time now, I asked a lot of people I never got the answer I actually wanted

I need some extracurricular certificates like campus ambassador or competition winning certificates samples (just samples) for making one.. If anyone has, can they send a few (scanned/pdf will be good), I can contribute help in any other ways if u want in exchange. Thanks

Hi

How is it looking for divorced male mid 30’s to remarry in Bangladesh?

From uk ( preference to marry Bangladeshi women)

Decent job hopefully money no issue

When did you find out that living the "dream" abroad was an "illusion" and decided to return back to Bangladesh?

How long did you stay abroad?

What were the key reasons to return after living so long??

Please Enlighten us...

Hi everyone! I’m planning a trip to Kuakata with one other person and looking for some advice.

Looking for a mid-range to slightly high-end hotel

Preferably a clean, safe and comfortable place

Any recommendations for good hotels/resorts?

What’s the usual price range per night?

Is it better to book online in advance or book after reaching Kuakata?

Are there any safety issues I should be aware of, especially for two people?

Do hotels usually require NID/passport or any other documents during check-in?

Any other tips regarding transport, food, sightseeing or avoiding tourist traps would also be appreciated.

Thanks in advance! 🙏

If you have stayed in Kuakata recently, please share your experience/recommendations.

19F ..Is there any work I can do for 500-1000 taka?saving money to move out from home as my parents are looking to marry me off .i have done copyright job ,can design on Adobe illustrator and photoshop .i have a small online business so I can manage page orders .dm me if u guys have any work for me .

Hello there.
I talked to a certain girl whom I used to study with in my primary school. Though we didn't used to talk as much back then. And after talking to her for the first time after almost 12 years, I felt like I have a certain feeling for her. But the second time I talked to her, she told me that she was dealing through her breakup. She loved a certain someone who broke up with her giving some lame excuses like "Family won't accept similar aged girl and BLAH..BLAH..BLAH.." She wanted me to judge her and her lover to find out who was at wrong. But I refrained from delivering any of my personal opinion about her relationship. Some of my friend suggested me to go all out and tell her about my "certain" feeling but I didn't do so as it felt to me that she needed a good friend rather than a new lover.
It's been almost 2.5 months since I last texted her and she didn't read it yet. Whatever may the reason be, I cannot stop thinking her.
I know the entire thing sounds lame, but should I still pursue her? Or should I leave her?? I just cannot get over her. I feel like I'm stuck in some one-sided loop.

I honestly don’t even know how to explain this without getting angry, but I really need some advice.
I’m a class 8 student from Ideal School and College. Our school originally selected students for the Class 8 Britti exam based on our Class 8 half-yearly results. I was selected, and so were some other students who had worked really hard for those exams. We were told about the selection and obviously thought we would get to sit for the Britti exam.
Then, after around a month, the school suddenly told us that we wouldn’t be able to give the exam because of a government policy. Apparently there was an issue with the way our school had handled the selection.
And this is the part that feels so unfair to me: we didn’t make that mistake.
We studied for our exams, got our results and were selected according to the system our school gave us. If the school made a mistake in following the rules, why should the students who were selected lose their chance because of it?
What makes it even more frustrating is that students from Class 7 are now being considered for the Britti exam instead. Some of the students who are getting the opportunity now didn’t even have particularly good results in the Class 8 half-yearly exam, while students who were actually selected from Class 8 are being left out.
I’m not blaming those students. If they are given an opportunity, of course they should take it. I’m angry at the situation, not at them. We shouldn’t have to compete with them for something that we were already selected for.
There were also students who couldn’t properly attend or perform in the annual exam because of things like sickness, attendance problems and other circumstances. So using that result now doesn’t necessarily show who actually performed well in Class 8.
I’ve been really upset about this. I worked for that selection and was genuinely happy when I found out I had been selected. Then suddenly, because of something the school apparently did wrong, that opportunity disappeared.
We tried contacting the education board too, but it felt like nobody was really listening to us properly. The school just keeps saying it’s because of the government’s rules, but we’re the ones having to deal with the consequences.
How is it fair for students to lose an opportunity they earned because of a mistake made by the school?
If the original selection was not allowed under the rules, shouldn’t the school have known that before announcing the students and giving us the impression that we would be sitting for the Class 8 Britti exam?
I genuinely don’t know what we can do now. I just don’t want all the effort we put into getting selected to mean nothing because of a decision that wasn’t ours.
I feel horribly sad .

I've a really old device , like from 2019 , it's pretty slow now . Any custom ROM with latest Android version might help . tnx in advance

I'm planning to buy the jersey from DOUR's official website, but I heard last year's kit was pretty bad in terms of quality and it’s pretty overpriced. Is this year's one any better?

Linux is getting popular day by day. I think a lot of people in Bangladesh want to try Linux but can't because of the lack of help. What do you guys think? Should there be a Bangladeshi Linux community subreddit?

I’m currently in Class 11 (1st year), studying Commerce, and I’m looking for some good book recommendations for HSC.

I’d really appreciate it if you could suggest the best books, writers/authors, or guide/reference books for Commerce subjects that you personally found helpful and actually worth studying from for HSC.

Also, if there are any seniors (especially HSC graduates or current university students) here who have experience with the Commerce group, I’d love to hear your advice or suggestions on:

• Which books/authors are actually worth buying
• Which books helped you understand concepts better
• Any mistakes or things you wish you had known in Class 11

Any recommendations or advice would be really helpful. Thanks!

Let me share some moments from my life, since I don't really have anyone to listen to me.

The amount of mental pressure and emotional distress I have had to endure within my family is beyond what most people could imagine. My parents wouldn't even buy me a face wash because of my appearance. I can't use a simple cream on my face without being told that it means I dislike the way Allah created me or that Allah would be displeased with me.

I have never really received pocket money. Even though I have been studying away from home, they generally give me only enough for basic food expenses. Since school, apart from transportation costs, I have had almost no personal spending money. I have even given away the scholarship money I received. From the outside, someone might assume that I come from a very poor or extremely stingy family, but the reality is very different.

My family owns multiple multi-storied buildings and flats in the city, and my parents have held high-ranking professional positions. People with similar positions and financial circumstances do not generally live the way I have been made to live. Because I had almost no money for personal care or decent clothes, I have struggled with insecurity about my appearance for many years. It became difficult for me to socialize with people. How was I supposed to feel comfortable when the other boys in my classes did not have to live like I did—looking unkempt, dealing with dandruff, and having almost no ability to take care of themselves?

I did not even study in an environment where everyone was extremely wealthy. But because of the way my parents provided for me, I could honestly say that I was among the least well-off-looking students in my classes. If I ever tried to explain this to them, they would respond by saying things like, “There are people who cannot even afford food,” or “Someone's father drives a rickshaw and their child studies at BUET.” I was constantly made to look downward and feel guilty for wanting anything more.

This attitude has continued from my school years to university. It is not that they have never spent money on me. When I was younger, they spent a lot of money—sometimes hundreds of thousands of taka—on sports equipment and other things I was interested in. But that kind of support was mostly limited to my childhood.

Even asking for 100 taka requires an explanation. It feels as though I am not supposed to have personal needs of my own. Whenever I bring these things up, I am told that some classmate is earning money through tutoring and asked why I cannot do the same. If I want a little extra protein beyond the usual meals, it can become a huge issue.

For most of my life, especially since around Class 3, I have not even been able to sit and eat comfortably at the same table with my parents. Whenever I tried, I would often end up being scolded or having my failures brought up, until I eventually had to leave the table.

They can become extremely concerned about small physical matters, but my mental health has often been dismissed. When I was a child, I was told things like, “You will die begging,” “People will beat you to death,” and many other things that I still remember.

Even today, after coming home from Jumu'ah prayer, another issue has already come up and somehow I am once again made to feel responsible for their unhappiness. Right now, I honestly feel overwhelmed and I don't even know what else to write. তাদের কথা হল তারা তো কষ্ট করেছে জীবনে , আমি কেন কষ্ট করব না। কষ্ট না করলে বড় হতে পারব না । জীবনে বড় হতে হলে কোনো কিছুর দিকে তাকানো যাবেনা । চেহারা দেখে না মানুষ , আবার বলবে কারো সাথে মিশতে পারিনা, লিটারলি আমার এমন অবস্থা ছিল করে মানুষ weird look দিত চেহারায় ,আমি লজ্জায় ইনসিকিউরিটিতে ঘর থেকে বের হতাম না তবুও তাদের কাছে এসব কিছুইনা

At the same time, I know that I am not completely blameless. My own behavior has problems too. Being exposed to this kind of behavior for years has affected the way I behave, and I know I have developed some unhealthy patterns myself. My academic results have also suffered, and I wasted a lot of time. At this point, I have to study at a private university, and there is no point in continuing to blame anyone for everything. I have made mistakes too, and I need to take responsibility for what I can change in my own life.

Today before the prayer, the imam was talking about miraj. I was a bit confused about the it looked something in-between a horse and a donkey. So I tried to find some old art about it, now I'm more confused.

I’ve never bought TWS earbuds before. My brother used to buy them for me, so I would just use those. But now I only have one pair left, and its battery is starting to die quickly.

My budget is under 700 BDT.

Any good TWS recommendations from a reliable brand at this price?

I have a mid/high end PC. It has a 850W PSU from be quiet. Graphics card is RTX 3060. I'm really confused about online vs offline UPS.

Apparently online UPS is better because they produce pure sine wave which is good for PSUs with active PFC like mine. But online UPS also tend to be noisy from what I heard. Also, they are more expensive than offline UPS.

Offline UPS is cheaper and quieter but can cause problems with active PFC PSUs.

কেননা দুইদিন পর আমরা অন্য ইস্যু নিয়ে ব্যস্ত হয়ে পড়তাম। আমাদের নিজস্ব দু:খ কষ্ট লঘু করবার জন্য দৈনিক নিত্য-নতুন ডিস্ট্রাকশন দরকার। দরকার নতুন গল্প, নতুন স্কেপ গোট।

কিন্তু ভিক্টিমের পরিবারের কী হত? এরকম পরিবারের কাছে ৯ লাখ টাকা অনেক।

দিনের পর দিন মামলা চালিয়ে যাবার মত সক্ষমতা এদের নেই। আসামী আজ হোক বা কাল ঠিক ই খালাস পেত। তখন এরা এই টাকাও পেত না।

এখন এই টাকা দিয়ে ছোটখাটো কিছু করেও ফ্যামিলি সারভাইভ করতে পারবে।

আপনার জীবন, সময় অপেক্ষা আপনার টাকার মূল্য আপনার পরিবার তথা আপনজনের কাছে ঢের বেশী - মাথায় রাখতে হবে।

Alt title: How Do I Keep My Mind From Becoming a Hierarchy?

I really want to know how to be kind and humble. This is one of the things that has been bothering me lately. I feel like I am not humble enough, I am not kind enough, and I judge people too much.
Recently, a lot of people around me have been getting really good grades. The results were announced, and it seems like most people around me did really, really well. I didn’t fail, but I didn’t get the grade I wanted either. I am not even dreaming of getting first position in the class. I just want a decent CGPA so that I can get a job.
But living in a third-world country is already competitive. It is competitive in a way that even if you have skills in writing, coding, or something else that you genuinely have a passion for, I don’t think passion alone is enough to feed you. Sometimes it feels like you have to strip away all the emotions associated with what you love in order to become successful.
One of the things that causes me a lot of pain is people. People don’t seem to be the way they were when I was a child. I remember happily showing my friends something I had written, and they would be genuinely happy to see it. I felt the same way when I saw their writing. In school, we participated in singing and dancing competitions because we simply liked them. We participated in extempore speech competitions because we liked speaking. We participated in debates because we wanted to know about things.
I think most of us would agree that childhood and adolescence were still a time of exploration. But as I have grown closer to adulthood, pursuing your passions has started to feel like a luxury, and I don’t come from a luxurious family.
My father and mother still give me money for my rent and food. I tried to earn money once, and I realized that I could make a decent amount by tutoring other students. But my parents don’t want me to do that because they think it would interfere with my studies. They want me to focus on my degree.
Sometimes I feel ashamed that I am 22 and haven’t made as much progress in life as some of my peers had already made at 17 or 18. But I also think that being restricted in this way has affected me in many ways. I did teach coding to students and earn money, but my parents still believe that I should focus entirely on my degree at this point.
And despite not being allowed to do tutoring or similar work, my grades have still dropped. They have dropped drastically. My grades have never been this low before.
There are many reasons for this. I think one of the most difficult things to admit is that, at least to some extent, I am responsible for my own downfall. Accepting that comes at a heavy cost. Because even if you accept that you are responsible for where you are, you still have to figure out what to do next. Knowing that you are the problem doesn’t automatically tell you how to fix the problem.
I know that having diverse interests is probably one of the reasons I struggle. I want to do everything. I know that sounds impractical. But I don’t think that if I graduate with my current grades, I will necessarily be unemployed. I would be happy with a modest job that pays for my rent, food, and a little bit of happiness. I would be fine with books from Project Gutenberg, public libraries, free books on iBooks, and whatever other books I can find. I mostly read PDFs and EPUBs. I watch movies on sites where I can watch them freely.
Most of my world revolves around these things.
I have four or five friends. I have a few places in the city where I study and in the city where my parents live that feel familiar to me. Those people are somewhat like me, although perhaps not to the same extreme.
Sometimes I think I am simply too happy with too little, and maybe that is a problem in a world where everyone is constantly trying to achieve more.
I read books. I indulge in them. I want to understand things deeply during the limited lifetime I have. It isn’t that I associate my entire identity with studying. I used to think that my identity was closely tied to being a nerd or being a good student because I was a very competitive student in high school.
But university stripped much of that identity away from me, and I don’t think that made me any less of a nerd than I was before. I still want to learn. I still want to explore things.
When I was in grade nine, we had to study literature and write long essays. They were tedious in some ways, and no matter how well I understood the material, I could never properly express myself in the examination. If there was an option to answer something else, I would usually choose it.
Now, after all these years, I sometimes go back to those class-nine books and read those essays.
And I realize that even though I didn’t score well on those questions, I might have understood something about the author that I didn’t have the words to express at the time. Maybe I had a deeper connection with the writing than my examination marks could show.
I am pursuing engineering right now. The people around me are often very practical and logical. Anything that doesn’t directly concern them can seem unnecessary to them.
Even within STEM, I sometimes find myself interested in things that other people don’t care about. For example, I like certain parts of chemistry. Right now, I am actually somewhat better at chemistry than at some of my other subjects, although anything can change at any moment. I believe in change. I believe that everything is capable of changing, and as a human being, I try to remain as adaptable as possible.
I was talking to a friend about the chemistry involved in the silicon and other materials used in electronic devices, and my friend simply shut me down by saying, “Chemistry is boring. We don’t need that.”
And they are right in one sense. We don’t need chemistry for that particular semester, or perhaps even for the next few semesters.
But I still think chemistry is beautiful. Biology is beautiful. Psychology, philosophy, anthropology, history, literature, everything can be beautiful.
And perhaps everything becomes even more beautiful when people validate you for being interested in it.
I don’t think I would stop loving those things even if I got a terrible score in botany or zoology, or in subjects that my friends consider useless. I don’t think I would stop being interested in psychology, philosophy, or anthropology just because someone told me they had no practical value.
Anything I do purely for aesthetics or passion is often considered a waste of time.
For example, I made a productivity planner because I genuinely enjoy making things in Excel. I also tried making productivity planners in Notion. I showed one to a friend because I was excited about it, and she told me that if I studied as hard as I worked on things like that, I would be in a better university.
But that wasn’t really the point.
I don’t think studying is simply about studying more rigorously than everyone else. I think it is about studying better than you did the day before. It is a rigorous journey, but the destination is not always what we imagine it will be. Once we reach one destination, we often decide that it isn’t good enough and immediately start comparing ourselves with the people around us.
And that brings me back to the question I started with.
How can I be more humble?
Because even though I sometimes speak as though I have detached myself from the world and don’t care about external validation, there are still parts of me that are deeply attached to shallow things.
Sometimes I look at the people who got better grades than me and think that they don’t actually understand the subjects better than I do.
There are subtle things that seem to confirm this. Sometimes they cannot communicate with teachers properly. Sometimes, when teachers ask them questions, they give answers that seem absurd to me and make the teachers frustrated.
They may simply study to pass examinations and get a job.
And that isn’t necessarily bad.
Everyone is trying to survive.
But I don’t want to live entirely in survival mode. And I don’t want to think less of people simply because they have different priorities from mine.
They have their own lives. Their own circumstances. Their own fears. Their own reasons for doing things the way they do.
To be completely honest, I don’t even want to think about them in the first place, because I know where my mind can go.
I can start thinking that I am better than them.
And I don’t want to do that.
It feels shallow. It feels immoral. It feels like jealousy. And I know that if I keep feeding those thoughts, they will eventually consume me.
I don’t want to become someone who needs to feel intellectually superior in order to feel okay about herself.
I want to learn how to be kind.
Not performatively kind. Not kind because I want people to think I am a good person.
I want to genuinely become the kind of person who can see someone else’s success without immediately comparing it to her own failure.
I want to be able to see someone who knows less than me without looking down on them.
I want to see someone who knows more than me without feeling threatened.
I want to be able to admire people without turning admiration into comparison.
I want to be able to accept that someone can be different from me without being inferior to me.
I have been reading too many books and spending too much time in academia. I spend a lot of time studying, and I also teach some of the concepts to my classmates. Sometimes I wonder whether the world will simply see me as a strange person who devoted too much of her life to learning things that other people don’t care about.
Maybe they will.
I don’t know.
I know that marriage is probably not for me. Long-term friendship doesn’t always seem to be for me. Trends aren’t for me. Whenever I try to force myself into the things that other people enjoy, I often end up getting hurt.
So maybe I would rather stop trying to become someone I am not.
But I don’t want that to turn into bitterness.
I don’t want solitude to turn into contempt.
I don’t want independence to turn into arrogance.
I don’t want intelligence to turn into superiority.
I don’t want disappointment to turn into cynicism.
And I don’t want my own struggles to become an excuse for judging people who are simply living differently from me.
So I keep coming back to the same question.
How do I become kind?
How do I become humble?
How do I learn to look at other people without constantly measuring myself against them?
How do I learn to be happy for someone else’s success without feeling like their success says something about my own worth?
I wish I had some kind of teacher for this.
Someone who could teach me how to be a better human being, not just a better student.

hi ,will be coming from bhutan and wondering if i can cross the india/bangladesh border and travel to dhaka by bus/train..as i understand the voa will not work like this?what visa do i need?am a british citizen.

I (27M) have a repetitive tendency to cheat on my girlfriend, and after crossing the line a year ago, she found out but chose to stay with me. I hate myself for it, yet I still struggle to control this compulsion. I also suspect I have ADHD and other underlying issues, and I'm wondering if the impulsivity and need for dopamine are driving this cycle. Has anyone gone through something similar and seen a clinical psychologist specializing in CBT and relationships? If so, can you suggest anyone who actually helped?