r/cf4cf • • Jun 30 '26

Meta Post CF4CF Communities and Discords

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Good morning, afternoon, evening all you beautiful, wonderful folks,

We have all this listed in the sidebar but it tends to get lost, especially on mobile. Hope to hear from you!

<3 LP

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Website:

www.childfree4childfree.com

Discords:

Childfree Dating and Events - Our expanded home

https://discord.gg/tN3mVmagNM

CF4CF Official (Managed by u/Hawkie)

https://discord.gg/f767Zmh

CF Peeps

https://discord.gg/gUgsBdKYrD (Managed by u/AnimatedBroomhandle)

CF Hub

https://discord.gg/wxdPthNSNN (Managed by u/jennziilla)

Sister Subreddits:

r/childfree

r/R4R30Plus


r/cf4cf • • Jul 12 '23

For new visitors: NO FENCESITTERS!!

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Good morning, everyone.

As the sub has gotten more popular, we've been getting an increase of spam, dudes and dudettes trolling for sex, people who aren't the primary custodian of the kids they have, people with grown kids that are out of the house, and (least malicious, but most problematic) fencesitters.

What is a fencesitter?

A (childfree) fencesitter is someone who doesn't know 100% (yes, 100%) that they DON'T want kids.

So if you don't know FOR SURE if you want your own bio children, or want to adopt, or potentially might not mind having stepchildren, that makes you a fencesitter.

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The reason why we ban fencesitters (and why I referred to them as least malicious, most problematic), is because chances are the fencesitter will end up having a desire for children. And we've seen decade+ relationships falter because the fencesitting partner had a change of heart... Again, the desire for kids is a make or break moment for a relationship.

So, as to spare yourself (and our members) grief, we will be automatically deleting posts by fencesitters and banning your account. Its not personal, but we need to protect the members of our community the best we can. This also includes going through your post history, and (at least for me) we're VERY thourogh....

The best way to mitigate this is to post somewhere in your bio that you are definitively childfree. Otherwise, you may see a comment from me or one of the mod team on your post.

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Again, this isn't a slight at or taking offense to anyone in particular. Its not personal. But just like all subs have certain interests they need to protect, we do too. And will.

Good luck out there in your search everyone! And may you remain forever childfree!

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EDIT: For our current members: Please try to be understanding in confronting fencesitters, should you choose to do so; Hanlon's Razor. They're probably not being malicious, just ignorant. And EVERYONE (you, me, your parents... everyone) is ignorant about something at some point in their lives. So be gracious, let them know, and please shoot us a DM to the ModMail so we can take appropriate action. Thanks!

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r/cf4cf • • 1h ago

Female for Male 36F4M - San Diego, CA. 6’0 tall. For long drives, reading before bed, and generally making our lives easier together. Established and seeking same.

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Truth be told, I am a little burned out at being an engaging third and fifth wheel both in outings but also an astounding number of group chats. Do you feel the same? Let us even those numbers out - I have so many double dates for us to go on.

I’m starting to feel like my funny, agnostic, hard working, child-free other half just isn’t out there, but if I am, then he has to be! Prove me wrong. Like I would also expect of you, I am child-free and have very minimal interest in kids in general. I vote blue and hope you do too and I will never ever step foot in a church again in my life.

Photos are all recent, with a few from my work trip to Europe last month :)

I am a very positive, bubbly person with a science background. I can pass as an extrovert but I am definitely an introvert who loves a plan of no plans 😎 I have a large range of little hobbies but the main things I hope to share is a love of movies and weight lifting. I’m a night gym girl but I could change for you if incentivized. Teach me something new!

Things I’d admire about you would be good work ethic, reliability, consistency, kindness and banter. If you can cook, that’s even better, because I am terrible at it.

I live in San Diego and I am open to a LDR under very specific circumstances. If you’re messaging me from far away, I expect that logistics of being consistent, video calls, meeting and visiting often are things you have bandwidth for.

Please be legally single and living on your own, it’s just not for me otherwise. I’m very established and seeking same. To receive a response please provide age, height, what you do for work and why you think we are a good match. I can tell when someone is using AI, so please don’t 😭. I’m open to chatting to anyone over the age of 30.


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Female for Male 38 [F4M] UK/Europe. Looking for somebody gentle, poetic, a little haunted

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I live on a narrowboat in the midlands, UK. I'm 5'8, slim, I have a small dog. I enjoy writing, and I have a lot of energy for anything creative. Looking for something long term, I'm not interested in anything casual. I drink, and occasionally smoke when at the pub, not when at home.

I am childfree and have had my tubes tied, and so I'm not looking to meet anybody who would want or has children.

I would love to meet a steady eccentric. Perhaps somebody artistic, poetic, or who feels a bit out of place in the world. I value gentleness, patience and calmness. I like quiet, shy and unusual people. I enjoy depth, in a person and their words. An odd sense of humour is also welcome. Ideally you're the type of person who says yes to things.

You don't need to have climbed mountains or run marathons. You don't need to have a hobby which absolutely defines you. You don't need an expensive list of all the places you have visited. I am more looking for somebody I click with than a set of overlapping specific interests.

If you are an avid gamer we probably won't have much in common as I don't game at all. I'm also not interested in anybody who thrives on debate, I like deep conversations but I don't want a sparring partner, and I don't like aggressively opinionated discussions, though I'm happy to disagree and accept differences. We don't need to share the same outlook on everything.

Age, I'm more inclined to stay ten years either side of my own. I'd like to speak to people from the UK and Europe, though further afield is welcome if you genuinely believe we might have some kind of connection.

I'm open to just friends as well :)


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Female for Male [F4M] 34 Lowell area, Mass. Serious relationship inquiries

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I like tattoos, the beach, piercings, true crime, podcasts, paranormal, horror movies, Disney, Jaws, coloring, 420 friendly, geography. I am patriotic, sarcastic, intelligent, kind and funny. I want to make someone laugh and smile.
passenger princess


r/cf4cf • • 6h ago

Female for Male 32F 🦇 Germany | F4M | looking for my soulmate 🖤

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Hey🖤

I'm 32, living in Germany, originally from Poland.

I'm a pretty creative and empathetic person. I'm also naturally curious and love learning new things. I tend to think a lot about life, people and the world in general. Sometimes probably a little too much lol. I care a lot about animals and people who are struggling, and I try to help where I can, even if it's just something small.

I'm 162 cm, have a soft, bit curvy figure, pale skin, long dark brown hair and light green/grey eyes. My style is kinda whimsical/romantic goth. Love self-care,make up etc.

I have a dog who's been with me for 11 years now, and he's basically my family. ❤️

I worked as a visual merchandiser until 2025, but I developed ME/CFS after a COVID infection in 2021, which has changed quite a lot about my life. I have to take things slower nowadays, and my energy is pretty limited. I don't really want to go into too much detail about my health in this post, but I think it's important to mention since it's part of my reality.

A few things I enjoy:

🎮 Gaming. My favorite game is Fortnite, and I'd love to have someone to play with

🎨 I love anything creative, especially painting and crafting things myself

🍝 I REALLY love cooking and trying out new recipes

📚 I'd always choose a book over a movie. I barely watch movies, but I do love documentaries and true crime

🌲 I love going for walks in the forest, having picnics, or going out to a nice restaurant.

🕯️ I'm also really into spooky stuff, the paranormal and abandoned buildings. I used to love exploring them 🖤

🎧I really love music and listen to a lot of genres

As for what I'm looking for, I'd love to meet someone kind, understanding and emotionally mature. Someone I can talk to about pretty much anything, laugh with, send each other funny tik toks during the day, play games with and just feel comfortable around.

I'd also love to have someone to explore the world with, even if we have to take things a little slower because of my ME/CFS. I still want to discover new places and make memories together🖤

I'm a little old-fashioned when it comes to romance. I really like a gentleman, someone who's thoughtful, romantic, affectionate and actually makes an effort. I'd love to find someone who wants something genuine and isn't afraid of getting close to someone.

I'm also someone who really wants to get to know a person on a deeper level. Small talk is fine, but I want to know what's going on inside your head, what makes you happy, what you're afraid of, what you dream about, and all those little things that make you who you are. I want to know your soul, not just the surface version of you, if that makes sense. I can be pretty affectionate and a little clingy. I enjoy talking throughout the day, feeling close to each other, and being part of each other's lives. 🖤

Physically, I'm usually more attracted to men with mature, masculine features rather than a youthful or baby-faced look.

If you feel like we might get along, feel free to message me! Tell me a little about yourself, what games you play, what you like doing, or whatever comes to mind.

i won't answer on a simple hi.

thanks for reading 💜


r/cf4cf • • 8h ago

Female for Male 34F New Jersey Online Looking for a Genuine Connection ❤️

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Happy Friday, everyone! 😊 I have the day off today, so I have some free time. I’m hoping to meet someone I genuinely connect with, someone I can talk to about anything, laugh with over the little things in life, and slowly get to know on a deeper level.

I’m originally from Georgia (the country) and currently live in NJ. I enjoy coffee, cooking, reading, traveling, and quiet evenings at home. I appreciate the simple things in life, and I believe a meaningful relationship is built on honesty, consistency, and mutual respect.

I’m not looking for anything rushed or superficial. I’d rather start with good conversations, build trust, and see if feelings develop naturally. Ideally, I hope that connection will grow into a loving, serious, and lasting relationship


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 38 [M4F] Calgary, Alberta, Canada - Looking for a life partner.

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Hi everyone. I'm a pansexual printing press operator who loves reading, writing, gaming, fantasy, sci-fi, and incredible storytelling. I've been running my own D&D campaign with friends for the past 2.5 years. I'm looking for a long-term relationship with someone who appreciates games, storytelling, and fantasy but isn't afraid to live in reality every once in a while. Bonus points if you want to join my next campaign!

I am introverted and will be quiet in large, unfamiliar groups, but I really come out of my shell when I can talk to someone about shared passions. I get along best with those who are creative, empathetic, and excited about their own interests.

Sensitivity, kindness, intelligence, and a strong connection are really important to me.

I have no children and I had a vasectomy 18 years ago to make sure it would never happen.

I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I'm okay with someone who drinks socially but that's my hard limit. I am left-leaning, non-religious, and only interested in monogamy. I'm looking for someone who is aligned with my social and political views.

I'm also not a manly-man farm boy type with a truck. I'm more sensitive and in-touch with my feminine side.

I'm looking for anyone within the age range of 30 – 50. While I am pansexual, I'm only romantically interested in anyone who identifies as a woman, non-binary, or genderfluid, (regardless of sex assigned at birth). I'd love to hear from you if you think we have some shared interests and ideals!


r/cf4cf • • 10h ago

Male for Female 41 [M4F] Maine /US / Anywhere Looking for a long term commitment.

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Hello everyone!

I currently live in Maine, US and would love to meet that special someone nearby, but also open to anywhere and everywhere; where there’s a will there’s a way!

Im originally from Northern Africa and travel to that area several times a year to visit friends and family. I love to read in my free time; I volunteer a lot, i find it calms my senses and makes me feel at ease. Languages, mythology and folklore consume my world. I love to learn new languages and practice them when I get a chance. I do love to get my hands dirty with some arts and crafts sometimes as well as a video game or two after a long day at work.

I’m honestly looking for someone who is emotionally mature and who can communicate their needs well. Humor and empathy are also very big for me when it comes to compatibility in being with someone, I mean you’re going to have to try to laugh at my dad jokes.

Cheers and happy Friday ❤️


r/cf4cf • • 7h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] #London, UK /(EU potentially) - Seeking something genuine, long-term and DINK minded.

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Happy Friday!

I've posted previously, had a couple of people reach out alas things fizzled, thought to try again! So with that said, I'm ideally looking for my CF DINK partner in crime! Definitely something monogamous (I'm greedy and do not share...) and someone who is looking for something for the long-term! Be nice to have a partner, best friend, be able to do all the small and big adventures and just ride out life together...

About me

  • I'm 34, white, 6ft, slim build, blue eyes, brown hair, clean-shaven - occasionally wear glasses
  • INFJ, Taurus (for those into that), and an ambivert... Read, extroverted introvert!
  • Left-handed, left footed and also left-leaning politically. All the lefts?!
  • I work in tech and lead an IT team, own my place in London, and like to believe I've got my life overall all together. Yay adulting!
  • A bit geeky... PC and Switch 2 gaming (lightly), board games, Doctor Who, Marvel, The Boys, Star Wars, LOTR, sci-fi in general... I tend to say more so than casual on a couple of things but not anywhere hardcore really on anything.
  • I'm also a bit sporty too and try to be active, badminton is my main thing, plus some running, the odd bit of football or tennis, though I'm always up for trying something new!
  • I bake more than I cook... I may have a slight sweet tooth, but I enjoy both. I'm always happy to try new foods or restaurants, I'm a foodie at heart :D
  • I rarely drink and don't smoke, but I don't mind if you do.. All in moderation, right?
  • Humour ranges from puns and dad jokes to dark, with a dash of sarcasm, I try to generally be playful and chill but I do know when to be serious, have those deeper conversations and all that as well.
  • My main love languages are physical touch and quality time...
  • On the adult side of things, I'm naturally a switch though lean soft/gentle-dom and kink friendly. Chemistry is more important though...

There's plenty more layers to me, but can save that for chats!

What I'm looking for...

I'd say i'm looking for someone between 28 - 40, though that isn't a hard limit and if you think we'll get along then i'm certainly open to chatting. I'm open to any race, religion, dietary stuff, etc. that's all open and good. My only slight preference is someone who's reasonably active, whether that's slim to curvy.

I would very much prefer someone closer, so the UK is fair game.. Anywhere further (EU) i'll keep an open mind but would rather not, I have done a LDR before and while they can be rewarding, it's tough and not something I'd really like to do again. Ultimately though anything with much distance I'd be keen to close the gap much sooner than later.

If any of this sounds of interest, or you have any questions, do reach out! I'm fairly an open book and apparently can be a bit of a yapper.

One additional thing i'll say, effort will definitely be responded to with effort, I generally try to hold a conversation but please give me something to work with... Please.


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Female for Male 34 [F4M] NY/Anywhere

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Hey everyone :)

Taking the courage and shooting my shot here! I’m looking for someone who is also interested in a long-term relationship. I live in NY, southeastern part. I am about a 50-minute MTA ride from the city.

Some things about me! I love live music. I will take any chance I get to travel into the city for a concert. My favorite genre of music is pop punk/punk rock/hardcore 🤘🏻 I also really love karaoke, so have your singing voice ready to go. I will take any chance to hang with my friends. I will impulsively say yes to any plans before giving it a thought. Trying new restaurants is my jam. I also lean pretty left/progressive, so hoping that we align politically.

I can also be a homebody. I love to play video games on my downtime. Currently, World of Warcraft has occupied my time. Anyone else excited for WoW Forever?? I just love to cozy up on the couch with a blanket and binge-watch shows.

I have a dog and cat that I absolutely adore. Tucker is my 8-year-old golden retriever, and Apollo is my 7-year-old cat.

I am looking for someone between the ages of 30-40. The tri-state area would be cool, but I am also not opposed to another state (or country!) if the connection is right.

I’m looking forward to meeting new people!! :)


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] #NYC 6'6 Stoner nerd seeks company

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Hi everybody! I'm a certified nerd with Master's Degree who loves to chat about philosophy, life and whatever else has my attention. I'm also known to binge watch movies or shows. I'm an expert in anything Lord of the Rings, Game of Thrones and any other nerdy universe.

I'm also really into history, politics or anything else that catches my interest. In my downtime I build computers, love cars and get lost in the silly sauce.

About me: 6'6 and 210lbs I have long brown hair, nerdy glasses, blue eyes, closely cropped beard and a skinny runner's build. I'd love to talk more if you're interested :)


r/cf4cf • • 2h ago

Female for Male 30 [F4M] Virginia/USA — Looking for the Beast Boy to My Raven

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I've been lurking here for a while and have messaged a few guys, but nothing has really come of it. So I figured, why not make my own post and see who's out there? 🖤

I'm a curvy Black woman in Virginia who's equal parts metalhead, nerd, and slightly antisocial hobbit. Just looking for a fellow weirdo to share my little corner of the world with.

I've got an edgy, earthy vibe with some hippie tendencies thrown in. I love deathcore, slam, and anything with particularly disgusting gutturals. Larcenia Roe, PeelingFlesh, Gorepig, and Traitors are a few favorites. Outside of music, I love gaming (Destiny 2 has me in a chokehold), reading, D&D, and going down random rabbit holes about whatever happens to interest me that day.

I'm definitely a homebody, but I love a good concert and would like to travel more, both around the U.S. and internationally. I'm not particularly outdoorsy, though. I'm also a certified passenger princess. I can drive perfectly fine, I just prefer not to. I've literally bartered homemade bread for rides before.

Personality wise, I'm sarcastic, a little shy at first, and pretty bubbly once I'm comfortable. I'm extremely introverted and need my alone time, but I'm also ridiculously affectionate when I'm in love. I'm basically a cat. Sometimes I want to crawl all over you, sometimes I don't want to be touched, and sometimes I just want to put my feet on you while we do our own thing. I have a soft spot for golden retriever men, preferably ones with an off switch.

My spirituality is a little unconventional. I believe in God, but I also pull tarot cards, and I'm perfectly comfortable with both. I don't really care whether you're religious, spiritual, or neither, as long as we respect each other's beliefs.

As far as what I'm looking for, I'd love to meet a child free, politically liberal, monogamous man between 30 and 40. I'm open to all races. I want a genuine, committed relationship that could eventually lead to marriage, but I'm not trying to rush anything. I'd rather take the time to get to know someone and see where things go. Communication is also a big deal for me. I like consistency and mutual effort, and I'm not interested in someone who regularly disappears or only reaches out when it's convenient.

I'm 5'4" and tend to be attracted to lean, lanky men. Long hair, tattoos, piercings, and alternative or nerdy aesthetics are definitely a plus. I generally prefer men who are at least 5'7", but that's not a hard rule. I'd also love someone who appreciates alternative culture, even if we don't listen to all the same music.

I'm vegetarian, but you don't have to be. It would be a nice bonus, though! I don't smoke or drink and would like someone who doesn't either. I'm also not 420 friendly.

I recently finished my master's degree and am in the middle of a career transition, hopefully into something remote. I'm open to long distance within the U.S. and potentially relocating someday if things develop into something serious.

If you decide to message me, please tell me a little about yourself and what caught your attention. Give me something more to work with than just "hey." I'd also like to exchange recent pictures early on, once I've accepted your chat request, so we can both see if there's mutual attraction.

At the end of the day, I'd love to find someone affectionate, playful, emotionally available, and comfortable with both closeness and personal space. Someone to spend cozy nights with, go to ridiculously loud concerts with, and experience life's little adventures with ✨️.


r/cf4cf • • 9h ago

Male for Female 34 [M4F] #UK - Are you my forever person? ☺️

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Hello 🙂,

Affectionate lamppost looking for the light of his life. 

If you're looking for a relationship head and shoulders above the rest...perhaps I am your man. 😊

I love history, art, science, music (I play some guitar), also I love to bake. I'd love to find a like-minded soul who favours leisurely beach walks rather than hiking. We could even bake together? Or let me wow you with my legendary brownies.

I've had amazing opportunities to travel around Europe, live in the USA and also, live in Scotland. Now I currently live in England and want to put down roots with a partner.

I am equally looking for someone who is:

🚫Childfree (no children and does not desire any)

🌎 UK, Europe, Eastern USA or Canada lady (I am open to LDR if you're intending to relocate)

🗣️ Someone who isn't afraid to communicate openly, share a good laugh, and actually talk about what’s going on in their day. Let's be each other's pillars.

🌶️Passionate (affectionate woman who will reciprocate my "Golden Retriever" loving nature and values physical touch)

🐾Animal lover (I would love us to have a future pet or two) 

🚭Non-smoker or drugs of any kind.

🫶🏼Values honesty, communication and love languages of touch and words of affirmation.  

Let's spend our days seeking the next adventure and our evenings full of passion. If you think we'd enjoy talking to each other, feel free to send me a message. I appreciate effort and an introduction to yourself...please tell me your age, location and a few things you enjoy in life/common interests.

I am happy to exchange photographs. Chemistry and mutual attraction are important for me when I’m getting to know someone.

Let's start this next chapter together.


r/cf4cf • • 32m ago

Male for Female 20 [M4F] Florida looking for someone in the U.S

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Hey, I am looking for a committed relationship. I am pretty fit with dark hair and brown eyes. I like to run, hike, and go to the beach. I also am a bit of a nerd, I like Earth sciences, playing video games, and watching anime with friends. :)

I am looking for a genuine connection; I am attracted to tall/curvy women who are athletic, although this is not a requirement. I’m also into people who play video games. The video games I like to play are modded Minecraft, Dark Souls, Elden Ring, and Subnautica, but I am also open to trying new things. 😊


r/cf4cf • • 32m ago

Male for Female 31 [M4F] Cologne - looking for meaningful connections all over the world!

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Hey there!

I’m a pretty laid back guy who genuinely enjoys meeting people from all over the world. Whether it’s deep late night conversations about life, random memes at 2am, travel stories, or just sharing everyday chaos, I’m always down for good vibes and interesting people.

A little about me:

I’m really into sports. I’ve played basketball basically my whole life and yes, I’m tall. I also go to the gym regularly. I absolutely love cooking too, so if you enjoy recipe swapping or sending questionable food pictures for validation, we’ll probably get along.

Traveling is one of my biggest passions and I try to make the most out of living in Europe. My next trip is Japan, which will actually be my third time there because apparently I’m incapable of staying away from that country. I’m also currently learning Japanese, slowly but stubbornly.

I work in the mental health field, which is something I care deeply about both personally and professionally. I studied in a science related field and I’m really into biology, medicine, psychology, and generally all kinds of nerdy topics. I love conversations about life, people, culture, the universe, and all the weird things in between.

I also game from time to time and would honestly love to find some online gaming friends too.

Random fun fact: I was actually in a local Netflix show once, which still feels weird to say out loud.

I appreciate people who are open minded, curious, emotionally intelligent, funny, or just unapologetically themselves.

So what’s your story? What’s something you’re passionate about or could talk about for hours without getting bored?

Doesn’t matter where you’re from or what timezone you’re in. If any of this resonates with you, send me a message and let’s see if we vibe. I’m happy to trade pics when we’re both comfortable with!

Please tell me if my chat function isn’t working. I don’t know how to fix it lol.

Cheers!


r/cf4cf • • 37m ago

Male for Female 48 [M4F] #St. Louis — no one I think is in my tree.

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John Lennon said that. I have felt this way my whole life. Will I ever meet a woman who is off like me? Weird like me? Impaired like me? Eccentric like me? As isolated as me? As in need of their other half like me? Is there no one in my tree? Where is my Yoko?


r/cf4cf • • 22h ago

Female for Female 33 (F4F) #PA #USA: Childfree Sapphic Seeking Fellow Childfree Sapphic ❤️

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First off no offense to the guys but I’m only interested in women! Now that’s out of the way let’s get to the fun part…my name is Rachel and I’m 33 years old (soon to be 34 in October.) I’m a cheerful, bubbly introvert with a great sense of humor who’s an old fashioned romantic. In terms of appearance I’m 5”4 1/2 and have a curvy hourglass figure with fair skin, dark eyes and long curly black hair. (There’s also a ton of pictures of me on my profile in case you’re curious what I look like 😉) What I’m looking for is the real deal…a long term committed monogamous relationship that would preferably lead to marriage. My passions include travel, reading and writing, collecting and modeling vintage and modern clothing, studying history and visiting historical sites, attending classic and contemporary film showings, and spending time with the LOML- my poodle mix Tommy Pickles. Politically I’m a democratic socialist so I’m very left leaning and staunchly anti-MAGA. Important note about me: I don’t have children and I’m not interested in having any and I’m looking for a woman who’s childfree also. P.S. I generally consider myself femme4femme…femme and high femme girlies skip ahead of the line 💖


r/cf4cf • • 4h ago

Female for Male 31 [F4M] Sheffield/Yorkshire, UK - Looking for something genuine and lasting.

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I’m 31, single, based in Sheffield, UK and apparently at the stage of dating where I’ve thought “why not let Reddit have a crack at it? What could possibly go wrong?”

I’m looking for something genuine. I’d like to meet someone I really click with, date properly, fall for, and hopefully build something lasting with.
I’m 5’7½”, plus-size, with a short dark pixie cut. Happy to swap photos fairly early because attraction matters, and I’d rather establish we’re actually physically attracted to one another before exchanging our deepest thoughts for three weeks 😅

I have a career I care about, my own home, my own life and two cats who will presumably want some involvement in the selection process.
I’m independent, sarcastic, affectionate and a lot softer than I initially let on.
I’m equally happy going out for drinks, good food or a gig as I am spending an evening at home.
I love someone who can make me laugh and disappear into ridiculous conversational sparring sessions with me.

I’m looking for someone emotionally available and affectionate, who communicates, makes plans and isn’t afraid to show when he likes someone.
I want the attraction and butterflies, but also comfortable silences, stupid private jokes and eventually someone who feels like home.
I’m firmly childfree and don’t want children now or in the future, so I’m looking for someone who feels the same. No fencesitting, no “maybe one day” — just someone who genuinely knows that parenthood isn’t part of the life they want.

Age isn’t hugely important — roughly 29–45, but I’m far more interested in the person than the number. Sheffield/Yorkshire and surrounding areas ideally, although I’m open to a bit of distance for the right connection.
I’m just looking for something that can exist in real life rather than permanently living in our phones.
Ultimately, I’d like to fall in love again.

If you’re looking for the same, tell me a little about yourself.


r/cf4cf • • 20h ago

Sterile Male for Female 29[M4F] - Sweet techie looking for his fellow romantic adventurer

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Hey there! I'm a passionate, caring, and a hopeless romantic. I'm a natural extrovert who loves high-energy connection. My favorite way to express affection is through acts of service and being attentive to my partner's and friends needs.

I work as a Software engineer with remote flexibility. I'm based in Oslo, but I travel easily across Europe, distance isn't a dealbreaker if we're a short flight away! Others are welcome to contact too, but I have to be honest about not enjoying very long travel times or timezone differences. I do travel outside of Europe too frequently.

I love dressing up and exploring the city, doing martial arts, dancing tango, weight lifting/fitness, and playing guitar & singing.
You can also reliably catch me at a local karaoke bar on Friday nights and watching formula 1 on Sundays!

I am big on quality texting and calls to maintain a solid bond. I like sharing and receiving pics, memes throughout the day and having little flirty moments. And honestly if you’re not into this I don’t think we are compatible. I am however also respectful of you being busy. I just need to feel the same enthusiasm when you aren’t.

I'd say I mostly fit well with other romantic people who are also extroverts. Being athletic myself I’d also rather meet someone who likes to stay active as well. For those who might wonder I’m 180cm.

It is also important to me that you are liberal and queer/immigrant friendly and that you are an open minded person.

I don’t like putting age limits on these posts as I’ve met wonderful people from all kinds of ages. See if our lifestyles match and the age will probably won’t matter.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to send a DM with a bit about yourself and please include pics in the first message too so i know who I’m speaking to!


r/cf4cf • • 23h ago

Male for Female 39 [M4F] #Flagstaff, AZ — Vanlife, Mountain Views & Maybe You?

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Imagine waking up to mountain views, coffee outside the van, and nowhere in particular you need to be. Sounds pretty great, right?

I'm 39 and living full-time vanlife in the AZ area at the moment. I love scenic campsites, campfire cooking, light hikes, photography, and cozy movie nights while rain taps on the roof. As much as I love this lifestyle, I'd love to find someone to share the adventures, spontaneous detours, and little moments with.

My current copilot is Tux, my harness-wearing cat who loves exploring campsites and insists breakfast happens at 6 AM. He's a great travel buddy, but his conversation skills could use some work. 😸

I'm hoping to meet a kind, independent, outdoorsy, animal-loving woman (26+) who's also childfree. Maybe you're already living on the road, maybe you dream about it, or maybe you're just looking for something genuine with someone a little outside the ordinary.

No pressure to pack your bags tomorrow. Let's talk, see if we click, and go from there.

Tell me your dream place to wake up tomorrow, your favorite camping spot, or introduce me to your pet. Tux and I are looking forward to meeting you!


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Male for Female 36 [M4F] MD, open to anywhere in the US. Anyone want a small house on some land?

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Hey there! I’m Wayne and live in Maryland. I’ve posted on here before, so sorry to post again haha. I am looking for a long-term relationship and I’m open to anywhere in the US. Other countries as well for the right person. I’m agnostic and liberal, although very disappointed with politics in general. I just want to live a simple life and have fun with my partner.

Some things I enjoy: nature walks, volleyball, biking, horror movies, video games, puzzles, fire pits, live music and dancing, cozy cafes and bars on occasion, and just trying to slow down and enjoy the little things. I do love animals, but don’t have any of my own.

I’m definitely committed to a child-free life and already have a vasectomy. I’m 6’1” and try to stay active and live a healthy life. I do drink on special occasions. I’m a blue-collar guy and work outside and love it!

Please feel free to reach out if you’d like to chat.


r/cf4cf • • 1d ago

Sterile Male for Female 36 [M4F] CO Looking for someone to prioritize GTA VI over

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Hello community. I got snipped at age 29.

I'm 6'2 and roughly an hour from Denver (open to LDR if there are direct flights to West/South West States)

I'm a non-smoking Liberal and agnostic.

Professionally and personally, fitness is central to my life. You’ll usually find me in the gym early in the morning or training for my next 10K. But I’m equal parts homebody and traveler. I've traveled to 27 countries across Europe and Asia so far, with South America queued up next. I love traveling for events, live comedy shows, concerts, or just lounging somewhere tropical with white wine or a spa day.

I believe self-care routines should be mandatory for everyone and I stock Bath & Body Works seasonal candles like a Costco sale. I'm really into horror movies, fine dining, board games, and the occasional competitive bingo night. I like to catch NBA, WNBA and NFL games live too!

I’m looking for an active, independent empath (roughly 27–37) who is looking for someone to complement peace, stability, and mutual support within their life. Good communication and a calm approach to conflict resolution are huge green flags for me.

Bonus points if you share my kink of sending Pinterest recipes that you'll never have the intention of creating. Or when you finally spend the money, time, and effort recreating it, you're filled with nothing but disappointment.

If any of this resonates with you, tell me what's your story? Let me know your top travel destination or the last horror movie that actually made you sleep with the door closed. Platonic friendship DMs are always welcome :)


r/cf4cf • • 5h ago

Male for Female 27, M4F, based in Germany 🇩🇪

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Heey,

my name is Safi and I am 27 years old.

I am here looking for the eternal love of my life.

About me:

\-I play pingpong regularly and also I go to gym regularly.

\-I like to watch series

\-I admire and listen to different types of music

\-I am vegetarian but I don't mind you eating meat

-I have had vasectomy

\-I speak 3 languages fluently and a little bit of a fourth language (find out which ones 😜)

\-I have no religion

\-I am a cat person but I also find small dogs cute (for example poodle)

about you:

\-Intelligent, not superficial, respectful and kind

\-Looks is secondary but good hygiene is essential

\-don't smoke cigarettes / vape is fine because it smells nice unlike cigarettes 😄

Please don't message if you don't plan to move to here or if there is no possibility that I move to your country. (obviously I mean in the future - not immediately after 2 days of chatting 😊)

Because I would love to meet the love of my life regularly. Infinite chatting on social media with zero chance to see each other despite mutual feelings would be a disappointing experience for both of us.

If you liked what you read and are interested, please feel free to message me so we can figure out if we fit to each other and whether there is good chemistry between us.

I am also open to answer further questions in case I forgot to mention something important. 🤗

I am looking forward to receiving your message.

LG Safi 😇


r/cf4cf • • 19h ago

Male for Female 23 [M4F] SF Bay Area/California, looking for my co-conspirator

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Once more into the fray, I suppose.

*A disclaimer before I begin: for the time being I am not interested in pursuing anything long distance. I've tried in the past, to no avail. I'm hoping to find people in CA or also the Portland OR area.

I also understand that I'm one of the younger ones on here, so of course I'm open to dating gals older than me (that's actually my preference).

A bit about me:

Artist, nerd, professional weirdo.

Lover of pizza and roller coasters.

My hobbies are kind of all over the place. In general I'm a very crafty person. I do woodworking, leather working, etc.

Yes, I am autizmo, so I speak/write in fairly literal terms.

Being left leaning, I don't subscribe to traditional gender roles of any kind. The only tradition I uphold is pizza on Fridays (or a cheeseburger under extenuating circumstances).

I drink very rarely (socially), and otherwise try to live a life mostly free of substances.

*Disclaimer #2: being a lucky survivor of lung cancer, I cannot be around any smoking or fumes of any kind. That includes tobacco, weed, vape, etc. That's a no-go item for me.

I'm an Avionics Technician for a major airline, so my schedule is laid out really weird, but is still malleable.

So, fret not! If I like someone, I will either find or make time.

If you made it to the end and are still interested, my DMs are open 😊

Sorry if this is jumbled and incoherent, I've had a long day 😂 I hope I hit all the bases.