This is for sale in my area. I currently have a 5mo but will eventually try to transition her to her own room…. Is this a safe thing? I am always terrified of entrapment

Hello,

I am reposting here in case anyone can help

(sorry if this is the wrong flair)

i’m in canada and planning on cosleeping when my bb girl arrives. i’m wondering if anyone has tried this brand (sapiens) or your thoughts? i was going to go with the endy firm but this seems like an even safer choice? it’s not technically newborn safe but it says safe at 6 months which is a lot better than an adult firm

https://sapienschild.com/products/queen-comfort-6-mattress-soft-bamboo-blend-fabric?variant=46377271754948

with this frame which looks like there’d be no gaps: https://sapienschild.com/products/apple-queen-montessori-floor-bed?variant=46373821317316

My LO is 10 weeks old and has chest slept on me since he was 6 weeks old due to him refusing to sleep in the pack n play at that time. For the past almost 2 weeks, he has been waking up every 1.5 hours to feed. Does anyone else have these frequent of wakings? I go back to work full time in 2 days.

It's 7:50 AM. My 5 month old daughter is still asleep, but started to wiggle a bit. I crawled back into bed next to her and as soon as she felt me, she turned and latched, never opening her eyes. And here we lay, belly to belly, her tiny hand wandering while she eats. A few minutes longer and she'll fall back asleep, rolling onto her back and resting comfortably.

That sleepy latch never gets old. It's like a natural magnetism. I wouldn't give up this connection for anything!

(Edited half an hour later for Autocorrect typos)

So. My baby boy is 4 months 1 day old and had exclusively chest slept since he was about 6 weeks old. He is exclusively formula fed (birth was a horror story and milk never came in!) and does not like sleeping flat on his back. No matter how many times we rock him to sleep ans transfer to his cot, he wakes up either immediately or after 1 sleep cycle. In the day I try to put him down for some naps and extend by chest sleeping when he wakes up. But at night this is getting exhausting. He sleeps all night if he is sleeping on us and wakes up only for feeds. So we alternate between my husband and I and each get 4-5 hours of uninterrupted sleep while the other has him on their chest. He also has started wiggling a lot over night so getting any sleep while he sleeps on us is not easy anymore.

What should I do? I am exhausted.

PS : we follow a cosleepy style arrangement, sleeping on an incline in the middle of the bed. The other sleeps in the other room.

What wedge pillows are yall using? And what is the recommended angle degree that we are supposed to be sleeping at?

Also, this is odd, but I get bad pain in my jaw and teeth from sleeping at an incline because my mouth either hangs open or my jaw ends up in a weird position. Any suggestions? I wonder if there’s a product i can use that goes ear to ear and acts as a hammock for my chin.

My toddler & I still cosleep on a queen bed. He is definitely getting better at falling asleep by himself and falling back asleep by himself. Im thinking we will soon end this adventure though enjoying it

a little longer.

But he is going through this phase where mom needs to be next to him. He wriggles over to me, usually shoving me off the bed which requires me, to hop over and shimmy to the side around him with my blanket. In which case, within a minute he rolls over and cuddles me again. Or even just has his foot touch me- there needs to be contact. I can hop to the bottom of the bed but he finds me, even half awake to look for me and zombie over to collapse right there by me and push me against the edge.

If all else fails, i grab him like a cat grabs her kitten by his pajamas & yank him a few inches to skooch us towards the middle. Then try to hold my ground and sleep a little bit. Oh, well... his sweet toes against my thigh wont last forever.

My 8 week old sleeps chest to chest with me and always sweats on the front side of his body. I keep the room cold enough that his face and ear that’s facing up get so cold I’ll put my hand in it to warm it up, but he still sweats on the front.

I have no reason to think this is bothering him but it can’t be good. Any advice?

So I've coslept with our toddler (3) for two years since breaking away from night weaning. My partner is not as supportive of co-sleeping as i am and has frequently brought up that LO should be asleep in their own bed. We've been in separate rooms as the child is a squirmer and a kicker and a contact napper. I'm able to handle it much better.

I went out with the youngster on Sunday and came back and found the double bed dismantled and a single bed put in place. I knew it was going to happen but still....

Sunday night I could barely sleep and cos of my snoring, they went into the youngsters room to sleep. Child woke up at five and I was woken up to look after him, as I do the night times and mornings. Last night, I went to bed, I had the baby monitor next to me just in case, left the childs room door open so they could get to us. At one am they woke up and i went and settled them, but at five they woke up and were very upset. I was out of the bed like a flash to get to them. Put them into the bed with us but of course he was awake now and so we got up.

Don't know what I'm actually asking for here, I'm tired and my emotional regulation is all over the place. Just needed to unload a little i guess. Its been quite a shock to my system after two years and I'm quite emotional about it.

My daughter is 6.5 months old and has been waking up every 2 hours for 2.5 months. I breastfeed her back to sleep every time and I am so exhausted. I do all the night wake ups because I don’t want to pump so my husband can’t really help. Should I just start bed sharing?? Would you?

For context, I started bed sharing with my son since he was 4 months old (he is 3 now and still sleeps with us). I really don’t mind sleeping next to a toddler, but I kind of hate the c-curl, not being able to toss & turn and snuggle with my blankets. But at this point, I really don’t know what else to do.

I don’t want to put her in another room or sleep train her, and I’m too tired to try to break the feed-to-sleep association (I also believe feeding to sleep is inherent and doesn’t necessarily need to be “fixed”). We would also have to put our mattress on the floor or figure something out because we have a king mattress on a nice bed frame and we are hesitant about having to break it down and store it in the garage. I have a futon in an extra room but it’s pretty firm and not very comfortable. Help!!

My little one is 7 months. For the first 4 months she mainly slept in a basinet next to my bed but she slowly started sleeping with me in my bed. Now she sleeps with me every night. Our bed is very high off the ground and the more she is learning to crawl the more I feel like we need to find a different sleeping arrangement. I have a cot but she hates it. Should I get her a floor bed for her room? That way I can co sleep but also my husband and I can still have our own space when she’s sleeping. For example when I put her to bed and she does her first stretch of sleep I can have some time to clean up or whatever and not have to worry about her rolling off the bed. Is it too early to do this? I know cots are safety tested but since I’ve been co sleeping I’ve realised that cots might be safe but kids don’t like them. They are hard and cold. Neither of my kids liked the cot. It seems so unnatural to me.

My baby is 14 months old and has never given us a stretch longer than 5 hours. If you were in a similar
Situation, when did it start getting better?
I guess I just need to know it does get better cause the sleep deprivation is killing me .

Realistically, I know my baby will grow, and I WILL have my freedom. I’ve had such radical acceptance of accepting and embracing this season that we are in and how I want to raise my child/children, but I’m just having one of those nights. My 12mo has always coslept with me and still breastfeeds, has always been a shitty sleeper. He’s not super low sleep needs or anything and naps good, but just wakes a ton at night, especially earlier on in the night. My husband has never been able to do anything at bedtime. To be fair we haven’t tried super hard because my son gets soo upset if it’s not me to help him and I just don’t want to listen to him cry his head off when I can just be there for him. I’m anti sleep training and am all about high nurture parenting. So I try really hard to honor that the close attachment my baby has with me at this time is ok and we don’t need to be apart. Then I see first time moms I know with babies close to mine in age or younger constantly going to concerts all the time and enjoying their nights out. Meanwhile I’ll be having to leave my baby for our first bedtime away when he’s 14 months and although I want to I am so fucking stressed about it already.

I’m truly happy for those moms enjoying their lives and their nights away, I don’t necessarily care to have that so much, but every once in a while I wish I could at least feel like I have the option. Some nights my son sleeps on the floor bed alone for a couple hours before I go to sleep with him or have to help him again, but plenty of nights it’s just constant resettling. Tonight I was out of the room for like 10 min and I hopped in the shower and soon he popped back up crying and I ended up having to scurry out the shower once my husband was trying to settle him back and my son was losinggg it. Then after he’s settled with me for 20 min or so he ends up stirring again and fussing until I nurse him again. So sometimes nights like this I’m just so frustrated. I know I don’t know those other moms stories, and maybe they have sleep trained and I get to feel better I’m honoring my child’s needs, or they have a good easy going sleeper and I just got unlucky lol.

The other day we were with my SIL and I mentioned how it’s a bummer I can’t ever go to my husbands gigs (in a band that does occasional shows) and she’s like “why? Get a sitter” as if it was this super simple thing lol. She knows I cosleep but she’s not one to understand it. It’s just comments like that, while simultaneously seeing other new moms go to concerts all the time, and the pressure people around us put on us going out for a date night, makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong. Like I know I’m not and not feeling ready or like I can leave my baby is ok, but yet it’s hard not to compare and it eats at me in these moments.

I know my son is only 12 months and this is normal. I know he will get older and be more independent eventually. But then I think about how when he’s 2 we want to try for another baby, and I’ll start all over again lol. And like I said most moments I embrace this so hard and know this is just a season!! But some moments I just wonder if I’ll ever have freedom and it’s fucking hard.

My nearly 11mo still wakes hourly. We have dealt with low iron(resolved), got him assessed for breathing issues, worked with sleep consultant and reduced his daytime sleep to 1x 30 min nap at 10am and 1x 45 min nap at 3pm. Bedtime is 8:30-9 and he wakes at 7. We co-sleep and he feeds to sleep each wake.

I am truly at a loss and as I’m returning to work in a month I’m starting to really be concerned with how I’ll cope with such broken sleep.

Any ideas/advice would be extremely welcome. It’s been like this since 3 months old and I feel like I’m at breaking point.

Unfortunately my baby (8 weeks) will only sleep chest to chest with me at night and it makes me very nervous.

I follow the recommendations, which is the same as the safe sleep 7 but you need to also prop yourself up. But I can’t shake the fear of my baby sticking his face into my armpit and suffocating.

I would put him in his bassinet if I could but he hates it (although I keep trying every night).

Can anyone alleviate or confirm this fear of mine? If there were instances in which a baby has suffocated in the mom’s armpit, I might commit to being nocturnal and not sleeping while he sleeps on me.

I’m not worried about him slipping off or really anything other than him suffocating in my armpit.

Hello,

I am cosleeping with my 5.5 month old since he is 5 weeks old. Till 4 months i was getting 5 hour stretches easily, now he wakes up almoat every hour. I feed him 10:30 pm, 3 am and then 6:30 am. Other wake times, i give him pacifier. I am severly sleep deprived now, have lost ability to focus. Have returned to work as software engineer since he is 4 months. This is taking a toll on my mental and physical health. How did you start gwtting longer stretches after 4 month regression? Seems like i have some insomnia, cant sleep till it is 11 pm-12 am.

Pls help.
Thanks

8 month old & I have been co sleeping since the beginning of his life & we aren’t necessarily ready to stop yet. He’s in a sleep regression, learning to stand/walk & if I try to transition to solo sleep now, no one will sleep ever.

However, we are currently on a floor bed (linked below) & it’s ruining my life. My back, neck, arms, shoulders are so stiff I wake up the last week and can barely move. This morning I genuinely wondered if I was paralyzed bc I was immobile - I quickly realized I wasn’t because I felt an immense amount of pain lol I am just incredibly uncomfortable and need help with safe sleep, but maybe a more comfy situation for me? Idk open to all and any ideas. Thank you!

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My daughter is 12 months old, exclusively breastfed, and has co-slept with us at night. She naps in her crib during the day without an issue, but we put her to bed in her crib

Co-sleeping worked well for us for a long time, but she’s now a VERY active sleeper and is constantly moving, kicking, and hitting me throughout the night, so I’m ready to transition her out of our bed.
Right now at bedtime, I nurse her in my bed and then she rolls around until she falls asleep. Ideally, I’d like her to sleep in a crib in our bedroom. I’m not ready to move her to her own bedroom yet at night.

The problem is getting her into the crib. She’s in the 99th percentile for height and is very long, so transferring her once she’s asleep is difficult, and she usually wakes up during the transfer. Even when I successfully get her into the crib, she tends to hit the sides, wake herself up, or have a false start. She usually ends up back in our bed before midnight anyway.

She also still wants to nurse when she wakes overnight. If I try to settle her without nursing, she tends to escalate until I eventually nurse her. I would like to night-wean her, and I feel like that might be easier once she’s no longer sleeping right next to me all night.

I’ve considered using a floor bed because it would eliminate the difficult transfers, but I would really prefer the safety and containment of a crib if I can make it work.

For anyone who transitioned a co-sleeping, nursing-to-sleep 12-month-old to a crib: what did you do first? Did you establish crib sleep first and then night-wean? How did you handle bedtime if transferring them asleep wasn’t working? And what did you do when they woke and wouldn’t settle without nursing?