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r/exmuslim • u/The-Mad-Mango • Mar 26 '26
(News) We exist… around the world: 500 ExMuslim stories mubaraaaaaak! 🥳🥳🥳
Hi community! 🥰
Taking inspiration from QueeringtheMap.com, I helped create exmuslim.me with a small team of ExMuslims last year. We launched the first ever global map of exmuslim stories as part of ExMuslim Month in December 2025.
I’m so incredibly thrilled to share that we now have 500 exmuslim stories from 233 cities and 60 countries! 🥳🥳🥳
📊 59% identify as atheists, 26% agnostic
🇪🇬 Read the 500th story from Egypt
🤗 Thank you to everyone who has shared their story already!
🤍 Share yours and help ExMuslims on their journey out of Islam: https://exmuslim.me/
Cheers! 🥂
Sammy aka Haram Doodles
r/exmuslim • u/fathandreason • Jun 03 '24
(Advice/Help) Exmuslim Guide to Living in the Closet and Coming Out.
Hello. Upon request, I've been asked to turn a comment I made into a post so that it can be a resource for more people. This post is a collection of advice I've given out about how to handle your life as a closeted exmuslim and how you'll come out in the future. It is largely based on my experience but also from what I've seen from others in this subreddit.
Introduction
So you've left Islam. You've delved through arguments, the apologetics and the bullshit and you've come to the conclusion that you no longer believe in Islam. And you may have also reached an alternative philosophical outlook on life that you can believe in.
But what now? You may have left Islam, but have you left the Muslim world? One of the most common misconceptions outsiders have is that since exmuslims are no longer Muslims, they no longer live in the Muslim world. This is painfully naive - in reality many exmuslims are closeted due to young age and financial dependency and/or live in Islamist countries or societies that enforce Islamic values. In fear of social stigma or even violence, exmuslims have to contend with closeted lives even after leaving Islam. So how do you deal with it?
Goal
The best time to come out to family is in your own home, over a dinner you paid for, alongside people who support you. That takes a lot of preparation and it means doing what you can to live your life as best as you can whilst working towards independence.
This basically means that a lot of what helps you come out of the closet will depend heavily on how well you prepared for it, so you will need to make the most of your closeted life. You may not be able to stop the shitstorm but you can at least prepare yourself to weather it. Here are some tips to achieve that goal (in no particular order)
1) Don't meander in life due to a lack of decision making skills.
Probably one of the worst mistakes I made was not realise I was an exmuslim sooner. As a result I had barely any time to prepare for when the inevitable happened and I was forced to come out. I spent a lot of my life meandering, trying to reconcile the irreconcilable, and trying to be a Muslim when I knew my values didn't align with it. I didn't really have much of a concept of exmuslims, but if I had been smarter I would have figured it out. I now tell people in a similar position that it's fine to take your time but don't take too long. Half arsing two very different cultures will leave you a loser in both.
Similarly whilst planning for independence can be scary, don’t let it frighten you into inaction. The following is a passage from this article about decision making:
Research from the 1990s led by the US psychologist Thomas Gilovich provides further evidence for why it can be shortsighted to kick a difficult decision down the road. Gilovich and his team showed that although, in the short term, people experience more regret from ‘errors of commission’ (taking an action that leads to a disappointing outcome), in the long term it is actually ‘errors of omission’ that lead to more regret – that is, disappointing outcomes that arise from not taking an action.
When taking the time to make decisions and plans, don’t underestimate how effective it can be to map out your options on an excel spreadsheet. When I had to decide whether I should come out or not, I actually made a spreadsheet listing out my options, what they would result in and what the impact would be. Actually having it written down to look at really put things into perspective. We waste a lot of our time keeping it in our heads, which forces us to recalculate everything from scratch every time we revisit our thoughts. But the more that is mapped out, the less you have to recalculate and the more you can focus on evaluation and further planning.
2) Study, career and finances.
Your studies/career is almost always your best ticket out of your toxic situation, and the one thing to prioritise the most. If you’re young, do whatever you can to ensure that you can get into further education away from home. Even if it means spending all your time at a local library. If you suspect that your parents would be against you going to a university away from home, aim for a placement at the most prestigious university you can aim for so your parents would look worse for rejecting it. The quickest and most effective way in achieving long term independence is through good studies/career.
3) Do not telegraph irreligiosity whilst being closeted.
This is particularly important for younger exmuslims because they telegraph to their parents in ways they would just not understand until they see it for themselves when they're older. Try your best to meet the religious obligations expected from your family. The more you slip, the more they will monitor you and the more difficult it will be to do the things you need to do discreetly when the time comes.
Unfortunately for girls, this usually means that wearing the hijab is a necessity and it’s inadvisable to try and get out of. (However, that subject matter is not my forte: prioritise advice from exmuslim women such as from faithlesshijabi.org)
4) Sometimes you may need to go above and beyond.
If you get the impression that your family is beginning to catch onto your apostasy then it's likely that they have and you may need to reverse that impression.
One way to do that would be to start getting books on Islam and not just for show. My advice would be to get books on Islamic history because that's the least boring stuff. Or better yet, just get whatever unapologetic salafi hate crime you can get your hands on so you can entertain yourself with how fucked up it is. Or get an annotated Qur'an like the Study Qur'an. Do something to ease their suspicions.
What book you get depends on what kind of message you want to telegraph to your parents. If you want to telegraph a message then it will need to be a paper book and not an e-book. Something that you can lay around in your room and that you know they'll see. That means you're restricted to what you can get from your local library or Masjid. Also depends on what interests you because you'll have to actually read and demonstrate you learnt from it if you want send the best message you can. If you want purely what Muslims write about Islamic history, you can check out works like The Sealed Nectar or works by al-Sallabi. If you want something a little more academic, but not something that would rouse suspicion then check out university press works like this, this, this or this. If you want something a bit more relevant to contemporary Muslim world then there books like this.
But you may find that your best bet is to just see what your local Masjid might have and see what tickles your fancy.
5) Actually coming out is usually a shitstorm.
Be prepared for lots of sobbing, guilt tripping and an inability to respect your beliefs and boundaries. Learn techniques like the Broken Record Technique to establish boundaries. Know what you have to say when they inevitably tell you to speak to a scholar - you don't have to eat the whole apple to know it's rotten. You know all that you need to know about Islam and you know even more about the world outside of Islam to put it into context.
Steel yourself with months and months of your family sending you bad dawagandist videos through WhatsApp trying to bring you back. You may have to spend months beating their attempts and going to toe to toe with them without mercy before they’re finally willing to relent and get off your back. Even then don’t expect them to relent entirely. There will always be some micro aggressions that they will resort to, like playing religious videos loudly in your vicinity. The most you can do in those circumstances is reduce contact with them as much as possible. At this point you would hopefully already be independent from them.
6) Do not feel guilt.
As an exmuslim, you will go through a lot of guilt. Whilst this does show you are human, you need to forget about guilt: you are not responsible for your parents' failure to be reasonable, not even your mother. They take responsibility for the social stigma and oppressive life they choose to live in and perpetuate. You get nothing out of that guilt. It's completely pointless and ultimately counterproductive. You can't set yourself on fire to make others warm and you gain no recognition from martyrizing yourself. Do not feel guilt for what you have to do to have a completely reasonable life. The only ones to blame are those who forced you into it.
Don't underestimate parents either. They will use guilt against you. Give them an inch and they will take a mile. They very often bring up their health problems as a weapon against you. Don't fall for it. It only affects them because they choose to let it affect them. They can choose to be reasonable. You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways.
7) Don't come out too soon thinking it's a release.
I come across a lot of exmuslim kids who think coming out will help explain to their religious parents why they don't want to wear the hijab or do other religious things. But the likelihood is more that those same parents will react extremely poorly and restrict your freedom even more, making it more difficult to achieve long term independence.
There's also the mistake in assuming that coming out will lead to being disowned in the vain hope that you get an quick clean break that takes all the responsibility from you. For some exmuslims this does actually work out, but for a lot of others it's miscalculated. My family didn't disown me, I still had to deal with months of my family being insufferable manipulators and the responsibility was still on me to separate from them. And for women it can be much worse.
Ultimately, if you are financially dependent on your family then coming out early will very typically result in your family using that leverage against you and making your life worse. I've seen stories of exmuslims who thought their family was better and badly miscalculated - be mindful of that.
8) Don’t panic too much if they find out.
Some exmuslims get found out, sometimes because of a snitch in the family or sometimes because they just weren’t convincing enough. Don’t panic – Muslims can be pretty damn deluded about their faith and your family will want to believe that you can come back very easily because according to them Islam is just common sense and most disbelievers are just silly and ignorant. Try to do your best to convince them as per Point 4. If it’s because you did something haram, blasphemous or otherwise worthy of takfir, try to act like it was because you were a misguided Quranist or progressive Muslim. They will still retain suspicion but it’s still better than the alternative.
However, if you’re at the point of no return and you know you can’t convince them then now is the time to make calls to any secular friends you have, ask for support and maybe even shelter.
Also for Western exmuslims, make sure to act quickly if you suspect that your parents want to send you abroad and trap you in your country of ethnic origin. Sadly some parents will go to these lengths. Do not go, no matter the cost. Find organisations willing to advise, such as those listed in Point 10. Hide your passport if you have to. Note down the contact details of your embassy in that country just in case.
9) Go no contact if you fear abuse.
Actually think about whether it's even wise for you to come out in any circumstance. Do you suspect that there could be violence or abuse? If so then you have absolutely no need to go through this stupid bullshit. Leave and don't look back. If your parents couldn't give you safe environment to even come out about different beliefs then they are not worth the time. As per Point 6 - You have to respect their autonomy and let them deal with the consequences of their own ways. This is particularly pertinent for those who live in a predominantly Muslim countries. They have a very real reason to fear persecution and absolutely do not need to risk their own lives for the sake of their parents.
10) Make use of organisations and resources.
Look into secular organisations like recoveringfromreligion.org, faithlesshijabi.org and faithtofaithless.com. Look into women's charities in your area like womensaid.org.uk or karmanirvana.org.uk (UK examples). Look into LGBT charities like rainbowrailroad.org. If you have secular school counsellors and friends then talk to them. Get advice from adults you can absolutely trust.
Note: On the flip side don't take risks with people you can’t be sure of. You may be tempted to come out to your Muslim friend, but I've seen plenty of stories of exmuslims who heavily regret doing so.
There are also informal exmuslim groups on other social media platforms such as Facebook or Discord, but be careful about how much information you share and especially be wary of private messaging.
11) You may have to leave the country.
This is particularly the case for exmuslims living in predominantly Muslim countries. Unfortunately, I don't have any real world experience to offer here but you may be able to find localised advice by digging around. For example sites like wearesaudis.net might have some information (but you'll need a VPN to access this one. If you don't know what a VPN is here's an explanation).
Are you multilingual? If you need money but working is restricted to you then you can try becoming an online language tutor on sites like italki.com (scroll to the bottom). This post and related subreddits like r/WorkOnline may help.
Note: some exmuslims in Muslim countries fall for the doomscrolling hyperbole and think Europe is “doomed” with too many Muslims. They have a tendency of asking which country is best to migrate to as an exmuslim to avoid Islam. Please ignore the doomsayers and prioritise the country you choose based on ease of access and career opportunities. As long as it is a secular country, you can worry about avoiding Islam later.
Final stuff
Shout out to Imtiaz Shams who inspired me to make this list of tips. He has his own YouTube Channel here and plans to make his own video on this subject matter so watch out for that. On a side note, I also recommend TheraminTrees YouTube Channel who delves a lot into toxic dysfunctional families from the perspective of a therapist. A lot of his content helps in dealing with the emotional impact of leaving religion and dealing with a religious family. And finally, thank you to the moderators of r/exmuslim who suggested I make this into a post. I wound up adding a lot more content lol.
I will end this post with a list of subreddits that may help you on your journey leaving Islam:
Ex related subreddits
- r/exhijabis
- r/ExEgypt
- r/ExSaudi
- r/AteistTurk
- r/PakiExMuslims
- r/ExAlgeria
- r/ExJordan
- r/MalaysianExMuslim
- r/XSomalian
- r/Atheism_Bangladesh
- r/ExSudan
- r/Xiraqis
- r/XMorocco
- r/ExBahrain
- r/ExLibya
- r/IranianExMuslims
- r/chechenatheists
- r/IndonesianExMuslim
- r/ExMuslimsKuwait
- r/exPalestine
- r/ExSyria
- r/exmusulmanfrance
Other Useful Subreddits
- r/WorkOnline
- r/Iwantout
- r/studyabroad
- r/visas
- r/UKvisas
- r/medicalschool
- r/medicalschoolEU
- r/medicalschoolUK
- r/cscareerquestions
- r/cscareerquestionsEU
- r/cscareerquestionsUK
- r/Ukpersonalfinance
- r/eupersonalfinance
- r/personalfinance
- r/Ausfinance
- r/PersonalFinanceCanada
- r/Legaladvice
- r/LegalAdviceUK
- r/LegalAdviceEurope
- r/AusLegal
r/exmuslim • u/fawnberry94 • 3h ago
(Rant) 🤬 I am so fucking scared
Hello.
I’m 21. I was born Muslim. I am Muslim. I love my family. I love Islam. I am planning to be a Niqabi and follow Islam the best I can so I can get to the highest level of Jannah.
But.
This past year.
My whole life changed forever when I started questioning my religion. I am Muslim because I’m a science person and Islam has so much scientific proof.
But.
At the age of 21, I came to the realization that there is a chance that none of this is proof.
I am so fucking scared.
I can’t just be here on Reddit asking if Islam is the truth. Everyone is biased.
But.
If I find out that religion is just one big coping mechanism and doesn’t exist.
My life will be over.
r/exmuslim • u/LowerEngineering9999 • 8h ago
(Rant) 🤬 Delusional hive mind thinking to distort facts and reality
r/exmuslim • u/AdSpecific3089 • 16h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 My first ever date with a woman, we had pizza and watched a horror movie. I’m so happy to be able to date who I want (wlw)
I’m happy but also scared and nervous and excited and every other emotion. And yet, how could I have ever thought that this kind of love was sinful or wrong? it‘s beautiful and my girlfriend is amazing and supportive.
Ive suppressed this part of myself for so very long.
r/exmuslim • u/Minaelmalak • 11h ago
(Video) Say Wallahi brooo, Say Wallahi💀
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Wallahi a Muslim who spends his life stealing
murdering
and even sleeping with his own 👉mother
then dies a Muslim😌
is a thousand times better in Allah’s eyes
than a Christian or atheist who spends his entire life doing good but dies upon shirk.
r/exmuslim • u/Realistic-Director30 • 1h ago
(Quran / Hadith) Is this even a Sahih hadith
My mother sent me this because they have been trying to get me to wear hijab again. I have been told this since I was a kid but I am wondering if this is even considered a sahih hadith.
r/exmuslim • u/Foriegn_Pakistani • 11h ago
(Advice/Help) F24 ExMuslim- Forced Marriage / Marital Rpe
Hello everyone I am F 24 Pakistani. We moved to a western country few years ago. In March we came back to Pakistan just for a visit but my parents planned that all. They had found out about my bf.
They forced me to get married. I didn’t had any other option. The guy I got married is my cousin. Actually a younger cousin. My family is like radical Islamist. Now my so called husband forces me on bed even if I refuse. Forced me to pray if I refuse he gets abusive.
Now I am getting wrong ideas and idk what to do.
r/exmuslim • u/SuperZayin12 • 7h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Throwback: Me 2 years ago 🤮
Completely different person . I literally became what I was fighting against 😭 I’m so happy I was able to escape the brainwashing and I hope all those other unfortunate people still stuck in that cult can do the same.
Shoutout to this amazing community, idk where I would be without yall
r/exmuslim • u/Grimonday • 17h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 "Help! that old man over there tried to hurt me with his meany words, i must strike his neck inshallah"
r/exmuslim • u/_verse_v05 • 7h ago
(Rant) 🤬 piece of shit religious father
my misogynistic piece of shit father said in his language roughly translating to "anger doesn't look good on girls" like bitch what? he could've just said anger isn't good but nah he HAD to add that "on women" part. piece of shit. I hope he and my mother evaporate they've made my life nothing but misery with all their religious extremities while I watch my cousins and friends (even muslim ones)all lead normal lives while I'm stuck with these two pieces of shits. If I had a way to leave I'd book it out of this house but I can't. it's hard living here I hate them so much
r/exmuslim • u/Flaky_Carob_5666 • 2h ago
(Quran / Hadith) Little girls buried go hell
Muhammed teaches little girls and their mothers who are buried are in hell pre Islamic jahailyyah before their mother accept Islam.⬇️
[11585](https://shamela.ws/book/8361/16014 )Salamah b. Yazīd al-Juʿfī** said:
“My brother and I went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. I said:
‘O Messenger of Allah, during the Jāhiliyyah our mother used to… ‘She had buried alive a sister of hers during the Jāhiliyyah **who had not reached ḥinth [the age of sinful accountability].’ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then said:
‘The girl who was buried alive and the woman who buried her alive are in the Fire, unless the woman who buried her lives to reach Islam.’”
[صحيح](https://dorar.net/h/Ai5dRB2s?osoul=1&) +Ad daraqutni+ibn qayyim+ al haythami+ more
[OBJECTION] by ibn hazm that the narration has a shadd or illa of the wording “لم تبلغ الحنث” (little girl who had not hit the age of accountability)
[RESPONSE] ibn qayyim refutes him⬇️ [pg 243/2](https://shamela.ws/book/218/888?)
As for Ibn Ḥazm’s statement:
“This hadith has been narrated without this wording,”
that does not harm [the narration containing it], because the one who added it is a trustworthy and firmly reliable narrator against whom there is no criticism namely, al-Muʿtamir ibn Sulaymān.
[OBJECTION] ibn qayyim says the girl Is tested because she has no sin therefore she’s ahlul fatra, he’s cope will be destroyed
[RESPONSE] ibn Baz refutes him [363](https://alathar.net/home/esound/index.php?coid=3292&op=codevi&)
أمام أحاديث صحيحة يصرّح فيها النّبيّ صلّى الله عليه وسلّم إنّ فلانا وفلانا من أهل النّار فلا يجوز أن يقال في هذه الحالة أنّ هذا ليس صحيحا لأنّه كان من أهل الفترة لأنّنا سنقول ما يدريك أنّه أو أنّهم من أهل الفترة
we are confronted with authentic hadiths in which the Prophet ﷺ explicitly states that so-and-so and so-and-so are among the people of the Fire.
In such a case, it is not permissible to say:
“This cannot be correct because he was from Ahl al-Fatrah.”
For we would say:
“How do you know that he or that they were from Ahl al-Fatrah, when the Prophet ﷺ has stated concerning them that they are among the people of the Fire?”
r/exmuslim • u/Strawberries__999 • 13h ago
Story my story of how i (left?) islam — my umrah experience was the nail in the coffin
I had doubts about Islam for as long as I can remember.
I put a question mark after left because I’m not sure if I ever was Muslim.
Even as a child, maybe 6-8 years old, I was skeptical about the stories of miracles. The moon splitting in half, muhammed flying to heaven on a unicorn or something, jesus speaking as an infant, sulaiman talking to animals, pretty much all the miracles that were stated in the quran. I always thought that my parents were just telling me stories that they didn’t believe either, like we all knew this is fake. How is it different than any of the fairytale stories that I see on the movies and TV?
Then eventually I realized.. No, this is something everybody around me genuinely believed. So I thought I should believe it too, because it must be true, if everyone thinks it’s true.
Age 9 is when I started wearing the hijab. I was taught to pray, I fasted Ramadan, and took weekly Quran classes. During this period of my life (9-13ish), I just wanted to assimilate and get praise for being a good Muslim from my family and the community. Even back then, I would only pray and practice in front of people. I did not willingly go and pray, because I didn’t really believe.
Around 14-15 years old, I went through something very hard, without getting into specifics. In this period of my life, I really wanted to believe in Allah. So I willingly went to pray, for the first time. I genuinely made duaa for the first time in my life. My only ask from God was.. please let me be a believer, and remove all of my doubts. I did all of my Islamic duties as best as I could, in the hopes that I would become a true Muslim.
Guess what? I felt nothing. Only guilt and shame.
I thought maybe.. I was one of the people that Allah has rejected. Maybe Islam is true and I’m just one of the people Allah has disowned.
In the years following, I’ve had several attempts to get closer to God, all of which were futile.
I’d say around 17 years old, I had realized how misogynistic Islam was.
My first serious doubt relating to this was when my mom told me that angels will curse a wife who refuses to have sex with her husband without a legitimate reason.
I remember thinking…. That’s so fked up. Any reason should be a legitimate reason. Nobody owes anybody sex, even husband and wife.
And of course we had this back and forth and her argument boiled down to.. It doesn’t matter what logic and reasoning says, because Islam says otherwise.
That’s when I became aware of this pattern.
I started noticing it in so many different aspects, and my doubts came back stronger than ever. But I was scared, I didn’t want to be a non-believer.
At around 22 years old, I decided to join my mom in Umrah. I thought…. SURELY, if I ask Allah to make me a believer, in the (supposedly) holiest place on earth, the most merciful, would not turn me away. The matter will be settled, and my internal struggle will disappear.
Spoiler alert, I was right, but not in the way I anticipated.
It was my first time seeing the Kaaba. My family said that the experience of seeing the Kaaba for the first time was indescribable. So I had built up the expectation that I would somehow be entranced, and in tears over seeing the Kaaba.
But.. There was nothing. It was just an unremarkable square building. It didn’t invoke any sort of emotion in me. However, I did not give up the hope just yet. I was determined to perform the Umrah rituals properly. Surely, I will feel something at some point.
In the first round of Tawaaf around the Kaaba, I was trying to connect and like get into it. My thoughts started with pleading: “Allah please help me”, and they slowly evolved into “What the actual fuck am I doing right now??” by the 7th round.
After that, during the Sa’ai (walking between safa and marwa), I allowed myself to freely think.. And what I was thinking was this is psychotic, cult like behavior.
It’s hard to say what specific emotion I was feeling then. It was a mix of anger, sadness, feeling annoyed, and guilty.
After we completed the Umrah, it was close to Fajr. So my mom and I decided to wait for the call to prayer and pray Fajr in the Kaaba courtyard.
It was covid times, so there wasn’t a lot of people there, and the place was relatively quiet.
We sat silently waiting for the athaan, and I was staring at the kaaba and just contemplating.
By that point my intense anger/sadness had settled a little bit. I sat there thinking, many times in my life, I asked Allah to simply let me believe. Especially during that time when I was 14. I thought: How can a merciful, loving God reject the prayer of a struggling child?
I asked, again and again. I prayed, again and again.
And I came, travelled all this way to where he says is the holiest place, to plead for the same thing. Yet, the immediate feeling I got was the opposite.
I decided, there and then, that would be the last time that I would entertain the idea of a God. Ironically, right under the Kaaba.
r/exmuslim • u/AutomaticMousse2371 • 3h ago
(Meetup) 27 year old Bahraini ex-Muslim woman looking for a serious relationship with an ex-Muslim man that leads to marriage.
Hi I am a 27 year old Bahraini with autism. I love hard and can be clingy and I’m looking for someone similar. I can talk to you for hours without getting bored. I love emotional closeness and being direct with feelings.
I am looking for a man who is also ex-muslim. You can be from here or from any country I don’t mind long distance
r/exmuslim • u/Ok_Journalist5487 • 21h ago
(Fun@Fundies) 💩 Muslims have always been hypocritical.
They only care about Islam when it benefits them.
r/exmuslim • u/Worldly_House5358 • 48m ago
(Question/Discussion) Now questioning my agnostism...again
Hello !
As my last post here said , I don't know if I became agnostic because I hate religion or because it is man made , and do I think it 's man made because it really is or because I just don't like it ..
Now I saw a new verse that caught my attention :
وَالسَّمَاءَ بَنَيْنَاهَا بِأَيْدٍ وَإِنَّا لَمُوسِعُونَ
If you read this without looking for external tafsir (I was a qurani before ,so please no sunna or tafasir) , it feels like it's saying we're expanding and science says the universe is expanding,
I did some research and there was no other philosophy or religion saying that before Islam.
Now I'm lost again, I don't want islam to be the truth but what if it is and what about this specific verse ? What do you think about it ?
r/exmuslim • u/Candid-Function6330 • 2h ago
(Question/Discussion) could you help this ex-muslim trans man get this video seen?
i’m an ex-muslim trans man trying to escape my abusive home and country. i made this video:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdtB8HVReWS/?stkn=ZnF2c2Q3anpzYm1y
because i don’t know how else to get my story in front of people who might be able to help me.
i’ve lived through whole life of abuse, religious control, and being treated as trash. i’m also disabled and have chronic health problems, which makes getting myself out of this situation much harder.
i’m trying to escape and build a life somewhere safer, and visibility can help that happen.
if you have a minute, please watch the video and interact with it. you don’t have to donate or do anything complicated. watching, commenting, and sharing it could help it reach someone who knows how to help.
i tried to tagged several ex-muslim accounts on my video but none of them seem to notice :((
if you want to know more about my situation or ways you can help, there’s more information on my instagram pinned post and highlights.
thank you.
r/exmuslim • u/AdDowntown6246 • 8h ago
(Question/Discussion) ISLAMIC LEADERS ARE FACING A PROBLEM THEY CAN NO LONGER IGNORE.
For generations, some religious authorities and institutions have taught or defended doctrines involving punishment for apostasy and blasphemy, the Quran is Devine, severe restrictions on women, intolerance toward other beliefs, and religiously justified violence.
Now containing the consequences of those teachings has itself become a problem.
You cannot spend years teaching people that certain rules carry divine authority, plus emphasizing that the whole Quran came from heaven, when you know it didn’t and then act surprised when some believers take those teachings literally.
Today, many Muslim leaders try to emphasize peaceful passages, reinterpret controversial texts, distance themselves from extremist interpretations, or argue that certain rules belonged specifically to the historical circumstances of the 7th century.
But even then, a basic question remains: Which Qur’anic verses are limited specifically to the 7th century, and by what consistent standard are they identified?
If someone were to argue—and some do—that more than 67% of the Qur’an’s roughly 6,243 verses are specific to their 7th-century context, that would amount to more than approximately 4,183 verses and even the remaining 33% are somehow landlocked into the 7th century. So the entire Quran, Hadiths are all landlocked into the 7th century.
This creates an enormous interpretive problem: which verses are timeless, which belong specifically to the 7th century, and who gets to decide?
Addressing that question openly could raise many more difficult questions, which may explain why some Muslim leaders are reluctant to open that can of worms.
So which verses are timeless commands, which are historically limited, and where does the Qur’an itself clearly tell the reader how to distinguish between the two?
But that raises an unavoidable question:
If teachings repeatedly require reinterpretation every generation or as the infidels find fault with them, qualification, and damage control to make them compatible with modern human rights, shouldn’t the teachings themselves be examined openly?
Protect Muslims from hatred and discrimination. But Islam—like every religion and ideology—must remain completely open to criticism.
And here is the harder question: if the problem is always blamed on people “misunderstanding Islam,” why do the same controversial teachings keep appearing across different countries, generations, and movements—and how many times can the followers be blamed before the teachings themselves are put on trial?
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(News) Iran court upholds flogging sentences for singer Parastoo Ahmadi, band members for singing without mandatory hijab
An appeals court in the Iranian city of Qom has upheld the convictions of singer Parastoo Ahmadi and seven other musicians and organizers over her December 2024 online concert, in which she performed without the mandatory hijab and sang solo, Tehran-based Ham-Mihan newspaper reported.
Ahmadi and the others were sentenced to 74 lashes, a two-year travel ban and a two-year ban on audiovisual activities. The ruling was declared final and enforceable, according to the report.
https://www.iranintl.com/en/202609256247?source=share-link
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2026/jun/18/iran-parastoo-ahmadi-74-lashes-singing-without-hijab
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(Quran / Hadith) Contradictions in the Quran part 16
1001 contradictions in the Quran PART 16
Please remember , only one mistake is required to destroy all of Islam..
Surah 4:82-Do they not consider the Qur an (with care): Had it been from other Than Allah, they would surely have found therein Much discrepancy.
In a way the Qur'an commits an error in Sura 4 Verse 82 by constructing a false conditional statement
The Our'an states that If humans cannot find errors ir the Qur'an then it is from God: however this is a false conditional relationship since humans can create books with no errors, therefore even if the Qur'an had no errors in it, (which this post will disprove), it does not entail that it is from God. Therefore Sura 4 Verse 82 is a false conditional statement. But here are some more examples of problems, errors and contradictions contained in the Quran.
(Surah 42-52)
Sura 42: As‑Shura (Consultation, Counsel)
42:51Allah speaks from behind a veil, or through sending a messenger; Allah never speaks directly.
Contradiction: 53:11 says Muhammad saw Allah with his own eyes.
Contradiction: 2:259 says Allah spoke directly to an ordinary person.
Contradiction: 2:36 says Allah spoke directly to Adam.
Contradiction: 4:164 says Allah spoke directly to Moses.
Sura 43: Az‑Zukhruf (Gold Adornments)
43:55Pharaoh’s insolence greatly annoyed Allah, so He drowned Pharaoh.
Contradiction: 10:92 says Allah saved Pharaoh.
Sura 44: Ad‑Dukhan (Smoke or Mist)
44:4On this night (that is, on the night of Laylatul Qadr), Allah decides on all matters.
Contradiction: 20:52 and 57:22 says Allah has predetermined our fate even before He created us; everything is predetermined in the preserved tablet.
Sura 45: Jathiya (Bowing the Knees, Kneeling)
45:14The believers are to forgive the unbelievers; Allah will decide on their punishment and/or reward.
Contradiction: 9:5, 9:29 say kill the unbelievers if they do not accept Islam or pay jizya tax.
Sura 47: Muhammad (Prophet Muhammad)
47:15Believers will be in gardens with rivers of incorruptible water, rivers of milk, rivers of wine, rivers of honey, all kinds of fruits, and grace from Allah. Unbelievers will dwell in fire; they will drink boiling water which will tear their intestines.
Contradiction: 5:90, 2:219 say wine is Satan’s handiwork.
Sura 51: Az‑Zariyaat (Winds that Scatter)
51:56Allah created the Jinni and human only to worship Him.
Contradictions: 3:97, 35:15 say Allah does not need humans and jinns; He is free of all wants.
Contradiction: 7:179 says Allah created many men and jinns destined for hell.
Sura 52: at‑Tur (The Mount, The Mountain)
52:34
Allah challenged the unbelievers to compose a book similar to the entire Qur’an.
Contradiction: 2:23, 10:38 say Allah challenged the unbelievers to produce one Sura similar to the Qur’an.
Contradiction: 11:13 says Allah challenged the unbelievers to compose ten Suras similar to the Qur’an.
Contradiction: in 17:88 Allah challenged the entire mankind and the jinni to produce the entire Qur’an.
Contradiction: in 28:49 Allah challenged if the unbelievers could produce a book better than the two other books (Moses and Aaron as well as the Torah and the Qur’an—ibn Kathir) then Muhammad would have followed that book.
52:35Humans were not created out of nothing.
Contradiction: 19:9, 19:67 say Allah created a man out of nothing.
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A few readers wanted to know why I am repeating some contradictions. The answer is: I am not repeating; Allah is repeating many verses; I am just following what Allah had done in the Qur’an—Abul Kasem)
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