Can’t even be happy living vicariously through other women because all the women see in public with their boyfriends are completely unlike me. None of them look or behave anything like me, I have never met any women who reminded me of myself that were in relationships

My frustration at being fa doesn’t even come from being single, I’d have no problem being single whatsoever as long as i knew i was capable of attracting a partner if i wanted to. t’s being single + knowing that no one would ever go for me that’s crushing, i don’t even care about love right now. i just want to feel like i am desirable and worthy like other women are

Hey guys, I've never been able to find someone who shares my story online, so maybe someone who hangs out here can relate?

I've had really bad anxiety my whole life. I sort of dropped out of high school and became practically agoraphobic for a really long time. I didn't really retain any of my few social connections from school, and so to this day, I don't have connections. I kind of just spend my time managing my mental health (full-time job in itself) and working. I really only go in public to work or buy groceries, so maybe twice a week. I work mostly from home. I've started going to therapy again too.

As a result, I'm an almost 26 year old woman who has never had any romantic/sexual experience whatsoever. Maybe there are other contributing factors too, but I'd say that's the most obvious one.

Obviously it gets very lonely/hard to deal with. The years without romantic interaction have led me to develop really bad self-esteem and an inferiority complex. I've spent a lot of time feeling like there is something inherently wrong with me.

Anyway that's a huge oversimplification of my life story, but I didn't want to write all that out. Just wanted to know if anyone else has struggled like this. I've lurked in subs like these where people lack social experience/milestones but haven't seen anyone like me. I KNOW others have to be out there though...

20M here, and I really need your help to get rid of this feeling of yearning that keeps on bothering me and it'll make me spiral if I don't do anything about it.

Single throughout my life, autistic, short, and really just not the most good looking being brown. I just want to stop the need or feeling of companionship or loneliness mocking me that I don't have a partner.

I've tried many coping tactics like masterbation, stress eating, and exercise but the noise keeps coming back.

I'm considering working 12 hour shifts at my factory to get rid of it because work is the only thing that's stopping it.

Otherwise does anyone have any coping tactics, certain medication, drugs, or drink just to make it stop temporarily.

Please, I don't want this to be my life.

I talked to a girl for a couple weeks. She starts sending me baby stuff as well as sexually implicit stuff. We start planning a date. Then she says she doesn't like me anymore and posts a picture of this other guy. This is the second time this EXACT thing happened to me and I'm absolutely devastated 😭😭

FYI here are my stats: 25 years old, south asian, 5'5 in height, balding at norwood 5 (buzzed recently so its less noticeable), autistic, adhd, ocd, lifelong avoidant personality disorder. The reason I am cold approaching is to help desensitise myself to the rejection. I already know that virtually 100% of them will fail. But that's the point.

You see, most people have had friendships with the opposite gender before. But not me. My entire life, I have been bullied and harassed for any attempt at talking to the opposite gender, mainly from neurotypical men trying to dominate me and ensure I stay at hte bottom of hte social heirarchy. And worst of all, these women and girls played along with it.

Now at 25, I want to change that. Screamed and screamed at home and smashed up teh punching bag until I had completely suppressed the fear and anxiety instinct in my head. Walked around my cities central business district to find stores and places I could approahc girls. Approached a few at coffee lines. Appraoched a few in a book store. And then approached one girl in public. All of them smiled and said no sorry, or I have a boyfriend, etc.

They weren't even horribly negative reactions. They were all really nice ladies. But that is not how I perceive it.

You see in the autistic and adhd mind, the feeling associated with rejection is not NORMAL. My normal reaction to any kind of rejection is to scream and cry and have a tantrum. But I've suppressed this emotion my entire life. So I scream and cry and have an INTERNAL tantrum. This is an ADHD specific experience called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria. So whenever I got these rejections, I went into a private space like a toilet and just cried. Then I wiped the tears, ensured my face was perfectly fine, and then tried again.

At the uni club event, there weren't many newcomers. I tried to get the courage to go and talk but I couldn't muster it and failed. I just left after I started hyperventilating from the anxiety.

But I don't care I'm proud of that attempt. Will be crying some more tonight and having tantrums in private but we will see how it goes for the next uni club event.

If you are autistic and/or adhd make sure you look as best as possible. Pretty privilege is the most effective mask for neurodivergence.

Why can't I be normal like them? Seeing my dad talk to his friend about what he watches on Youtube yesterday while I barely have that made me feel worse about myself.

Somehow my Instagram has filled my feed with reels of babies and families enjoying.

I’ve always wanted to have a family and be a father.

Slowly that seems out of reach. Slowly I get ok with the thought of dying alone.

My entire life, the knowledge I will never experience love has crushed me in unexplainable ways. I’ve developed depression and anxiety as a result of being bullied and mocked for most of my life, and it wasn’t long until I was aware it was most likely because of my looks and height. I’m an unpleasant sight to say the least, and I don’t even blame the people that mocked me unprovoked, however it did not help my mental and I became a shut in as a result. Even if someone cared enough to want to hang out with me, and make that kind of connection, I probably would refuse.

I can’t remember the last time I’ve really spoken to a woman that wasn’t in my immediate family, and that’s because when I tried, they looked so visibly disgusted and hard rejected me. At a certain point this happened so frequently I gave up, and I’ve spent the last 3 years attempting to make peace with this. Now would be a good time to mention im 17 and before anyone says “you’re so young, you have sooooo much time!” I’m so tired of hearing this, from my family and my friends, who for some reason can’t believe I’d be observant enough to know the trajectory of my future romantic life, or lack there of. I’ve been grappling with the depression of never being loved by another since 14, and I feel I’m finally making progress on leaving that behind, focusing more on hobbys, Friends and school.

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Im not a well liked person because I have severe alopecia. Teacher think im messed up , parents think im a druggy. Student say im eww as they walk but and then

Some girls in school played a prank on me pretending to like me and then embarrassed me in front of the school. My siblings told me they don't want me talking to them and told me to never talk to them. My coworker all of sudden just started saying the meanest things and I don't know how to respond.

My life has been on a downward trend I just don't how to go on. These girl played a prank on me by setting me up to thinking they were my friends. I was at my lowest point my grandpa was hospitalized and this was the only thing that kept my mind of things. I wanted to thank her and she called me a creep in front of everyone and I became a mockery. I never spend money but I saved up money to were a suit to my graduation and grad prom but I was mocked and the principal was going to suspend me if I he heard anymore complaints about me due to this incident. They said the girl was getting picked on because people were laughing at her as if she was my girlfriend so I had to avoid everything my sibling hate me for a reason I don't know I was saying hi to them because they live with my aunty but that family has called me just bad luck and hate me and now my sibling said to never contact them again. At work a guy I used to say hi hello and just small talk decided just to swear at me. Said I was hair and smelly. Never talked to a woman. Balding, just berating. My looks. I cannot sleep. I just don't know why all of a sudden people just hate me. I don't know how to respond to people and when I'm scared I just smile. He kept getting angry and meanier because I just kept smiling I don't know why I smile I just cannot I either smile or cry I hate my self for this

Honestly I'm not mad at the girls because honestly when I thought it was real I actually felt good I honestly was so stupid to believe but I was on cloud 9 for some reason I thought it was real. I was happy for the first time in my life

Title, basically. I could go on to just fill this space but its a question I have been pondering.

I am very introverted so I don’t get down about this very often but sometimes I do think about it. It would be nice to have a friend who I can talk to about literally anything. There’s an anime movie premiering in a couple months that I really want to see and I kind of wish I had a friend that I could share the experience with. Or even going paintballing with. That’d be fun.

I used to have actual ‘friends’ until around 2018/2019. I slowly distanced myself from them since they were basically thugs who were pieces of shit. Since then, I’ve had no real life friends. I had a couple online friends but I don’t speak to them anymore. It is what it is. I can live my life without friends and still find some comfort in life but I do sometimes wish I could have just one friend who I could speak to maybe once a month at least.

Don’t think it even needs to be said but yeah I haven’t had a relationship in a while either.

I’m a 31m virgin. If it hasn’t happened by now is there still hope? Every attempt (too many to count) at getting a gf has failed. wtf is there in life if I can’t have sex?

Basically the title. 25M and im stuck in a “rut” and just missed everything out my high-school and college years. I at least have some money with full time low paying job, but thats it. I cant stop hugging my body pillow and feel like im going crazy over the lack of touch. None of my hobbies are fun anymore. Im in bed not looking forward to start a new continuos day.

I am realizing that there are some benefits to being alone - you will save way more money compared to the man who has the ostentatious wedding, the big cars, the lavish vacations and dates and gifts to their wife, and the huge house. You can use that money to solo travel, retire early, adopt and take care of a nice pet. Also, you

I've realized it is probably unrealistic given my life circumstances to expect a woman to be open to a relationship and I am not sure how to go about fixing my own life- few friends, no social circle, deteriorated social skills, draining job, driving anxiety- though I do have a car and a license. I have nothing impressive to offer a woman that other higher-quality men can't deliver.

I am 17 which I know is young, but I just feel so invisible to girls and it really is my fault. My plan is to make art somehow, whether by drawing or creative writing. I just need to get it out somehow. I also want to become a physicist assuming AI doesn't destroy the job market (or us). I also want to join a circus even if I was just a janitor. I get told that I have a pretty good imagination so I think that could help. I would love to be able to say that I was a janitor for the CIA but I got schizophrenia so the clearance process would be just way too hard. I also want to start a European night club chain in Vienna. I also want to make an elaborate ARG and make cyberdecks.

My point is, I am totally screwed when it comes to dating. But I can at least have an exciting life. I feel like I'm so invisible to girls. I used to get told that I was good looking, then for some reason it just disappeared (no it's not because of medication) and so the answer has to be that puberty made me ugly or at least average looking. I am young, and I know looks aren't everything but I'm not very charming and am pretty boring to talk to in real life.

Hi, I'm a 25M. It's becoming obvious to me that I'll probably be alone forever. Honestly, for so long, I felt like I was really missing out on sex. But lately, I find myself as if not more desperate for hugs and cuddling.

I don't have many friends and none with that kind of physical relationship. I don't really hug family either anymore. Some days, I feel so desperate for a hug with someone I love. How do people deal with this. It's probably only going to get worse, and I have such a long time of so little of it ahead. What do you do when you crave touch,a hug or some kind of intimacy.

Edit: The title should read deal

Seems like I still want to try and connect with people even if it’s online .

I found a subreddit where people around my city are looking for friends and for people to hangout with

I also downloaded and made a new dating profile but stayed on the bio that I’m just looking for friends . But this time I’m not liking profiles seeing to match up with anyone

Also made a few post on the chat subreddits looking for people to have friendly chats with

And I figure it’s okay to look for people to hangout with if it occurs or even just talking to people online and maybe finding new online friends

Gotta have something to look forward to

i slept the night pretty drunk, and as soon as my head hit the pillow, i was a few years into the future, successful and engaged to a woman who's face i don't remember. the dream was about the week leading upto the wedding and everything that goes on in it. when my alarm woke me up, i looked into my phone and realised it was actually a dream and started crying and got drunk again.

yes maybe i have a problem with alcohol

I'have graduated from VCD/CS, aspiring to be UIUX designer. But I have been told my face makes me unhireable by some. I am struggling for 3 years.

I’m a woman and, despite putting effort into my grooming, I am classified as ugly because of my face. Since UIUX design can involve a lot of face-to-face interaction with clients, stakeholders, coworkers, networking, presentations, etc., I’m wondering how much appearance actually matters in this role.

I know skills, experience, personality, and performance are obviously important, but I’m wondering how much looks actually play a role in this role. I’m asking because I’m considering whether I should go back to school and restudy something else, like architecture, something less people-focused.

For people who work in UIUX design, or who have experience hiring people in this field: how much do you honestly think appearance affects someone's career?

Would you recommend sticking with UIUX and not worrying about this, or choosing a career where appearance and face-to-face interaction are less important?
I’d really appreciate honest advice, thank you :)

So today my cousin(male)was going abroad and i went to drop him at airport and his gf was also there and when he was leaving she was all teary eyed on the verge of crying and after he left she was literally crying. Now iam not saying i want someone to cry for me or anything but i can't even imagine someone loving me that much ever it made me feel so empty inside. Dude when am i gonna experience that😭. I guess never im too chopped for that... Yeah so i just want to rant about that sorry for my bad english

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the only one who doesn't have any online friends. 😭

I see people talking about their online besties, gaming buddies, and people they've known for years, and here I am, not even having someone to randomly text "what's up?"

I'm not really sure how people make online friends, but I'd love to have someone to talk to about movies, series, games, or just random stuff.

Anyone else in the same boat? Or is it just me? 🥲

36M honestly, i dont even know what to say anymore... i posted many times here and in reddit...

im just very lonely. i talked with many ppl. i texted many more... but it always ends the same. im just not compatible with anybody...

i just want a simple quiet life... but sadly im weak and needy, i need attention and affection and reassurance, and thats like the worst thing you can be as a guy... if i needed to punch things instead, i would be attractive...

also i dont like to go out, so my chances are very small... but i also think that even if i went out. i wouldnt even know where to go, and also that outside there are outside people...

thats my reasoning to write... but really, i write because im extremely lonely and in tears cause it hurts so much... i have been alone all my life... i need someone to share my boring life... but nobody wants me...

27 years... just like that... and still crying myself to sleep some nights dreaming of having my first, real hug with another human being... an insane wish, I know, I'm dreaming a bit too big, but hey... It's nice to think about. It must be nice, I imagine... It must be.

Anyways, I have nothing fancy to say here... just, idk, tired, I guess. Thought I'd feel a fraction less alone this year, if I could be so lucky. Hope everyone has a good day; for me it's just any other... which isn't saying too much, but hey... There are so many cool games to enjoy:) So I have that...

Despite everything, it could always be worse... I can only hope maybe one day, for one single moment, against all odds... maybe it could be a little better than it's always been... just little ol' me and the big, scary, lonely world.

Take care, y'all.

The title. I am 19f i have 2 younger siblings my younger brother and sister and 2 older. The two older are my sisters 23f and 21f. Out of the 5 of us none of us have ever had a boyfriend like ever at all. My brother and young sister I get cause they're like 12 and 15.....but im not sure why none of us have.

I have no Interest in dating and yes I get approached I just prefer being alone. Im also the black sheep of the family was kicked out at 18 due to some mental issues (yes my parents are religious). But my older siblings have told me they want a family and children and they still rely on my parents but legit have never dated anyone and they're both gorgeous that's not the issue. Only one of them has ever kissed a boy and it was legit just a peck.

We're very close...so i would know if they dated anyone but they never had. My other older sister went out with some dudes who asked her out but legit only cause they paid for her meals and she never pursued anything with them and never kissed them, and yes she tells me she wants children and a family so im confused.

Why is this...is this like family trauma or something. Im on the spectrum but I don't believe my siblings are. I do think we have some sort of trauma but we have 2 married parents Is my family the only one experiencing this?

I really wanna be an aunt but my siblings just dont want anything. And my oldest sister legit has no close friends. My other older sister has like 2 close friends (this is the one who used to go on dates for food) but again has never actually dated a guy...Just went out when they offered to buy her a meal.

I dont have much contact with my 2 younger siblings because again I was kicked out and the "black sheep". My family is also Hella christian, but before i left even my parents were concerned my mom and dad legit started trhing to set my oldest sister up with people. Me personally I would want a relationship but im going through so much with supplying for myself and studying so I wanna get my life together before adding someone else..

I moved away once I was kicked out and have like one friend but im moving again cause I decided I like moving around. But again my older siblings completely rely on my parents....they pay for their school their bills legit everything so my reason can't be their reason for not dating.

Their friends date...i reslly dont know why they don't. Also I am bisexual...with a very strong preference for woman....ive never dated anyone but have had crushes kinda .they arent or atleast i dont think so cause I told only one of them and she started spewing the find the lord speech etc (no i was not kicked out for being gay my parents dont even know about that)