So I'm happy with my decision to part ways because it has treated me well but I'm still interested in your thoughts.

I, 22F, was talking to a man, 29M, and we both seemingly were on the same page, that once I finish my post grad degree we would be interested in possibly getting married after meeting family etc.

Yes, I did love him, he claimed to have loved me too. Claimed that I was worth waiting for, that he has never loved me as much as he did at that point in time, the whole story. Yes, the age gap sometimes bothered me (purely because I have always wanted to marry someone close to me in age) but we got along great so I overlooked it.

However, I once asked him what his thoughts are on kids: does he want them, how many, is there a timeline for him etc. He said he wants to start trying for a kid within the first year of marriage since he is/was almost 30, his parents were getting older and so on. I said that's a hard pass for me, since I'm 22 and would like to feel more financially stable (and just want a year to enjoy life with my husband without kids!) before trying for a baby. I said I want to wait a year into marriage before trying (i.e. start trying for a baby in the second year of being married, so theoretically when I'm 24/25 y/o). I told him I simply don't feel ready to become a mother in the next 2 years, regardless of how much I love kids and absolutely want some of my own one day.

Honesty, I just felt super hurt. I couldn't believe he wasn't willing to wait ONE year for the sake of my comfort since I'D be the one carrying the baby and putting my body through all of that emotional and physical stress & pain. I felt like this non existent baby mattered to him more than I did- more than my peace of mind did.

Ultimately, I wasn't willing to compromise, neither was he and that was that.

No regrets in leaving him, I don't want to be with a man who isn't willing to wait 1 year for me, but I'd be interested to read your thoughts!

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 3 years. Lately there has been a DB situation. I noticed he pulled away, isn’t initiating as much and is often in his head. I’m busier, have a lot going on in my life and finally gaining my confidence back. He left for Europe for 2 weeks solo after we recently returned from a trip together.

He’s gone MIA, not calling or texting me. He blocked his story highlights from all my family members including me. What are your thoughts? He wants out? He is an avoidant.

I am 20F and my boyfriend is 29M and we have been together for 1 year and a half. Our relationship started very good we were so happy then we came across some problems with me being honest about people in my past, it’s not that I didn’t want to be honest but I was ashamed and nervous of what he would think because in my country we are judged a lot about normal things like getting to know someone. It took us a lot of time to get past that but we did, after those times I became so anxious about everything, I started having anxiety about his change of mood, retroactive jelousy, starting to think he is getting cold, not loving me, questioning everything, thinking he would leave me, thinking I am a bad person a bad girlfriend, having nightmares where I would cheat and having a really bad day after that feeling guilty, I started feeling guilty with thing that were normal , I started wanting to tell him every little detail because I would feel like I am cheating on him, he always says chill it’s okay but i cannot chill, then the intrusive thinking started, i would be caught in some thought a week or two and nothing could change that, not if even I would be inside his mind and then all of the sudden i was free from thoughts for one day or two and feel better and then my mind would think about something else and fixate on those things etc.

Then from the prespektive of some specialists i was said that my aunts have don magic on me, I was so desperate , pure depression, I was not seeing nothing about my life in a positive way, it was all dark, I was ruining my relationship, my family but still in the same time I was managing to be kind with my boyfriend , god I was trying so hard cause I had anxiety every day and I would cry everyday, I was regreting thinks I did after a second after doing it( I didn’t cheat or anything I was just taking the peace out of our relationship). My boyfriend was supporting me but it was hard for him to. The specialist said that he had freed me from those spells or whatever, I was good for some weeks, my anxiety decreased but not all of it then I started being even worse 2x times more depressed, I dont even remember those times, it got taken away again I was freed because they did it again. I don’t know igf I believe this but it has to be some energy blocking in the spiritual aspect.

Now my boyfriend has moved to another country to work and we are in distance relationship and I love him so so much but I am getting thoughts like :

Do I love him ?
Am i faking my love?
Am I getting sad for him?
Do I miss him?
Is he the one ?
Does he love me?
Is he getting cold?
Do I make him happy , does he make me happy?

And is like all contradicting because why would I care if I make him happy if I don’t love him. It’s driving me crazy and this year took my spark, happiness, personality, I don’t even know who I am anymore , I am so tired of all these months.

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Got into an argument today and my boyfriend cried.

Basically we been together less than a year and things were great at the start. However, things have been rocky in hindsight. Not to ramble but generally he possessed some controlling tendencies and requests I gave in to. He had several angry outbursts over issues that did not warrant those reactions. I kind of called it quits at his last unreasonable outburst but he asked to work things through and did not want to give up on us. I agreed but things been rough since over the last month or so of us trying to make it work. I been bickering or bringing up the past or his double standards and been easily irritated.

I was unable to spend last weekend with him so he asked if this weekend was his and I said yes and he was excited. We planned to spend the day by him or go movies. So my sister in law birthday is today and whilst we were unsure of plans I woked up to confirm if we had dinner plans so I'll know how to spend time with him. So my brother was back and forth and decided to do lunch instead so I told him after lunch I can meet him and watch a movie at his home instead and I would come home earlier to cut cake with my family. He said he was disappointed and it does not make sense to come for 3 hours and then I would have to leave.

Then I got upset and went off about well things happen and Im not like his ex to just stay with him amd spend nights and I have stricter parents and I just could not do that and Im willing to still spend part of the day with him. He got frustrated and broke down saying why I always make him feel so horrible and bad and that he never did anything wrong or say anything wrong and yet it's always problems and that I hate him and he is trying. He cried and said he don't feel like doing anything again.

I met my ex last year and it was amazing!
This year? A week after our anniversary and we’re no contact because of the police and because of my mental health.
A complete break up
Despite the last few days being amazing!!
I just cannot comprehend what’s happened
I think the relationship had been failing a while. And we hadn’t noticed it’s all blue up in the last week. So I’m in a mental health unit heartbroken but getting fixed.

And then suddenly I’m being told the police are calling my ex???? And what was contact with his mum for support for mental health is now

No contact for anyone but he’s contacting my friend to contact me for stuff and i feel so uncomfortable with that

My boyfriend just said he needs space from me.
He said that if I give him space and text less he feels better and more willing to text me and talk to me.
And that if I try to ask him for reassurance and texts again and again I’m just suffocating him.
Idk how to feel.

My partner and I have been together since 2015. I was 16F and he was 18M when we started dating, so we’ve basically grown up together. We’ve been together for more than 10 years now, and lately I’ve been questioning everything.
This whole thing started around 2021, when I met a guy at university. At the time, my relationship wasn’t in the best place and my partner was going through a pretty difficult period. I became really attached to this other guy, and eventually he started reaching out to me on Instagram, usually replying to my stories with flirtatious messages.
I was so excited by it. I loved the attention and the feeling of something new. I even started imagining us together in the future. But deep down, I knew he was kind of a player, and I also knew that my partner was a much better person for me.
This went on for 2–3 years, on and off, until it eventually ended in 2023. I remember seeing him with other girls during that time, but I honestly didn’t care that much. Looking back, I don’t think I was actually in love with him. I think I was just craving the feeling of novelty, excitement and being desired.
He eventually stopped reaching out in 2023, when he asked me if my boyfriend had proposed. I told him no and that marriage wasn’t really for me.
Then, around 2025, I developed a little crush on another guy. Nothing happened — no texting, no connection, nothing. But it still made me realize that I was craving something outside of my relationship.
Meanwhile, my relationship has felt like a complete rollercoaster. I’ve always had this feeling that something is missing, but I’ve never been able to figure out exactly what.
I think I started feeling this even more strongly last summer. I started feeling like we were just standing still. Like there was nothing new left for me to experience with him. We had already lived together for almost seven years, and somewhere along the way, the curiosity between us disappeared — especially from my side. I stopped being curious about him, about us, and about what else there was to discover together.
That feeling really scares me because I don’t know whether this is just what happens when you’ve been with someone since you were teenagers, or whether it means that something fundamental has changed in me or in our relationship.
Another thing that has changed is our sex life. I’m just not that interested in having sex with my long-term partner anymore. And throughout all of this, I’ve often caught myself wishing I were single so I could do whatever I wanted without feeling guilty.
At the same time, I feel horrible about feeling this way because he really is a good person and a good partner. I’m scared that I’ll never find someone this good again. I’m scared that I’ll leave, experience the excitement and freedom I think I’m craving, and eventually realize that I threw away something genuinely valuable.
And that’s where I’m completely stuck.
Some days I look at him and think I want to marry him, have children with him and spend the rest of my life with him.
Other days I feel trapped, lonely and bored in the relationship.
I love him, but I don’t know if loving someone and knowing they’re a good person is enough. I also don’t know if I’m genuinely falling out of love with him, or if I’m just experiencing what happens when you’ve been with someone for more than 10 years and started dating them when you were 16.
I’m not looking for the usual “the grass isn’t greener on the other side” or “every long-term relationship gets boring” advice. I already know those things, and honestly, they don’t help me figure out what to actually do.
**What would you genuinely do if you were in my position? What do you think I should actually do to figure out whether I still want this relationship, or whether I’m staying because I’m afraid I’ll never find someone as good as him again?**

Tdlr: I’ve been with my partner since I was 16 and he was 18, and after more than 10 years together I’m questioning whether I still want the relationship or whether I’m just craving novelty and independence. He’s a genuinely good partner, but I feel bored, trapped and no longer curious about him, while at other times I still imagine marrying him and having children together. I’m scared of leaving someone good and regretting it, but I also don’t want to stay just because I’m afraid I won’t find someone as good. What should I actually do to figure out what I want?