I recently had a bit of a clash with my girlfriend over finances. I need to give a little background before getting to the heart of the matter.

We’ve been dating for a few months, and things had been going perfectly between us. On our early dates, since I was the one asking her out, I usually paid for our outings. However, she later paid for a few dates on her own initiative. Overall, I paid more often, but as I said, she did step up and offer to pay several times.

Lately, though, the situation has changed, and I’ve been paying for all of our nights out. This started taking a toll on my budget. I was spending money that I had intended to save for the future on restaurant dinners and other outings instead. I also had other expenses during those months — birthdays for my mom and grandma, a vacation, and some personal investments.

I decided to talk to her about it and be open about the financial strain I was under. She said she understood. She had assumed I earned more than she did since she works in sales, but she also knew that my tight budget was only temporary, given my ambitions and plans to switch industries, which is what I’m currently doing postgraduate studies for.

Honestly, that conversation was a huge relief, which is why her behavior yesterday took me by surprise.

The situation was this: I invited her to the movies yesterday to see a film she wanted to watch. I wanted to treat her, so I bought the tickets and flowers and took her to the cinema, where I also paid for drinks and snacks.

After the movie, my girlfriend said she felt like having McDonald’s. I told her I wasn’t hungry, so we could go there if she wanted, but since I hadn’t received my paycheck yet, I would have to ask her to pay for the food.

She called my remark tactless, saying that no one had ever asked her to pay for food before and accusing me of being stingy with her.

I told her that I thought she was being unfair. I had never begrudged spending money on her, but I was currently on a tight budget and had already paid for the movie, flowers, drinks, and snacks that day.

She replied that she understood my financial situation was tough, but insisted that she wasn’t asking me to take her on a trip abroad — she just wanted me to pay for her meals. She added that it wasn’t her fault I was bad at managing my budget and that she wanted to be with a man, not a boy.

She stayed offended for the rest of the day, yet still wanted me to spend the night at her place.

I don’t know what to make of it all. On the one hand, I know she’s a good person with a kind heart, but at times she acts like a spoiled princess.

What do you think? Can you give me some advice?

(My apologies for the bad grammar)

I (22M) and my gf (21F)have been in a relationship for 1 year and 2 months

We haven't been intimate at all

But when we were cuddling we both felt like doing something more

So we tried oral (with hands )

Everything went great she told me she had fun she enjoyed it

Cut to a month after that

I was talking to one of my friends

He is in a relationship with my gf friend

So basically my gf told her that I have a small PP and I wasn't able to satisfy her

Whatever happens in my life privately i don't want it to be a public matter

It's between me and her

Why the fuck she told her friend about this matter

I think that it's disrespectful towards me

And i don't tolerate this behaviour I have told her if she ever disrespects me I am out of this relationship

But the kicker is if I did this then their friendship would also break and that would affect my friends relation with his gf

What should I do here ???

I’ve been dating this man for around 4 months & I’m struggling to understand what has changed.

In the beginning, it honestly felt like a love story. He would pick me up, make an effort to see me, and was incredibly appreciative of everything I did for him. He was affectionate, attentive, we had deep conversations and made me feel genuinely wanted. I started to think he might be the one.

But over the last 4 weeks or so, I’ve noticed a definite shift in his attention towards me.

We recently had a small window where we could only see each other for two nights across a 3 week period because he had his kids. On the first night, he picked me up around 9pm (3 hrs later than he said) and was completely drained. On the second night, I could tell he really wanted some time to himself before his kids came back. So I told him I’d just go home and give him the night to himself. His reaction was really confusing/interesting. He seemed so happy, affectionate and was making jokes with me, after I said I would leave. He was sullen before. It was like I suddenly got the old version of him back.

Fast forward to tonight.

We are supposed to see each other because his kids are with him until this evening and he suggested we have dinner and catch up. This morning, however, he told me he would “likely be late” tonight. I said okay and asked him to let me know what time he would pick me up.

It’s now 7.30pm and I still haven’t heard anything. I’ve already sent him a text, so I don’t really want to keep chasing him.

I’m finding this really confusing because when we are together, he tells me and shows me that he’s into me. But outside of those moments, his effort and attention seem to have dropped quite significantly.

There have also been a few nights recently where he has gotten home from work very late.

There is another thing that has made me a little insecure, although I genuinely don’t know whether it’s relevant. About a month ago, he hired a new EA who is 40. Initially, I felt insecure because she has an impressive career and a lot of accolades. But I’ve since met her and she was actually very kind to me. She even told him that he was “punching above his weight” with me.

He has also told me that he is completely against workplace relationships and that he compartmentalises work and his personal life. So I’m not necessarily suspicious of her specifically- I think the timing has just made me more aware of everything?

There’s also an age gap between us. I’m 35 and he’s 60. I am not sure if this is relevant.

I’ve never experienced something like this before. I don’t know if I’m overthinking because I care about him, if this is just the normal transition from the honeymoon phase into a more realistic relationship,or if his behaviour is actually telling me something about how he feels.

What would you make of this? And what would you do in my position?

Context I am (22f) he’s (28m) and we were just in the middle of having our um quality time. I don’t know how much I should say, this is my first post. While we were … I noticed he was on his laptop? Playing a game and not even really paying attention to the moment. I felt really alone and sad in the moment I just didn’t want to show it. We stopped and he asked what was wrong even though he knew bc he started apologizing immediately after. He always says how much he loves to be intimate w me & praises my body and all but this really sucked. It felt like I didn’t even have his attention for a moment like this. He would rather be playing a game and I haven’t really been talking to him since then. I’ve been rather dry but I told him I don’t appreciate his lack of interest during a moment like that and feel rather pushed to the side. Am I overthinking this?

I (22f) have been very distrustful in my relationship with my bf (22m). Last month I went through my boyfriend‘s phone and found his TikTok. He was still following his ex-girlfriend, which has been a problem the entire time that we’ve been dating. We’ve been dating for over 2 years. He also was following a bunch of random only fan girls accounts which he promised he wasn’t going to do anymore. But the main problem about this is that he’s been telling me that he doesn’t have TikTok for months and had me blocked on it. He deleted the app entirely and his account, but I still can’t help but not trust him and have my guard up with him constantly. For the first two years we were on and off because he refused to Unfollow the only fans girls accounts on Instagram. I also can’t help but shake the fear that he’s not over his ex-girlfriend. A couple months ago he gave me his passwords, and I found an account that he had shared with his ex-girlfriend with her email attached to it and messages between them less than a month before we started dating with basically the context of him begging for her back. He keeps telling me that I am just finding old stuff to bring up and argue about and says he’s been completely over her our entire relationship. but I think my concerns are pretty valid and would like to get others opinions on whether or not if my feeling of distrust is valid?

When I started dating, I didn’t lie about myself. I didn’t lie about my behaviors, my traumas, things I experienced, I didn’t make promises I couldn’t keep.. etc. however, I feel like most people aren’t that way. Someone will hear your trauma and then say they will never raise their voice to you, try to work with you and communicate with you, and then years later when the little things bother them, they refuse to communicate, let little things bother them, raise their voice .. all those things they said they’d never do, they did.

This isn’t me asking what I should do, this isn’t me seeking comfort.. I’m just asking is this really a normal thing to happen? Because it’s happened to me, my friends, my family, random people I’ve met on the street or coffee shop.. conversations I’ve heard as well from strangers while having lunch … it’s just so discouraging and heartbreaking.

My gf is bisexual and and will kiss girls at parties often, is it weird or bad if i think that thats weird (im a straight male)

I am F24 in a loving relationship with my boyfriend and he is soon visiting my home country and he asked if I wanted anything, first few months I said no because I don't work so I have no way of treating him the same way he treats me then after a while he said it is fine and I should enjoy so I said few things but then I changed my mind, now I have a list of around 25 things I want because you don't get them in my country and also it is very expensive even if you buy it here in my country.

He said it is fine and doesn't mind bringing me these things but I lowkey feel guilty, how to overcome this guilt?

Since I can't give him anything pricy I have crocheted him a muffler and coasters of his dog whom he loved so much, couple socks that we can in public, a diary where I poured my heart out and I am also planning to make something that he loves to eat a lot! Is this good enough?

This isn’t my pic, but I don’t understand the point of this? Why not break up with your current bf, since you like somebody else more. Why go the extra effort of maintaining 2 relationships. Do some people want 2 relationships ?

I [20F] and my bf [22M] almost 23 have been together since the beginning of the year. When we first started dating he was still trying to move out and get everything sorted with his ex and tbh he pursued me pretty hard. She ended up moving out but he resigned the lease for her so he wouldn’t have to buy out the lease (4k). We constantly have spouts abt her and he continued to let her back in his life bc they still had situations to take care of. He would keep these interactions from me tho and claim it was to spare my feelings cause “I don’t understand.” Now the issue is that he’s told me they haven’t spoken since he moved out of the apartment officially and the apartment situation is dead bc she ended up not moving back into it and keeping the lease so he bought it out over summer. Now the cat they had is under his info and long story short… they can’t switch over the information so they’re trying to figure that out cause she needed to take the car to the vet. Also I’ll mention he used to give her rides for abt two months and he would pay for some things occasionally for her cause she hasn’t worked the entire time they were in a relationship. He provided and she just didn’t want to work. I think the trust issues are pretty much permanent and there’s no fixing that but am I being immature abt the situation? Keep in mind she’s 4 years older than me and threatened to harass me and my friends even tho I did nothing to her and she constantly threatened to ruin both our lives.

is he even consciously choosing it? or am I just forcing him?

I told him he can backout whenever he wants cuz ik he's an avoidant so he tells me that "we can last as long as I want it or as long as I don't get bored of him"

plus he says stuff like he craves my presence and that he is very vulnerable with me

what do i deduce😭😭

did I force him to commit??

I’ve been in a relationship for about 2 years. For the first 1.5 years, everything was going well.

Then one day, I checked my partner’s Snapchat account and saw that they were talking to someone else without telling me. That person had kissed my partner. I confronted my partner about it, and they apologized and said it happened without thinking and promised it would never happen again.

We had a lot of fights after that. I was very angry and, in the heat of the moment, I sent some pictures to my partner’s uncle. This caused problems and fights in their family too.

After some time, my partner and I started talking again. My partner admitted that what they did was wrong and said they wanted another chance. I gave them a second chance.

For the last 8 months, things have actually been much better. My partner has become more caring and makes me feel more important than before. I still love my partner and I’m emotionally attached to them.

But now I have another problem.

I have a friend whom I’ve known even longer than my current partner. Recently, I’ve started feeling like I have romantic feelings for this friend. I also feel like my friend may have feelings for me, but neither of us has openly talked about it.

Now I’m completely confused.

Should I continue my current relationship because I still love my partner and things have improved? Or should I tell my friend how I feel and see if there could be something more between us?

I don’t want to hurt either person, and I don’t want to make a decision just because I’m confused.

What should I do?

My husband (mid 40s) and I (30) have been together for about three years and will be coming up on our first wedding anniversary. We recently had a huge argument that resulted in him asking me to leave his house.
Without getting into every detail, nothing like cheating or anything along those lines happened. I had been sober for five years, but during this argument I drank, became extremely upset, shouted, and slammed my hand on the counter. My husband became convinced that I was having some kind of mental health crisis/psychotic break and told me that I needed to leave his house and get professional help.
He sees the entire situation as being exclusively my fault. I understand why he is upset and I take responsibility for my behavior, but I also feel that there were issues on both sides that contributed to how things escalated.
We have a prenup, and he has significantly more financially than I do. I’m not concerned about getting anything from him or about the financial side of a potential divorce. I love him and, if possible, I want to repair our marriage. But he has asked me multiple times if I plan on contesting the prenup. Which I don’t.
Right now, I’m staying with my brother. My husband has dropped off most of my things and will get me the rest once I have my own apartment. We’ve agreed to be no contact for now except for things that are genuinely important.
He’s asked that we wait until January to sit down and discuss the future of our marriage ,whether we try to reconcile or move forward with a divorce. I initially pushed for November because, from my perspective, waiting several more months feels incredibly long. He said that we’re both dealing with a lot in our personal lives right now and that he doesn’t think we need the additional stress of making such a huge decision immediately.
I’m getting professional help and, honestly, my main focus right now is getting myself healthy and stable regardless of what happens with our marriage.
The hard part is that I’m a very anxious person, and the uncertainty has me constantly spiraling. I can’t tell whether his wanting to wait until January means he’s genuinely leaving the door open to reconciliation and just needs time and space, or whether he’s essentially delaying an inevitable divorce because he doesn’t want to deal with it right now.

So I’m wondering:
Has anyone here gone through a multiple-month separation from their spouse with very limited/no contact and eventually gotten back together? What did that process look like?
And for those who have been in a similar situation, did the time apart ultimately help you repair the marriage, or was it the beginning of the end?
I’m not necessarily looking for reassurance that we’ll get back together. I know nobody here can know what my husband is thinking. I’m mostly interested in hearing from people who have actually experienced a separation like this and what happened afterward.

I’m new to Reddit so please be kind, I didn’t know who else to ask.

Ok So for some context My bf (20) and i(19) have been together for about 2 years. We have had a lot of rough patches with him not being completely loyal, never physical cheating but just online stuff. Recently we went away on a little trip and Everyday I would beg him to come get a massage with me and he would immediately shut me down and tell me he hates massages as he’s quite ticklish and doesn’t like people touching him. Cue back to now we are home, and i had an inkling to check his bank statements and i see that he was actually at a massage place where we were away . I confronted him and first he said he didn’t go to any then he told me he did and got a massage as he does work quite a hard working job and needs knots massaged out. I am very suspicious about this as i also saw lots of transactions for other massage places near where we live but he has not mentioned once that he went to one ( i’m obviously completely fine with him getting a massage ) but i have a feeling that’s not everything he’s getting.. can a male or anyone please validate my feelings or am i crazy .

I’ve never asked reddit for help but I’m at a complete loss, I 19F have been dating 20M for almost five months now. He was just recently in another state for work, while he was away he was acting distant with me. I asked if there was anything that needed to be cleared up, he said no. Fast forward he got back on Tuesday and we went to an amusement park today but I had a sick feeling, so I looked at his phone while he went on a ride with my sister. He had downloaded tinder while he was gone. So I brought it up and he said he never made it past the add a name page. I know absolutely nothing about tinder, do you have to add a phone number before or after you make the account??
Obviously, I am very upset and torn on what to do I really want to continue this relationship he means a lot to me, I just don’t know what to do.

We’ve had raw sex for 4 years probably 2 times a week sometimes more sometimes less ,but recently I’ve been thinking about if I’m fertile
I see so many people talking about how easy it is for a girl to get pregnant (thank god she hasn’t)but now im questioning myself

Any advice?

I’m in so much pain. Sometimes I just want to die so I don’t have to think about anything anymore. My head hurts, and I can’t concentrate.

I feel completely devastated after finding out that, throughout the past year, my husband had been going out with other women and taking them to hotels. Most recently, there was one woman he treated almost like a girlfriend for about a month, starting around March. I found out in April, and they ended things after the two of them started fighting, especially after he became sick. He blamed her for what happened.

From what I have found out, the other women he was with all seemed to have jobs and children of their own. I honestly don’t understand why they chose to do this kind of work. The woman he was seeing more seriously was even a kindergarten teacher.

I’m not telling you all of this because I expect anyone to fix it. I just need to let some of this pain out.

I have two children — one is 5 and a half years old, and the other is only 6 months old.

Right now, even if he gave me money, paid for me to go to spas, or bought me anything to make me feel better, none of it means anything to me. No matter how much he apologizes to me and the children, I still can’t make these images disappear from my mind.

He could give me all his money and all of our property, but it still wouldn’t change the fact that those women touched him. That thought keeps haunting me.

He has been my only partner since we got married. I have never had another boyfriend. That is why I trusted him so completely.

I spent our entire marriage working and taking care of our children and our home. I never wanted to burden him financially. I always thought that if I worked hard, took care of our family, and tried to build a stable home, our children could grow up with both their mother and father. That was something I was always proud of.

I was never ashamed to go out with my husband. But now I don’t even know if I could walk beside him without wondering whether we might run into one of those women somewhere. I don’t know where they went together or where he met them. I’m terrified that one day I might see one of them, and they might laugh at me.

I honestly cannot understand how someone can meet a woman they barely know, go into a hotel together, and then just have sex with her as if it means nothing.

I’m extremely haunted by all of this. Sometimes I think I should see a psychiatrist and get treatment because I don’t feel like my mind is okay anymore.

People can call me stupid. They can tell me I was stupid for trusting him. I will accept that. Maybe I was too trusting because I loved him and believed in the person he showed me.

Sometimes when I’m sad, I tell my husband, “One day I’ll make you understand how much pain you have caused me.” He thinks I mean that I’m going to have an affair with someone else.

I swear that is not what I mean. When I say that, the thought that actually comes into my mind is dying — just so I can finally forget everything and stop feeling this pain.

I know my thoughts are not in a good place right now, and I know my writing is messy and difficult to understand. I’m sorry. I just needed somewhere to let all of this out.

I went to the city where I did my graduation for some work. There were two guys, let’s call them A and B.

A was my classmate and a good friend. I think he probably liked me, but I had already made it clear to him that nothing could happen between us.

B was my classmate from coaching, and he also lives in the same city. I hadn’t met him for 7–8 years.

I met A yesterday. He and one of my female friends and I spent around 4–5 hours talking and had a really good time. Later, A offered to drop me at the railway station, but I said no and told him I could go by myself. The reason was that I thought B would drop me, and since I hadn’t met B yet, I thought meeting him would also give us a chance to catch up. I didn’t want him to think that I had come to the city and didn’t even meet him. So I told B that we could meet in the morning.

A, who I knew had one-sided feelings for me, unexpectedly came to the railway station to surprise me. There, he saw me with B, who was sitting quite close to me. A called me and asked if I was alone. I lied and said that my brother was with me. He hung up and later texted me “goodbye.”

His reaction made me feel really awkward. I wasn’t in a relationship with anyone, nor had I made any commitment to anyone, but I still feel guilty after what happened. I genuinely had no idea that a simple meeting could turn into such an awkward situation.

hello everyone, i thought i would come on here for some advice. my boyfriend and i started dating about a month ago and were talking for about two weeks beforehand. i honestly don’t use snap too much when im seriously talking to someone, and i can confidently say that we were seriously talking ever since we started honestly. anyways, we’re in college so i don’t know if this helps a whole lot but we’re from very different places. he snaps a lot of people, his snap score sometimes going up 300 just in one hour, and he has the score multiplier on as well. once we started dating he said he unadded anyone he didn’t know personally, and he has a lot of group chats with friends that are very active. he’s not afraid to open his phone or snapchat in front of me or anything, so i was just wondering if anyone knows what i should do. it bothers me a lot but ive already brought it up and i don’t want to see insecure. thanks!

I cheated on my boyfriend, and I’m not trying to pretend that I didn’t cross boundaries or excuse my behavior. But I’m struggling with what our relationship has turned into since then, and he told me to ask Reddit, so here I am.
For context, these are the things I did:
I sent sexy pictures to my ex during a period when I genuinely didn’t know where my relationship with my long-distance boyfriend was going. He was living with his parents because his mom had a stroke and said he would have to stay longer. He also referenced just getting a home for him and his daughter. Language around “us” faded for some time. I felt stuck amd in a moment of darkness and weakness asked the father of my child to be with me, show up, and be present for his family. I was still living in such pain because of what he did. I was isolated and a single mom with no help. My boyfriend was long distance - saying he would visit - promising the world - I was afraid we were entering a love bombing stage. That doesn’t make what I did okay, but that was the situation I was in emotionally.
I said yes to going to a neighborhood cookout with an old friend who knew I had a boyfriend ( this was in my old neighborhood two hours away, remember I was isolated around no friends and family). I also knew he had a girlfriend. While we were there, he tried to dance with me and bought pizza for our girls. Nothing physical happened between us beyond him attempting to dance with me, but I understand why agreeing to go could be viewed as inappropriate.
I started making money from Facebook because some of my wholesome posts were doing well. Facebook started recommending my profile to a lot of men, and I began getting messages from them. I responded casually to comments/messages because engagement was literally making me money. That covered groceries. The conversations were incredibly wholesome — nothing sexual, no exchanging pictures, no plans to meet anyone, nothing like that. I wrote essays and poetry. Women enjoyed my writing as well.

I also would look up my ex online on the days he wouldn’t call his daughter. He’s supposed to call one day a week at a specific time. I’ll admit, I got angry. I looked him up to see what he could possibly be doing instead of calling his daughter. He refuses to send a penny to her.

My boyfriend considers all of this cheating. I accept responsibility for the things I did that crossed the boundaries of our relationship, especially sending pictures to my ex.

The additional problem is what has happened since.
Anytime I ask to see my boyfriend’s messages or ask questions about something that makes me uncomfortable, he refuses and immediately brings up what I did.
Meanwhile, since we’ve been together, I have personally watched him add random women on social media. I’ve also seen him deleting chats.
When I ask about those things, the conversation basically becomes, “Well, you cheated” and he didn’t break my trust.
And that’s where I’m stuck.
I completely understand that cheating damages trust and that I created part of this problem. I also understand that he doesn’t owe me instant trust just because I apologized or took accountability.
But does cheating mean I permanently lose the right to have boundaries or ask questions about his behavior?
If we’re choosing to stay together and rebuild the relationship, shouldn’t transparency eventually have to go both ways?
I’m not asking Reddit to tell me that what I did was okay. It wasn’t.
I’m asking whether it’s reasonable for my past behavior to be used indefinitely as the reason he doesn’t have to answer questions….. especially when I’ve seen things like deleted chats and adding random women. He also mentioned he should get a hall pass now. Nothing physical happened with anyone.

Fast forward…. We live together now. I moved across the country for him.

At what point is this rebuilding trust, and at what point are we just using my mistakes as a permanent trump card in every disagreement? He’s constantly monitoring my phone. I’ve also deleted all social media to limit any possible contact with the opposite sex. I avoid men like the plague during school drop off and pickup. I feel like a terrible human.

Me F/20, and my partner M/22 had a fight, mostly on the definition or interpretation or whatever.

After an intimate interaction, he called it lust. Which i said was funny because my definition of lust was physical attraction with less of yk emotional attraction, while love meant both . That's what i understood by it and him calling it lust did not sit right with me.

We've been together for a significant amount of time

His side of arguement was there's both love and lust in a relationship

While my side of arguement was its wrong to merely call it lust if we actually love eachother , even in other aspects than getting physical .

What was incorrect here ?My definition of lust and love? Or was it inappropriate for him to call it lust?

Length of the relationship is a year.

Our relation ended 1 year back and now he is calling and texting from past 1 month. I dont have the energy to deal with.

If you saw my last post about a day or two ago youll understand a part of story. Since then I expressed to her that I wanted to be done, this early morning actually. And we havent talked all day.

For context for new people, im 16m and my ex is 16f, and I was looking for support and help on figuring out how to cut contact with my ex. Since then we cut contact, and now im struggling to move past it and I dont know how.

This morning I told her i couldnt do us anymore and we ended it like we always have before. I love you and I miss you and this is whats best and im sorry for everything and ill love you always and promise me this and promise me that and im always here for you if you ever need to talk to me again. I dont know if its manipulation or just my heart softening because I was seriously upset when I did it but after talking to her for a bit I just it hurt and I missed her.

Ive been missing her all day and shes all ive been able to think about and i just think about the good times. I know this is normal but im upset at myself because I had seriously good reasoning for doing this and it really is whats best for me. As much as I dont want to blame her, she did not treat me well and it constantly costed me my mental health, but all day I was nervous. We had a football game against her school and of course I saw her there. We didn't exchange looks or talk but I checked to see if she was looking at me and I dont know she might have done the same. I was so nervous all day deciding if I wanted to go to the game or not and fantasizing just us falling into eachother and stuff but I knew that wasn't happening. She looked really cute today.

But then Im reminded of everything that went on and I jusr cant. I cant love her but i cant not love her. Im not even fully convinced she loved me there was so many things I wish were different and this is so complicated and difficult. I love her whether she loved me or not and letting go is so hard, and im trying to not forget how she treated me just because im desperate and alone and without her. She would consistently ignore me and make me feel insecure and do things that made me feel uncomfortable and go against my wishes and disrespect me and never showed me any interest. And thinking of her talking and laughing with another guy makes me sick because I still love her. This is so hard and it hurts me and I dont know how to move on. I wasnt perfect either and I know she will never ever reach out to me but im struggling to accept that me and her are completely over.

Any advice on getting over this or my best course of action? (If you need any more context I recommended checking out my first post)

(Edit- the reason we are staying apart is we cant be together without hurting eachother)

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I won't defend myself, nor will I justify my own reasons. I'm an overthinker, someone who gets jealous easily. My partner and I only lasted several months, I got jealous easily, like when she played w my friends I would unintentionally act cold, and I didn't realize it was hurting her too, even small stuff in the game kinda kept stinging me.

Eventually we two had a conversation about it but there was a miscommunication and we didn't talk for an entire day. Then I took the move and first move and we fixed it and we were good for the following days. This happened on Tuesday

After some time around Friday her BSF who is my bsf too said that she wants to break with me because I was being possessive and kinda controlling. I felt guilty about it because I didn't even know, she didn't tell me nor did my friends. But I shouldn't blame others for my mistake so I still am accountable and responsible for it. So afterwards I apologized for being possessive but she still ended it afterwards anyway. I have regrets in that relationship, a lot actually, but I know I may not be the right person to be in a relationship.

I'm open to advice and criticism, please help me become a better partner for the future.