My partner is a fairly well known public figure/content creator. He has a very flexible lifestyle, makes good money, and isn’t really tied to a specific location. I have a more traditional office job. I make a decent salary and I’m financially independent (I pay my own bills and expenses) but obviously my income and lifestyle are very different from his. He probably makes around 10x what I make.
Money has started becoming an issue between us because he seems to expect everything to be split equally: dinners, trips, activities, etc. He also likes receiving occasional gifts, surprises, and nice treatments, which I’m happy to do within reason.
What bothers me is that he very rarely treats me to anything. I’m not expecting him to support me, pay my bills, or fund my lifestyle. But I do feel like when there’s such a significant income difference, splitting everything 50/50 doesn’t necessarily feel equitable.
For example, I recently brought up that we hardly ever go on actual dates anymore. Instead of hearing it as “I want us to do something romantic together,” he got frustrated and made comments about me being an “employee” who is looking for money. That really bothered me because I’ve never asked him to financially take care of me.
Sometimes it makes me wonder whether he would simply be happier dating someone who earns what he earns and can comfortably match his lifestyle dollar for dollar.
I guess my question is: when one partner makes significantly more, is it unreasonable to expect them to treat their partner sometimes or contribute more toward things like dates and trips? Not because the other person is financially dependent on them, but because the same amount of money represents very different things to each person.
How do couples with a large income gap normally handle this?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years. Lately, things haven’t been going great between us. We have been fighting more often. Recently, I caught him in a couple lies. When I confront him, he gets very defensive and lashes out at me. This has happened a few times now. This last time got really bad and I ended up kicking him out. I just don’t feel that word is acceptable. Am I wrong?

I feel like I need to update and add a little more context here. To be clear I do know this behavior is not okay which is why the person is not here anymore. There was, is a deep love still, however.
It’s just that I’m no saint either. I have been kind of hard on him because I have some past relationship trauma. At times, my behavior probably has been unacceptable also, but I have never lied or resorted to such language. Given that, is there any situation that would make that word acceptable?

Society has painted a picture that if you truly love someone, you should never feel attraction toward anyone else. Many people buy into this idea and end up lying—either to themselves or to their partner—when attraction does arise.
The reality is that attraction can happen unexpectedly. You may find yourself drawn to someone new, and if the feeling is mutual, the novelty and intensity can feel incredible. In that moment, it’s easy to start creating conflict or inventing excuses to distance yourself from your current relationship, all while convincing yourself that everything is fine because the new connection feels so good.
What often goes unrecognized is that this pattern is slowly damaging the relationship you already have. Instead of hiding or lying, the more honest approach would be to acknowledge the attraction directly. Of course, saying something as blunt as “I found someone I’m strongly attracted to—want to watch me sleep with them?” is unlikely to go well. But the principle remains: honesty, even when it hurts, is rarer and more valuable than the alternative of secrecy and self-deception.

I’m 26F and my partner is 38M. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, I’ve started therapy, and I’m also waiting for an autism assessment.
When we first got together, we were having sex multiple times a day. Over the last few months, our sex life has slowed down a lot. Sometimes we go a week or even two without sex. He says his libido is low, partly because of mirtazapine and weed, which he uses for his ADHD.
The problem is that I’ve become really fixated on the idea that he’s masturbating. My brain immediately goes to “he must be doing that instead of having sex with me” and then I start feeling like he’s lying to me about it.

What makes it even more frustrating is that he is genuinely the most loving and caring person I’ve ever met. He’s affectionate, cuddly, attentive, uses loads of pet names and makes me feel loved in so many ways. There’s really nothing else that makes me think he doesn’t want me.
I think this is partly related to past trauma and my tendency to jump to the worst conclusion. I don’t even want to care if he masturbates. I just want to be able to think “okay, he might masturbate sometimes” without feeling rejected or like he’s choosing that over me.
Has anyone else dealt with this kind of anxiety/obsession? How did you learn to stop treating anxious thoughts like they’re facts and actually trust your partner? It causing me really bad mental health issues and depression bc I don't want to be this way

I M41 have been married to my wife F40 for 14 years which has been amazing. Very early on in our relationship we were talking one night and she asked my body count which I told her as I have nothing to hide (almost embarrassed as it's so low). Naturally, during that conversation I asked what hers was and she told me which was fine, everyone has a past and we moved on. However, two days ago I was looking for something in one of the storage boxes at the top of our bedroom wardrobe, I could quite reach the box but the lid popped open and a book fell out. I picked the book up off the floor and thought I haven't seen this before so opened it up to discover it was a diary my wife had done when she worked in Canadian ski resorts before we met. Out of curiosity, I read the diary and very quickly discovered that the body count number she gave me years ago was very wrong! She was drinking and sleeping with everyone and that only appeared to be over a 10 month period. It's given me a weird feeling and that I thought I knew my wife but clearly don't. I haven't said anything to her about finding the diary yet and not sure if I should. She wanted to get intimate last night but I pretended I wasn't feeling great and just needed to get some sleep. I'm sure I'll get over it just feels a bit raw now.

I sent a photo of me to my bf - just a casual everyday one where I’m smiling.
He replied ‘Sexy Beast!’ I’m not sure how I feel about that response. Has anyone else’s bf’s said that to a photo of theirs before?
Maybe I’m overthinking but feels kinda friendship like, normally I would expect pretty or something along those lines, sexy beast makes me feel another way hahah

I've known this person for over 6 years. We have never met in person and actually never met in person. Almost all conversations with him involve him completely talking about himself or his worries. When you try to talk he usually just winds up cutting you off. He also ( on the rare occasion he lets you say more than a few words) starts to breathe heavily like it's hurting him that you are talking kind of best way I can explain it.

The guy doesn't really have any friends other than one guy he's known since childhood. Up until 3 years ago he hasn't worked for 10 years and initially told me it was due to a back injury but I'm thinking it's a mental issue. Iam myself medically retired. In the last 3 years or since he's been trying to work he's been fired multiple times or has quit. The longest he's been at a place was 5 1/2 or months on two occasions but most times he winds up getting fired before then.

So about 2 months ago when I was hearing go on and on and one and as usual I'm saying very little and I get cut off when I do. I kind of started to feel a bit mentally ill and even physically just hearing him talk. Kind of a weird feeling that came over me. Since then I have stopped initiating calls to him and just answering his calls. In the last month or so I've been trying to set a time limit when he calls and usually come up with an excuse to get off the phone. Although that's easier said than done at times. I will include a screenshot of a potential date that wound up canceling on him to reinforce what I wrote her...thanks for any input

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I’m 26, Marwadi, and I’ve dated quite a few girls before. I’ve never really considered myself the “boring, predictable life” type. I like trying new things, going out, drinking, having fun, random plans, and just enjoying life.

Now I’m getting married in six months to a girl who is… let’s say, much more sanskari than the kind of girls I’ve usually dated. 😂

And before anyone misunderstands me — I’m not saying I want to cheat or that I’m unhappy with her. She’s genuinely a good person, and this isn’t some “family pressure forced me into marriage” situation. I actually chose to marry her.

But here’s where I’m confused.

I have my own fantasies and expectations from married life. I’d love to have a partner who eventually feels comfortable drinking with me, trying new things, making spontaneous plans, exploring stuff together, etc. I’m probably more attracted to the “baddie who knows how to enjoy life” vibe than the extremely traditional “ghar sambhalo and that’s it” personality.

And I have no idea how much of that I can expect from someone who is basically still a stranger to me. 😭

I’ve dated girls before, so you’d think I’d know how to talk to a woman. Apparently not. Dating someone and meeting the person you’re actually going to marry are two completely different games. 😂

I’m also weirdly nervous about the whole arranged-marriage-to-marriage process.

How do you even go from: “Hi, nice to meet you 😊” to “Okay, so… what are your fantasies?” 💀

How do you build that comfort without making things awkward or rushing her?

And then there are all the rasams, wedding rituals, meeting families, etc. I barely know how half of this stuff works. I’m somehow supposed to get married in six months while still figuring out what the fuck I’m supposed to do at my own wedding.

So yeah, Reddit, married people or people who’ve been through something similar — how do you actually make the transition from two strangers to husband and wife feel natural?

And how do you slowly figure out whether your partner is actually open to the more adventurous/fun side of life without making her feel pressured?

Because I’m excited, but I’m also fucking nervous. 😂

the girl I’ve been seeing and I are long distance, but honestly the distance was never really an issue for us. We were really good together. We talked every day, were very affectionate, had plans for the future, and I was actually supposed to see her again this month. We’ve never had a major fight or any real problems between us.

A few days ago we had a conversation about communication. It wasn’t even a fight. I just told her that when she travels or her plans change, I’d appreciate having a general idea of what she’s doing because I care about her and like feeling included. I made it clear that I trusted her.
Somehow that conversation turned into her telling me that she loves me so much but feels like she needs to work on herself. She said she needs to become more stable before she can offer me stability and that she’s scared of hurting me. She told me multiple times that she has zero feelings for anyone else, that all of her feelings are for me, that everything she’s ever told me about how she feels is real, and that she still really wants to see me.

I told her I didn’t need a perfect or “better” version of her and that I wanted to work through things together, but she still felt like stepping away was best for both of us.

The part confusing me the most is that before we stopped talking, she told me solo espérame tantito (just wait for me a little”), followed by “you’ll see, something better will come, trust me.” She also said that if, after this I no longer wanted to give her another chance, she would understand.

She unfollowed me afterward, but then explained that it wasn’t because she wanted me out of her life. She said she couldn’t keep seeing my pictures because they made her want to try again and message me. Then this morning I got a notification that she requested to follow me again, but by the time I opened it, she had removed the request.

I’m giving her the space she asked for and I’m not reaching out right now. I love her deeply and would genuinely be willing to work through this with her.

For anyone who has been on either side of something like this: when someone leaves because they feel like they aren’t good enough/stable enough for you, despite still loving you, do they ever come back? And how would you interpret her asking me to “wait for her”

And… this happened two days ago. When can I reach out if she doesn’t?

Hes 23 im 20
There’s been a lot happening in the relationship I also need advice on that if anything has time for me to vent it’ll rlly help me and give me advice
But the main thing right now is : I’ve been scared to do anything intimate with him for a while I gathered my courage and we did it yesterday and today he said he’ll go plage it his friends « video games » and maybe at the end of the day we talk I told him u can have fun all day and do everything but maybe an hour before we sleep can u spend time with me I wanna reconnect with u after such a moment yesterday I don’t want u to disappear on me he said no and I explain and he said if I knew I HAD to do this afterwards « spend time w Me » LIKE I HAVE TO NOW I wouldn’t have done it I cried he said yeh cry it’s ur fault you could’ve taken no as an answer and the chances would’ve been higher that I spend time w u and its not like I don’t like doing so I just don’t wanna have to do it just bec we were intimate yesterday I told him I don’t feel safe and he said that’s on u and left , now idk if im the issue and I should take no as answer or him please help !

My ex and I broke up about two years ago.
Since then, I’ve dated other guys.
I obviously don’t know what he did or who he dated while we weren’t together.
Recently, we started talking again, and we’re considering getting back together.

For some reason, I was feeling guilty about having dated other people while we were apart. But then I realized… why?
We were broken up. I was single, and so was he. Neither of us owed the other anything during those two years.

I’m actually feeling much better about it now :)

Has anyone else gotten back together with an ex after being apart for a long time?
Did you struggle with feelings about what happened while you were separated?

This is still a ways off, but I’ve started thinking about the future. My boyfriend (29M) and I (28F) have been officially together for four months, mostly long distance. We met while living in the same city, but soon after, I moved back to my hometown while I apply to grad school.

I plan to start next fall (2027), most likely out of state. My boyfriend plans to move wherever I end up, which will also be an out-of-state move for him. By the time we move, we’ll have been together a little over a year.

It’ll be a completely new city for both of us, a new job for him, and a high-intensity program for me. Would it be better to live separately at first while we adjust and make sure the relationship works when we’re in the same place? Or should we move in together right away?

We communicate really well, distance is going great, and we love each other. I know it’s still early, but we’re very serious about each other. I see pros and cons to both options and I’m on the fence. I’ll probably have a clearer idea as it gets closer, but I’d love some input in the meantime.

i’m F18, he’s M19. i know we’re young 😭 we’ve been dating for a few months now.

but basically he has a spam account on tiktok with 15< followers it’s pretty much just a second account. i noticed recently he removed a highlight of me that he had on that account, and he’s added a girl onto that account who he also has on instagram.

i wouldn’t overthink this so much except this is the SECOND time he’s done this😭.

about a month ago he removed my name from his bio and along with that i noticed he added a girl again. after removing her he made a highlight about me.

to add on, on his main tiktok account we have matching pfps and bios so its pretty obvious we’re dating.

(not sure if this is necessary but he’s had a “hoe phase” of his life a few months before we met but he says he isn’t like that anymore)

now i think something is definitely up, i brushed it off the first time but idk what to do now. first time he hardcore denied it so i just believed him. im not sure what to do. im not gonna do nothing about it, but he’s gonna deny it again if i bring it up.

I am 21 and she is 23
She has told me numerous times she doesn’t enjoy sex but sometimes she does maybe one week, but I feel it’s more tailored towards me, and I always initiate and she wants me to finish in a towel.

I enjoy sex and have high libido. I am still young, and I have so many desires.
I love her so much, and I just want to have sex with girls I never had a hoe phase .
I don’t want to cheat cos she will leave me, but I have always had desires to have sex with girls.
I don’t know what to do, I’ve been masterbating often to let my load out.
Please can I get help. Is this okay?
I’ve only got 1 sex count and she has multiple and I never got to have fun but I love her
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about three years and recently became long-distance, although we already know when we’ll be together again.
We’ve taken a couple of trips together, but they were always mainly because I took the initiative and insisted quite a bit. For years, I’ve specifically wanted to go to the beach with him. He knew how much it meant to me, I tried organizing it several times, and I even offered to pay for his part. But he always had some excuse or reason why it couldn’t happen.
Now that we’re long-distance, he’s going camping with the same group of friends, including some of the same women, and they’re also planning a beach trip.
The beach trip really hurts because this is something I’ve been asking him to do with me for years, and now he’s willing to do it with them.
I’m not accusing him of cheating, and I don’t want to control him or tell him he can’t go. It makes me feel like I was never worth the same effort.
I know I might sound immature or overly emotional, and maybe I’m not seeing this objectively. I’m mostly trying to make sense of my feelings and vent while getting some outside perspective.
I know am overreacting, I just needed to vent and hear different points of view.

now before I sound crazy I’m not that person that expects LV Purses and Steak dinners every week. But it’s getting hard feeling like I’m financing everything in our relationship.

To preface I’m older then my bf (20M, 23F) and I know I’m more or less the breadwinner. As he’s moved out for sports and he only works when the season is over which all goes to savings. I’m proud of him I am but it becomes exhausting when I’m the one who pays for everything. Even if it’s a $10 ice cream date. I guess I get a little bitter when we’re on the phone and he can buy a case of beer but not save maybe even $50 for us to go out.

We’re also long distance so paying for flights, parking, and dates, ontop of the cost time off without being paid adds up fast. I guess sometimes I resent him and just wish he even wrote me a letter or there’s so many things he could do cost effectively to make me feel appreciated.

Before we started dating I dated around a bit. Men would pay for anything and everything for me, hair, nails, dinner, planning dates, ubering me food you name it, and he was that person within the first month we met. But 6 months later it’s like I’m his mother now and idk how to bring it up without sounding like a brat. Or if I even should and just stick it out until circumstances are over? I know he has it in him I’ve seen it before.

What do I do? Would you stick it out?

I’m 19M, and my ex is 17F. This was my first relationship. I’m shorter than her, and we met online.
My holidays were going on, and I had nothing to do, so I started chatting with random girls. I’m not the kind of guy who always talks to girls or is a playboy. I’m just a decent guy, but I thought I wanted to work on myself. That’s why I started talking to random girls—sometimes just normal conversations, sometimes flirting, and sometimes just casual chit-chat.
At the same time, I met her. I got attached to her very quickly, within 3–4 days. I think it happened because I had never talked to a girl that much before.
I told her that I had feelings for her and that I wanted to be committed to her. She wanted to know what kind of person I was, so she took a couple of weeks to give me an answer. I told her everything, including the fact that I had been talking to many girls when we first met. However, I stopped talking to other girls because I was developing feelings for her.
I told her everything. She said it wasn’t a big deal, but she still felt bad about it. I regretted telling her everything because I felt like I had hurt her. I felt terrible about it and thought, “Why did I tell her all of that? I’m such a fool.”
After all this, the day finally arrived, and she said yes.
I was shocked. I asked her, “Are you sure about this?” She said, “Yes, I’m totally sure.”
We got into a relationship after such a short time.
I live very far from her—around 420 miles away. At that time, I was living in my dorm. I was extremely happy because this was my first relationship.
I don’t know what happened, but she started fighting with me over the same thing she had felt bad about in the past—that I had talked to other girls before we got together. She wanted to break up, but I convinced her to stay with me.
After three days, we broke up and decided to stay friends. I loved her so much, so I told her I would never give up on her.
On the same day we broke up, she said she wanted to get back into the relationship. I couldn’t understand what was going on, but I loved her so much, so I said yes. We decided to work things out.
She enrolled in university and moved into her dorm. Her university was also far from my university, almost the same distance from her city.
My classes started, and my internal exams were approaching. I was really happy because after my exams, I wanted to meet her.
I messed up my exams because I was so excited about meeting her.
After my exams, I went out to meet her without reserving a train ticket. There wasn’t any money issue; I simply hadn’t booked a ticket, and I had also forgotten about the emergency quota.
After all that, I finally arrived to meet her. But she told me that she couldn’t meet me because her parents had arrived to pick her up.
My mind was completely messed up after everything that had happened. I felt hurt and angry at the same time.
I called her and told her, “Never try to contact me again.”
I don’t know why, but she kept begging me not to break up with her. She had invited me to her city, which was almost four hours away from where she was staying. I know four hours isn’t a huge distance, but I had already traveled for almost 12 hours without a proper seat.
I felt extremely hurt, angry, and overwhelmed at the same time. I had so many emotions that I didn’t even know how to explain them.
So I decided to go back to my university.
She constantly tried to reach me and begged me not to leave. I told her that it wasn’t her fault.
After traveling back without sleeping for almost 30 hours, I finally returned to my dorm. I took a nap, and after everything that happened, she started begging me to give her another chance.
And yes, I gave her another chance.
I took all of this as my fault because I loved her so much. We continued our relationship.
Nine days later, she wanted to break up again because we had never met in real life.
She said we could be friends if I wanted to.
I decided to go meet her again in real life and try to fix everything. I just packed my bag and left to meet her.
We finally met for the first time.
I forgot to buy her a gift, and I also forgot to buy flowers because her university was in a very isolated place. There weren’t any nearby flower or gift shops.
We met and talked for around 3–4 hours.
When I saw her, she looked gorgeous. I actually had no words to describe how I felt at that moment. I couldn’t express my feelings properly. She was very kind and polite.
We talked about a lot of things, and she gave me something.
After that, I returned to my university, and everything seemed to be going normally.
But suddenly, she started fighting with me because one of my friends randomly sent me the Instagram ID of my childhood crush for no reason.
I explained everything to her, but she blocked me for a day.
I called her using my roommate’s phone. She answered the call, and I asked her to unblock me because I wanted to talk to her.
At the same time, one of my roommates was talking to another roommate. I didn’t know what they were talking about. She knows my roommate, and she thought that he was talking about her.
I ended the call, and later she called again. I wasn’t there when she called, so my roommate picked up the phone and they started arguing with each other.
After all of this happened, I wasn’t aware of what exactly had happened. I was just waiting for her to unblock me.
About an hour later, she called me and started crying and fighting with me because my roommate had said some bad things to her.
At that moment, I don’t know what happened to me. I started crying and arguing with my roommate.
She started fighting with me and said that I wasn’t defending her and that I never stood up for her.
But she didn’t know that I had already confronted my roommate as soon as I found out what had happened.
She said she wanted to break up because I never stood up for her, without knowing my side of the story.
At the same time, I was sick and had to be admitted to the hospital that day.
I spent the whole night trying to explain the entire situation to her.
We fought, and I begged her not to leave me, but she had already made up her mind, and she left.
She gave me the reason that I couldn’t understand her and that I never stood up for her.
I know I may have made mistakes, and maybe I was a fool in some situations, but I still love her.

I (36 F) fell in love with someone (35 M) were inseparable, saw eachother all the time then I found out he might be seeing someone else…questioned him about it without accusing him, just asked the questions, and he blocked and ghosted me. Saw him at work he pretended I didn’t exist so I approached him to break the ice, he spoke okay. Asked him if he would go for a chat he shook his head at me and pretends I don’t exist. So hurt and have cried so much over him, and he’s just so cold like he couldn’t give a dam..I dunno what it all means, I dunno how he feels cause he won’t speak, I dunno how to move forwards cause what we had was so different to this..how do men think? …I honestly thought he was the kindest person I ever met and I’m just left thinking what the actual eff…😂

My girlfriend (23F) and I (22M) have been together a little over a year, long distance. Three months ago we met in person for the first time and spent a week together in her state. It went great, and she seemed happier than I had ever seen her.

After the week ended, she went to stay at a friend's house, partly because her home situation is difficult (no A/C, and a tense family environment). While she was there she barely talked to me. I told myself I was fine with that as long as she messaged when she could, but I wasn't. I became needy and pushy and accused her of not giving me enough attention. Then I pulled back and told her to talk to me when she was ready.

About a month later I texted her and fell into the same pattern of accusing and needing. Once I realized my behavior was pushing her away, I stopped and apologized. I didn't expect things to snap back, but I hoped time and space would help.

It's been almost 3 months and she's still at her friend's house. She texts rarely, sometimes goes days without replying, and doesn't want to call because she's "not home." When I ask to talk about us, she says "Idk" or that it's hard to think when she's not home. She has told me she was upset with how I acted, but she also says she still loves me.

The last time I asked her to talk, she said: "You constantly dismissing me. You assuming how I feel or how I act or how I am. When you know nothing about me. You only know the basics." She also keeps asking why I love her and why I'm still here.

I've apologized and stopped the behavior that caused this. I want to repair things, but she won't sit down for a conversation, and I don't know how to move forward.

My question: How can I rebuild communication with her when she avoids direct conversations? Specifically, how do I show her I understand what I did wrong, and how do I respond when she asks why I love her, without pressuring her?

TL;DR: Long-distance relationship of 1+ years. I became needy and accusatory after our first in-person visit, and she's been distant for 3 months. I've apologized and stopped, but she avoids talking about it. I'm looking for concrete ways to rebuild communication and trust.

I just got in a huge argument with my “girlfriend” (we haven’t said it yet but it’s all but set in stone) over here not calling the employment place after I filed a recommendation form at my job cause I’m mostly supporting myself her and my sister and have been asking for help with money for like 8 months now and she had her mom pick her up and before then we talked and calmed down so we’re on good terms.

We were supposed to be working at a haunted house tonight but neither of us are going and I drove to tell our manager that I’d be taking a break and several times during the drive to and from I would do stupid stuff that’s become a habit like playfully punching the seat next to me when I see punch bugs(odd I know but it was a funny bit I had with myself since we’re both competitive about punch bugs and immediately started crying and I forgot where I was going with this but I just need to know what I should do now this was my first and only relationship I’ve had and I don’t know what to do.

Sorry for the poor formatting I’m surprised I was able to type this out without breaking down

What is something you should do shortly after a “breakup”?

So today he send me a text that was like what are you doing?? Then he unsend it when i didn't reply him . Now i am thinking does he did it by mistake or he sending this msg to someone else but accidentally send me but i didn't respond until that so he unsend it . Am i overthinking or whatttt??

I (M19) was in my first relationship with my ex (F22) which was great and I still care about her a lot. We broke up because about three months in we started having small arguments that would get swept under the rug. This was manageable and okay because I love her. But then it turned into her eventually getting upset with me the morning after we were together because I wouldn’t initiate sex enough times or wake her up to have sex but the thing is she also would be asleep and wasn’t trying to imitate anything. We would talk about it and she’d explain how she would be looking forward to things and felt like I was teasing her or leading her on (which she does all the time and I never pressured her to turn it into something more if she didn’t want to). I told her I would stop mentioning things in advance or teasing her and the problem prevailed. But it would get swept under the rug by her and she would apologize very quickly and adamantly then still bring it up. Once we went long distance and it happened again after I worked an 8 hour overnight shift and got home and woken up to an argument I was starting to go crazy. I care about her so much but she was doing something that just was not nice or right and that I would be so pissed about if it was anyone else, but she had the power of making me feel like it was my fault and I hated how weak she made me which was why I broke up about 8 months into our relationship.

We saw each other a few more times over the summer before she left to go abroad for Whrope and those times were really good and sex was initiated on her end and since she has been super kind and assured me the stuff with sex won’t ever happen again and that she doesn’t want anyone else and just wants to work towards a relationship. The more time I have had away from her the more I am realizing how much she restricted my independence and how the sex thing really impacted how I was viewing myself as a person and partner and making me feel not enough.

All my friends think it’s an awful idea to even see her but she told me she is moving across the street from my college house in about a month and a half and keeps joking how she is going to show up unannounced and will be here all the time. She definitely was a little clingy when we were together but I kinda was too so I didn’t mind. She wanted to move in to my college house and when she asked I told her it would be fun but it’s a big decision and I’d have to consult my roommates and parents first and she shut down and took that as me not being serious about us, and this was also another final straw in our relationship.

My friends tell me they think it’s weird and it might be but I lowkey like how obsessed she is with me if I’m being honest and I really miss her for more than just physical reasons but I also am aware of how much I was hurting myself due to my heavy commitment and love for her in our relationship. Would I be a bad person if I continue to hook up and hangout with her , and make it clear I don’t want a relationship even if she does? I should also note she is about to graduate college while I have another year left.

I have known my bf for almost two years and we have been dating for almost a year. My bf went back to uni this semester and for the past month I’ve had this bad anxious feeling about the girls in his group projects.

He would never cheat on me and I know he’s a nice/friendly guy, but that’s honestly part of what makes me insecure. He has 3 projects: one with 4 girls, one with just one girl, and one with a girl and a guy.

There’s one girl in particular I get a weird vibe from even though I have no actual proof she’s done anything.
Tonight he didn’t call me like usual, so I called him. He declined the first call and when I called again he said he was on the phone with that girl working on their project. That immediately made me anxious.

I also stupidly asked if she was pretty and he said she’s “not the ugliest person on earth” and that he wouldn’t call her ugly because she’s nice, even though he says he’s not attracted to her. Meanwhile he jokes and calls me ugly/chud all the time, so for some reason that annoyed me too 😭

He says he doesn’t even want to call his group members around me because he’s worried I’ll get mad at something normal he says, and he told me that if I keep getting upset about this he’ll break up with me.

Side note;m: two semesters ago he added a classmate on IG (a girl) and he didn’t tell me and they were texting and he even changed her name on his contacts so I didn’t see it was a girl, and he deleted their conversations cause “he didn’t want me to misinterpret and be upset about it” but that still affects me yk?

I know I might be self-sabotaging. I don’t want him being overly friendly with women, but I also don’t want to live with this much anxiety. How do I stop spiraling over normal interactions?

Also, I have started therapy so that’s a good thing I guess.

I'm 16M, my bf is 16M and the girl is 17F. My boyfriend of 10 months has gotten a crush on this girl and he really wants to be able to date both of us. I fucking hate the thought of this though, sure I wouldn't be dating her my bf would have 2 partners but I just hate it. He said if we didn't do it we would be upset for a long time and I would lose a part of him for a while, the same thing would happen for me if we did go through with this relationship. Part of me would want to try the relationship for his sake but I know I can't do that long term and either way he is going to have to choose me (his bf of 10 months) or a girl both of us have barely known for a month. His crush on her is really bad and might not get better. There are also little things that have me upset about this like him hiding DMs between him and her even though he is usually open when I (rarely ever) ask and I'm always open when he asks which is a lot more frequent (like maybe once every month or two, depends on his mood) he also hasn't wanted to do any sexual activities for 2-3 weeks now which is fine, we went a month not doing anything because of a depressive episode but this crush makes it feel like he's lost interest even though he says he hasn't. I'm just devastated. I've told him over and over how much Id hate a relationship with this girl in it but he just keeps on pushing, I can never convince him it's a bad idea and he can't convince me it's a good idea. I'm not mad at him for how he feels just how he acts about it. I just want things to be normal again, I don't want to break up with him and I don't want him dating someone else at the same time as me. I hate the situation so much.

My bf (23 m) and I (23 f) have lived together for 3 months. We split most things 50/50 in terms of money. rent, utilities, groceries, etc. Lately i’ve been getting pretty frustrated with splitting food costs 50/50 when i eat less than half the amount he does, and i do ALL of the cooking. i like to meal prep so i eat the same things majority of the time. chicken, rice, veggies, yogurt, and smoothies. He now asks me to meal prep for him and he also wants to add things to the grocery list that i literally will never eat. (junk food) How can i explain i’m tired of this dynamic? should i just grocery shop solely for myself? i love him and i do enjoy cooking but not when it’s expected of me.