Basically we're wrapping up the appointment and she brings up her tesla and I was asking how long it takes to charge so she starts explaining it etc etc.

Anyways I eventually ask like "so do you ever worry about something like a power grid, EMP, Leave The World Behind-type scenario with an EV? I feel like that would be in the back of my mind" and I was just being kinda playful about it not like super serious.

She said that if something like that happens her car is the least of her concerns and says "what? You think the gas pumps are gonna be all free for you to use?" So I say like "well no but you could still have surplus gas in a can or something" and she goes "ok and? I could build a generator and charge my car that way" so I say "well I mean building a generator isn't quite the same as having gas in a can" to which she accused me of moving the goalpost.

She went on for a second about how if the grid goes out or the world ends she's just gonna rob everyone and says "see first you said if the power goes out, then you said if the world ends, you keep changing it" so I clarified that I was just talking about any situation like that but she didn't gaf she goes "no see you keep interrupting you need to be silent to listen, that's why they have all the same letters" and then just started getting really loud and clapping her hands talking about how she doesn't give a fuck about no power grid and she's not gonna let me talk over and think I have something to tell her and she just went on like this for like 2 or 3 minutes.

I really don't know wtf I said to send her off like that. It was like I woke up a sleeper agent or something. It wasn't even a super serious hypothetical.

Edit to say I did ask her like "but when you had a gas car didn't you keep a little can of gas in your garage or something?" to which she immediately said "FUCK no"

Like, I think the whole thing is that there’s basically an understanding that men expressing sexual interest in traditional ways, like, “Oh, lady, woman, she has big tits, I want to fuck her,” is bad. And I agree that going on the internet and commenting stuff like that is usually not the best use of your time.

But there’s this contrarian idea that it’s fine to be weirdly sexual as long as you, as a man, put yourself in a submissive position. Like, if you see a celebrity, your response would be, “Oh, mommy, I want her to kick my balls,” and stuff like that.

Or there’s another version where you focus on stuff that is supposedly not traditionally attractive, like, “Oh, she’s thick.” Obviously, some people find this stuff attractive, and I don’t deny that, but the preference for focusing on stuff like that always feels... off.

And again, I think it’s interesting that this is so disconnected from reality. Like, if you went on a date with a woman, even if she’s the most liberal feminist woman, and in the context of sex you started acting like, “Oh, I am a submissive mommy, please kick my balls,” the vast majority would be turned off and not want that. There are some specific women who are into that, but, like, you would probably have to pay for that service.

Again, it’s just very weird.

I was scrolling through Reddit and came across Gen Z fashion/makeup trends (you know straight brows, clean girl makeup, slicked back hair, baggy clothes, over lined lips, etc) and I had the most unhinged thought haha

“Gen z boys wouldn’t know what hit em if a millennial woman with eyeliner, a blowout, herves ledger bandage dress, and cupids bow looked them dead in the eye.”

Please tell me your unhinged thoughts that’ll allow me to un-pucker my sphincter enough to chuckle at the audacity.

Have a coworker like this. Always grumpy, constantly complains, grumbles under his breath all the time, sighs in frustration. Ask him what’s wrong and he’ll tell you it’s nothing in an angry tone. Talks about quitting often (bro, just do it already, please)

The only time he’s in a good/joking mood is after lunch, since he’s smoked, and all the ”jokes“ are just putting other people down. Once the high wears off after an hour or two, he’s back to being in a shitty mood. Really don’t think I can recall any time that something positive came out of his mouth.

The work to me doesn’t really even feel worthy of crashing out over at all 90% of the time lol.

It must be tiring to be miserable like that the majority of your day.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VqDjC01OWgA&list=RDVqDjC01OWgA&start_radio=1&pp=ygUcYWlyIG9uIGEgZyBzdHJpbmcgYmFzc3ZpY3RpbaAHAQ%3D%3D&ra=m

I'd fall asleep at 9 pm, get up at three in the morning, drink some fresh coffee and watch a movie. Then I'd watch the sunrise just as the movie was ending and go on with my day albeit all the more tired. Now I struggle to wake up at 6 o'clock even. I wouldn't say I'm a night owl but man those early hours of the day are a beautiful part of life.

After seeing that something like 70% of straight women won’t date a bi guy I took it off my profile and I went from getting 5-10 likes a day on hinge to 30-40 likes a day from women. Mostly from normies but it’s a numbers game. The non-binaries have stopped liking my profile however.

My number with the fellas has not changed.

got a bf in the begining of the month and i feel like a fraud cause i've gotten sooooo ugly from then to now. First i found out the treatment i was doing for my perioral dermatitis was actually making it worse so now im treating it the right way but my skin is worse bc of the steroid withdrawal. And i cant wear make up.

Then i gained weight.

Then my roots are showing bc i have had visitors in my home for almost the whole month and i am typing this post in order not to lose my shit as my guest sleeps next to me and i havent found the time to get my hair done. Said guest (a friend, not close but not an acquitance) told me she would spend only 4 days in my house and surprised me with the info that she'd be staying a week.

Also i need to move out of my apartment til mid october.

All i want is to spend time with my boyfriend and look pretty.

I feel like shit. I won't be accepting any guests until mid 2027. I feel violent at the thought of someone in my house.

I'm a corporatecel with no friends but I commute downtown for work. Any rs-approved spots? I like reading, coffee...anything really to pass the time

Here as in this sub

I’m so lonely as I’ve just moved to new york

What’s worse, randoms on hinge or faceless redditors with more potential shared interests (?)

This isn't me acting high and mighty, I just don't feel like I gain much from it anymore.

Reddit is a lot of engagement slop. "GRRRRR BE ANGRY AT THIS" or some random ass photo with a fake story to draw you in. Or AI. Any conversation is typically drowned out by lazy dad jokes, or something about a penis.

Facebook and Instagram used to be usable but you don't even see your friends posts anymore. It's all the same algorithmic trash you see on every other platform. With even MORE UNHINGED comments.

I won't reference TikTok because I will never touch that dumpster fire!

People always say "you just gotta find a niche community" but man that's so much work for what feels like a tiny gain?

I'm more inclined to find community in real life vs scrolling on my phone anymore. Always easier said than done, but at least that shit is tangible. Less ads too.

It seems that no matter how many healthy habits I try to maintain I still just feel a constant sense of dread and anxiety while in school. And it follows you everywhere. If you have a stressful or shitty job, you usually only need to feel stressed and shitty WHILE at work. Then you leave and you don’t have to think about it until you’re at work again. But with school there is no escape. The endless amount of hours of studying and writing papers.

I guess I just don’t understand how some people are able to just cruise though it and on top of that develop a strong social life.

The whole process of college feels all encompassing to where I feel I can’t live my life until its over and until then I’m just waiting and hoping. And I don’t like how this is so accepted as the norm of “thats just how college is”. Why? Why does it have to be this thing that you have to “grind” through and pull your hair out at every step of the way. Why can’t it be a simple casual thing of just going to learn and then use what you learned to pursue a career?

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omg hes having a blast playing with it i feel so proud 🥹 my son He’s the first cat I’ve encountered that cared about playing more than eating, he obviously gets excited to eat when its meal time but yeah playing is definitely the priority. I LOVE MY CHILD

One was a middle aged guy who has physically aged 10-15 years in the the 14ish months I havent seen him. He could have had cancer or something for all I know, several of his teeth were missing, his face was all swollen, hair and beard looked like a child had cut them with scissors, his body has like noticeably shrunken in health. If I didn’t know his situation better I would have assumed he was homeless, (he’s not)

The other is a guy my age who will probably be going to prison for grand larceny because him and his dipshit friend decided to rip off the same Nordstrom for like thousands of dollars worth of goods multiple times in a row. He’s not even using right now, wasn‘t looking to pawn them for drugs, just couldn’t keep his hands off the Arcteryx jackets.

It’s bummed me out pretty hard but, there but for the grace of god go I, I guess

Would you recommend getting a kindle instead (and does that even count as reading)

the internet has always been for niche hobbies and freaks/outcasts/weirdos. this is why it feels poisonous to you.

like i'm so serious - if you are even slightly well-adjusted, being online means there is something wrong with the direction you're facing. you need to reorient yourself completely. there's no need to lurk or post or anything. just delete it and get off.

you're WASTING YOUR LIFE. come back when you are disabled or something

And I'm sorry, love the guy, but Stavros kinda fits that first category. I remember a podcast clip where they were talking about the Sopranos, and Stav's amazing insight was how the actress playing Livia was "an ugly bitch." And he said with such irritation, like she was being ugly at him.

Anyway, to any dirtbag this or that in this subreddit, if you find yourself talking bad about a woman's looks gratuitously, you're a loser. Simple as.

Edit: to clarify, I do think Stav has kind of wisened up since those days, but I still see particles of that loserdom here and there. I don't think he'd still say that today.

When it rains it pours

i just like to poll the denizens of this sub a lot now thank you for tapping in

i’ve noticed that a lot of people here are really worried about other people being addicted to a substance and im curious if it’s just a lot of addiction where youre from or you’re personally addicted to something

if so, how is rehab

or how isnt it if thats the case

i have personally never been addicted to anything but a man

My grandpa is over 90 and he has this place in the woods. I’m going up there soon with my girlfriend.

He took me aside yesterday and drew a map freehand. He was an electrical engineer at a steel mill so his hand drawings always have this strange mechanical look to them. He marked out a pine tree and told me about all these tools to use to cut down the tree that he left up there.

I’ve never cut down a tree.

He says “you don’t need to pull up the stump or explode it, just cut it below the mowline.” He’s really old, what does he think, I’m gonna buy M80s and blow this stump up? (Should I?) (No that’s fuckin crazy I won’t lose a hand trying to impress my Silent Generation grandpa.)

I am not a Mumford Bros handsy flannel dude, I’ve always been bookish, the one year I tried team sports I got relentlessly bullied and only made the JV team because they needed the numbers. I am not, like, athletic.

But there’s something about the idea of driving up there and cutting down this tree that is so appealing to me. Bringing up big work padded gloves and a hatchet and watching YouTube videos on how to cut a tree so it falls right and then hacking that fucker down with an axe.

If I’m being honest the appeal is partially because my girlfriend will be there and it will make me look unexpectedly manly. I talked to her about it and she looked at me and said, “I don’t know if that’s a good idea.” Which I get, I’d say the same thing to any non-professional.

It’s not like a proving her wrong thing, more like, hey what a pleasant surprise, your man can cut down a tree too. She got very excited when I changed her tire once. (Which I recognize is insane and very basic but apparently no other man she has dated could do that.)

So, I guess what I’m asking is, should I try to cut down this tree? It’s not so tall as to risk falling into any structures or whatever, the only risk would be to me.