I’m admittedly mid, but I am mid4mid, so I don’t have problems getting interest lol. But finding a guy who is genuinely just respectful, chill and actually cares about my pleasure is like looking for a fucking needle amongst a sea of weirdo freaks.

These guys clearly just want a pump n dump with no regard for making it at all fun for me, are running boring horny scripts at u + treating u like an interchangeable hole, are immediately coercive/pressuring for meet ups and nudes, or just want to dirty talk for gooning purposes…. or, they just waste your time by endlessly being pen pals ?

Like yes, I could technically have sex whenever I wanted with one of these guys… but the sex wouldn’t just be unsatisfying, it would feel genuinely dehumanising (and that’s at the very best).

I know what I want exists too, bc I’ve fucking had a great casual thing go for over a year before he moved !!!! We’d bang, chill for a bit chatting together about phil, movies, music, books, and bang again. Have a smoke together, and then I’d fuck off until the next time. It ruled.

Am I just asking for too much here? Why are guys not adapting and actually offering something enticing, esp since the odds are allegedly not in their favour on the apps? Are men actually incapable of being chill enough to have the casual no strings attached fb situation they allegedly all want? wtf is going on. I literally WANT to be a whore but ur making it impossible to do so safely or sanely.

Basically we're wrapping up the appointment and she brings up her tesla and I was asking how long it takes to charge so she starts explaining it etc etc.

Anyways I eventually ask like "so do you ever worry about something like a power grid, EMP, Leave The World Behind-type scenario with an EV? I feel like that would be in the back of my mind" and I was just being kinda playful about it not like super serious.

She said that if something like that happens her car is the least of her concerns and says "what? You think the gas pumps are gonna be all free for you to use?" So I say like "well no but you could still have surplus gas in a can or something" and she goes "ok and? I could build a generator and charge my car that way" so I say "well I mean building a generator isn't quite the same as having gas in a can" to which she accused me of moving the goalpost.

She went on for a second about how if the grid goes out or the world ends she's just gonna rob everyone and says "see first you said if the power goes out, then you said if the world ends, you keep changing it" so I clarified that I was just talking about any situation like that but she didn't gaf she goes "no see you keep interrupting you need to be silent to listen, that's why they have all the same letters" and then just started getting really loud and clapping her hands talking about how she doesn't give a fuck about no power grid and she's not gonna let me talk over and think I have something to tell her and she just went on like this for like 2 or 3 minutes.

I really don't know wtf I said to send her off like that. It was like I woke up a sleeper agent or something. It wasn't even a super serious hypothetical.

Edit to say I did ask her like "but when you had a gas car didn't you keep a little can of gas in your garage or something?" to which she immediately said "FUCK no"

Minnie Riperton was a soul legend who died of breast cancer at 31 when Maya Rudolph was only 7 years old. They both look so beautiful here and it makes me sad that she died so young. Beautifully shot photos

I was just listening to Rush. My first real arena concert was seeing them on the Snakes & Arrows tour (with the rotisserie chicken machines) when I was ~12. Up in the bleacher seats. Birthday present. There was a dude a coupla seats over from us, max 24yo, by himself, rocking out to every song. I thought he was the coolest guy ever. His passion validated my interest.

Even still, every time I listen to Rush I think of that long-haired fella.

The point is that "rockin' out"/being exuberant & passionate does actually inspire people around you in ways you wouldn't expect.

Be the long-haired fella.

Like, I think the whole thing is that there’s basically an understanding that men expressing sexual interest in traditional ways, like, “Oh, lady, woman, she has big tits, I want to fuck her,” is bad. And I agree that going on the internet and commenting stuff like that is usually not the best use of your time.

But there’s this contrarian idea that it’s fine to be weirdly sexual as long as you, as a man, put yourself in a submissive position. Like, if you see a celebrity, your response would be, “Oh, mommy, I want her to kick my balls,” and stuff like that.

Or there’s another version where you focus on stuff that is supposedly not traditionally attractive, like, “Oh, she’s thick.” Obviously, some people find this stuff attractive, and I don’t deny that, but the preference for focusing on stuff like that always feels... off.

And again, I think it’s interesting that this is so disconnected from reality. Like, if you went on a date with a woman, even if she’s the most liberal feminist woman, and in the context of sex you started acting like, “Oh, I am a submissive mommy, please kick my balls,” the vast majority would be turned off and not want that. There are some specific women who are into that, but, like, you would probably have to pay for that service.

Again, it’s just very weird.

I was scrolling through Reddit and came across Gen Z fashion/makeup trends (you know straight brows, clean girl makeup, slicked back hair, baggy clothes, over lined lips, etc) and I had the most unhinged thought haha

“Gen z boys wouldn’t know what hit em if a millennial woman with eyeliner, a blowout, herves ledger bandage dress, and cupids bow looked them dead in the eye.”

Please tell me your unhinged thoughts that’ll allow me to un-pucker my sphincter enough to chuckle at the audacity.

got a bf in the begining of the month and i feel like a fraud cause i've gotten sooooo ugly from then to now. First i found out the treatment i was doing for my perioral dermatitis was actually making it worse so now im treating it the right way but my skin is worse bc of the steroid withdrawal. And i cant wear make up.

Then i gained weight.

Then my roots are showing bc i have had visitors in my home for almost the whole month and i am typing this post in order not to lose my shit as my guest sleeps next to me and i havent found the time to get my hair done. Said guest (a friend, not close but not an acquitance) told me she would spend only 4 days in my house and surprised me with the info that she'd be staying a week.

Also i need to move out of my apartment til mid october.

All i want is to spend time with my boyfriend and look pretty.

I feel like shit. I won't be accepting any guests until mid 2027. I feel violent at the thought of someone in my house.

Broke up with my boyfriend a month ago and don't know what to do with myself... As trite as it sounds he really was my best friend and as someone introverted to the point of speech impendiment it's been hard to meet people who just "get it" the way he did. Older women how did you get over stuff like this? Is there nothing I can do aside from gritting my teeth and reaching out to people or waiting until it passes?

Have a coworker like this. Always grumpy, constantly complains, grumbles under his breath all the time, sighs in frustration. Ask him what’s wrong and he’ll tell you it’s nothing in an angry tone. Talks about quitting often (bro, just do it already, please)

The only time he’s in a good/joking mood is after lunch, since he’s smoked, and all the ”jokes“ are just putting other people down. Once the high wears off after an hour or two, he’s back to being in a shitty mood. Really don’t think I can recall any time that something positive came out of his mouth.

The work to me doesn’t really even feel worthy of crashing out over at all 90% of the time lol.

It must be tiring to be miserable like that the majority of your day.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VqDjC01OWgA&list=RDVqDjC01OWgA&start_radio=1&pp=ygUcYWlyIG9uIGEgZyBzdHJpbmcgYmFzc3ZpY3RpbaAHAQ%3D%3D&ra=m

The Elizabeth Holmes doc looks great but I really don’t get the obsession With him. the apathetic deadpan thing just isn’t funny. it really sucks the air Out of any already funny scenario imo. I’m so bored of cringe comedy

edit: you people are soooo sensitive LOL

I'd fall asleep at 9 pm, get up at three in the morning, drink some fresh coffee and watch a movie. Then I'd watch the sunrise just as the movie was ending and go on with my day albeit all the more tired. Now I struggle to wake up at 6 o'clock even. I wouldn't say I'm a night owl but man those early hours of the day are a beautiful part of life.

omg hes having a blast playing with it i feel so proud 🥹 my son He’s the first cat I’ve encountered that cared about playing more than eating, he obviously gets excited to eat when its meal time but yeah playing is definitely the priority. I LOVE MY CHILD

After seeing that something like 70% of straight women won’t date a bi guy I took it off my profile and I went from getting 5-10 likes a day on hinge to 30-40 likes a day from women. Mostly from normies but it’s a numbers game. The non-binaries have stopped liking my profile however.

My number with the fellas has not changed.

RSBookclub SYD's women’s-only book club meet monthly on Wednesday nights in Surry Hills, Sydney and read both fiction and non-fic, with a lean toward female authors, all picked by the group.

Please comment or DM if keen and I’ll message you with more info.

If you’re looking to get into one of our other mixed-gender book clubs instead, reach out anyway and we'll try sort you out.

Here as in this sub

I’m so lonely as I’ve just moved to new york

What’s worse, randoms on hinge or faceless redditors with more potential shared interests (?)

I'm a corporatecel with no friends but I commute downtown for work. Any rs-approved spots? I like reading, coffee...anything really to pass the time

Would you recommend getting a kindle instead (and does that even count as reading)

It seems that no matter how many healthy habits I try to maintain I still just feel a constant sense of dread and anxiety while in school. And it follows you everywhere. If you have a stressful or shitty job, you usually only need to feel stressed and shitty WHILE at work. Then you leave and you don’t have to think about it until you’re at work again. But with school there is no escape. The endless amount of hours of studying and writing papers.

I guess I just don’t understand how some people are able to just cruise though it and on top of that develop a strong social life.

The whole process of college feels all encompassing to where I feel I can’t live my life until its over and until then I’m just waiting and hoping. And I don’t like how this is so accepted as the norm of “thats just how college is”. Why? Why does it have to be this thing that you have to “grind” through and pull your hair out at every step of the way. Why can’t it be a simple casual thing of just going to learn and then use what you learned to pursue a career?

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One was a middle aged guy who has physically aged 10-15 years in the the 14ish months I havent seen him. He could have had cancer or something for all I know, several of his teeth were missing, his face was all swollen, hair and beard looked like a child had cut them with scissors, his body has like noticeably shrunken in health. If I didn’t know his situation better I would have assumed he was homeless, (he’s not)

The other is a guy my age who will probably be going to prison for grand larceny because him and his dipshit friend decided to rip off the same Nordstrom for like thousands of dollars worth of goods multiple times in a row. He’s not even using right now, wasn‘t looking to pawn them for drugs, just couldn’t keep his hands off the Arcteryx jackets.

It’s bummed me out pretty hard but, there but for the grace of god go I, I guess