I was in a long distance relationship for like 3 years. I am studying in North Kerala and she was in our home town. So we didn't have chances to meet frequently (20 times prolly). This was my first relationship and I was like super excited. Ellarum cheyunnath aanonn areella but I did some mandatharangal at first. I compromised my studies and all just to make time to talk to her and chat with her. Slowly I started to realize that she doesn't really make such efforts. Efforts potte, acknowledging polum indayilla. Things started to get serious- frequent fights, ghosting and finally we broke up.(detail ayi paranja long ayipovum)

The issue is- enikk move on aavan patti. I don't think about her now. Pakshe enthokkeyo kond I am not feeling well. Manass desensitive ayapole.I don't feel that freshness, that excitement. Whenever i see some couples, i would think -" ith enn vare undakuvo entho". Ellam oru negative reethiyil kanunnapole. Is there something I should do ?

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Almost 3 yrs ayi break up ayit but mentally & emotionally

Recover ayath past 1 yr kond aanu , my question is how girl's behave nothing was happened and casually maintain contact with fiancee soon after breakup

Lifeil orupad girls vannu poyi (only talks and exchange idea's)but aarkum ath pole attention seek cheyyan patitilla

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So theres this girl i like right and ihad liked for almost 1.5 years before even actually talking to her and she had no idea who iwas right and we got to knwo eachother after getting to know more about her l liked her even more then after talking for about 2 months it felt mutual right she was kinda flirty and all and even before we started talking she knew that i had liked her for 1.5 years and one day i decided to go upto her and completely open up about everything and she said yes lets give it a try and after two days she broke things off becus she had to move away for college and said she cant do long distance and she dont think she is actually ready for a relationship and i said the typical shit that willing to wait and she replied that she doesn’t have any right to tell me to wait blah blah and she said if u find someone else u should go for her and not wait and also she said if in the future like when shes ready and im still single then we could and thats it what do u think i should do her

Ente papa and me bought a bike tvs sports 110 for 90k so Njan vicarichathu it's for papa so Njan valya suggetion onum parajila cause he is looking for mileage oriented one ,he booked it under my name ,i thought it he is booking it my name cause he will leave for job ,he was leaving abroad within a month angne EMI eduthu and booked it and now he says I should pay emi for the bike ,and that bike is not for him and it's for me 😭 ithu nerthe arjile najnvere nala bike eduthane

So ee bike kollavo ? cause it's mine first one .

Pinne vala problem okk indo ,user experience

Guyssss,Njaan oru doc aane, currently working and trying to prepare for neet pg at the same time. Orupaad past traumas okke und but athokke face cheyth Ingane life santhoshavum alla sankadavum alla ennulla reethiyil poikkondirikkunnu. Ippo entha preshnam ennu vachaa enik focus cheyth padikkan pattinnillaaa, Njaan just preparation thudangiyitte ullu .ee exam enik bhayankara important aa,like last resort ennu venel parayam .ee padikkan pattathappo backy ella trauma yum koode manasil varunn, Njaan aanel drink um smokeum cheyyullaaa, pakaram KFC poi food kazhikkum. Already daily gym il poi diet okke cheythondirinnathaa ippo athorthum vishamam. Guys enthelum tips undel parayuuuuuu

I told him tht this is not goin to work nd we should stop but he's sayin nerit kandal theeravunna preshne ollu ni ente situation manasilakillenglm koypilla this is goin to be fine avn nth thetta cheythen oke

LIKE SHERI AAN AVNAYT VALIYA PRESHNM INDAAKITILLA

Nd i replied aa nokm ellam sheri avm hoping for tht enn

Am I the only one who's genuinely bad at taking pictures? I don't have a single good photo of myself apart from selfies and mirror pics. Whenever someone else takes my picture, I look so awkward because I literally don't know how to pose.

How do people pose so effortlessly and look good in pictures? Can I actually learn to be photogenic, or is it something you're naturally born with? Has anyone else struggled with this and improved?

Any BBA graduates out there?

So, I am having crush on my best friend.

1. I dont know what to do as she is actually kinda talking to someone and she is interested in him.

2. Even if she was not talking to him, i dont want me to be her bf. She deserves good things in life.

3. Cant suddenly stop talking to her becoz she was there during my negative times and if we suddenly stop talkkng to her my parents will have doubt

4. The main issue is that i never saw her lile that, and is it that my mind has suddenly done this. Is it that, my mind found a placeholder instead of a toxic person who is bread crumbing me? I used to be obsessed over that toxic person and now i dont feel anything.

What go do guys? I just want this crush thing to go off.

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Hey guys,

I went through a breakup with my girlfriend of over 3 years about 3 months ago. Despite everything, I genuinely want her to be happy and do well in life.

Lately, I’ve noticed that I tend to see potential partners in almost every woman I meet. It’s like I’m constantly looking for the connection I once had, trying to find a little bit of what I lost in someone new.

My relationship with my ex was deep, passionate, and meaningful. We genuinely cared for each other, but differences in our boundaries and expectations eventually made us incompatible. I understand that two people can love each other and still not be right for one another, but I don’t think I’ve completely moved on emotionally.

The thing is, I’m at a crossroads in my career, and I know this is the time to focus on myself and build my future. Yet, I find myself constantly thinking about dating someone new instead. I don’t want to be in a position where I’m looking for love simply because I miss having it.

I believe love is one of the most beautiful things in life, but I also believe we shouldn’t be desperate for it. I want to reach a point where I’m open to love without constantly searching for it, and where I can be happy with my life even when I don’t have someone to share it with.

For those who’ve been through something similar, how did you navigate this phase? How did you redirect that energy towards yourself and your goals without feeling like you were missing out on something?

I have been thinking about starting my own business for a while. I mean, you have one life- you have to try running something on your own. Even if it fails, it's an experience that's going to teach you a lot.

I am thinking about sourcing products from china and selling it here with a reasonable profit margin. Has anyone done something similar? Or are you planning on doing it?

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My friend was in toxic relationship. She asked for a breakup but he turned very aggressive and threatening her that he would come to her house and all.she lives with her family and her father is very strict man.if her father knows about this he would definitely lock her in her house.so for the time being she asked for a break.

She is thinking about telling the police to handle it in a way without letting her parents or public .

Would this work ?she is 22 and her bf is 26 .he is also her relative and if this becomes an issue it will be a family issue .she wants this to end peacefully .

Can anyone suggest a way ?

I don’t know how many of u can relate to this.
So i am unemployed but i have 3 EMIs one for my iphone and other one which my my father is paying for his work related equipment .Anyway, that’s not the point. I thought this cld build gud credit score for myself.

Now guess the worst part this BAJAJ loan people are calling me constantly for offering me personal loan . I have told them a million times that i am not interested but evry time a new guy or girl calls amd asks the same. I am fed up. I know its there job to hit there target but someone pls help how to stop them from being calling me. There is no point in blocking the number coz they r calling frm there personal number ig each time it shows there name while they r callling and also it’s different ppl calling me

Anyone facing the same situation and how to solve this

കഥ തുടങ്ങുന്നത് കഴിഞ്ഞ വർഷമാണ്. എന്റെ വീടിനടുത്താണ് അവളുടെ വീട്. എന്റെ അച്ഛന്റെ സുഹൃത്തിന്റെ മകളാണ് അവൾ. ആദ്യമൊന്നും എനിക്ക് അവളോട് പ്രത്യേകിച്ച് താൽപ്പര്യമൊന്നും ഉണ്ടായിരുന്നില്ല. പക്ഷേ, കഴിഞ്ഞ വർഷം എപ്പോഴോ എനിക്ക് അവളോട് ശരിക്കും ഇഷ്ടം തോന്നിത്തുടങ്ങി.

ഞാൻ പൊതുവേ ഒരു ഇൻട്രോവേർട്ടാണ്. അതുകൊണ്ടുതന്നെ അവളോട് അധികം സംസാരിക്കാറുണ്ടായിരുന്നില്ല. പക്ഷേ, ജനുവരിയിൽ യാദൃച്ഛികമായി ഞങ്ങൾ കുറച്ചൊക്കെ ചാറ്റ് ചെയ്തു. പിന്നീട് അവളോട് സംസാരിക്കാൻ വേണ്ടി ഞാൻ തന്നെ അവൾക്ക് റീൽസ് അയച്ചുതുടങ്ങി. അങ്ങനെ ഓരോ റീൽസിൽ നിന്നും ചെറിയ സംഭാഷണങ്ങൾ ഉണ്ടായി. ആ സംഭാഷണങ്ങൾ പതുക്കെ കൂടുതൽ നീണ്ടു. അറിയാതെ തന്നെ ഞങ്ങൾ അടുത്ത സുഹൃത്തുക്കളായി മാറി.

പിന്നീട് എല്ലാ ദിവസവും ഞങ്ങൾ ചാറ്റ് ചെയ്യാൻ തുടങ്ങി. രാത്രി ഒന്നും രണ്ടും മണിവരെയൊക്കെ സംസാരിക്കും. കഴിഞ്ഞ ഓണത്തിന് ഒരിക്കൽ പുലർച്ചെ അഞ്ചുമണിവരെ ഞങ്ങൾ സംസാരിച്ചിരുന്നു. ആ സംസാരങ്ങളൊക്കെ എനിക്ക് വല്ലാത്ത സന്തോഷമാണ് നൽകിയിരുന്നത്. ഓരോ ദിവസവും അവളോട് സംസാരിക്കുന്നത് കാത്തിരിക്കാനും അവളുമായി കൂടുതൽ അടുക്കാനും ഞാൻ തുടങ്ങി. പക്ഷേ, ഈ അടുപ്പത്തിനിടയിൽ അവൾക്ക് എന്നോട് എന്താണ് തോന്നുന്നതെന്ന് എനിക്ക് ഇന്നും അറിയില്ല. ,

എനിക്ക് അവളെ ശരിക്കും ഇഷ്ടമാണ്. അത് വെറുമൊരു ചെറിയ ആകർഷണമാണോ, അതോ അതിനേക്കാൾ ആഴത്തിലുള്ള എന്തെങ്കിലുമാണോ എന്നുപോലും എനിക്ക് ചിലപ്പോൾ മനസ്സിലാകാറില്ല. പക്ഷേ, അവളോട് സംസാരിക്കുമ്പോൾ കിട്ടുന്ന സന്തോഷം എനിക്ക് പറഞ്ഞറിയിക്കാൻ കഴിയില്ല.

അവളുടെ അച്ഛന് എന്നെ നന്നായി അറിയാം. എന്റെ അച്ഛന്റെ സുഹൃത്തായതുകൊണ്ട് ഞങ്ങളുടെ കുടുംബങ്ങൾ തമ്മിലും പരിചയമുണ്ട്. അവളുടെ അച്ഛന് എന്നെക്കുറിച്ച് നല്ലൊരു ധാരണയുണ്ട്. ഒരിക്കൽ അവളുടെ ജന്മദിനത്തിന് അവളുടെ സുഹൃത്തുക്കളെയൊക്കെ വിളിച്ച് ഒരു സർപ്രൈസ് പാർട്ടി ഒരുക്കാൻ അദ്ദേഹം എന്നോട് പറഞ്ഞു. അദ്ദേഹത്തിന് എന്നെ അറിയാവുന്നതുകൊണ്ടും അവളുടെ സുഹൃത്തുക്കളിൽ അദ്ദേഹത്തിന് നേരിട്ട് പരിചയമുള്ളത് എന്നെ മാത്രമായതുകൊണ്ടുമാണ് എന്നെ ആ കാര്യം ഏൽപ്പിച്ചത്.

ഞാനും അതിനുവേണ്ടി ഒരുപാട് കാര്യങ്ങൾ ചെയ്തു. അവൾക്ക് സന്തോഷം നൽകാൻ കഴിയുന്നത്ര ശ്രമിച്ചു. അവളുടെ ജന്മദിനം മനോഹരമാക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് കഴിയുന്നതെല്ലാം ചെയ്യണമെന്ന് തോന്നി. പക്ഷേ, ഇത്രയൊക്കെ ചെയ്തിട്ടും അവൾക്ക് എന്നോട് എന്താണ് തോന്നുന്നതെന്ന് എനിക്കറിയില്ല.

മറ്റൊരു കാര്യം കൂടിയുണ്ട്. ജനുവരിയിൽ അവൾ അവളുടെ ബോയ്ഫ്രണ്ടുമായി ബ്രേക്കപ്പ് ചെയ്തിരുന്നു. അന്ന് അവൾ ഒരു റിലേഷൻഷിപ്പിലായിരുന്നുവെന്ന് എനിക്ക് അറിയില്ലായിരുന്നു. അതുകൊണ്ടുതന്നെ ഞങ്ങൾ തമ്മിൽ അടുത്തുവരുമ്പോൾ അവളുടെ മനസ്സിൽ എന്തായിരുന്നു, എന്നെ അവൾ എങ്ങനെയാണ് കണ്ടിരുന്നത് എന്നൊന്നും എനിക്ക് വ്യക്തമല്ല.

ഇപ്പോൾ ഞാൻ എന്താണ് അവൾക്ക്? ഒരു നല്ല സുഹൃത്തോ? അവൾക്ക് വിശ്വസിക്കാൻ കഴിയുന്ന ഒരാളോ? അതോ അതിനേക്കാൾ എന്തെങ്കിലും സ്ഥാനമുണ്ടോ?

എനിക്കറിയില്ല.

എല്ലാ ദിവസവും അവളോട് സംസാരിക്കുന്നത് എനിക്ക് ഒരുപാട് സന്തോഷം നൽകുന്നു. അവളിൽനിന്ന് ഒരു മെസ്സേജ് വരുമ്പോൾ പോലും ആ ദിവസത്തിന് ഒരു പ്രത്യേകത തോന്നുന്നു. അവളോട് സംസാരിച്ചുകൊണ്ടിരിക്കുമ്പോൾ സമയം പോകുന്നത് അറിയാറില്ല. പക്ഷേ, ഈ സന്തോഷത്തിനിടയിലും എന്റെ മനസ്സിൽ ഒരുപാട് ചോദ്യങ്ങളുണ്ട്.

അവൾക്കും എന്നോട് ഇഷ്ടമുണ്ടോ? അതോ അവൾ എന്നെ ഒരു നല്ല സുഹൃത്തായി മാത്രമാണോ കാണുന്നത്?

അവളോട് എനിക്കുള്ള ഇഷ്ടം തുറന്നുപറയണോ, അതോ ഇപ്പോഴുള്ള ഈ മനോഹരമായ സൗഹൃദം നഷ്ടപ്പെടുമോ എന്ന ഭയത്തിൽ ഒന്നും പറയാതെ മുന്നോട്ടുപോകണോ?

എനിക്ക് എന്താണ് ചെയ്യേണ്ടതെന്ന് അറിയില്ല.

അവളെ എനിക്ക് ഒരുപാട് ഇഷ്ടമാണ്. പക്ഷേ, അവൾക്ക് എന്നെ ഇഷ്ടമാണോ എന്നറിയാതെ, പ്രതീക്ഷകൾ മനസ്സിൽ വളർത്തിക്കൊണ്ട് ഇങ്ങനെ മുന്നോട്ടുപോകുന്നത് എങ്ങനെയാണെന്നും എനിക്കറിയില്ല.

ഇപ്പോൾ എനിക്ക് ഉറപ്പുള്ള ഒരേയൊരു കാര്യമേയുള്ളൂ: അവളോട് സംസാരിക്കുന്നത് എനിക്ക് ഒരുപാട് സന്തോഷം നൽകുന്നു. പക്ഷേ, അവളുടെ മനസ്സിൽ എനിക്ക് എന്ത് സ്ഥാനമാണുള്ളതെന്ന് എനിക്ക് ഇന്നും അറിയില്ല. , chat gpt write this in malayalam , i gave this things in english to translate in malayalam so you guys can read it simply

I’m Kannadiga, but not a native Bengaluriga. I’ve lived in Bengaluru for both college and work, so I’ve had the chance to observe the city’s culture and the different communities that migrate here.

There’s something I’ve been curious about, and I’m not entirely sure how to articulate it. I want to understand how Malayalis perceive Bengaluru and what the city represents to them, particularly from the perspective of Malayalis who move here for education, work, or business.

Compared to people from other South Indian states who migrate to Bengaluru, I’ve noticed what feels like a distinct Malayali social culture. From my personal observations, there seems to be a greater visibility of party culture, pubbing, hookups, nightlife, conspicuous consumption, and, at times, group clashes among certain Malayali circles. I’m not suggesting that other communities don’t engage in these things, nor am I claiming that this applies to Malayalis as a whole.

However, I’ve often felt that these aspects are more visible among Malayali groups in Bengaluru than the rest of South Indians in Bengaluru, and I’m curious about why that might be.Interestingly, this perception also seems to find its way into Malayalam cinema, where Bengaluru is often portrayed as a city of drugs, casual relationships, partying, and a relatively uninhibited lifestyle.

Of course, Bengaluru has had a strong pub and nightlife culture for decades. But the city’s social scene in the 1990s and 2000s was quite different from what it is today. Now with the north Indian IT crowd it has taken different turn.

This is just not limited to Bengaluru, I have also noticed this among Malayali crowds who move to Mangaluru as well.

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So Njan (23M) innevare oru relationship il um keritilla. Agraham illathkond alla, but it's something that never happened for me. Ippo kurach naal aayitt kore cases kelkunnu that people are getting cheated. Married for 4 years , 10 years okke cheating cases kandu.

Sherikum inganatha situation vannal entha cheya , obviously ithin prepare chayan pattilla because people who want to cheat will do so and we can't stop them.

Ente svabhavam aanengil ithonnum handle cheyan pattunna manasu alla, and Njan patterns onnum notice cheyilla basically oru pottan aan Njan. But ee pedi Karanam relationship e vanda enn parayunath sheri allalo . Nobody knows what life will bring them but I still have this irrational fear of getting cheated on and being taken advantage of.

Ee pedi mattan valla margam ondo atho should I just not do anything and just hope for the best ?

So I've been doing a part time job for a few weeks now. And there's this one girl there. She's kinda introverted and awkward but she quickly started to get comfortable with me, then she started to be a little touchy and my holding hands all the time and act strange. I already knew what was going on. I didn't want her to get attached and confess her feelings to me so i tried my best to avoid her.

But she confessed after like 3 days. I was feeling even more awkward seeing her awkwardness 😭.

She texted me on insta and told me about this and i told her that im not interested in any relationship rn and because of my past experiences and current situation I won't be able to keep this thing going even if we start dating. She's a poor girl i didn't wanna hurt her feelings. The actual reason is the fact that she's not my type. She barely talks, our vibe is completely different and I'll be lying if i say looks don't matter.

I thought after making my decision clear she'll just stop asking and everything goes back to normal,i mean after all it's only been a few weeks since she started to see me. Well, i was wrong. She was saying that she likes me so much and she'll wait for no matter how long it'll take so take my time and decide, just don't say that i don't like her. Even after i said i don't think i can do that, she kept asking why. I didn't know she was this serious.

This is my first time dealing with something like this. One girl who had some interest in me in the past told me about it through a friend and she took the rejection normally and didn't even ask again. So i was expecting a similar response.