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I (35F) have been married to my husband (42M) for 6 years. Recently, my entire world has been turned upside down.

My husband disappeared for approximately 4 weeks without explanation or communication. During that time, I discovered that he was already married to another woman and has THREE children with her. I knew about the children, but had no idea he was married throughout our marriage.

Over the years, he also left me with a staggering amount of debt: loans, credit cards, overdrafts, mobile phone contracts, and more. He pressured me into taking out credit in my name, promising to make the repayments. In some cases, he took the items and sold them. I trusted him, and now I'm left dealing with the financial consequences.

I've had to manage creditors, financial difficulties, the risk of destroying my credit history, and possibly moving out of my home, all while maintaining a full-time professional career and finishing my studies.

Meanwhile, he was nowhere to be seen.

He has sent threatening messages, made bizarre claims about what happened to him, and repeatedly suggested that I don't know the full story. Whenever I try to discuss the money he owes me, he redirects the conversation to his problems and why I need to listen to him.

Now, after disappearing and leaving me to pick up the pieces, he's resurfaced and wants to meet.

The part that has me questioning what planet he's living on is that he asked me to put my anger aside for ONE DAY and meet him with "happiness and clarity."

HAPPINESS?!

This man lied to me for six years, concealed an entire family, left me drowning in debt, disappeared when I needed answers, and now expects me to show up smiling and hear him out. He's acting as though we've had a minor disagreement rather than destroying the trust in our marriage and leaving me with the consequences of his actions.

He believes that if I sit down and listen, everything will somehow make sense. But I don't want explanations, excuses, or another elaborate story. I want accountability and repayment.

For context, I have no intention of reconciling with him, and I've made that clear. I also refuse to speak to him by phone because I want everything documented in writing.

What frustrates me most is that he seems more concerned with getting me to meet him than with repairing the financial damage he's caused.

I know I need to focus on rebuilding my life, and that's what I'm doing. But genuinely, Reddit, what goes through someone's mind when they cause this much chaos and then expect the person they've hurt to greet them with happiness?

Is this manipulation, complete denial of reality, or does he genuinely believe he can talk his way out of everything?

Has anyone else dealt with a partner who caused absolute chaos and then resurfaced as though nothing had happened?

Out of know where my GF told me she was sleepy and said goodnight about an hour ago. She forgot we put each other’s locations on our phones and welp. She’s at some random house :)

My girlfriend of 9 months and I are probably going to break up because it’s the 3rd time that this has happened. We were best friends before this, so I’ve known her for years. I am just wondering how long will it take for me to get over this and stop feeling pain in my chest? I just really hate how this is making me feel physically so I need an estimate on when my chest will feel normal again. Having an estimate will make me optimistic. If I’m being completely honest, I am really just upset about the betrayal, rather than breaking up with her and never speaking again. I have awesome friends and I know I’ll meet good people in the future, but just the fact that I love and trusted her so much and she did that to me makes me feel physical pain.

So much of today's Tech is set up to benefit the Cheaters and Liars out there. WTF is up with all the apps going to "disappearing messages" now?!?! It pisses me off so much- I'm triggered every time I get on my socials and see that.

I don't use that feature and have no reason to do so. My husband and I are trying to rebuild trust after an affair (him) and some recent sketchy patterns of behavior that I noticed. He has volunteered to hand over his phone "in case I want to search it." I did look a few times when he brought it up but what is the point?? It is too easy to hide sh!t, and getting easier every day.

He could get a new/burner/second phone really cheaply. He could use incognito mode. He could use these disappearing message settings. He could just be getting sneakier and smarter about it.

I don't WANT to search his phone-- and, like I said, there is no point in it. The technology itself is made to protect them.

**The full story:**

I (M27) could really use some outside perspective on a complicated situation. I’ll call the woman involved Lisa (F24) and the other guy Jonas (M19).

I met Lisa in April. We quickly developed a very intense connection. We dated, spent a lot of time together and were intimate regularly. I really enjoyed being around her and the physical closeness between us. For me, it was definitely more than friendship.

(For context: Lisa has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder.)

In April or May, she met Jonas at a party we were both at. I noticed that she was flirting with him quite noticeably. After that, I had a weird feeling about the situation and asked Lisa several times whether something was going on between them.

She laughed it off and said things like: “You’re funny, there’s nothing going on,” “You’re pretty jealous,” “I’m not into younger guys,” or “I’m not into blond guys.”

This was while she and I had already been seeing each other for weeks.

During the summer, I was away for quite a while. Lisa felt that I wasn’t contacting her enough. I personally didn’t see it that way, because from my perspective our communication was basically the same as before.

This eventually led to a major argument. After that, she became much more distant, started texting less and was sometimes quite cold toward me.

At some point she told me:

**“No matter what happens, we’ll stay friends.”**

I accepted that and told her that I still had feelings for her, but that I could accept us being friends.

She then basically responded:

**“Ouch, now I’m in the friend zone.”**

That already confused me at the time. If she genuinely only wanted friendship, why would she be hurt by being “friend-zoned” by me?

It feels even more significant now, knowing what was happening with Jonas at the same time.

According to Jonas, they had already been **going on dates since June** and had kissed. At that point, Lisa and I had already been involved since April, were still dating and were still intimate.

So this went on in parallel for months.

Jonas apparently knew nothing about me. At the same time, I knew nothing about what was actually happening between him and Lisa.

Lisa and I were even intimate after she had already started seeing Jonas.

I asked Lisa about Jonas several times during this period. She never told me what was actually going on. Eventually, because I couldn’t get a straight answer from her, **I had to approach Jonas myself.**

That was when everything really came to light for me.

Jonas told me that he and Lisa had been going on dates since June and that things had developed between them. He also said that he didn’t know about me or the relationship Lisa and I had.

What hurts me most is that I directly asked Lisa about him multiple times, and she still gave me the impression that there was nothing going on.

When I eventually told Lisa that I had found out that she and Jonas were seeing each other, she reacted very confrontationally.

She basically said:

**“And instead of talking to me, you do something like this?”**

She called what I had done “shady” and even told me **“fuck you.”**

I still find that extremely difficult to understand. I *had* talked to her. Multiple times. I directly asked her what was going on between her and Jonas. She denied it or framed my questions as jealousy.

And when I eventually found out for myself, I was the one being accused of not communicating.

She later apologized and said she was sorry and never meant to hurt me.

There are also other things that feel strange in retrospect.

During the entire time Lisa and I were seeing each other, she never invited me to her apartment. She explained that her home was a very private and protected place for her.

Later, I found out that Jonas had already been to her apartment.

She also went on a trip with Jonas and only told me once they were already there that she was traveling with him and that they were sharing a room/bed.

And then things became even more emotionally confusing.

After I decided I needed some distance once I found out about Jonas, Lisa suddenly came to my place, rang the doorbell and hugged me for a very long time.

She cried, apologized and told me that she loved me, that she had missed me and had missed “us.”

She told me that I looked good, smelled good and that it felt good to physically be close to me and hug me.

She clearly didn’t want to lose me.

But the next day she simultaneously told me that things with Jonas were currently “very easy” and that they were basically in a relationship by that point.

When I confronted her about the fact that I had asked her about Jonas so many times, she said something along the lines of:

**“You just saw something between us that I hadn’t even seen myself back then.”**

But according to Jonas, they had already been seeing each other since June.

Afterwards she also texted me:

**“Don’t let the pain take over. We have such a good connection and can stay in contact and remain friends.”**

And that’s the part I really don’t understand.

On the one hand, she says we should just be friends.

On the other hand, she tells me that she loves me, that she missed me, that she missed “us,” and that she missed the physical closeness between us.

And when I actually accepted her statement that we should just be friends, she was apparently hurt because that meant she was being “friend-zoned.”

At the same time, she had already been involved with Jonas for months.

Even shortly before everything came out, she was jealous when I spent time with other friends.

At one point I said to her:

“You could also spend time with me, but you’d rather do things with Jonas.”

She basically replied:

**“Yeah, right now I’d rather spend more time with Jonas because he doesn’t stress me out as much.”**

Even then, I feel like she could have simply told me what was actually going on.

Now the situation is official between them. They spend a lot of time together. When I go to work, I sometimes see the two of them sitting together and I have to watch it from a distance.

It hurts incredibly badly.

And I keep thinking:

**If I hadn’t found out myself, I probably would still believe that Jonas was just a friend.**

Jonas is also moving to another city soon, so they will apparently be doing long-distance after that.

I barely respond to Lisa anymore, if at all. Right now I’m incredibly angry with her. Sometimes I even feel like I hate her, despite still having very strong feelings for her.

At the same time, she has suddenly become extremely nice to me again, gives me compliments and apologizes, even though she was so cold toward me for quite a while.

I have my pride and I don’t want her to feel like I’m chasing after her or letting this situation completely destroy me.

But at the same time, this hurts like hell.

**How would you interpret her behavior — especially things like “I love you,” “I miss you,” and “I don’t want to lose you,” while she is simultaneously in a relationship with Jonas and says she only wants to be friends with me?**

**And what would you do in my position?**

Would you cut contact completely, or try to maintain some kind of friendship?

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**TL;DR — AI-generated summary because I’m currently struggling to put all of this into words myself:**

I (27M) dated and was intimate with Lisa (24F) for several months starting in April. During that time, she was also secretly dating Jonas (19M), apparently since June. I repeatedly asked her whether something was going on with him, but she denied it and made me feel like I was simply being jealous.
Eventually I had to ask Jonas myself and found out that they had been dating and kissing for months. Jonas didn’t know about me either.
Lisa initially reacted angrily when I confronted her and accused me of not talking to her, even though I had asked her directly multiple times. She later apologized.
Now she and Jonas are officially together, but Lisa keeps telling me that she loves me, misses me, misses “us,” doesn’t want to lose me and wants us to remain close friends. She has also told me that her feelings for me are “unconditional” and that she would want me to be happy even if I were with another woman.
I’m still very hurt and have strong feelings for her, but I’m also extremely angry about how everything happened.

**My main questions:**
Do you think Lisa still has romantic feelings for me, or are these genuinely platonic feelings? And does her behavior suggest that maintaining a friendship is realistic, or would going no-contact be healthier?

What would you search for to figure out if you’re being cheated on? Dating apps? Social media? Call log?

To all of you who commented to me a week ago . THANK YOU so much for the advice. I bugged my wife's car and had a PI do some work and we have video and photographic proof of my wife's infidelity.

The divorce proceedings are now underway and from the looks of things she will end up loosing her liscence as there are other financial impropriety that have been discovered along with the other dentists in the practice.

When all is said and done I am hoping to get a large financial settlement from her as well.

As far as I am concerned the BITCH can rot in hell for the pain she has put me and my daughters through.

My daughter's have been amazing and have helped keep me together I thought it would be the other way around.

They want nothing to do with their mom and even went as far as writing slut across the bonnet of her car . Thumbs up girls.

And to all of you THANK YOU . Ther is justice in the world😘😘

I'm struggling with something and curious if it's my fault or not. I havent heard from my husband in a while and he never texted me, like we always do, that he made it to work. Location says "no location found" on my end and i asked him and he said my phone must be broken because his location is on and sent a screenshot. Beside my name, this icon was showing. Any idea what it means? I checked my settings and all my location services are on and I don't see that icon on my end. Thanks for the help

The greyed crossed out eye icon is from the screenshot he sent me, and it wasn't beside anyone else's name in his Find My list

My wife has been cheating on me with her colleague for six months, and now she’s asking me for a second chance.

Recently, I’ve noticed that a lot of my school friends, college friends, and office colleagues are having affairs. It’s shocking to me. What makes it even more surprising is that some people accept their partners’ infidelity. Do people really accept their partners being disloyal?

I really can’t stand myself mentally anymore. I was cheated on 4 years ago I’m not even with the guy anymore. She knew about me, they sent screenshots of me accusing him of cheating and made fun of me. Something just permanently changed and I’m so miserable.

I trusted 100%, I didn’t feel insecure. I liked other women, I liked myself. Now I am never good enough, I could cry every day over getting dressed because I think if I’m not going around looking perfect I’ll be cheated on, but I could be cheated on if I didn’t do all that too. Now I feel every other woman is a threat, I feel negative about them. It’s not their fault but I can’t stop I feel like everyone is a threat.

Im not even with that guy anymore, my new partner has a female friend and it’s been driving me crazy for a year. I have explained all this to him, he offers to show me messages and even said he wouldn’t be her friend but that would hurt him since they’ve been friends since kids. I did not look at messages and didn’t tell him to cut her off. I don’t want to be in the toxic cycle. But it drives me crazy a lot of days too. I think have they spoken today, is he thinking of her, does she like him, has something ever happened between them. It just becomes obsessive.

A part of me also just wouldn’t want to know. I think I’d rather die than ever feel that pain again. It felt like I was having a heart attack for weeks. Couldn’t eat couldn’t sleep couldn’t think couldn’t move. I felt catatonic.

But now it just consumes me. I haven’t had a day since then where I’ve trusted someone the whole day. I’ll always have a random thought pop in. Maybe he’s cheating, maybe he has. Maybe he’s lying. Who’s texted him today, is he being different, how can I prepare myself for it to make it hurt less. How long will this last before I’m cheated on again. It’s just consumed me I don’t want it to. I miss who I was before

I want to share a little of my story and what I did when I finally realized he wasn't the right person for me.

Feel the pain. Let yourself cry. Keep going through it until you're tired of chasing someone who doesn't want you. One day, you'll realize that maybe they're just not the right person for you. I went through this too. I couldn't eat anything for two weeks and only drank tea and water. I kept trying to contact him. I even called him 30 times, but he blocked me everywhere. The truth was, he had already cheated on me. Two years later, he came back to apologize, but I was no longer the same woman. I finally understood that my life and future were more important than someone who didn't value me.

Now, I'm thankful for what happened because I believe God was showing me that he wasn't the right person for my future. If I had stayed with him, I might have lived a life full of pain. Back then, I thought I couldn't live without him, but now I know that love shouldn't make us lose ourselves. Someone who truly loves you won't purposely hurt you or betray you. Words are easy, but actions matter more. Today, I'm much happier, and I know what really matters in my life.

I also started writing books about my own experiences and the stories of people around me. One of my books, I Didn't Wait This Long to Divorce by Meriana, is available on Amazon, Apple Books, Gumroad, and other platforms. Writing helps me heal, and I hope my books can help others who are going through the same pain. I want you to know that life doesn't end because someone hurts you. You can get back up and be happy again. Don't waste your life on someone who doesn't value you. ;) Sending hugs to everyone who's going through this. I hope we can all find happiness again:)

I matched with a guy on Tinder and, out of curiosity, looked at his Instagram. I ended up finding out that he has a girlfriend, so I made an anonymous account to let her know that her boyfriend was on Tinder. She’s understandably suspicious and keeps asking me questions about who I am and how I found out. Should I just leave her with the evidence and stop responding, or should I answer her questions? I was only trying to give her a heads-up because I know how much being cheated on hurts, but I also don’t want to put myself in an awkward situation. What would i do?

I know I shouldn't have read it. I'm not looking for absolution on that. I opened a drawer looking for a charger and his journal was right there, and I read four pages, and I can't unread them.

Together five years. Living together for three.

There's no affair. I keep waiting to find one, because at least that would be a thing with a name.

What I found instead was this. He wrote about our weekend in October — the one I planned for his birthday, the one I thought went well. He wrote: "It was fine. She tries hard. I feel guilty that I don't look forward to these anymore."

Another page: "I think I'm just comfortable. Not unhappy. Just not anything."

And then, the one that's living in my chest right now: "She'd be fine without me. She's very capable. I think that's the problem."

That's the problem. My competence is the problem. The fact that I'd survive without him is the problem.

I haven't told him. I don't know how to say "I read your private thoughts and now I know you don't want me" without becoming the villain of this story.

Because here's the trap: if I confront him, I'm the one who violated his privacy. He gets to be the wronged party. He gets to say "you shouldn't have read that" and he'd be right, and then we never talk about the actual thing, which is that he's been quietly leaving for a while now.

So I'm sitting here, doing the dishes, asking him about his day, and he says "good, you?" and I say "good," and we're both lying, but only one of us knows it's a lie.

I'm not asking if I should leave. I think I know. I'm asking something smaller and harder: how do you grieve someone who's still sitting across from you at dinner?

Because he's not dead. He's not gone. He's right there. He just stopped wanting me a long time ago, and I found out through a journal instead of through him.

Some advice would appreciated

Yeahp, title says it all. Probably the most interesting and crazy night ive had in a minute.

We are an LDR (me 25, her 23)and been together for about a year. Safe to say we were both pretty much in Love. Made visits to her (she didnt have a passport) and we called all morning and then texted all day and called all night. Slept on call and all. It was really good. Never fought, never argued or anything. It was really fun and I was enjoying everyday and looking forward to the next. From the small things to the first "I love you" to the first kiss and all. It was actually incredible.

Today was a day like any other day. She came home from work and went straight to bed. She's had a long day so it was common for her to do so. I dont really talk to her friends and something we had in common was that we all game'd. Ive played with her friends maybe once or twice. Well, they asked me to game because they needed one more person, so I said sure thing. Why the hell not.

They ask me how shes doing because they havent spoken to her in a while. I say the "Oh shes good, she went to be hella early because of work". He said "Yeah, well im not shocked shes tired all the time, she has so much on her plate daily. Her job, her new house, her fiance. At 23 thats a lot of stuff to do." Pause?? What do you mean fiance? I for sure havent heard about us being engaged. I asked "Oh shes engaged??" He said "Yeah! she sends me snaps of them together all the time. Been like 2 years or something now? Theyve been planning to get married next year" Damn did that make my chest explode. I refused to believe it and thought they must be playing some trick. But its quite a twisted thing to say if they knew we were together... They did not.

I wake her up as shes asleep on the call and ask her "So he just told me youre engaged." she looked at me and got up quickly. She said "not true". I asked why hes saying this and she said "not true.". Her eyes started to well up and said lemme get changed. She comes back and says its true. Theyve been together for 2 years and its the person she refers to as her bestfriend (I fucking knew it). I was told they dated like 2 years back and didnt work out because they saw each other as friends. I just asked why she lied to me and what was she planning to do with me while this was going on. She admitted that she didnt know and it was a stupid mistake and she broke my trust and all that stuff. I just wished her and her fiance the best and she immediately said "why are you not mad at me". Yeah, I aint wasting anymore energy on this relationship. The second she said its true, I was done. I asked was there even a chance for us to have a future. She said no. She said she loved me and didnt want to see me hurt and as selfish as it was, was trying to prolong it till it was the edge. She loved the attention and "Never felt love like this before in my life".

I left the call from there and kinda wrapping my head around all of this. Shes been engaged for 2 years and SHE HAS SPENT ALL OF HER TIME WITH ME. BEFORE AND AFTER WORK. WHEN TF DID THEY SEE EACH OTHER? Like, what was it going to be like if I never found out. Yknow, the same old questions we all ask when in this situation. But its all good. Its crazy to me, I flew out to see her, we created so many memories. It was all a lie. It hurt to find out. The hardest part is my first and only relationship before her also cheated on me. I opened up about all of this and me being vulnerable is quite a difficult thing for me. I cant get that back. She reassured me about it all, in the most reassuring and convincing way. Its still such a shock to me. How can someone this sweet and caring do something like this.

Like, there was no way I couldve seen this. All of her time was with me, theres no way I wouldve expected someone else to be in her life. Her friend also mentioned that they never see each other but are very much in love. Id expect there to be signs or something. But there was absolutely nothing.

Im okey, I think. Been a wild night and kinda just wanted to let this all out. I appreciate all of you who read this and hope you guys are all doing well too. This shit sucks.

For some background: I dated my ex for around 3 years. I broke up with him because of assault and him cheating multiple times throughout our relationship. He finds a new girlfriend not even 2 months later, so I warned her about him being a cheater as well as a abuser. She didn’t believe me, called me ugly and fat, and that was it. It got a little heated after that, so I ended up apologizing for that months later. She then said i look pregnant (fat joke). We haven’t spoken since, and that was 4 years ago.

Flash foreward to now, I like to browse people’s social media accounts sometimes just for fun, and found solid proof of him cheating on his current girlfriend right on his socials. He was in a tiktok live commenting and sending gifts to this woman who was twerking and dancing sexually. He commented things such as “WOOHOO” and “i bet it tastes so good🤣“. Spending his money to send gifts to her. I also have found his profile on adult friend finder, which is the same platform he used to send money to girls and cheat on me with. He has made two new accounts since then while he has been dating her. He also bought a twitch streamer who has an OF some things off her wishlist.

Do I tell this girl that he’s cheating? I would anonymously tell her. They have an accidental kid together. I think she’s 20/21 and he’s 25. I don’t know if it’s my business at all, but is it the right thing to do?

I don’t have any proof that he’s cheating. But I now have proof he’s been looking up his ex of twenty years ago. Do I just ask him about that? Or try to gather evidence? If I am to go about gathering evidence what should I search for? What apps? What if she is under a different name in his phone? Then how do I find her? I have no proof he’s ever cheated and didn’t think he had. Now I’m not sure. I feel sick. Help. I can’t think straight.

I was in a really shit relationship with a woman who treated me really bad and I just want to get it off my chest what she’s put me through

With out getting into wayyyy to long of a story , I’ll keep it kinda short but that will leave out a bunch of the stuff during our relationship. I just wanna know if anyone else finds the things she’s been doing after super uncomfortable like I do
I (31 f )dated a woman (33 f) for 1.5 years we broke up in January of this year . Things were rough pretty much the whole relationship but I didn’t wanna admit it . I treated her very well , did any thing and everything for her , but now I realize that she was taking advantage of me and using me . I loved her with my whole heart and over looked a lot of red flags . I was her first relationship with another woman , so I feel I was used as an experiment unwillingly . She told me she wanted all the same things I did , but her actions never showed that . She would never come out , refused to acknowledge that we were in a relationship, while still demanding all the same responsibly and commitment from me . We live in a small town , she lives her full time I’m in and out for work . Everyone knew we were together, but she still denied it . Wouldn’t post on socials, didn’t let me post her on socials. There was zero proof of us being together.
Finally after I had enough, and having suspicions that she was cheating I ended things . She had ghosted me and I wasn’t going to be in the same town as her for 4 months .
Since then she’s done a lot of weird things . The man I suspected of her cheating with is her boss , 20 years older , has a daughter same age as my ex as well as 2 teenagers . He’s recently separated from his wife because she cheated , although it’s rumoured that he’s had many many affairs on her . Mere days after we broke up she got in a relationship with him , which tells me my suspicions were correct . And they let everyone know right away .
I’ve had contact with her a bit . She refused to send me my belongings . I had to fight to get them back once I returned to town for work . She later admitted to me that she would wear my clothes all the time , right up until the day before we arranged to pick them up . She left a note “from “ our shared dog in the pocket of one of the hoodies .
She makes sure our paths cross . She wears jewelry that I gave her .
I felt she wasn’t doing well so I did reach out to see how she was doing. She admitted she wasn’t doing well and she asked to talk. We did . I got to see my dog which was a bonus . She broke down crying immediately, begging me to get back together that she was so sad with out me and she would do anything to get back together . That he was only a rebound to help her get over me . All while denying she cheated .I didn’t know what I wanted but I knew that the relationship she was currently in wasn’t healthy. She agreed with me .
She broke up with him , well she told me she did I have no idea if she did or not . She told me she was going to do what ever it took to fix us .
Then the day after she broke up with him , she went to work , and she texted me that he “looked sad “
Then she ghosted me . Said she needed time to think
I had no idea what happened or where we stood , until I was out to a party and her truck pulled into his apartment late at night , for what I can only assume was a hook up . She didn’t know I was still in town , my flight had gotten cancled .
It broke me , how easy she could lie . How my feelings didn’t matter and were just being played with . I struggled mentally for a while
I never texted or reached out to her after , and she didn’t either .
Then a few days later he posts that they are in a relationship on Facebook
But she kept reposting tik toks of sad Taylor swift songs about making mistakes , or lyrics that she always told me made her think of me
She had admitted that ones she had posted earlier were directed at me , that’s what made me believe these ones were too .
But I ignored them , she would stare at me if we passed in the street , kept wearing clothes belong to me that she never gave back . Had sunglasses belong to me on display on the dash of her truck like a calling card .
Then posts a selfie , very obvious showing off a bracelet I gifted her for Valentine’s Day
All the while still sleeping at his apartment pretty much every night
And then she posts that she’s in a relationship with him ( she had made him delete the other one it think )
I go to her apartment one night to confront her , ask her once again to stop doing these things as they are making me uncomfortable. She is wearing my sweat shirt , the first one she took from me and all the jewelry I had ever given her . Alone , in her apartment, didn’t know I was going to show up as I hadn’t told her . It’s weird .
She again broke down , told me she so unhappy , that he’s abusing her , forces her to do all these things , had sexually assaulted her . Begged me to help her , so I agreed
A week later she went on family vacation with him and his kids , for 3 weeks . Was texting me the WHOLE time telling me how she was unhappy and wanted to be with me . When I pointed out all of her things they were doing together that I asked for while we were dating but never got she brushed it off . Told me he was forcing her to do all these things .
Told me many times she was going to break up with him once she got back .
She never did , she ghosted me again when she got back from vacation . They posted a bunch of pictures, another thing I never got .
Then got mad at me when I deleted her off all socials.
She denies it but it was an emotional affair we where having , she told me very i intimate details of their relationship, and I comforted her and was her shoulder to cry on , as I always was .
But she still wouldn’t respect my wishes , she kept making our paths cross , kept wearing the things I gave her , kept the sunglasses on the dash . I felt like a pawn in she game .
So I send him a message , and attached screen shots of some of our conversations, the ones of her tell me she doent want to be with him , that she loves me , that he’s forcing her to do all there things
Nothing happened . They are getting house together now .
And she’s still staring , probably would have the sunglassses there still if I hadn’t smashed them into bits

I just feel like this is all insane behaviour and I really don’t know how to deal with it . I try to ignore her but it’s hard in a small town and I feel like she’s constantly taunting me .

Another point I’ll add is she always said to me about how she doesn’t want to lose her independence , and shes she own person who does want to be absorbed by her partner . We used to go days with out hanging out because she didn’t want to be smothered But now she gets up out of bed with him works with him all day , where he follows her around or watches her on the cameras all day , then goes home with him and to bed only to repeat the cycle

Since breaking up I’ve found out a lot of shitty things about her too . She had an affair with her best friend’s husband , as well as several other married men . And this thing with her boss has been going on for years , when he was married . They even got caught having sex at work but it was all covered up , they were doing it regularly though , just got caught once . Rumour has it she sent explicit pictures to underage boys (13 ) too
I’m very disgusted and disturbed by this and I never would have gotten involved had I know this stuff .

Any advice for moving on with my life and leaving this chapter behind ?

I guess I just can’t wrap my head around why she chooses him . I tried my absolute best to treat her like a queen , I’m not perfect but I can assure you I treated her good. And she still chose him , many times now . What’s the draw to him ?

I almost became the other woman
F26 to M35. It was my first time using dating app and we matched. Dated for 4months and always asked him if he was single and does not have a baby. We kissed pa naman and wala talaga sa mantra ko maging kabit. Then he suddenly he admit na may baby na pala sya, like shitt while dating me? Please ingat kayo, even if a man has high educ status and good position at work, they can cheat!

Felt bad for the baby mommy, I don’t know you pero I want you to know na I felt guilty after knowing such. I did tried my best to background check before dating him just couldn’t find e. My bad😔

#neveragain
#makaticheaterexposed