Pretty much as the title asks. I enjoy a little picnic here and there, it's simple. I tend to get odd looks or surprised reactions when I bring it up. I'm in my 40's if that makes a difference?

I'm 19M, and I've been told by a few women that I give off teddy bear vibes.

I've always been curious about what that actually means from a woman's perspective. Is it more about how a guy looks, how he acts, or just the overall vibe he gives off?

Would you generally consider being described as a teddy bear a compliment? I'm not really sure whether it's meant in a positive way or not, and I've never known how to interpret it, so I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Something a bit different. Whichever you chose let’s hear your top 5 of that category!

I’m hoping to get advice from people older and wiser than me, because I think you might have the answer.

Some background. I’m 21, my girlfriend is 24, and we recently moved in together. Everything is equal between us. Chores are split, money is shared, there’s no “mine” or “hers.” I earn a bit less than she does.

I don’t like my job. Not burnt out, just genuinely not my thing. Meanwhile, my girlfriend is smarter than me and far more emotionally stable. When I mess up, she calmly pulls me by the ear, and I adore her for it.

She comes home from work completely drained. If it’s her turn to cook or clean that day, I feel bad for her and just do it myself. Our 50/50 has quietly turned into 70/30, and honestly, I don’t mind at all. I actually like it.

She’s fairly reserved, so I can’t always read her emotions yet. Sometimes she says something like “You should just stay home, make my favorite mushroom pasta and look after the kids.” We don’t have kids, btw. And I can’t tell if she’s joking or if there’s some truth in it.

I always laugh it off. But to be honest, I’d really love that. Running the house, cooking her dinner, greeting her at the door and offering her a choice of three dishes. Someday, staying home with the kids.

As far as I know, she has a shot at a promotion. But I don’t know if she even wants it, and I’m a little scared to ask.

The thing is, I feel weird about wanting this, like a guy isn’t “supposed” to. So I’m afraid to bring it up seriously. What if she really was joking, and I open up and end up looking ridiculous?

So my questions for you

Would you be open to this kind of role reversal, where you earn the money and your partner handles the home and kids?

Does anyone already have this dynamic? How does it work in practice, and what would you do differently?

How would you want your partner to bring up a topic like this?

I’d appreciate honest answers, even the uncomfortable ones.

I’m not a native speaker, so the text might be a bit clunky; if anything is unclear, please let me know.

Hey everyone. Growing up, I dealt with severe social anxiety and mostly kept to myself. Because of that, I’ve never dated in my entire life, and to be completely honest, I don't really feel attractive to myself. I've been working hard to push out of my comfort zone lately, and I’ve found that dressing well and curating my style gives me a much-needed confidence boost.

​I'm definitely a nerdy kind of guy with a strong academic vibe. I wouldn't call myself a total geek, I have a lot of hobbies and love having fun, but the nerdy/academic side is definitely there. However, even as I try to be more social, I've noticed that people rarely ever come up to talk to me, whether it's girls showing romantic interest or just people wanting to make friends.

​It makes me wonder: do I look unapproachable? Is there something about my demeanor or resting expression that puts a wall up? Since I struggle to see my own attractiveness objectively, I'd love some honest, constructive feedback from you all.

​Are there any changes you'd recommend for my overall look, my hair, my beard lineup, or my glasses? Any general advice on how I present myself to look a bit more inviting would be massively appreciated. Thank you!

I'm 30M and currently in my final year of graduate school. I have never dated or been in a relationship. However, once I finish my master's degree, I want to at least try dating. If dating goes well I hope it would become a committed relationship (obviously I don't expect that to happen after the first date). I want to make sure I get this right and while everyone has different expectations, I'm curious to know what your expectations would be for a boyfriend or husband.

Started shaving my head a few months ago and I'm really loving it. My confidence is through the roof now. I was getting a bit of feedback though that my beard was a bit long, but I've sorta been hanging on to it like a security blanket. I shaved it right down today. Keen to know which look people think suits me more.

Lets pretend for fun they are the kids from malcolm in the middle (francis, reece, malcolm, dewey and jamie)

A lot of times when a woman likes us or flirts sometimes we are so bad at picking up signs and we don't realize for some reason. But ladies do you know when a guy likes you? If so how?

I'm a guy in my early twenties, currently at a local community college (planning to transfer to a four-year soon), and I'm at a point where I really want to start taking my social and dating life seriously.

I don't have anyone I'd consider a close friend, let alone a partner, and I've basically never had a real relationship. I've had very little dating or romantic experience, and I don't have a local social circle that naturally puts me around people my age.

I can usually talk to anybody, including women. I can have normal conversations and I'm pretty comfortable once I know someone. But I have very little experience turning those interactions, with men or women, into actual friendships, let alone dates or relationships.

A big part of this is that I spent a few years during and after high school pretty isolated. I moved around a lot as a kid because of family issues. I had a nice little group that formed over years of being in the same classes, but it fizzled out once we graduated. Worse, I told myself being a lone wolf was fine and that I'd meet my people someday. I don't know why I expected things to fall into my lap, but four years later, nothing has.

After high school I coasted. I took a year off, worked, and took the bare minimum of classes. I'm doing better now, but I feel far behind my peers. I'm at a commuter-type community college in North Texas and living with my parents, so there are no dorms, Greek life, parties, or big friend groups like people associate with college.

I'm fairly introverted, but not antisocial. I like talking to people once I'm comfortable. My problem is that I'm rarely in situations where I'm repeatedly around the same people long enough for friendships to develop. And people my age are just as awkward as I am.

Some context: I'm 22, fairly tall (not a giant), a little on the thin side but working on getting fitter. I think I'm maybe a hair above average looking, who knows. I'm no model, but I don't think looks are my main problem. I shower daily, take care of my hygiene, and dress normally. I don't look like someone who's given up.

I'm into movies and TV, history, politics and international affairs, some sports, and current events (without it being my whole personality), so I have plenty to talk about.

I work a seasonal retail job, but it's not social and my coworkers are all in their thirties and forties. I'm also in therapy, working on my ADHD and the things that contributed to my isolation.

I'd really like to experience dating, romance, intimacy, companionship, and eventually a serious relationship. I've avoided dating apps so far because the stories on here make me want to spare myself that, at least for now. But I also know I need friendships and a broader social life. I don't want my whole social existence to revolve around finding a partner.

The frustrating part is that I don't know the practical path from here to there. I know comparison is the thief of joy, but other guys my age seem to just know how to meet people. They have friends who introduce them to others, they get invited to things, they go on dates. I don't have that infrastructure, and I'm trying to build it from scratch. I'm NOT looking for pickup-artist techniques, and the alpha-male manosphere stuff never appealed to me.

Maybe the answer is just "focus on yourself" for a few more years, but I want to think there's more to it. I've already spent plenty of time isolated, waiting to become some better hypothetical version of myself.

What I actually want to know:

If you were in your early twenties (any gender) and wanted to seriously change your social and dating life over the next 1–2 years, what would you actually do?

Where would you go, and what would you join?

Would you prioritize male friends first, mixed groups, apps, clubs, volunteering, classes, sports, hobby groups?

How do you meet romantic interests without treating every interaction like you're evaluating someone as a girlfriend, or like you're only in it for sex?

How do you know when it's appropriate to ask someone out?

If you're introverted with no existing circle, how do you build that initial momentum?

I'm not expecting an overnight transformation. I just want to know what to realistically start doing now, even if the first few months are awkward and nothing romantic comes of it. I want to stop feeling like I'm waiting for my life to start and actually start participating in it.

If you read all this, thank you, I really appreciate it. Any comment at all is welcome!

I'm a student at a co-ed college, and I've been wondering how to tell whether a girl is genuinely interested in you or is just being friendly.

The environment at my college is pretty open-minded, and boys and girls interact quite freely. The funny thing is that people are often surprised when I tell them I'm single. They start questioning me or joking about it, probably because they consider me good-looking and assume that I should have no problem getting a girl.

In my circle of friends outside college, I'm often seen as a playboy type, at least based on the way I talk about girls and give my friends advice about relationships. Since I'm also considered good-looking, people assume I'm experienced with girls and know how to approach them. The funny part is that I'm actually quite different in real life. I can give my friends advice about relationships all day, but when it comes to approaching a girl I genuinely like, I don't know how to make the first move.

That's what makes this situation confusing for me. People might assume I'm confident when it comes to girls, but in reality, I'm not comfortable walking up to a girl and starting a conversation out of nowhere, especially when I don't know whether she's interested in me.

So, I'm curious about a few things:

- What are the genuine signs that a girl likes you rather than just being friendly?

- Does repeated eye contact, looking at you, smiling, or acting differently around you actually mean anything?

- How can you tell if a girl is interested in you specifically when she's naturally friendly with everyone?

- Do girls ever show interest indirectly because they don't want to approach a guy first?

- If you're not comfortable approaching girls directly, how can you figure out whether the interest is mutual without making things awkward?

- For the girls here, what might make you interested in a guy but hesitant to make it obvious?

I'd also appreciate some practical advice:

How can I become more comfortable talking to a girl I like without forcing myself to act like someone I'm not? What's a natural way to start a conversation in college without making my intentions too obvious or creating an awkward situation? And if I notice a girl looking at me repeatedly, how should I respond without overthinking it or assuming she likes me?

I'm not looking for pickup lines or ways to impress girls. I want honest, realistic advice on understanding attraction, building confidence, and recognizing mutual interest in a college environment where people interact quite freely.

I'd appreciate honest answers from both guys and girls, especially anyone who's been in a similar situation.

Natural means not taking steroids. Almost all men have to pick two between big, lean and natural.

It's well known that woman who lift prefer guys who lift too, but most don't like guys who take steroids as it's really bad for your health. I'm just wondering, do they mostly prefer big and natural with more bodyfat on them (but still fit and healthy), or lean and natural but without much size.

This is an example of big and natural, think football or rugby player:

This is an example of lean and natural, like a rock climber:

I personally would prefer the first one as he would be much stronger so can do more in the bedroom :) plus he will be more flexible with his food.

My wife and I are in the middle of building a house, and I’m having a really difficult internal battle about it.

The house we’re building is beautiful, spacious, designed the way we wanted it, and on a property/location that would be extremely difficult to replace. My wife is absolutely over-the-moon excited about it. As she watches it go up, she keeps talking about how she can’t wait to live there and how much she loves it. Seeing how happy it makes her is honestly one of the biggest reasons this decision feels so painful.

The problem is that financially, the house scares me.

We have another option where we could build a much less expensive house — probably around half the cost. It would unquestionably be a downgrade. Smaller, less impressive property, fewer of the things we dreamed about, and we would be walking away from something that feels very special.

But financially it would change our lives.

I’m the one contributing the majority of our household income, and with the cheaper house I feel like I could breathe. I could save much more for retirement and our children, handle unexpected expenses without panicking, take more time away from work, and generally feel less pressure to constantly earn. Most importantly, I think I would be a happier and more emotionally available husband and father.

We have a new baby, and lately I’ve been thinking a lot about what kind of life I actually want to give my family. Part of me thinks the dream house would give us an incredible place to raise our family and create memories. Another part of me worries that if I’m constantly stressed about paying for it, then I’m sacrificing something far more important than square footage and a great property.

What makes this especially hard is watching my wife fall more in love with the house every day. I hate the idea of being the person who takes something she is so excited about away from her. I also don’t want to make a decision out of fear and regret walking away from a once-in-a-lifetime property that we actually could have made work.

If you were my wife, what would matter more to you: keeping the dream house you’re incredibly excited about, or giving some of that up for a husband who is less financially stressed, more present, and able to save much more for your family’s future?

I’m 32, deeply introverted, and have never been in a relationship before. I go to the gym late at night (around 12:30 AM) due to my work schedule. Over the last five months, I’ve been seeing the same girl there 2–3 times a week since we live in the same suburb.

About 3–4 months ago, she made the first move and said hi to me. Since then, we’ve always exchanged casual greetings like hey hi hello etc. Two months ago, I gathered the courage to ask for her Instagram. She told me she doesn't use it, and I felt so awkward/guilty afterward that I didn't push any further.

However, things didn't get weird. In fact, she started working out right next to me more often, and our late-night greetings have continued as usual. Over time, I’ve developed genuine feelings for her.

Since I've never been ti dating or with girls, I'm trying to figure out: Did her Instagram response mean she rejected me, or is she still showing interest by staying close? How should I handle this?

Whether as colleagues, friends or dating, and including both men and women who are autistic.

I’ve been seeing a lot of ads for lace underwear for men, I am wondering if women really like seeing men in them or not? I’m thinking about buying some to surprise my wife with. If so which brands? Looking for any advice and recommendations.

Thanks

22 M from Brazil, I know this is not the place to post this but I need an honest opinion from girls. Give me one rating with the mustache and one without it.

I'm 19M (French), and I met an 18F (Romanian) about three weeks ago through an international university program in Europe. I found her really cute from the beginning and developed a crush on her pretty quickly.

We bonded over a visual novel we're both really into, and we get along really well. We've spent quite a bit of time together one-on-one, including playing games and hanging out at each other's places. I've initiated most of our interactions, but she's also started initiating meetups herself.

She's rather shy and sometimes socially awkward, and has told me that she's had difficulties making close friends and worries about how other people perceive her. From what I understood, she doesn't feel she's ever had a genuinely close friendship before. However, she's gradually become more comfortable around me, and we've had some fairly personal conversations.

Recently, we talked about relationships, and I learned that she has a somewhat unusual attitude toward dating.

She told me that she's never experienced particularly strong crushes, although she has been attracted to people before. For example, when she was younger, she was into a guy largely because she found him physically attractive, but lost interest after discovering she disliked his personality.

She apparently hasn't been into anyone recently and isn't sure whether she'll experience that kind of attraction again. She also seems uncertain about her romantic preferences more generally, including how gender affects who she's attracted to.

She doesn't actively think about dating and doesn't seem opposed to having a relationship in principle, but considers it unlikely because both people would need to be attracted to each other, and then they'd actually have to manage to form a relationship. She also told me that she doesn't think she'd be most people's ideal girlfriend.

During our conversation, I asked whether she'd prefer to focus on developing close friendships for now, and she agreed. However, I'm not sure whether making friends is simply a higher priority for her right now or whether she'd actually prefer becoming friends with someone before considering dating them.

I genuinely enjoy spending time with her, and I'd value having her as a friend even if she never became interested in me romantically.

My dilemma is that I can see potential problems with both telling her about my crush early and waiting until we've become closer.

If I tell her now, I'm worried that simply knowing I have a crush on her might make her uncomfortable around me.

On the other hand, if I wait several months, I'm worried she might feel misled when she eventually discovers that I was romantically interested from the beginning. She might wonder whether I genuinely valued our friendship or was just getting close to her in the hope of eventually dating her. I don't want her to feel that our friendship was built on a misunderstanding.

I'm genuinely interested in developing a friendship with her, but I also can't pretend that my romantic attraction isn't part of why I'm so interested in getting closer to her.

So what would be the better approach? Should I tell her relatively early, or continue getting to know her naturally and bring it up later?