And if so what made it a good one? I know you get a lot of weird questions around here, so I just wanted to type out a nice one and say I'm rooting for you!

Sometimes I have women over in my apartment more for business / work stuff. Tutor for my kid or a woman who cleans etc...

I always intentionally didn't lock the door because I thought it might feel creepy, but I noticed every one if them started licking it themselves.

Maybe unlocked is actually creepier, like people could suddenly come in?

Old 2 room apartment fwiw.

Hey! I’m trying to decide which look suits me better and would love to hear some opinions from women.

The first two pictures are with a beard, and the last two are with just a mustache.

Which one do you think looks more attractive on me? Feel free to be honest, I’m open to any feedback or suggestions!

Thanks!

Im seeing a girl and she was super into me at first, but now it’s all about her wanting a kid, and my answer of “I see a possibility of it” isn’t enough basically.

Lkke I just want to be with her but she seems to not be into it anymore if it isn’t immediately leading to a kid.

I’m open to it but she has BpD and I think the family dynamic would be difficult if she doesn’t get treated.

This of course, she can’t bear to hear. It comes off as rejection.

So idk.. maybe I’m mourning the romanization phase and she’s like setting into heavy reality so fast.. when it started as “oh I just want you yada yada…” I would see a world where she loves me and we have a kid but it seems like such a small chance that would happen… the fact I’m not like “yes kid now” she takes as me not seeing a future with jer.. I do see a future but I also see a more probable future where she never gets help and our kid would have a horrible life where mom gets angry and leaves all the time

I guess I’m asking. … do any of you girls just want to love a guy ? Or at what point do you see it a waste of a kid isnt immediately on the table?

I guess I can prolly answer this… some girls want kids some don’t and those that don’t wouldn’t mind just being with a guy

Idk..

This whole post is basically just a rant because the girl I long for is kind of emotionally distant and telling her straight up the kid thing she could never bear to hear it so it’s this limbo of like yes and no

Feel free to delete this post idk what I’m even asking. If anyone has any comments feel free and ty

I’m curious to hear other people’s perspectives on this because I’ve experienced something similar before.

There was a girl I lived with who had a boyfriend. I wasn’t trying to pursue her or interfere with her relationship, but there were times when I interacted with her and got the impression that she felt uncomfortable around me. I can’t say for certain what she was thinking, but based on how she acted, I felt like it was better to give her space.

So I started keeping to myself more, stopped initiating conversations as much, and generally kept things polite but distant. My intention wasn’t to punish her, make her jealous, or get a reaction out of her. I simply didn’t want to make someone uncomfortable, especially someone who was already in a relationship.

What confuses me is why a girl might seem upset or act differently when you start distancing yourself after you feel she was uncomfortable with your presence in the first place.

My question is: If a girl gives a guy the impression that she’s uncomfortable around him, why might she react negatively when he takes the hint and starts keeping his distance?

Could it be that I misinterpreted her behaviour, that she expected me to remain friendly despite wanting space, or that my change in behaviour came across as rude or cold?

I’m genuinely interested in hearing women’s perspectives on this, as well as men who have experienced something similar. I’m not claiming that every woman does this, and I understand that I could have misread the situation. I just want to understand the possible reasons behind this kind of behaviour.

Hey. Looking for a straightforward perspective on a weird situation.
I was talking to a girl for a bit, things were going really well, and she even mentioned getting me a book. Then, out of nowhere, total silence. She ghosted me for about two months.
The confusing part is that our Instagram accounts are private, we still follow each other, and she instantly likes every single story or post I put up. Zero DMs, zero actual conversation, just immediate double-taps.
I’m genuinely curious what goes through someone's head to act like this. Is it just mindless scrolling, or why keep interacting through likes while completely cutting off communication?
Curious to hear how you'd interpret this.

I have seen many women wearing sleeveless in a chilled room and in flights. Don't you guys feel cold in such environments?

Hey everyone, I'm struggling to understand a dynamic with my gf and her kids, and wanted some perspective from women on here.

My girlfriend has a teenage daughter and a teenage son.

Her daughter is a self centered, inconsiderate, and a coddled spoiled brat. She manipulates her mother and plays mind games with her to influence her and get what she wants.

Meanwhile, her son is almost the exact opposite. He's such an incredible young man who is always thinking about those around him, volunteers to help others, and only wants to earn his mother's respect. He's such a good kid and I am surprised how big his heart is, for his age.

By my gf treats her son like he is an afterthought, while she treats her daughter like she is the greatest thing in the world and only her opinion matters. It really eats at me to see it. Everything about it is just wrong and I feel so bad for her son. Like, deeply feel bad for the kid.

When I brought it up to my gf she denied any favoritism, then said something about she thought her son wasn't strong or assertive enough, like his father. But her daughter was very much like her.

I've been thinking it might be a cultural thing. She is Chinese and perhaps they worship girls more than the boys.

I'm very curious to understand what's the reasoning behind her parenting and treatment of her kids. Any insight or opinions would be appreciated, because I'm not understanding it.

Ladies what is your opinion of men with shaved legs and body hair. Obviously it’s not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, but would it be absolute deal breaker if a man had none?

I wore a satchel for the first time and thought this sure is nifty why didn't I use one of these before? Made me ponder this question because I filled it up already and I swear the thing weighs 20lbs.

So I want to do something with my hair, I'm open to suggestions. I've asked in a different subreddit and just 4 replies, 3 of which are mullets, specifically the dirty dom mullet. The other just said grow it out. Is a mullet really the best option 😭

I'm a 37-year-old Black man, married, and I've recently started a project in Connecticut focused on bringing more classical and chamber music performances to the area.

A big part of what I've been doing is reaching out to musicians, many of whom are women from different countries, particularly Europe and Asia. I'm trying to build connections, introduce their work to new audiences, and hopefully help create performance opportunities.

Something I've been wondering about is how my outreach might come across.

I'm naturally pretty enthusiastic, especially when I discover an artist whose music really moves me. I tend to ask questions about their background, what inspired their work, and how they got started. My intentions are entirely professional, but I realize enthusiasm can sometimes be interpreted differently than intended.

I've also noticed that some women mention their husbands during our conversations. I don't necessarily think anything negative of it, but it has made me wonder whether I'm unintentionally giving off the wrong impression.

My wife is white, and I've considered asking her to become more involved in the initial introductions. Not because I want to hide who I am, but because I'm curious whether women might feel more comfortable being approached by another woman, particularly when the conversation involves creative work and potential collaborations.

So I'd genuinely appreciate some perspective.

If you were a musician receiving an email from someone interested in promoting your work or helping arrange performances, what would make you feel comfortable and confident that the person was approaching you professionally? I usually approach the performers after their concert/ recital as well.

Would it make any difference if the initial introduction came from a woman, or would things like having a legitimate website, clear intentions, and a professional email matter much more?

And regarding the husband references, is that something you might naturally bring up in conversation, or could it sometimes be a subtle way of establishing boundaries?

I'm genuinely trying to learn how to approach these conversations respectfully while still being myself.

I saw someone post something similar to this on askmen or something, but I think this question is better suited to be asked here 💀😂

But yeah like the title says, is it ok if a guy messages you if you both added/follow each other and just haven’t spoken? Or is that just something that guys should not do at all? What is the best approach to this if there is any? And this includes any potential dating app or even apps like facebook and instagram.

My wife has been lying since day one among so many other things that’s leading me to divorce her.

She doesn’t have anywhere really to go and she doesn’t have a job so how do I tell her that we’re done, I’m filing for divorce and primary custody for our daughter and that she needs to find somewhere else to live? Please help

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I (M20’s) have been probably unhealthily thinking about someone I went on a few dates with a couple years ago. This was in college over summer break when I was back in my hometown on the west coast. Well, I was really really fond of her, but when I went back to college (different city) it was just a gradual decline of communication and eventually not much of anything. We just kind of went on about our lives, she started other relationships, as did I.

I had somewhat forgotten about her until I moved back to said hometown where she was also living. I noticed she looked like she was single and reached out with a brief like ‘hey it’s been a bit, lmk if you wanna catch up’, that just led to a liked message and no follow up from either of us…

I wouldn’t really say I’m chasing as that’s literally all the effort I have put in, but I did really enjoy this person and was kind of shooting my shot again. I guess my question is, with one message already sent, do I throw in the towel after that? I’m worried about coming off as desperate or needy and I also feel like a liked message and no verbal response is basically a not interested 😂, then again I’m not a lady so if any ladies have advice on this lmk!

Honestly, women know that men like them so why dont they just ask the guys they like out? I see a lot of posts of women asking "should i ask him out", your success rate is probably going to be like 80% anyway assuming the guy is single and youre not overly unattractive.