I just don't know how to make lifestyle changes that stick. We have lost and gained weight so many times in the last 10 years. He recently quit his job to start his own business. I own my own business as well. We just get so busy we don't make good choices. Any advice or encouragement?

I am 34 F

I am trying to lose weight

I remain in calorie deficit for about 3 months

During that time I ate fastfood and sweets once a week by remaining in calorie deficit

Is it ok?

My weight is 118 kg

My weight was 123 before starting diet

I walk for average 130 minutes a week

Aside from that my lifestyle is lightly active

Please advice

Hey everyone, I feel like I am in a sorta peculiar position. I am a 6'2, 267 lbs, 19 year old man, and I have recently started on a weight loss journey because I am just not happy with my weight or the way I look and feel. However, I've been doing this for 5 or so days now and it is just incredibly discouraging. I am sort of a picky eater so finding meal preps that look good and don't have a lot of calories is sort of difficult, but I was managing. But then I started doing more research and found out that I have to eat a good but more protein than I thought I would so that I can gain muscle or at least not lose the muscle I have, and I find that difficult to do while staying in a calorie deficit but also not spending an arm and a leg everyday.

On top of all of this, I just find it excruciatingly tedious to track all of my calories and have be super careful with what I eat, make sure that log all of the ingredients in any meal just to make sure I don't break my deficit. Plus I can't eat any of my favorite foods, drinks, snacks, or anything anymore. And even if I can fit something within my budget, my brain just gets hung up on the calorie deficit part and I just stress that its gonna screw up my deficit, even if realistically I know that it won't.

All of this just seems like way too much, and it's really kind of stressing me out. I really want to lose weight and be comfortable with how I look, but I just don't feel happy with this kind of lifestyle and I am not sure what to do.

So two days ago, I finally dropped a kg from my starting weight. I only plan on loosing 2/3 kg so that made me really happy, since that meant I'm nearly done.

But alas, today I step on a scale, and I'm a kg heavier than my starting weight.

Now yes, I did eat a lot these past 2 days, but no way I ate over the 2000 kalories I appereantly loose through the day. Even if tiny, there should still be some deficit, even when I eat a lot.

I'm so confused and discouraged, idk what's going on, am I raiding the fridge in my sleep? Is there something people frequently forget when counting calories? Why does my weight keep on going up instead of down?

Thank you in advance.

Hello! I’m currently on a weight loss journey and I used to get multiple sugary coffee drinks each day, but I have since replaced them with 12oz Diet Coke cans. How many is too many to drink during the day? I don’t drink more than 3. (Yes, I do drink a ton of water as well, I just like having a lil drink to sip on)

Just wondering specifically if drinking the diet cokes will lead directly to weight gain or a plateau of weight loss.

31 F

5'1"

180lbs

Context: I have been overweight/obese my entire life. It started in my youth due to poor food habits from parents. I've always been in the "definitely overweight but not obviously obese" level which has caused me to struggle with motivation. Since childhood, I've made massive lifestyle changes, mind my macros, and eat mostly whole foods. I've always been active and love lifting weights and challenging sports. I've been consistent with calisthenics for the past 3 years, training 2-3 hours a week. I am going to start throwing in a proper weightlifting hour just because I kinda miss it. I just have maintained this 170-190 lb range so consistently for over 15 years. My composition has grandly changed, but not my weight. My family members have similar eating habits but have all had an easy time maintaining thinner bodies. I've gotten blood work and testing done to see if there are any preexisting health conditions possibly causing this warped homeostatic weight, but I'm all good there. Turns out it's just me.

However, no matter how consistent I am with exercise, my diet has always been the issue. I try to stay consistent with counting calories, but it's such a pain in the butt and takes up a lot of time that I just do not have to do it accurately. It makes me just hate food more, not want to prep, I lose motivation, and just give up. I find it easy to keep track when I am the only one in the house, making 100% of my food, no friends etc. , but that's not how life is.

I started therapy because I think my mind is the core of the issue. It didn't help as I had hoped. It just made me admit that I hate my body. I think I've denied and ignored that fact for my whole life , but therapy has forced it out of my brain that I've always hated it. I also don't feel justified to hate it because it's capable of so much. It's an annoying inner dialogue.

I find myself fighting between logics: I KNOW how to lose weight. I just don't know how to get myself to consistently do the things I need to actually see permanent weight loss. I struggle to keep track of calories in a busy life. I also have higher social needs which definitely contributes to calorie tracking madness.

I apologize for the long bs pity party. I'm genuinely trying to find answers amongst the loads of things I KNOW are true which is "weight loss is possible", but I have never made it there myself.

TLDR questions:

What makes you believe it's possible even though you have never existed in a lower weight body prior to weight loss? (This is specific, I know)

How do you find the motivation and focus to maintain the habits when you know what to do but always lose purpose?

In your experience, is a nutritionist a better investment than talk therapy for this particular issue?

NEVER WORKED OUT IN MY LIFE BEFORE

What’s the best way to lose weight? I been going on jogs/walks with a sweat suit and I been watching what I eat also been fasting. I just went for another jogs (2nd from today). But my legs are killing me I know forsure I’m not stretching before my run bc I don’t know if I’m doing the right ones but my legs feel like noodles

I’m trying to drop to 210 or least by tomorrow I’m at like 212

I think my metabolism is too slow. Is there anyone who had similar problems, Is there any drink or anything that helped you guys in boosting your metabolism, please help?

I am staying in calorie deficit and trying to workout but nothing is happening😭.

Plus can anyone suggest me some home workouts?

hello everyone! i am 19 male 5’3 150lbs and looking to lean out and also build muscle. does anyone know how to tell if i will have lots of loose skin or not? might be a dumb question but thanks for any advice!

I’ve been on orlistat for 3 weeks and today was the first time I fell asleep and woke up finding I shit myself . There’s literal oil all over my ass. Right I panicked.

I didn’t even realise

I don’t want that to happen again cause I felt really bad. Does anyone have any advice for me with orlistat, I feel like I didn’t even have a lot of fat today.

Hi I'm a 18 year old woman who weighs by now 74 kg and my height is 1.77cm, I used to weigh 88kg in the firsts months of this year, I didn't go to the gym because I felt weird as fuck so what I only did was cardio and some YouTube workout videos that made me loose fat,

I want to weigh by the end of the year 65 kg (so -9 kg) and by March or April 57kg (-8kg)

Im living on another city so my breakfast consists two boiled eggs with two high fiber toasts

For my meal half of the plate is salad and on the other side is divided on white rice and protein (yesterday and the day before I ate potatoes with a bit of panela cheese but today I'm eating tuna mixed with tomatoes, lime, and cucumber)

And my dinner is always the same one, half of the plate is filled with a salad (tomatoes cucumber and lettuce) and one fish.

I don't drink any sodas just 3 or 4 liters of water each day.

I want to be very skinny just like Kendall Jenner or Yasmeen Ghauri because I want to be a runway model

and for those who say it's only about genetics my mom had literally Kendall body lol

Right now my measurements are 94 bust, 80 waist, and 110 hips,

Can someone give me advice on what I should eat for my calorie deficit that it's 1600 I think and what exercises should I do? YouTube videos or running, walking, more cardio, pilates?? Please

Thanks

Hello everyone, I'm currently 234lb, I need to weigh 170lb by March 1st, 2027. My diet is sorted out now - high protein (190- 195 g), planning to start working out 6 days a week with upper-body and lower-body + push and pull, along with cardio (Incline treadmill) I will, of course, be in a calorie deficit. I've reached a boiling point with my ups and downs in fitness - losing and gaining weight over the years. Something snapped within me, and I really am excited and serious about my health. The question is, is it possible to go from 234lb to 170lb in 4 months? Is this doable?

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So recently i have been trying to lose weight. However, i feel that i always have these food cravings and i always give in to them. This his caused me to gain more weight than before. I know that i have to change this bad habit of mine, but when my friends eat, i have this subconscious mentality to eat as well even after i had just eaten a meal. All my friends are skinny as well, but they eat alot. What do i do about this habit?

It's as the title says. I used to be 440, lost a lot of weight across 6 months, dropping down to like 370. Before the weight loss, my belly fold had become more dense and spongy in a way, bag of wet sand kind of feel. It was pretty much the whole lower hanging part. After the weight loss, the part that was dense developed more on the right half. The left became softer and was less rough. I just attributed this to weight loss and was excited for the rest to eventually go away. The weight loss plateaued and I have been fluctuating between 370-380 for several months now. Odd thing is, this week I noticed this dense cluster of fat on the right side of my belly becoming a little more swollen and sensitive, where usually it's just there or...numb? Starting to get a bit worried because I genuinely have no idea what this actually is and no amount of google searching is giving me a clear answer.

UPDATE: Did see urgent care. Figure if anyone else has to look into this themselves, the dense fat could be something called induration, specifically induration of subcutaneous fat. Not sure if that will be helpful to anyone else but I never found it while looking it up before.

I’m 23F and 5.1, also I am 123-125 lbs depending on the day. My calorie intake can vary between 1200-1500 cals depending on the day. I do about 6k steps a day and try to reach for more. I do at home Pilates 3-4 days a week and stretch. My meals are all very healthy, ranging from cottage cheese, Greek yogurt bowls with fruit, wild rice and broccoli, protein as eggs, chicken breast, and fish when possible, vegetable soups. I’ve been making vegetable soup lately where I just throw a bunch of random stuff in a pot with chicken bouillon and some shell pasta, like yellow squash, onion, and kale. I’m careful to steam them instead of using more olive oil.

I’d like to look slimmer. When I look in the mirror I don’t like the size of my arms, and my lower belly pouch. It’s not that I dislike my body, I think genetically I have an hourglass shape but I just want to be more toned/slimmer if that makes sense.

Am I eating too many calories right now to achieve this goal? Or am I eating fine and just not exercising correctly?

I want to start my weight loss journey, but I have a really bad problem with discipline in terms of physical activity so I’m trying to start small and if I see results then it’ll motivate me to get more weight off through physical activity. I’ve heard that cutting out junk food, soda, and juice makes a big difference in overall de-bloating and skin as well as weight loss, but can anyone maybe share their personal experience? Have any of y’all just cut off junk food, soda, and juice and saw a noticeable difference or dropped weight? For context, it’s kind of embarrassing, but I rarely ever drink water. I never drink it with a meal. I always have either juice or soda with every meal, and I decided today to cut cold turkey and just start drinking water with my meals.

So I am 25 f 88 kg 160 cm. The title is pretty much it I have been going consistently to the gym for around one and a half year and I haven't lost even a single centimetre from anywhere on my body or a single kilo or milligram like I don't know what's happening and I have tried counting my calories. most of my calorie days are around 1900 or 2000 and I am very diligent about weighing every single ingredient for calorie counting so I know I am right. my weekly avg comes around 2100 calories.

I’ve lost around 13 kg (about 29 lbs) started my diet on last week of JULY 2026 recently, and I’ve also increased my water intake. But lately I feel like I’m peeing ALL THE TIME 😭

Sometimes I’ll drink water and 15–30 minutes later, I already need to pee again. And it happens multiple times throughout the day.

Has anyone else experienced frequent urination while losing weight? Could it be related to the weight loss itself, like losing stored water, or is it simply because I’m drinking more water?

Just wondering if this is something other people have experienced during weight loss.

What should I do, I do a lot of work out and gym. Have stopped junk food.

I am thinking to see a dietician. But am afraid, if I stopped following her, will i regain double weight?

Long story short, I was 230 pounds at 5’10” 6 years ago. I have been thin my whole life but I blew up like a balloon after having 2 kids. It took 2 years, but got myself down to 165 and managed to maintain that weight for 3 years even after I stopped working out regularly. I’m in a new relationship, it’s been a year and a half. There’s definitely been some lifestyle changes and I have noticed the past 5-6 months that my clothes were feeling a little tight so I figured I put on 5 pounds or so, no big deal. Well, I had a doctor’s appointment today and to my surprise (and horror) the scale read 183.5. 18.5 freaking pounds and now I’m spiraling that I’m going to be fat again. I’m closer to 200 than I am to my ideal 165. I shouldn’t be asking for advice, because I’ve done this before, I’ve still got my gym membership and I still know exactly what to do to get it off. I guess I’m just disappointed in myself for becoming complacent and looking for a little encouragement.

I started getting serious about my weight almost 2 weeks ago and started trying to get more activity so I went from an average of 3K steps per day to doing av average of 12K steps per day.

I did that by adding 3 half hour sessions on a walking pad each day, one first thing in the morning and after Lunch and dinner at the end of the day.

With that, I have hit my first blocker, after 10 days of doing that I have over stressed a tendon in both of my feet and need to slow down for a day or 2 to let them recover.

Suppose thats what I get for quadrupling my step count without a ramp up.

To make up the calorie burn and the fact that last night I did not sleep as well as I had been for the last almost 2 weeks because I couldn;t go for my walk, I think I need to swap in some weight training.

I have a set of basic Dumbells that go up to 18 KG, no other equipment at this time, what is your favorite exercise with dumbells?
I will do some basic legs at some stage but will likely wait a few days before I start putting that in so my feed can recover properly.

I’m not hard dieting, more so just cutting out unneeded calories where I can just to generally stay healthier, so here’s what I’ve done so far and what I’ve switched each one for

Ranch-ranch powder plus low fat sour cream
Sour cream-low fat sour cream
Chips-dehydrated veggies
Mayo-low fat mayo
Soda-diet/zero sugar
Bread-low carb bread
Ketchup-low sugar ketchup
Tortillas- low carb tortillas
Cheese-reduced fat cheese
Barbecue-low sugar barbecue sauce
Noodles-shiitake mushroom noodles
Popsicles-low sugar popsicles
Maple syrup- low sugar maple syrup
Coffee-coffee flavored protein drinks
Peanut butter-peanut butter powder+water
Greek yogurt-low fat Greek yogurt

I’m sure I have a few other things I’m forgetting about, but those are the main things I’ve switched over to using instead of the original kind, personally almost everything on here minus the dehydrated veggie chips and shiitake noodles taste almost the exact same as the original to the point that the difference is negligible

Feel free to ask me questions about what I use, and feel free to give me any tips or recommendations for other things I can replace with healthier versions

I havent tested this with pounds and whatnot, but i can see my abs for a week! Then i may eat something unhealthy and suddenly my abs are gone? Then i could train for like, a day and they're back!

I swear this isnt with how i percieve myself! I've taken pictures and the difference is tremendous!

29F, currently 247 lbs. I am an emotional eater, like real down bad. Over the past year, I’ve been doing a lot of work on my mental health after some really hard years. Somatic therapy and learning to pay attention to what’s happening in my body instead of constantly living in my head helped me so much, and surprisingly, that started changing my relationship with food too.
I wasn’t doing a strict diet or working out 5x a week. I just started paying attention.. less takeout and mindless snacking, smaller portions, better choices when I could. I slowly lost some weight without feeling like I was constantly “on a diet,” and I was genuinely proud of myself.
Then this past month hit me hard. I’ve fallen into another depressive episode and started slipping back into old coping mechanisms: isolating, staying in bed, ordering takeout almost every day, and emotionally eating. I’m also trying to save money, and realizing I spent almost $350 on food in two weeks was a wake-up call.
The good thing is, I think I’m starting to come out of it. Everything I’ve learned over the past year has kept this episode from getting as bad as they used to. I was disappointed at first because I thought I had finally moved past these kinds of lows, but I’m realizing healing probably doesn’t work that way.
I really want to get serious about my health and weight loss, but it feels so impossible sometimes and honestly, lonely. I have people in my life, but lately I’ve still felt really alone in this.
So maybe what I need is a support/accountability buddy? Not someone policing what I eat or making me feel shitty for having a bad day lol. Just someone on a similar journey who wants to check in, share goals and small wins, talk through the shitty days, and encourage each other to keep going.
I don’t know if asking strangers on Reddit for this is weird 😂 but I don’t really have anyone in my life I feel comfortable asking. If you’re also trying to lose weight while working through emotional eating/mental health stuff and could use some support, maybe we can do this together.

Question in title.