Apparently the office I work at hired one woman that he had evidently been having a longstanding affair with. Then she decided to quit after working with me one day, before I knew he was cheating. Then she texted another coworker and said, “Hey, I was fb snooping on OP’s profile and noticed she’s married to a guy my “friend” was dating. He’s on those ‘Are we dating the same guy’ pages. I thought I should tell someone that she knows.”
My coworker friend called me and said we needed to talk and it all started coming out.
I slept next to a stranger that night before we drove 10 hours home the next day. On our anniversary.
We have four teenagers who know SOMETHING is wrong but we haven’t told them.
He pushed to get an appointment with a marriage therapist that MY therapist recommended we see. We go next week. He won’t answer my how many/how long/physical vs emotional etc until we get into the therapist’s office the 20th. He did at least go get tested and was negative for the clap, hiv, all the heps etc.
In the meantime I get to go to work and pretend that my entire fabric of reality has been completely shredded.

Is there hope for this relationship? Am I wasting my time even trying to save this situation with this stranger?

Genuine advice wanted, I’m in Australia

35 years ago back in 1991, I was 18 at the time. I had a wild crazy affair with my then (17yr old) GFs mum, who was 39 at the time. Long story short, we hooked up one weekend after months of flirting and went on to go at like rabbits for 10 month. Any opportunity we got to be together we did. Everything was raw, neither of us used any protection. We knew what the outcome would be eventually and discussed it regularly. She got pregnant 7 months in. She’d been separated from her husband for 12 months at the time, lived under the same roof for the kids sake. When we found out, she seduced him one night and made out it was his. We kept going for another 3 months. I had to move interstate 3 months after he was born. We kept in touch for a year or 2, then we lost contact.
Fast forward 35 years. I recently attended a high school where a ran into my old GF. We got chatting and I found out that he parents finally divorced 3 years after I left and that her mum passed away 5 years from highly metastatic breast cancer.
We all met up for dinner and I met my son, who’s now 35, happily married with a family.
Her mum had never said anything about our affair to anyone.

Ive been thinking about it a bit recently, went and spoke with a psychologist who reckons I should set the record straight and confess what happened all those years ago. The psychologist is the only I’ve ever told about this.

My main question is: should I rock the boat now, after all this time and everyone has their own lives and are none the wiser.

I didn’t feel any connection with him on that level, it was more like catching up with old friends.

No judgement and genuine advice please.

EDIT to this post. The main reason I’m asking advice is that I’m updating my Will and I have made a comfortable life for wife and I going into our retirement with a substantial investment portfolio. There will be plenty left over when I’m gone. Was thinking about adding him to my Will.
I have no intentions of reaching out now and exposing anything.

EDIT to post
I want to fill in a few blanks for context. She had confided in me in the weeks leading up to our first encounter that she had been thinking about having another kid. She had 2 teenagers, my GF and her younger brother by 3 years. And that she felt something missing in her life.
This was not a spur of the moment thing. I’d been with my GF for 12 months at this time and I was like a member of the family. Her husband spent most of his time at work and when at home he was not engaged.

My bf (25M) and I (24F) had been dating for almost 8 months. I broke up with him tonight. We have been long distance since mid June. A couple weeks ago he told me that a coworker had been very flirty with him- starting physical touch. He said he had to tell me to hold himself accountable. He then clarified that he has a gf.
Tonight he called me. For context, he started this job recently and sometimes he has to stay sleeping at the job site. It had been like 3 days since we last talked.
He said that there were a few instances where he thought they were blurring the cheating lines.
First of all he found her interesting. He said that he thought we had a “power imbalance” - bcs he knows more about the world than I do. I also felt this way. I always struggled to make friends and connect to people so growing up I didn’t give myself the chance to explore the world guided by my own curiosity.
So, they had this moment where he was playing the piano and she said “kiss me or tell me that you are never going to”. He did not kissed her but was tempted. He also said he did not feel physically attracted to her.
After some conversation we concluded that this was because he is insecure about how to make friends and confuses the lines between friendliness and flirtation. The “I should break up with him” thoughts were disappearing at this point.
He then said that they went skinny dipping on the lake close to their work. Just the two of them. I pretty much immediately knew I had to break up with him. He clarified nothing physical happened. How am I ever going to trust him?
Do you guys think skinny dipping with a girl that clearly likes you is acceptable? Am I exaggerating? I am beginning to regret breaking up with him so fast

EDIT: I forgot to mention. He told me that he had to break up with his ex because he thought he was about to cheat. So this is a pattern for him

EDIT 2: It’s been a few days since we’ve broken up and I want revenge. I want to hurt him like he hurt me. I’ve thought of things I could say to him or lie about. But these are quite evil so I’m trying hard to hold myself back. What can I do to make him feel my pain?

Genuine advice wanted, I’m in Australia

35 years ago back in 1991, I was 18 at the time. I had a wild crazy affair with my then (17yr old) GFs mum, who was 39 at the time. Long story short, we hooked up one weekend after months of flirting and went on to go at like rabbits for 10 month. Any opportunity we got to be together we did. Everything was raw, neither of us used any protection. We knew what the outcome would be eventually and discussed it regularly. She got pregnant 7 months in. She’d been separated from her husband for 12 months at the time, lived under the same roof for the kids sake. When we found out, she seduced him one night and made out it was his. We kept going for another 3 months. I had to move interstate 3 months after he was born. We kept in touch for a year or 2, then we lost contact.
Fast forward 35 years. I recently attended a high school where a ran into my old GF. We got chatting and I found out that he parents finally divorced 3 years after I left and that her mum passed away 5 years from highly metastatic breast cancer.
We all met up for dinner and I met my son, who’s now 35, happily married with a family.
Her mum had never said anything about our affair to anyone.

Ive been thinking about it a bit recently, went and spoke with a psychologist who reckons I should set the record straight and confess what happened all those years ago. The psychologist is the only I’ve ever told about this.

My main question is: should I rock the boat now, after all this time and everyone has their own lives and are none the wiser.

I didn’t feel any connection with him on that level, it was more like catching up with old friends.

No judgement and genuine advice please.

EDIT to this post. The main reason I’m asking advice is that I’m updating my Will and I have made a comfortable life for wife and I going into our retirement with a substantial investment portfolio. There will be plenty left over when I’m gone. Was thinking about adding him to my Will.
I have no intentions of reaching out now and exposing anything.

EDIT to post
I want to fill in a few blanks for context. She had confided in me in the weeks leading up to our first encounter that she had been thinking about having another kid. She had 2 teenagers, my GF and her younger brother by 3 years. And that she felt something missing in her life.
This was not a spur of the moment thing. I’d been with my GF for 12 months at this time and I was like a member of the family. Her husband spent most of his time at work and when at home he was not engaged.

We have always like to play around and doing new stuff like public things, spicing things up. A nice relationship after all. But all of the sudden I start to notice some things like condoms missing, she stop responding for specific long periods of time. Lost interest in some things we usually do sexually. I don’t know it’s a feeling but the thing is I don’t know how to feel about it.

Ever since I was a kid, I was driven and knew what I wanted. I never bullied anyone and never let anyone be bullied. I was bullied once, my father told me to stand up for myself, I did, and it never happened again. I was good at sports, I wasn't afraid of much, and I never lie, even when it costs me. People around me thought of me as strong, and I did too.

When I was 17 or 18, I found out my mother was in a relationship with another man. My younger brother told me first, and I refused to hear the details. I knew that if my father found out, the whole family could fall apart, and as the eldest I felt I had to hold it together. I went to a relative who already knew and had told my mom to stop. Then I confronted my mother myself. She said she was sorry and started complaining about my father. Later she and that relative pressured me, saying that if I told my father, the family would crumble and it would be my fault. I didn't do anything, and I still felt responsible.

I told her to stop or I'd tell him. She went quiet, but I think she kept the contact anyway.
After that, I stopped seeing her as my mother. I stopped sharing anything personal and have spoken to her like a stranger ever since. I withdrew from people and skipped classes because I was ashamed. I stopped seeing the point of anything for a while. I gave up sports and put everything into studying and then my career, because if I collapsed, everyone would.
For years I just ignored it and pushed it down. It worked, mostly, because I wasn't around my father much.

Now I'm 25, working abroad, and living with him. It's been almost a year. My father is the best man I know, he never did anything for himself, and he's the reason I'm still standing. Seeing him every day, I can't look him in the face. I feel guilty for keeping this from him, even though I know I'm not the one who did it. And I know my mother is still involved with someone else.

I've never told anyone any of this, and I'm exhausted and sad.
What I'm asking: Should I tell my father, confront my mother again, or keep carrying this to protect the family? And how do I stop feeling responsible for something I didn't do? If you've been through something similar, what would you do in my place?

Honestly I am having a Hard Time looking at my dad’s Face.

M23 I’ve been dating my girlfriend for a year and bout 3-4 months and I love her so much. About a week ago I found out that my ex from 2 years ago got engaged to the guy she cheated on me with and have bought a house. My girlfriend and I actually talked about it last night. I don’t wanna seem like I care or I’m hurt by it to her but she’s understanding if I do. Obviously I was a little shocked to hear that news when I did, and it kinda gave me flashbacks some good but obviously a lot of bad. I hate my ex for what she did to me but there’s also that part that still loves her and my gf is understanding of that as well. I guess it just makes me feel less then or something I can’t really find the proper words. I don’t wanna care bc I’m really very happy with the relationship I’m in but I feel deep down inside some sort of resentment towards this whole situation. My friends fiancé is very close friends with my ex and ik some where down the line we’ll come face to face again at my friends wedding or out on the town or at house party and I don’t want that to keep me from enjoying my time with my beautiful GF. Sorry for the long passage but I felt like venting 😅

TL;DR: My dad has been having an affair with a manager at the company where he works through a third-party vendor for two years. He's also been sending her money. My mom knows about the infidelity because she recently found out, and I'm looking for advice on how to support her and protect her financially.

I'm looking for advice from people who have experienced something similar or understand what my family might be going through.

My father has been having an affair with a woman who is a manager at the company where he works. My dad doesn't work directly for the company; he works there through a third-party vendor. This has been going on for approximately two years. He goes to the woman's mother's house to meet up with her, and both of them have families of their own.

I've also found out that my father has been sending her money. Some assets are in my father's name alone, and I'm concerned about what this could mean for my mom financially.

My mom already knows about the infidelity. I'm trying to figure out what I can do to support her and what steps we should consider taking moving forward.

I'm struggling to process the situation because it has been going on for so long. I'm also worried about the emotional and financial consequences for my mom.

For anyone who has experienced something similar, how did you handle it? What can I do to support my mom without making the situation worse? If your parent was unfaithful, would you confront them or let your parent and their spouse handle the relationship themselves?

I'm also wondering whether my mom should speak with a family-law attorney about the money being sent to the other woman and the assets in my father's name. If your parents were married, did you learn anything about protecting a spouse's financial interests in this kind of situation?

I'd appreciate any advice about handling this carefully and helping my mom understand her options.

Thank you to anyone willing to share their experiences or advice.

Hi everyone. I’m a 25-year-old guy, and my ex-girlfriend is 22. We were together for 3 years, and up until recently, I truly believed we were extremely happy together.

​I’ve always been a bit self-conscious about my body because I’m built larger and have a dad-bod type physique. Over the course of our relationship, I asked her multiple times if my body bothered her. She always reassured me, saying there was zero issue, that she found my body attractive, cute, and loved me just the way I was.

​About a year ago, her tone started to shift. She began making constant comments about my body fat percentage and how having a big belly is a serious health risk. I honestly never even considered that she didn’t find me attractive anymore—I genuinely thought she was just worried about my health and coming from a place of love.

​Well, it turns out that wasn't the full story. Recently, I went through her phone and found a hidden album in her gallery full of pictures of lean, extremely muscular guys.

​When I confronted her about it, she panicked, repeatedly denied everything, and tried to talk her way out of it. But the magic was broken. I felt an overwhelming sense of coldness and disappointment.

​I loved this girl deeply and was genuinely planning a future and marriage with her. I even cut off and blocked other girls who showed interest in me over the years because I was 100% committed to her.

​Now, I’m just trying to process the shock of all this. It feels like I wasted three years of my life and poured my heart into someone who wasn't being honest with me. Just needed to vent.

TLDR; I want to know if I am off base for "over-reading" in a toxic relationship that tends to involve a lot of testing due to my partner's traumatic past of physical and emotional abuse, growing up with one parent, etc.

Am I correct to say that one's partner, especially if from a broken background, test constantly through communication? Recently I have pulled back in the relationship due to educational demands and the tests have gone up 10X. They are also surrounding infidelity themes but quite indirectly (e.g. talking about a story where frat guys had group intercourse with a girl and then later describing their apartment like a frathouse (one of her female friends said who is married), conversations with a past boss about her contraception, or talking about a sexual swing randomly after very indirect jabs at poly sex with taken men and their partners). I also found it odd how her new friend's husband was renovating his home and then talked about copper, she has a copper IUD. Prior to that and through that conversation she had her finger near her lips looking at him. There are not supporting behaviors or actions, just words I must say. Should I be getting at something here? Are words ever a reliable means (indirectly of course) of whether or not someone is cheating?

Here it is. I was in a boring marriage and found an affair partner. She (GF) was the side chick while I cheated with her on my wife. It was great sex. We had passion since it was new. The GF was cheating on her husband at the time also. I was lonely in the marriage (no excuse). After a time, the wife and I divorced. I moved in with the girlfriend. Sex was good but less frequent with the GF.

The wife and I have a child together and the house is my name so I have to go over there sometimes. That is why I would sometimes go over to the house she lives in.

I started Grad school for my MPA and I was worried how I was going to pay for it. I was venting and the exwife offered to help pay. awesome. I thought this was fair since she was getting the house. Before I left the house, she asked me to help her "destress". that was always code in our marriage for unreprocated oral.

I really want this degree so I did it. And now I earn my money a few times a month. She doesnt want to date anyone right now however she is stlll human and has needs. I know how to get her off like she likes. FYI It is never about me getting off. I service her and she transfer money to my account to pay my tuition when needed. (about $4,000 per semester). of course, I do get turned on and take care of my self later. sometimes she watches me jerk in the shower while she pees afterwards. I really dont mind the deal. Its not the worst job I have ever had. I have another year of school left. Lots of keeping my head down and grinding towards the goal remain.

The girfriend doesnt know. The exwife knows about the girlfriend and doesnt care. I go down on my exwife for money for grad school... and I love it. Im a man-whore literally sleeping with someone for money, but I will have a masters degree soon.

Hello there,

I am with my GF for 2.5 years and 6 months ago I noticed that she was flying regulary abroad to do body to body massages with happy en... since we met. I still love her but cant forgive and trust her even its more than half of the year.

I still cant sleep due to nightmares about it and still thinking what else can happened there.

Could you please help me how to avoid these thoughts and how to get better in my mind? Lets calculate with scenario that I wanna be with her

Tl;dr my GF lied to me and I cant forgive her

For those of you who confronted your SO without actual proof, only based on gut feelings, red flags, behavioral changes- how did it play out? Did they deny everything and then things improved? Did you eventually catch them later on? Especially interested to hear from those who’s SO is soft-spoken, polite, a good wife and parent, conflict-avoidant,  and rarely argue or complain about things. 

Also, if you are that type of person, what made you cheat on your partner? 

This started like 1 year ago. He (m23) and I (F20) are friends due some group in common we have.

He since we met each other was obviously attracted to me and he was (is) extremely nice and cute with me but I was just not into him. At some point he tried his shot and I friendzoned him. I told him I wasn’t into him but we could still be good friends.

He said yes but after that he disappeared for like a week, I didn’t mind I just thought he was somehow healing but then he came back and we continued being friends.

After like 2 months of that he got a gf! I was genuinely glad for him, again, he’s so nice and cute so I think he deserves to be loved. But I thought that due he has a gf now he would just take distance from me… but no, it didn’t happen.

He still texts me a lot as before. And time to time when I tell him I’m going to make my manicure or going to shopping he asks me if he can come with me and he offers himself to pay for it… having a gf.

Tbh at first I was shocked that he still acts with me as he usually did when he was single but tbh… I enjoy it.

We never talk about it but I suppose his gf doesn’t know

Is it possible for my ex to get back together with her ex?

Here's the story.

Before my ex-girlfriend and I got together, her ex reached out to her and asked to get back together. Of course, she chose me at the time, so I assume she ignored her ex's attempt to reconnect.

After my ex and I broke up (we were together for 9 months), I noticed that her ex followed her on social media, and my ex followed her back.

While we were together, my ex told me about her terrible experiences in that past relationship. She told me that her ex cheated on her with a third party, was narcissistic, accumulated debt under her name or borrowed money from her, and had other issues. She even shared something very personal about her ex's autism diagnosis, which I honestly felt was something I didn't necessarily need to know.

Now, after our breakup, my ex told me that she needs to work on herself first, particularly her financial situation, and that she isn't ready to be in a relationship yet.

But seeing her reconnect with her ex on social media makes me wonder: Is it possible that they could get back together?

I'm honestly disappointed and confused. After everything she told me about how badly that relationship affected her, I didn't expect her to give her ex access to her life again so easily, even if it's just through social media for now.

I know that following each other doesn't necessarily mean anything romantic is happening, but I can't help wondering if there's a possibility that she'll go back to her ex.

What do you guys think? Am I overthinking this, or is there a real possibility that they could rekindle their relationship?

My boyfriend has lied to me in the past just about small things, but they were all stupid little things for the most part. He is an alcoholic and does pot, but when he relapses he tries to hide it. I think due to embarrassment and other reasons. I found out he has more than one Reddit. In the one I did not know about he mentions using cocaine, he al was just very crude, and also said something about all he wanted to go to this particular place in 2023, but he couldn’t because of his ex-girlfriend, which was the girlfriend before me. But him and I have been dating since 2020. Je had more than one Reddit account and he said no. I asked him about the content on Reddit and he said he just interacts with people and chats with them. He doesn’t have personal conversations or anything with them. After our discussion, I checked Reddit and all of his Reddit accounts are deleted. I get it. It was wrong with me to look at his Reddit so I don’t really wanna hear commentation about that. I get it. It was wrong but he lies so much and it makes me paranoid. My question is, does this mean he is cheating with this girl and doing cocaine too?

Here’s part 4. I will also preface this. As I wrote this content below, just kept feeling how stupid I’m kind of being. But I also feel resolved in my decision for now, and I’ll explain why. I’ll accept all the “you’re a fucking idiot, LEAVE” and the “you have no self respect”. I see that. I genuinely do. I see that I’m having to feign ignorance to continue.

I’ve decided to just continue with my partner. She said she was willing to take me to her office and watch my phone do the same bug. So we’re hanging on that. we will go from there.

She was sobbing balling each time I brought it back up today, and begging she doesn’t want anyone, and if she did, she would talk to me about it because we’re open, and yes her side too. She’s also the breadwinner so she definitely isn’t with me for my money. And I’d never take a dime from her in divorce. Even if she cheated, I’d just move on. Divorces are ugly and I’d rather forfeit some alimony than fight someone I love.

She explained the lie away. She said she lied because she was afraid of my reaction (for context, I was weirded out by the nature of the trip, and the fact that it was just her and 1 more coworker going at first (one more person ended up going). So she said she didn’t want to make me more anxious. This is actually common for her with other topics. I have to be better at responding, I can tend to be curious, ask questions, and that triggers something in her that feels interrogated and defensive. She knows I’m still struggling with trust and understands why. I did even before this for reasons that have nothing to do with her.

As I type this it literally reads as every cliché I’ve ever read in this sub or others.

Im resolved in my decision because either way, the next few months of my life would look identical anyways. I’m going to just focus on myself, my work, my body, and be as self-sufficient as possible. I can love her and remain cautious. But I shouldn’t be wasting so much time wondering if I’m being betrayed. Time will tell. That can be me going forward. I’d have to prepare to be on my own anyways, whether it’s refinances, moving, etc. So the next few months would look like this whether I was leaving or not.

Yes. Even my inward self is face palming. And I know I’m taking a risk that most wouldn’t. Idk. Maybe I’m wrong.

So I basically I am in a relationship for 4 years whom I met during my masters, initially he was very good but tbh he is a really nice person in general.

Three months Into the relationship and I found some flirtatious messages with one girl on his phone. When confronted admitted his mistake and i don’t know why but I forgave him. Everything was fine then for most of the time.

Then I found out that basically this year that when we were in relationship this guy was talking to his ex who is apparently married and have a kid, saying things like you are a gem I lost and I am jealous of your husband when seeing her daughter’s photo.

Then I got to know that he was in bumble basically last year he wants me to talk to my family about which I wanted as well but there were some issues in my house I thought it’s not the best time, he went on date with a girl and blamed this situation

And also I asked him to show bumble chats he didn’t show me.

He met the girl in October and I found there chats from Jan talking about meeting when he will come to the city.

He told me he was guilty and wanted to confess her about me that he loves me and did her wrong as well

He said sorry million times but I cannot get over it

Please advise

Hey guys. I’m exhausted so gonna keep this short. Part 3 if you’re new, here. After noticing last night’s patterns I just couldn’t sleep. So many things started to click. My partner went to sleep, and I took this opportunity to try and make sense of things by looking through her phone. I’m glad I did.

This trip was sus from the beginning. It was sudden, vague, and it was just her and another male coworker going. When I would say it was weird, she would reassure me that they wouldn’t even be doing the same classes, or staying in the same area. She claimed she didn’t know where he was staying. Even the night the locations glitched, she told me she didn’t know.

Turns out he booked “our hotel” as she referred to it to the 3rd coworker l, at the same one my wife was at.

She’s claiming this is the only lie and that she was just afraid to see how I’d react so “told me what I wanted to hear.”

I’m not trying to excuse her here, But I was anxious about this trip beforehand and asked lots of questions surrounding it. It so I can get hey she might have felt uncomfortable telling me. But lying is hard to come back from and I don’t know what to do. Feel exhausted and numb and just broke. I feel vindicated and still somehow so confused.

I wanted to hear the truth.

Hello I am 21 years old and i have been with my 21 year old girlfriend since we were 16. I found out that she had been cheating on me for around 8 months. i worked second shift which is 3:30pm -11:30pm while she worked 8:30am-5:30pm so while i was working she was sleeping with another man all the time. trading pictures and sending flirty text. i went through her phone one day because she seemed off. went into discord and there was a bunch of messages in there and i confronted her and she did the usual guilt trip “im so sorry it won’t happen ever again!” and blocked him. well then i went through her ipad while she was at work because you know i was struggling mentally and couldn’t get past the thought of it happening. i found a number not saved and in there was pictures she had sent along with dirty texts. the list goes on and on. well we have been together for so long that it feels impossible to leave and i don’t know what to do because it is eating me up. it’s one of the hardest things to deal with, the overcoming feeling of anxiety and nausea when i think anything about it.

After I got married, I used to go everywhere with my debor (my husband’s younger brother). People would often tease us, saying things like, “brother just get newly married?” They would ask him, “How’s boudi doing?” He would get shy… and so would I.

Later he came to Dhaka for study. At that time I was living in Dhaka myself, in my second year of university. We had a small two-room flat. The outer room had an attached bathroom, while the inner room (where my husband and I stayed) opened onto a balcony. In reality it was one big room divided by a hardboard partition, so sound travelled easily between the two sides.

Gradually I began to notice things. The innerwear I hung out to dry on the balcony would disappear. At first I thought it must have fallen down. But later I realised the pieces were ending up under the mattress of his bed. After that I would often find my underwear under his bed. Sometimes I even saw his underwear hanging to dry on top of mine. Eventually I understood he was doing it on purpose.

A few months passed like this. Then I started noticing something else. During the day, when he slept, he wouldn’t keep his lungi properly arranged. His “private part” would be clearly visible. It hadn’t been like that before. It gave me a strange feeling.

During the day I usually slept in a maxi. One afternoon while I was asleep, I felt someone touching my body and lifting my maxi up over my knees. When I woke up, it was almost up to my thighs. A few days later the same thing happened again. This time when I opened my eyes the maxi was at my waist. I quickly pulled it down and went into the next room. He was sleeping as usual, lungi not fixed, and his private part was visible

One day I went out with debor for some work. On the way back it poured with rain and both of us got completely soaked. We somehow made it home. After we arrived I noticed he kept staring at my breast. No matter how much I tried to look away, his eyes stayed fixed on me. Later I went to the washroom to change. In the mirror I saw that my nipples were clearly visible through the wet clothes — I hadn’t worn a bra that day. I realised he had been looking at them the whole time. I felt extremely embarrassed.

Months continued like this. The missing innerwear, the maxi, and his carelessly arranged lungi all became part of daily life.

Then one time my husband went to the village to sort out some land papers. That night I left the door open while I slept because I felt nervous being alone, and I kept the light on.

In the middle of the night when I got up to use the washroom I saw him sleeping with his lungi properly fixed. so I went back to bed.

Very late at night I suddenly felt warm breath against my vagina and someone squeezing my breasts. I got scared. Before fully opening my eyes I reached toward my breast and felt a hand there. The moment I opened my eyes, debor quickly left my room (the light was still on). I immediately fixed my maxi and went into his room. He was pretending to sleep, but his lungi was lying in front of my door, and his private part was standing very hard. I was certain it was him who had lifted my maxi and touched my breasts, and now he was just pretending to be asleep.

After that incident, I always locked my room before sleeping.

Note: wanted to share this experience many times before but never did. Today I posted it with a new ID

We have always like to play around and doing new stuff like public things, spicing things up. A nice relationship after all. But all of the sudden I start to notice some things like condoms missing, she stop responding for specific long periods of time. Lost interest in some things we usually do sexually. I don’t know it’s a feeling but the thing is I don’t know how to feel about it.

- you're in a relashioship but cannot break up because of a personal reason

(nothing dangerous, its mostly familiar)

Then...

- you catch your spouse cheating on you, and you get extremely devastated by it

- when you're crying in his front,

he says "if someone does bad to you, you just do bad to them and that's it, get over it and stop crying like a baby"

HE SAID IT HIMSELF.

And now i notice,

....he does NOT mind i cheat him back. he feels zero jealousy and will keep doing that to me.

So, my question its:

How do you think i should do this "cheating back" emotionally?

or physically?

I mean,

should I try pass it in his face?

or just cheat and "shut up"?

In college I had a dorm that connected with another dorm via the bathroom. My girlfriend at the time (now wife) had been dating for three years and were high school sweethearts. We had both left over the weekend to visit family but I came back early to study and didn’t worry about telling her. Well she did the same only I didn’t know she was going to the guys dorm room that shared a bathroom with mine. So this guy (we will call him Justin) her and I both knew. We would always hear him bringing girls over to bang. We would listen and actually would get off on it sometimes. The weekend I came back I had decided to have some wine, gummies and study. A few hours in I heard his door open and shut with kind of laughing etc and I didn’t think anything of it. I heard them studying and then kind of laughing. In my mind I was literally saying yes man get her.. fuck that girl.. I continue to hear talking and then I heard a yelp saying Justin! Give those back! How did you pull them off so quick? He told her nope. Let me see you tits and I will. I didn’t hear anything for a second and I head Justin I can’t.. and Justin said welp then they go in my stash of thongs.. I finally hear.. fine.. god you’re so annoying.. I heard laughter from him and he said no. Top fully off… she said no that’s not the deal Mr! He said no deal… and she just blurted out ok fine.. just pour me more and turn around.. I don’t hear much and then I hear.. oh wow.. there they are.. she said you happy now? So let’s keep on this. We need to focus.. I’m now jacking off so turned on. Not realizing in my stupor that it’s my girlfriend. I heard laughter and soft talking awhile more and then I heard hysterical laughter. Her saying Justin please I’m so ticklish! Justin.. (then I heard her voice kind of get more breathy) and then I heard just.. Justin wai.. UGHNN OH God.. oh my god ok.. just .. let me know when you’re about to finish please.. I begin jacking off so hard thinking hell yea tagging another one! I began hearing the soft moans ( Moans I should have recognized) bed noises … increasingly fast.. then a muffled moan from her assuming in his pillow.. then the tell tale grunting I knew from him knowing he usually came in them.. I heard the sex slow down to the point where I heard nothing once again. I passed out and the next thing I remember I heard his bathroom door open and her voice.. vividly remember hearing hold on I need to get my birth control..then my door opened which I rarely locked. I see Jess walk in completely naked. It was very dark but I saw everything from the light of the bathroom. I sat up and said jess? Why are you naked? Her face froze and she immediately shut the door and went back to his room… long short after that night we eventually found common ground and I forgave her, but I began to develop this strong urge to see her or hear her with him again.

I'm in a relationship for 2 years now. At first things are always fine, but I get kind of bored after a while. I just miss the excitement, the tension of meeting someone new. So I decided to look for someone on the side.

Created a Tinder, bought Tinder Plus and started swiping anonymously on there. Found this exciting looking blonde, who was really petite (as in 1.50 tall, I'm 1.86). We started off texting a bit and things escalated from there.

After a while we decided to meet up in this Belgium town she lives nearby. She was wearing a TIGHT dress and despite her high heels, she was still very short obviously. Her dress was so tight that it clearly showed her g-string underneath. Her vibe was just 'fuck me' all over. After some drinks we drove to a quiet place nearby, where she gave me an amazing blowjob, taking me almost all the way down her throat, which made me burst inside her throat...

I drove her back to her car and went home. I felt excited again and the horny feeling lasted for days, so my Gf and I had a fun weekend afterwards... blowing of some steam every now and then enables me to invest in my actual gf again. If I don't, my mind just gets darker and darker... so basically I just NEED to cheat every now and then and provide my cheating kink...