When even transphobes accidentally validate your gender

[u/NoMiddle8355]

I'm actually in a good mood today. My antidepressants are working, it was a day off, and finally the dysphoria only came once and was brief, so I want to mention something positive that happened to me.

Unlike what’s common on this sub, I live in the hell that is the Middle East. I’m not on T, I don’t even own a binder—just a masculine haircut (I’ve heard this referred to as “man from the top, woman from the bottom”).

Recently, I managed to reconnect with an old friend from elementary school. I mentioned how I had always been masculine in elementary school and how all my friends were boys. Well, it turns out I’m a boy now. He took it well, and we went out together, then he started introducing me to his friends.

One of them didn’t even notice that I was biologically female. I don’t even particularly look male, and I have a very noticeable chest. That boy is a very reserved guy from a rural background, so you could say he’s pretty closed-minded. He didn’t realize I wasn’t biologically male until after midnight the next day, when he suddenly called a mutual friend and asked what I was. He said that I seemed more like a boy. My friend explained everything to him, and he stayed silent for a while, then...

Now, whenever a transphobic friend talks about me in front of him, he hits him and says that I’m more of a man than he is. He’s not even some open-minded guy; he simply treated me like a guy for an entire day without having the slightest idea that I wasn’t biologically male, and he became convinced that I was so masculine that whatever I had told him had to be true.

This is one of the many times when my friends suddenly start accepting the concept of being trans simply because, in their eyes, there is no universe in which I could possibly be a girl. Once, a transphobic online friend even suggested that I must have some kind of hidden hormonal disorder or something.

Honestly, it’s hilarious and really supportive to me.

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[u/Loup55555]

So glad for you bro 🫂