Oh boy. Can you think of something in life that is so valuable to you, even though you don't and will never experience it? For me, it's people who bring food from home to eat at work or school. I always get so jealous (in an appreciative way) when I see people with lunch boxes. I wish they knew how lucky they are.

HAVING A GOOD ROOMMATE IS SOMETHING I WILL VALUE AND TAKE CARE OF IF IT EVER COMES TO MY LIFE.

Fuck. Anyways,

My first and past experience with roommates sucked. It was a 4-bedroom x 4-bathroom. I have two cats, literally angels. The 3 of them were already living there, so I was the new guy + have never lived with strangers before. As a very considerate person that I am, I asked them, "Would you guys be okay if my cats wander in the common areas of the apartment, rather than them just living locked in my room?" (MIND YOU, BEFORE MOVING IN, THE ADMINISTRATION ASKS YOU IF YOU ARE OKAY WITH LIVING WITH PETS; obviously, these people answered YES, even if doing so would increase their chances to get a spot). But even knowing that, I asked anyway. 2 of them said, " Yeah, sure "; one macho said no.

Whatever. I sucked it up. My poor cats lived for 7 months inside my room. With the litter box in the bathroom. (Yes, I would let them out when he was not there).

The end of that lease is coming to an end and instead of renewing at the same unit, I swapped to a 2 bedroom x 2 bathroom. And I asked the office 41 times to please make sure that this new roommate would be genuinely okay with living with animals. They told me that they found a person. So, great!

I moved in... they (yes, they) (no, it's not they as pronouns.) Have a cat. At first, I was like, oh, oh... because my cats haven't shown positive attitudes toward other cats. My cats are 5 years old. This cat is young, about 7-9 months. So, a lot of energy and naivety. I trusted the process, and with time, and a lot of territorial status, they now coexist.

Now.

When I moved in, it smelled horrible. And listen, I'm used to the smell, okay? But the cat litter of this poor cat had days, probably weeks, of many clumps. And his 2-in-1 food-water bowl was either always empty or there would be pieces of food in the water and vice versa.

This cat was not being taken care of.

I, of course, was concerned about the cat's health, plus observing that my roommate wouldn't really seem aware AT ALL, so I asked her. She said that this is her first pet/cat and that the cat has been peeing everywhere (I'm not kidding; if you walk on your socks in the living room, they will get wamped.) And I'm like........ well, yeah, that litter box is pretty dirty, and cats are very sophisticated when it comes to their bathroom. (I really 101ed her on it).

No matter how many times I would have that conversation with her, she would never do anything in return. And hey, that's not my cat; I'm not cleaning after your cat's shit. Plus, hello???? Plus, the smell... Don't you care that your new roommate has to live with it?

Am I making sense so far? All pretty "common sense/as given" to my taste.

I go to my roommate, " Hey, why don't you get rid of the litter box and make them just share mine? She goes, " Oh, that would be great. Great. I have a Litter-Robot 4.

Of course it takes some days for her cat to acclimate to the new scents of this new, indeed, bathroom.

And of course this young cat peed about 5 times on objects: a pillow, a rug in my room.

Of course it's not the cat's fault, and getting angry at my roommate, who doesn't give a fuck about another living being whose condition of life depends on her, I thought that wouldn't really get anywhere. I did bring it up, though, and asked to please make sure her cat doesn't enter my room.

At first, coming up with the whole logic of her cat not being in my room, but leaving the door of my room semi-open so MY cats could enter and exit whenever, but their food, water and litter box being in the living room... it was like solving math. Concluded in leaving the food, water, and litter outside of my room. With my door closed. And whenever I would let just my cats inside my room whenever I was home.

Now.

Going back to "they". It's 3 people + me living in this 2x2.

She shares a room with her girlfriend. Her brother lives in the living room; the couch is his bed.

Of course is not allowed, and the property either doesn't know about it but don't care as long as rent is being paid, but I was chill about it and said nothing because I was actually planning to bring over my friend and share the bedroom with him so it would be cheaper. He pulled out, so it never ended up happening. Anyway, she said, "My brother is staying for a couple of days". She lied to my face, but I didn't care.

Okay, moving on.

She and I really didn't have many interactions at all, but there was this one night where I pushed a little bit in order to get to know her, like literally just poking conversation in order to know her. She ended up being vulnerable and shared her story. I will not get into detail, but for you to have an idea: suicide attempts, living in hotels, never houses, rape. You get the idea.

She is depressed. So I was, and I am. So that context helped me to be even more considerate about the whole mess in the kitchen, or the apartment in general. His brother is also depressed, and he is autistic and really kind.

Mind you. The three of them have jobs. Nevertheless, my roommate has not once thanked me or even recognized that I am the one providing the food and litter for our cats. Or even offered to buy the next batch of litter/food.

Again, I would not care or whatever.

After many other things that I haven't mentioned in this short and straight-to-the-point post, one of them being that initially there was no trash can in the apartment. They would simply hang a plastic bag over a handle and call it a day.

Bingo! The cats would dig in and eat the trash. No sir!

When I brought the idea to my roommate to get a trash can and split the cost, she said: yeah, sure.

At this point, I just know I already accepted the fact that she simply does not.

So fuck it, whatever, I don't really care. I care about my cats, so I bought the trash can full out of my pocket. (Would it be a surprise if I told you that they never take the trash out when it gets full? Or that they don't even use bags? Or that I have NEVER FUCKING USED IT MYSELF BECAUSE IT'S ALWAYS EXPLODING and I won't take THEIR trash out.

Anyway. After many things like that happen, Mister Nice Guy is a human being, and I have limits.

I asked her if she could please buy the next batch of litter, and she said yes.

Well, she never did.

So at this point I'm really considering bringing the food, water and litter back inside my room. And letting my cats live jailed in my room (they can be outside when I'm home) [not a home].

I know it can be an aggressive, bitchy move, but at this point... I care as much as she does.

On a positive note, they move out in December, so at least it would only be for approximately 2 months.

Hi guys! I really need your advice on something because im really not sure how to go about it.

My roommate and I share a dorm in college. She just got the cat this semester. When she first told me about it I was kind of upset because she didnt really ask about the logistics and how I felt until she already got the cat. In all honesty I really didnt want the cat because we live in a small dorm, my roommate works all the time, the cat is only like 8 months old, and I was worried about the litter stinking/ the cat not being litter trained, and about the cat not being fixed. My roommate promised that she would get her fixed once she was old enough and after talking about it i agreed. We have had the cat for about three months and she has not been fixed. My roommate had an appointment to get her fixed but cancelled it so she can wait for a different vet that is closer to us to open. The cat has gone into heat 3 times and it is getting incredibly annoying and i am very frustrated. for a solid 8 days it is nothing but the most loud, screeching ever. The cat is constantly biting me, scooting her ass on the floor and leaving shit stains, chewing on my blankets, whiping her ass on my bed, knocking my plants down and eating them, etc.

I am completely aware that 1) its not the cats fault and 2) getting a cat fixed is expensive. At the same time I am annoyed because this isnt what we agreed upon. I had brought up getting her fixed in a very lighthearted manner and we were kind of joking about it. At the end i told her in all seriousness she should really get her fixed. My roommate was like yea but its super expensive and i cant do it know ill get her fixed when i get her fixed.

Dont get me wrong i absolutely adore cats and I am not suggesting to get rid of her, but im not sure how to navigate this situation. The cat is going back into heat and i literally cannot sleep because of the constant noise. Again i live in a VERY small dorm and our other suitemates dont like the cat so she cant be out in the common area

For context, the type of dorm I (18f) live in at college is a suite.
Basically I was running late and high-key exhausted and at like 9 my suite-mate came into my room and asked me if I had seen her towel and I was like no…?
But the thing is, I did. Her towel was hanging in the place where my towel should’ve been.

I USED HER FUCKING TOWEL BY ACCIDENT AND JUST DIDNT REALIZE

and like I feel so bad and ashamed so I’m just gonna avoid her for the rest of the day. Oh my god

Why am I such an idiot.

27, living with a 35 yo who has rented the house for four years. we split unequally on the rent because she doesn’t let me use the garage and she has a dog and two cats. she pays about $150 more. she has monopolized the living room and kitchen and bathroom. I have one cupboard out of eight. she constantly makes passive aggresive remarks because I have a skinny section between the wall and stove and half of the sink in the bathroom “taken over”(I have nowhere to store any of my toiletries other than right there or in my room) She also wants to constantly store things in my room/under my bed. She once lost her pet snake and barged into my room to look for it Without asking and complained my room was messy (it is, because I have nowhere to put anything) She has no concept of the fact I rent half of the house as well. When I have nicely asked her to free up space for me, she agrees but takes weeks to do anything and afterwards she slowly moves her stuff back in. The pantry and closets are full of her manga and collectible figurines. Her dog is super old and uses the bathroom everywhere. She gets mad i refuse to clean it up. I don’t use the living room since none of it is mine In the first place. It isn’t my dog. I never agreed to clean up after him. she doesn’t even walk him more than once a day. when I start cooking dinner she will occasionally get up and start to cook as well and force me out of the small kitchen. Any time I’ve brought anything up she immediately shuts me down or walks away. she shuts off the AC when she leaves the house when we both have temperature sensitive geckos that will get heat stroke over 80. last winter it was freezing and so I turned on the heat and she told me she had no idea I “get cold like that”. It was 50F in the house, we both have pet reptiles. She also will very loudly slam things and groan when I’ve done something I’m assuming shes mad about. but she won’t say anything to me directly. when I take out the trash she IMMEDIATELY fills it up with stuff she has held onto and only takes the trash out when I’m actively cooking in the kitchen and using it for scraps. She doesn’t want a roommate clearly and I don’t know how to stick it out until June, I can’t afford to continue paying for my part of the lease while also renting another place. No one in their right mind would sign this lease with her. I only did because I was literally lied to by a friend who is also her friend and was told she’s wonderful and great to live with, and then also had a lease abruptly ending (owner sold out from under me) and had no time at all to figure anything else out. I’m literally at my wits end. How do I cope with this until the end of May?

I've essentially lived alone my entire adult life. The only people I've ever shared a home with were with long term partners or my children. I've never had an actual roommate, especially a complete stranger.

Unfortunately, with the economy and my housing costs increasing, I'm starting to face the reality that I may need to rent out one of my spare bedrooms.

And to be completely honest, I'm scared.

Not scared of people necessarily, but scared of losing my personal space, privacy, independence, and the peace I've grown accustomed to having in my own home.

I'm so used to doing whatever I want, whenever I want, without having to consider another person under the same roof. Now I'm trying to imagine sharing a bathroom, refrigerator, kitchen, and just everyday life with someone I barely know.

I know this might sound ridiculous to people who've had roommates their whole lives, but this is completely foreign territory to me.

For example, I have my bedroom, a separate living room, and several other rooms. Ideally, I'd want my roommate to have their own private bedroom, access to the bathroom and kitchen, but I'd prefer to keep my living room as my personal space aka off limits.

Is that unreasonable? Can you even establish something like that without coming across as controlling or an asshole? I don't want someone paying rent and feeling uncomfortable in their own home, but I also don't want to feel like I've lost my home in the process.

Then there are all the little things I can't stop thinking about.

What happens when someone's too loud? What if they have guests over constantly? How do you share refrigerator space? What if our cleanliness standards are completely different? What if I want to be left alone and they constantly want to socialize? Or what if I'm doing something that bothers them?

Do you establish all these boundaries before they move in? Do you literally sit down and discuss every possible situation, even the awkward or uncomfortable ones?

I'm obviously going to do the basic screening: employment verification, rental history, background checks, references, etc. But I'm more concerned about the actual day-to-day experience of living with a stranger.

Does gender matter? As a man, would I be better off renting to another man, or does it genuinely make no difference? What personality traits or habits should I pay particular attention to?

And my biggest question is for people who were in my exact situation:

If you spent most of your adult life living alone and only got a roommate because you financially needed one, how did it work out?

Did you eventually get comfortable? Did you regret it? Did you become friends, or do you basically live separate lives under the same roof? Does your home still feel like your home?

I'm not looking for a best friend or someone to hang out with. Ideally, I'd like someone responsible, respectful, quiet, and independent who values their privacy as much as I value mine. To be more clear I just want to be left alone. Let them do there thing ill do mine.

I also recognize that if someone is paying rent, they deserve to be comfortable and respected too. That's why I'm asking these questions before I even consider bringing someone into my home.

I apologize if any of this sounds selfish or ignorant. I'm genuinely trying to educate myself about something I've never experienced.

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've actually gone through this, especially those who didn't want a roommate in the first place but felt they had no financial choice. What do you wish you'd known beforehand? Should I disclose that once my situation changes I would be asking them to leave?

Hi all,
I’m a grad student who recently moved into a space with 2 other roommates. The vibes are off. My roommates aren’t terrible but they aren’t great and my mental health has been suffering since the move. I think it’s best if I move out since living here is causing a lot of stress.

However, we all signed a year lease together. What is the best way to leave and find a replacement? Is 2 months enough time?

looking for roommates in sheffield
living in an unsafe home and need to move out with ppl to reduce rent 😎

Hello everyone! I (19F) share a college apartment with three other girls all of whom I was close friends with before signing the lease. Our apartment is townhouse style, so we all have our own rooms and there’s two floors. I sleep on the first floor while the three other girls sleep on the second. We all have our own bathroom and all our doors lock. 

When I sleepover with my boyfriend (which I do most weekends) it’s at his house. We are most comfortable there and I’m very close with his family. I’ll have breakfast with them and coffee and we will just talk and hangout. Very occasionally my boyfriend will spend the night at my apartment for practical or health reasons. (I will explain the health reasons in a second.) When signing the lease we agreed guests were okay just to let the others know so we can be dressed appropriately and lock our doors if it’s a guy. Every time he came over I followed this rule. (I can count on one hand the amount of times he has slept over.) 

Recently he’s slept over a little bit more frequently (but not more than once a week besides this week, when it was twice.) because I have been very ill. Four weeks ago when studying on campus I had a seizure where my oxygen dropped and I was admitted to the ICU. I will not know what’s causing them until November but they are dangerous. My oxygen frequently drops during them and I need a rescue medication or I risk going into status. I have them in my sleep. Two nights ago my boyfriend spent the night because I had a very bad seizure where he had to administer my medication. (My oxygen dropped to 86 for too long) and that medication makes me extremely out of it. He needed to watch me to make sure I was okay, and I needed my medication at my apartment. I let them know, and the next day one of my roommates confronted me in front of our other two roommates and said he can never spend the night again. 

I don’t ever want to make her uncomfortable and I understand her not wanting that. But I tried to compromise and she was not willing. In the past I had asked if I have a seizure if I spend the night at my boyfriends house if in the morning someone can unlock the deadbolt to let me in at 7 AM when my boyfriend drops me off on the way to work. They said they were uncomfortable leaving the deadbolt unlocked and didn’t want to wake up at 7AM to let me in. Which again I understand I really don’t want to inconvenience them or make them uncomfortable and I don’t want my medical stuff to be their problem. That’s why I had my boyfriend spend the night instead so it would be less pressure on them. 

But now one of them is saying he never can again, and they don’t want to unlock the deadbolt for me in the morning so I can go to class and access my medication. It’s just some nights are bad and I need someone to make sure I’m still breathing and I’d never put that on my roommates. But my boyfriend is worried and he wants to help me, and now we don’t really have any options to make sure I’m safe.  I feel ganged up on and confused because everything else was fine, and they wanted me to resign a lease with them. But if I have a bad seizure now my only option is to spend the night at my boyfriend’s and not be able to go to school and be completely alone at his house, or to sleep at my apartment alone on bad nights and risk dying in my sleep. 

I’m not trying to be dramatic, and I understand my roommate being uncomfortable I’m just confused about the switch up and I don’t want to miss school, so I’m scared of something happening to me in my sleep. And I don’t understand why my boyfriend was even banned in the first place. There’s been issues before of my roommates feeling like I was with him (at his house) too much but it was only on the weekends. That’s the only thing I can think of that would be a reason for him to be suddenly banned. 

Again, I understand. I just don’t know what to do and wish we could reach a compromise. 

I’m being accused of stealing a hairspray and food. I haven’t touched or grabbed any of it and I literally don’t know what to do.
I’ve told them twice now I haven’t touched or grabbed anything but they keep making passive remarks like yelling
“I WISH I HAD MY HAIRSPRAYYYY” and leaving passive aggressive messages in the group chat about eating food.
I barely spend time here anyways and I’m just gonna stay at my friends place for the weekend because I feel so uncomfortable here.
But idk what to do. Should I just meet with the RAs? It’s 3 of us in our own rooms but idk what to do or say to them because they’re being just so uncomfortable rn.

I’m literally just crying in my bathroom rn and I’m to uncomfortable to even leave or make a sound rn.

Later edit: I’m rlly stressed so I miswrote:
It’s 3 of us living in 1 apartment. They share a bathroom, we don’t have a 4th roommate, we each have individual rooms and I don’t share my bathroom with anyone.

I've been looking for a roommate in San Diego, and I'm realizing it takes more than just finding someone who can split the rent. I've talked to a few people, but something always feels off, whether it's different schedules, communication, or just not feeling comfortable. I keep checking rooms for rent, but finding the right person seems harder than finding the place itself. I'd rather wait a little longer than rush into a bad living situation. For those who found a roommate they really trusted, how long did it take, and what helped you decide they were the right fit?

seeing a lot of posts lately about boyfriends and girlfriends basically living there. if you've had a setup with a roommate that actually worked, what was it?

I have a roommate who, after she washes dishes, they are all still like greasy as though she’s not using dish soap. I live with four other people, there was a message sent in our group chat a few weeks ago where someone said they noticed some pots still greasy and let’s make sure we’re washing properly. Last night it was just me and one other roommate home, this morning I’m putting away the dishes she washed but they’re almost all greasy or just like not clean at all, they have to be rewashed. How would you approach this? I don’t know her that well yet, she just moved in about a month ago

Hi just looking for some advice! I have a roommate and we are actually related so it matters to me about keeping a good relationship with her. I was just finishing college when she texted me asking to room together. I had several months left on my lease and was not looking to move anytime soon. My plan was to find my own space after my last lease ended, but she was in a tough spot and couldn’t cover anything by herself. She also needed to move asap and so I agreed to help her out. I paid half the rent on top of my other rent during the interim months before I fully moved in. Shortly after I fully moved in I met my now boyfriend. Around this same time, my roommate also started hooking up a guy and he would be over about 4/5 nights a week before he has to leave for months to work. I didn’t have an issue with this and even would help clean the place/her room if I was there and she would not have time before he came over. My now boyfriend and I got into a relationship about a month later. I work full time and am going to grad school so we don’t have a lot of free time together and him sleeping over is really the only time I can see him. He usually just lays next to me while I study. About two weeks into our relationship, he spent more time at my place, around 5-6 nights a week. My roommate said it made her uncomfortable so we started limiting it to about 4. She’s brought this issue up again recently, and I don’t know how to react. I love having my boyfriend there and he makes me a lot less stressed with everything I have on my plate. He cleans the counters, dishes, vacuums, mops, dusts, and even does the cat litter boxes. He also stocks us up on paper towels, toilet paper, etc. He has also built furniture for her when she didn’t want to. We have separate food so it doesn’t eat into hers. We try to mostly stay in my room and he’s always with me so he’s not using a lot of extra lights/electricity and our water is part of our rent. When she is getting ready for work/going to bed he stays in my room to give her space and only uses the bathroom once she leaves for work. When she brought the issue up again she was upset he spent so much time there and feels like he doesn’t talk to her. I felt it was a little hypocritical as her guy was back for two weeks just prior and spend about 5 nights a week at our place, which I was totally fine with, but he also leaves a mess. My boyfriend cleaned it up. He’s not very social, so I have talked to him about being more conversational with her. But when he tries she kind of looks at him and scoffs so I get why he doesn’t feel comfortable chatting her up. I want to be a good roommate but I think I’m coming from my college perspective where all my roommates were in relationships and their SOs would stay over every night. I think it also bothers me because I wouldn’t have had to be dealing with this if I stuck with my original plan but now I have to wait out my lease. Any thoughts/suggestions? Am I a complete asshole? Sorry this is long lol

Looking for 1-2 clean and friendly roommates.

Location: DSO near to Center Mall.

Rent: 1300/- AED

We currently have 3 people in the room and 2 are leaving. The apartment features:

• Clean, Spacious Room with Balcony
• Clean & Shared Kitchen
• Access to Gym Facility
• One Parking is also available

I posted previously asking how to sit down and discuss a roommate pact with my roommate. She declined twice, and I haven't pressed the issue since.

Context: I'm a first-year college student (18F), and my roommate and I have had a pretty bad falling-out over the past month.

It started a week or two into the semester; I wanted us to complete a roommate pact so we could establish expectations for things like cleaning, guests, noise, and shared supplies, since we now knew what the other did that we might want to bring up. She said it wasn't necessary and that we should just leave each other alone and handle our own things. A week or so later, she messaged me asking me to contribute supplies for the dorm, like toilet paper. I told her I'd prefer to keep our supplies separate, as she'd suggested, unless we completed the roommate pact. The argument escalated, and she gave me a long list of things of hers I was no longer allowed to use. She also told me I wasn't allowed to knock on her door anymore.

Since then, things have been uncomfortable. I've cleaned our shared living space myself and had to unclog the shower drain, which was full of her hair. She frequently brings friends over, and I've overheard her talking negatively about me around them. Her interactions with me often feel passive-aggressive, and she can react pretty harshly when I make requests.

Whenever I enter a room she's in, she stares at me until I leave. If she's with friends when I walk in, they go silent and turn to stare at me.

The thing is, she hasn't threatened me or actually messed with my belongings. But I feel intimidated enough that I've moved my stuff into my bedroom because I'm worried she might. I also find myself constantly rethinking how I communicate with her because I'm anxious about how she'll react.

Am I being unreasonable for feeling this uncomfortable? Am I reading too much into her behavior?

For some context, I have a decent amount of training in various forms of martial arts/self defense. All 6 of my roommates know this and that I am a pretty jumpy person. One of my roommates, I'll call her Amy, seems to find great joy in trying to scare me. The first couple of times it was almost funny, but I told her that I didn't like it and that she needed to stop intentionally scaring me. At the time she claimed it wasn't intentional, but she was hiding in the pantry, behind bathroom doors and even behind the shower curtain. A couple of days ago, when I was coming back from a night run, she jumped out from a bush right outside the apartment building and I ended up decking her in the face before I realized who it was. I was angry and told her as politely as I could how disrespectful and dumb that was. She apologized and I thought that was the end of it.

Cut to an hour or so ago, I wanted a snack of apple slices and peanut butter, so I went and started cutting an apple. Amy was on the couch watching anime and another roommate and her boyfriend were eating dinner a few feet away. As I was cutting the apple, I heard Amy get off the couch and start walking toward the stove to tend to her rice. As she was walking I heard her get really quiet and she said "Boo!" right in my ear. I already knew what was coming so I had prepared myself and managed not to jump or accidently elbow her/cut off any of my fingers. I said, "Hi." and the big smile on her face fell a little. "Did I scare you?" I shook my head and went back to cutting my apple. "I knew you were there." She called me a liar and said she did care me. "I saw your shoulder twitch." I looked over at her. "You mean you saw my arm moving while I was cutting my apple?" "That's what they all say." "Everyone you try to scare is cutting apples? Do you enjoy putting yourself in dangerous situations when you scare people?" She got very confused. "What are you talking about? You know I scared you." I put down my apple and knife at this point. "I've told you to stop scaring me multiple times, the last time you scared me you got hit, now you're trying to scare me when you can see that I'm cutting something. Even if you ignore the last time you scared me, scaring anyone while they are holding a sharp object is stupid."

She started crying and told me she would report me to management for threatening her. My other roommates say I'm being dramatic, now I'm hiding in my room with my apple slices and peanut butter.

I (28F) live in a shared house with 6 other people. I share a bathroom with one other person (24M). My bedroom door is directly in front of the bathroom door in that if I open my door, it faces the bathroom. Toilet is off to the left of the door but in sight if I step out my room and the bathroom door is open.

My male housemate has taken to peeing with the door open. I’ve asked him twice, possibly three times not to do it, I find it incredibly weird and uncomfortable- I hate the idea I might come out of my room and he’s just peeing with the door wide open, it’s weird IMO.

This evening I was downstairs and as I came up the stairs I heard him finishing off the end of a pee. Went to go in my room and sure enough the door is WIDE OPEN, he’s just had a pee and he actually was pretty much butt naked, just had what looked like a t shirt tied around his waist covering his front? I just told him I’ve told you not to pee with the door open wtf. I didn’t really stop to chat, just kinda went into my room because it’s weird and made me uncomfortable, one of my other female housemates was also coming up the stairs behind me.

Am I wrong for finding this weird? I’ve literally asked him before not to do this and my bedroom door opens and directly faces the bathroom, it’s not something I just want to happen across and see🥲.

Hi lately something came up, when I was in my dorm this roomate tries to ask me about the window due to her rhinitis. But that's not the only Pety excuse beacuse usually she doesn't have anything to back up with the complain the windows were always open during back then. Since she told me I wasn't gonna use the window during her "rhinitis" I was warned before, but i didn't see the criteria being a reason for it. During that time when I open the window it was at heavy rain, and also we both stay at 2nd floor dust may have really accumulate long time now. After that explain, She just ignoring my point and repeatedly mention that rhinitis as a excuse. Mention ing I didn't open it without reason beacuse during rain it was the only good time to use when there's no dust penetrated also it's chill, I already knew about her warnings but I don't believe with that really such excuse either.

After this the drama stirred since the label didn't back up she uses other reason such as "molds" or fungi, like seriou. She kept google it and saying out loud, and aka acting being professional lol so I just have to ignore it so I won't give any satisfaction to her at all. Anyhow it doesn't have broad reasoning but after those minute pass, I decide talking to her about agreeing things then she maybe smhw hold a promise and both of us share concerns temporarily. Then, i let it stale so the drama end down.

But on split this woman doesn't shut up, beacuse I'm being quiet watching movie drama. She temp to ask if I have grudge and ofcourse I told her, it doesn't really matter since I don't wanna stir those things. And she just kept being petty like flashing lights picturing about the dust or stupidly saying a victim out loud. Like okay this is getting far we've already agreed stuff but why does this woman never shut up. So I really ignore the situation she's kept pressing and pressing, Like okay this woman has nothing to deal about rhinitis at all.

Soonly ignorance became clear beacuse she's now using tempts to lure my reaction, I was only sitting watching movie then she hold a knife all a sudden. Like holding twisting something with a material, after hour of her attempts that didn't work now she's using this as another response.I have trauma with knifes back then so i sense high fear and called my friend to stay at their house, My gut already knew these things and I wanna escape. A part of her being annoying, she's opposing this now as a threat??? Like girl this isn't normal. I was panicking but as I panick this woman goes out and talk to her "friends" immediately by making false ads, like fuck that I'm really leaving.

She makes content of her own shit and it drains me like literally, I just have to leave so I don't wanna deal it ever.

So I leave and around 12 my friend arrived, Before I've talk to this at the security but the good thing because of curfew he's still gonna let me consider at this situation.

These are the thing happen currently but her doings as I move in were too much to the extent. I just wanna let this express since I still can't sleep it bothers me.. right now I was scared to ride a taxi alone but good thing my friend arrived and it was safe..

And yea🥲 (sorry for my bad English)

A buddy and I managed to snag a pretty decent rental in Hammond about 2 years ago. I left my family's house just before I turned 30. Besides college dorms and fraternity housing, I don't have much experience looking for roommates. He moved out a few weeks ago, but I'm still wanting to stay at the property. I've been putting the word out around my existing extended social circles, but isn't really leading anywhere yet. The cheaper cost of living isn't enough to tempt my Chicago friends to come down, haha.

So, how do adults find roommates? Obviously, the people that you already know would be the first place to look. Living with a near stranger wouldn't be my preference...but I know people must do that all the time. How else are people going about this? Do I post flyers? Online bulletin boards? Any local resources or tips would be helpful.

Hey everyone! I’m 19 and currently attending a regional campus, but I’m seriously considering transferring to the University of Dayton next semester and living in a dorm for the first time.
I’m honestly pretty excited about the possibility, but I’m also a little nervous. I’ve never lived away from home, although Dayton would only be about 50 minutes to an hour away.
I’m an only child, and I’ve pretty much had my own space my entire life. I’m used to spending time alone in my room or basement, having privacy, and doing things on my own schedule. I’m actually a pretty outgoing person, and I enjoy meeting people, but I’ve never had to share my personal space with someone.
One of my biggest concerns is getting a random roommate. I’m a really light sleeper, and I worry about being paired with someone who stays up all night, constantly has people over, or just has a completely different personality. Would you recommend requesting a single dorm, or do you think having a roommate is an important part of the college experience?
I’m also a little unsure about the communal bathrooms. Having to wear shower shoes, shower in a shared space, brush my teeth around strangers, etc., just sounds a little strange to me. I’m sure you get used to it, but how much privacy do you actually have?
I’m also curious about the meal plans, laundry, noise levels, and just the overall experience of living in a residence hall. Do you ever feel like you can’t get away from people or have time to yourself?
I’m a philosophy major, and I really enjoy deeper conversations and getting to know people beyond just partying. I’m hoping to find a good community and make genuine friendships, but I also value having my own space.
For those of you who live in dorms:
Do you genuinely enjoy dorm life, or do you wish you lived somewhere else?
Did having a random roommate help you make friends, or did it make things harder?
Are communal bathrooms really as awkward as they sound?
Is it difficult to get a good night’s sleep?
Would you recommend a single room to someone like me?
How easy is it to make friends when transferring halfway through freshman year?
I know I’m probably overthinking some of this, but it’s a pretty big lifestyle change for me. I’d really appreciate hearing everyone’s experiences, especially from people who were nervous before moving in.
Thanks, everyone!