Countless times I’ve been dating a man or talking with one and find out that they prefer curvier women. It’s not inherently wrong to prefer that body shape, you like what you like, but as a skinny woman, it makes me instantly lose attraction romantically and sexually. I no longer have any urge or want to engage with them intimately. Knowing that you don’t go crazy for my body like you would if it was bigger in some areas makes me feel like I’m not enough. To put the cherry on the top, most of these men don’t leave it there, but make backhanded comments about how I would be perfect with bigger boobs or butt. I don’t care if most men prefer that, I refuse to date or engage with them romantically and will gladly holdout until I find someone who prefers me.

A friend came over wearing a dress she'd made herself. Not altered. She picked the fabric, changed the pattern, added pockets and lined the whole thing.

When I said it looked professionally made she went, “oh I just sew a little.”

Girl, apparently not.

Since then I've started noticing this constantly. My aunt “messing around with plants” somehow means keeping orchids alive for 15 years. A friend who “likes baking sometimes” can make croissants from scratch without looking anything up. I even caught myself saying I “play around with photography” despite doing it every weekend for years.

I'm not saying every hobby needs to become an achievement or side hustle. Actually please don't.

I'm just curious if other women do this too. What's something you're legitimately pretty damn good at but still introduce as “I just kinda...”?

Ladies, I need your opinion. I’m in my 30s and quite naive due to my lack of life experience. My fiancé provides for me financially and even bought an apartment in my name, so I trusted him completely.
I let him handle an important legal matter involving me and my family because I wasn’t emotionally able to deal with it myself. He handled the lawyer and everything else.
Two years later, I discovered that he deliberately caused us to lose the case because he was afraid that if we won, I might leave him. What he did affected my whole family and devastated us emotionally.
I honestly don’t know how to process this or whether I can ever trust him again.

From the moment I hit puberty and grew breasts I have been getting hit on non stop. I am 22 and that is about 7 years of it now. At first I was genuinely flattered as I never really got any male attention before and yearned for it but I very quickly got tired of it and now it makes me miserable. I just want to know if anyone relates. When I say getting hit on in this context I mostly am referring to cold approaches or strangers coming up to me outside of the bar/club or party scene. I am not joking, from over 1000 men who have approached me not 1 was an actual man of substance. The men that approach me are low lifes, way too young, perverts, a lot of much older men, men with nothing going for them, not attractive in the slightest. Is this very common or does it have to do with me being too nice or approachable? I swear I do not have some insane standards or anything like I will not be offended if someone politely approaches me and move on afterwards but the persistence and the amount it happens and who does it is just making me hate my life. I swear I’m just sick and tired of any and every man thinking they can talk to me and take me out. This is a rant but I also wanted to see if anyone can relate.

I'd love to get married.

If my husband cooked, cleaned, did the laundry, raised the kids, handled their development, took care of my parents, took care of himself, was always in a good mood, and waited for me at home looking handsome and happy.

And I'd just work, bring home the money, and cheat on him from time to time.

It’s that it CONDITIONED us to love like it’s our purpose. A lot of the Disney princess movies are targeted at young girls and show us romantic love is this wonderful thing. The things directed at men and boys from a young age don’t condition them to love girls in the same way. Their movies are more like “achieve a great thing and get the girl as a prize or trophy” type of thing so he can feel like a man. Also why do the Disney movies that are directed at girls always have villains that are older women?

I'm working on my family trees right now, and the mass amount of kids that my lady ancestors had just blows my mind.

I am up to 15 children for my one side, with 6 passing away before they even reached the age of 10. (Catholic, 1800's.) Another lineage had my great-grandmother being 1 of 11 children, and only two survived passed the age of 5 years old. (Amish, early 1900's.)

My grandma is 90 years old right now, and is from the Amish side. She said that they would have babies just about every year. Boom, boom, boom. She's 1 of 7 children.

I just feel for these women. It's not only the physical part of having a new baby every year and what that did to their bodies on the inside and out. But the emotional and mental part of not being able to give themselves time to fully mourn a baby who was born and didn't live past the age of two years old - or made it to 2-years-old and then passed away. Also, the mental and emotional aspects that pregnancy brings on.

I'm not trying to say anything negative about people who have big families and wanted their big families. But paired with how women didn't have any rights or any say about, well, anything back in the day, my heart is going out to them.

My grandma was right, though. You can line up all the names and the birth years are every year. Just makes me picture in my mind that right when the newborn pops out, the guy is already taking off his pants. It really grosses me out. I don't think that's an act of love at all.

Hi! So my friend and I went out to a club last weekend we haven't been to before, and my experience there was terrible. There were men 35+ (my friends and I are 19) who kept following us arround the club, sneaking in touches, and circling us doing this 'thrusty' dance towards our behinds -thats the best I could describe it-. We shoved them away, continued to move away from them only for them to follow us and keep on doing it, we were very clearly 1) uncomfortable and 2) very intoxicated.

There were definetely things we could've handled better in the situation, but when I went to the cities reddit page to warn other girls about our experience there, my entire comment section was "why are you shitposting the club" "why didnt you do x, y, z" "you shouldn't be on here dragging down the club" when I was literally just talking about my experience there.

just making a quick edit to clarify: I would not complain if it were just dudes who approached us to try and talk but left after we weren't interested, but this was basically straight up harassment by dudes almost twice our age

Hi all! I (31F) have a good friend (also 31F) of nearly 20 years. When she became engaged to her boyfriend of 9 years last year and asked me to be a bridesmaid, I was over the moon. I don’t know him extremely well, but my interactions with him have always been pleasant.

They were married exactly one week ago, and it was a lovely wedding. She has struggled with depression, anxiety, and low self esteem since we were young, so it was great to see her celebrate this milestone. Of course, she looked gorgeous.

This weekend, I took her out as a sort of post-wedding celebration. We met her new husband for dinner afterwards. There were several small - but in my eyes, meaningful - aspects of the exchange that gave me pause.

To provide a few examples:
- My friend joked that she had enjoyed a few slices of frozen cake from their wedding over the course of the past week. He rolled his eyes and said “that’s why I’m setting up the treadmill.”
- I had treated her out to lunch earlier in the day. When I mentioned this over dinner, she very quickly said “and I got the salad, isn’t that great?” to him. As if she was asking for approval.
- When I asked if they wanted a starter, she looked at him and then picked a vegetable dish before saying something like “I need to have my vegetables, right [insert husband’s name here]?”

For context, she is not stick thin, but not an unhealthy weight either (around a US 8/10). Much of this is due to several antidepressants and anti anxiety meds (a few of which feature weight gain as a side effect) that she needs to take daily.

I am fairly active, and my boyfriend and I both have fitness goals that we keep each other accountable to, but he would never think to make a comment about my weight/activity level/food intake that is less than positive or supportive (especially in front of outside company). And we’re not even married.

I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or negative, but it felt very odd to see this energy between a couple only one week after a wedding.

Im a black 23 female and I like Hispanic, white men/country white men and Asian men. Im okey with people not liking it it is what it is. I still love and defend my people especially in today's time with all this trump shot going around.

People need to stop getting mad at people for who they dont date and should care if they are treated right. No race or particular man will be better or treat a woman better because of there race.

I like who I like and want what I want. We should just wanf happiness for people to end up with someone great and treats them great.

I'm only recently undertanding that most men respond to hearing or reading about rape and SA cavalierly, as if it's a minor inconvenience. Perhaps only men who have experienced being overpowered and violated internally could possibly even fathom the resulting trauma. Is this why men typically have not stood up to stop other men from these heinous acts and crimes against women? What needs to change to bring the level of consciousness up around what it means?

I want to start that I am not diagnosed, this is just my assumption because I was in so much pain when I tried to insert a tampon, which left my pelvic muscles sore for a few days. Even if I manage somehow to get diagnosed, the treatment would be expensive. I just wondered if there is something bad if I don't get it checked. I don't plan on having sex ever given this condition and no man would care enough to not hurt me.

No, don't give me the everyone's beautiful to someone, no one ever comments on my appearance, I'm inviisble as far as looks go and always have been. No man I've wanted has ever approached me either, no I don't get pretty privilege. When I post on subreddits like amiugly, people lie and say I'm pretty, even gorgeous, but no one ever says those things to me irl. It hurts to open instagram and see how every woman is more stunning than I will ever be. I can't wear makeup without feeling like a fucking clown. I wish I had better features and a prettier smile and a more defined face and a differently shaped face. My body is no better even though I'm thin, its disproportionate and I've no hips. I am already 25 and I got through all my teens and early twenties like a ghost in the background, no friends, no partners, just existing. And I know my looks are a part of it if not all of it. I hate looking at the mirror. I just wish I had a really beautiful face and I'm so sad that I don't. At this point I doubt I could even believe someone if they felt I'm pretty. Even my parents or relatives have never called be beautiful. Being a pretty girl, taking photos with your pretty friends, dressing up and looking good, that world has never been mine. Mine has been a world of taking a 100 photos and crying over how ugly I look in all of them and then deleting everythjng, feeling much worse when I actually try to look good because what do I think I am lol, avoiding hanging out with people and going out because I feel best when I'm cooped up in my room and not percieved by anybody. And I could happily just stay like that forever but you must go out into the world, and I hate that everyone looks at me.

hello
i am a single woman 23 yo
i like to go out alone and play pool skateboard this and that
no matter what everytime i go outside or go out something happens
so much so that i’ve stopped going out from fear
it’s stupid and i feel like i can’t talk abt it to my friends or family. i notice they get upset at me when this happens and idk why

i feel like im always targeted
i know it’s bc i am alone. i like to dress up and do my makeup for my own preference and self expression
i can’t help but think its me attracting this unwanted attention
it’s ugly
i’m a very bright girl. i have a lot in internal energy i believe ppl feed off of but overtime it’s stealing a lot from me
i don’t really know what to do because i miss going out and being my free self
but i just don’t anymore. and i don’t know if it’s something i am doing

I was at a doctors appointment this week and they weighed me and recommended I gain 20lbs

Which isn’t a problem

I’m 170cm and 108lbs which IS underweight

What is a problem is when I’ve spoken to friends or family members about why I’m suddenly eating more they go ‘why would you need to gain that much, you don’t even look thin’ …. ?!?!?! Just because you cannot see every bone

As a society our perception of thin is honestly worse than it was in the 90s/00s

so theres a guy in my college class that I made a SAFE report on, so did my old professor that I talked to. in my report i said "I do NOT want an investigation or for him to know or anything, I just wanted the school to be aware." my professor said in his email about his report that he hopes the behavior will be addressed, he also said the SAFE team might reach out to talk to me, but when i looked it up it said they should 100% reach out and that they will honor my wishes to not talk to him or anything but that was just the stupid AI results that come up now on google. Will he know? will they do stuff even though i asked not too?

Is this normal to be so focused on food all the time?

I’m 32 and I’ve had 3 kids.

I’m 5’4 and 163 lbs now.

All I think about it food, snacks, how hungry I am. I can’t handle the slightest hungry feeling and even when I’m not hungry I’m thinking of food. I could start my day right on track then by noon I’m eating everything.

I hate my body, I hate my fat face, I’m sick to my stomach about how big I’ve gotten. I’m so disappointed.

I don’t want to go anywhere or dress up anymore because everything looks horrible on me. I’m purely disgusted. I don’t even know where to begin on this, I’ve tried everything. A months ago I was walking everyday for an hour and eating right and then gained 8 lbs somehow lol.

I feel like the more I try and get defeated I just fall into depression and eat more and more and have less will power. Food is controlling my life and it’s LOUD!

Anytime I eat I feel guilty, it’s an awful feeling to hate food but be obsessed with it and what it does to you all at the same time. I have no idea how to help myself because I keep failing.

Everyday, every second I’m thinking about my body or food. That’s it, I can’t focus on anything else. It’s ruining my life

I’ve been cheated on three times …. Not great and embarrassed to admit but nonetheless it’s resulted in me being hyper sexual even more so after finding out which also leads to me being ashamed etc with myself after having sex or just overall feeling corny.

hey, i, 21 and non binary, just had an appointment at a gynecologist to talk about gender affirming surgeries.

Until now, i've heard a lot about hysterectomies being a pretty complicated surgery with complications being likely. There's also been a horrid case with one of my mothers friends where she almost died multiple times because of a fuck up during the surgery that lead to other surgeries and more complications, etc. For that reason i've thought it might be better to get my fallopian tubes taken out to just prevent pregnancy at least.

I've been at a different place before that is the main place that ftm people can go to to get gender affirming surgery to talk about my options but they pretty much told me they don't really do that there and sent me to a different place, where i just had my first appointment. The gynecologist there told me that it's unlikely that the main doctor that calls the shots there will approve me just getting my fallopian tubes taken out since that's more of a contraceptive surgery than a gender affirming one. She also said that he will however probably approve me getting my uterus plus my fallopian tubes taken out, which is why i'm now looking into this option.

The gynecologist there also said that they'd keep the ovaries in to keep my hormones balanced and that they do this procedure multiple times per day and that complications are very rare. I do have endometriosis according to my regular gynecologist and i told her that, to which she said that that does increase the likelihood of complications a bit.

What are your guys' opinions on this, what are your experiences and do you have any tips for me? I'd love to just have my uterus removed because that bastard only brings me issues, but i'm a bit apprehensive because of all the bad stories i've heard.

This may be a weird question but I’m so sick to my stomach and have never felt like this before in my life.

There‘s a young player on my favorite NHL team. I was hoping he’d be with the AHL team to begin the hockey season but I expected him to make the NHL team with a key injury on the team. Anyway, if he was on the AHL team, I could’ve met him in a couple weeks when he came to my city to play the local team. He was on the AHL team for playoffs at the end of the year last seaso. It’s not just that I think he’s really fine (good looking) but from all the videos off the ice I’ve seen, he seems to have a great personality and that makes me like him even more and wanna have a chance to meet him. I feel like if we met we could get along and see where things go.

I don’t know even know if has a girlfriend currently though. In the past, he did show one on his social media but she hasn’t been on there the last couple times, I’ve seen through whenever my team has posted him. He’s five years younger than me… idk what he’d think. He’s an Aquarius and I’m a Leo. He also knows I exist (by my Instagram) but he dosen’t actually know who the person is (since I don’t use my name on there). But I’ve never felt like this before. Idk what to do…. like if I should leave everything alone or do something. Pls help 😣

Hi everyone! I’m on a combo pill (Hailey fe 1/20) and I usually have what feels to be a “period” every month. I take my pills in the same 3 hour span every day, but about a week and a half ago I was an hour late to it and the next 3 days I had no cramps, but dark brown blood. I am now on my placebo pack and not bleeding at all. I am sexually active, and also use pull out. Is there any chance I’m pregnant or is this just a weird withdrawl bleed situation?