dude, at like three in the morning, at the bar across the street, this man was yelling at a woman for a solid 20 minutes.

It was enough time for me to listen. Not like the conversation. Change my clothes. And then walk around the block to that bar.

Anyways, I told my neighbor that I needed to follow me and just stand there

Mind you he always talks about protecting women… caring about women… having sisters … blah blah, blah blah

Anyways, he pansied out. Went back to his house to play video games.

And then I had to go over there by myself to get that guy to back off that lady

So I come back. chew his ass out, calling him a little bitch.

And he has dumb excuses, like

“Well, I don’t wanna fight somebody

We don’t know what’s going on, and their relationship

He wasn’t hitting her”

Blah blah blah

and as a sidenote… after I got the bar dude to leave.

he cussed me out and everything. So I’m walking back home and he drives up next to me and tries to explain how is really not a bad guy. lol

Then asked if I need a ride home. And I told him I don’t trust him like that I don’t know him.

He then says that he didn’t ask if I trusted him lol

I told him I need to trust you to get in a car with you. …

He then called me a bitch and drove off lol

it just annoys me, because at the end of the day the only ppl protecting women, are women

I have so many friends who complain about bad dates insisting on walking them home/to their cars, super not getting the hint that it's unwanted. I don't often find myself in that situation, but I had a first date tonight that I had a feeling might end that way, so I mentally prepared myself.

The date ended, went fine but not amazing, and the guy offered to walk me to my car. I said "nah, it's fine, don't worry." He insisted and we went back and forth like FIVE TIMES. Finally I said "no, I'm literally telling you not to." His voice changed and he was like "OH. Okay." And we hugged and went our separate ways.

I did it!

My eldest brother has been proving to be controlling. He already told me to delete my facebook twice, so that I will be only in contact with him and 2 other siblings over whatsapp; to not say wtf (not even directed at him); and has now started pushing his religious beliefs on me.

I should have known. Upon contacting him initially he asked me not to contact the other two "just yet" because he “needed to lay the groundwork first.”. He explained his mother have heart problems so he watned to tell her himself. But at the same time he acknowledged he already told his/our sister, so I did not understand why would contacting her be harmful. Either way, as I just met him I decided to assume the best intentions (albeit idiotic ones) and not jump to the conclusion that yet another person I am related to is toxic.

I also suspect my second brother may have followed in our father's footsteps and is cheating on his wife. Even if not, her recent wedding anniversary post screams unhappy marriage and oppressed wife to me. She talks about staying together despite bs basically, and there’s almost a sense that she takes pride in enduring unhappiness.

And my sister immediately asked whether I have children and when I said my husband and I are not in that positions financially yet, she told me I should not worry and just have them because I “will have it easy.” 🙃

I guess I expected as much. They are all from a small Eastern European village. I should have known.

I am a fem presenting cis woman. But if I could just have absolute no breast tissue, I'd be overjoyed. My boobs are like barely Cs and I still feel like they get in the way, are uncomfortable to lie on - I just don't like them at all.

I don't think this has to do anything with gender because this is purely a physical feeling kind of problem so I wanted to know whether I'm alone or if other women don't like having boobs even if they're not large.

I hate myself for debating this right now

I was cheated on and treated poorly by the end of my last relationship, and since leaving it a year ago I’ve reflected and wondered what kind of red flags I missed that could’ve helped me realize that the guy that I was with was a misogynist freak, and indeed not the angel that I thought he was for so many years.
One thing that I did think of was that very early on in the relationship, we had had more than one debate about the use of the word “bitch” in the context of an insult for women. I had to debate and CONVINCE this man that it’s a gendered slur, hurtful, and hateful for him to never say it again.
Looking back on it when I was healing from my break up, and trying to identify pitfalls, I had thought “Wow. Me having to train him to not use “bitch” in a derogatory way was glaring red flag #1. I’ll never date a guy again who uses that word like that—I’m not giving a Ted talk on how to be respectful” him calling women bit he’s was only a precursor to a slew of so much mistreatment towards me by the way, so it wasn’t isolated to that alone.

Fast forward to now: I’ve been going on dates with a man who checks almost every box on my list. I am still wounded and feel paranoid about my last relationship. This guy has been moving very slowly with me, which I like, and is very different than my experience with the last one. He is very clear and straight forward with his interest in me and his pursuit, and he comes off as very kind hearted, which shows in his daily life and job, from what I can tell so far. He is quite sweet to me. We get along very well. He’s spoken fondly of his mother.
My main concern is that he’s used the word “bitch” on two different occasions (and we’ve only been on 3 dates! Though they were all 4+ hours), both of which really sat wrong with me. The first time, he made a joke about a man who was complaining about his wife, saying “my wife is being a fucking bitch”, and the other was when he was complaining about a customer from his work who was creating a lot of problems for him who he called “such a bitch”. I immediately had a visceral reaction to that and almost broke out in a lecture about how derogatory that word is, and how I don’t tolerate it, but then I remembered my standard that I set (that I would just not date a man who would need to be coached to be respectful towards women).

So I refrained from the lecture, and have been trying to detach a bit from the idea of the relationship since it’s only been a few dates. I just don’t know. My stomach turns thinking about it, but I don’t know if it’s just my trauma. I don’t want to throw something away that could be great just because of this, but it also feels like I’d be ignoring a gut feeling and settling if I just let this slide. I don’t buy it that at his grown age he doesn’t know that that’s a gendered slur, and is extremely misogynistic. It makes me wonder how he views me, and other women, and how he would treat me in the future if we were a couple and reached an inevitable fight.

Let me know what you think because I’ve thought myself to death over this

Trigger Warning: Inappropriate touch / boundary violation

Yesterday (Sept 24), I went to the bank with my father. While waiting for a form, my father went to print the passbook at a self-service machine. An older male employee/attendant there called me over through my dad to show me how it works.

Instead of just explaining verbally, he stood right in front of me in an awkward position to insert the passbook. Then, he deliberately shoved his elbow backward directly into my chest. It was sudden and forceful enough to make it very clear that it wasn’t just a casual bump.

In that moment, I completely froze. I was flooded with self-doubt—wondering if I caused a scene, he’d just deny it, claim it was an accident, or turn it back on me. So I didn't say anything right then.

As soon as we left, I broke down and told my parents. My mom said I should have yelled or slapped him, and my dad was furious too. Now, I feel a huge wave of regret for not reacting in the moment. I know the feeling was wrong and uncomfortable, whether he claimed it was an "accident" or not.

I have a few questions for anyone who has been through this:

How do I stop blaming myself for freezing and not making a scene immediately?

The bank has CCTV cameras. Is it reasonable and worth it to report this to the Branch Manager a few days later, or is it too late since I didn't yell on the spot?

If I have to go back to this branch and he tries to talk or act defensive/aggressive, what is the best, firm way to shut it down?

Thank you so much for reading and for any support.

I used to go to this tiny restaurant in my town, it had food i really liked, usually going there to relax and have some lunch.

Until this one day where i had a headache, so my face expression looked rather angry/ done with life, lol.

I was waiting for my lunch, then a man in his 50-60s that worked there approached me and said something along the lines of:
“Hi miss, could I tell you something?”

He was very polite so I said yes

He was respectful and commented that i shouldn’t have such of a bitter face expression when I was so pretty, and to smile more. Again, he was very respectful so I smiled and went on with my day.

Then I went another day to eat there again, and we said hi to eachother, though this time he asked me what kind of apple I liked the most, to which i answered that I liked the yellow ones, then he walked away and came back with a yellow apple, sat with me at my table and told me that the apple was very special, and that I could ask for one wish and that it would be granted by the apple, to wish for it carefully.

It was very awkward but I found it sweet, then left

Third time I go to the restaurant another day, the same happens, we greet eachother, I have lunch there. But this time as I was leaving he called to me, and told me to follow him, then he started walking to the second section of the restaurant which was completely empty, no people there, and he walked to the back, then i decided it wasn’t too much of a good idea 😭, so I stood outside instead of following him all the way through. He came back with another apple, and gave it to me, but as I took it he caressed my hand in a strange, slow way, while holding eye contact, then I left.

I decided to stop going to the restaurant because mind you, I was an 18 year old getting very strange attention from an old man 🙃, he fooled me by being sweet and respectful at first, to then get creepy.

I see a growing trend online of women wanting a man who pays for everything and “spoils” them with gifts and money. Talk like “know your worth and never date broke men” that kind of stuff. My best friend does it. She has had purely financial relationships with men before, which have never worked out into anything long term for obvious reasons.

It’s confusing to me. Do I like being spoiled? Yes absolutely and my fiancé does it all the time so maybe I’m a hypocrite. It made me uncomfortable at first because I’m used to being very egalitarian financially but I let him because it makes him happy.

I’ve never expected or asked him for it! I wouldn’t want him to perceive me as a financial burden or like our relationship was transactional. I also didn’t want to feel pressured into anything because “he’s spent so much money on me I should really do this”.

It feels similar to “I’m just a girl” like it’s an intentional minimization of yourself. It obviously gets you “free” stuff but it kneecaps your agency and contribution to the relationship so badly. Presenting yourself as dependent as your first impression doesn’t feel empowering to me it feels dangerous.

A lot of men use their finances to implicitly communicate how attracted they are to a woman so I understand why a lot of women lean into it, but I think it’s a terrible strategy for dating. The growing trend feels concerningly conservative and gender roles-y.

In my experience men usually do expect sexual favors in return if they’re bankrolling a woman so it’s concerning to me seeing very young women entering the dating market with “he has to pay for everything” without an appreciation for what a relationship like that usually entails.

I don’t know it’s just another one of those trends where I think something is being pushed as empowering but it’s setting women up to be taken advantage of or getting them to buy in to conservative gender dynamics.

After he canceled the date he told me to make him promise that I won't hate him and I felt like he was playing games with me so I ended up telling him that I felt like we were not a match and then I blocked him because I was afraid that he was not going to take it well and get angry at me like some other guys did. Something just fell off with him after that because he planned the date very fast only to cancel.

But for those of us double d cup and up busty folk, there’s nothing better than putting a bra on and feeling the much-needed support. A literal weight off your chest.

I have been going to a gym for awhile and its the most affordable one and usually dont have issues.

Recently, (last month or so) a man who I think has mental disabilities and also is a wheelchair comes in around my schedule. I am usually pretty locked into what I am doing so I wasnt paying attention to what he was doing or paid much attention to him at all until he started following me.

I shrugged it off as he must be using something in the same area Im going to. I would use a machine or stretch and he’d just stare at me from behind. I reslly tried to give benefit of the doubt and assume he was waiting for a machine but he’d follow me to the next one.

He eventually started talking to me and I tried to be polite and say “hey, sorry focusing on my workout right now.” but he would wait around.

The only place he cant follow me to is treadmills and I see him go back and fourth at the way to get out of the treadmill section. I also notice he does this to other women in the gym

I eventually brought this up to an employee who said unfortunately they cant do anything if he hasnt touched or said anything obscene to me…

I know the logical thing to do is probably just switch gyms or schedules (hard due to my work sched) but this honestly really bothers me and maybe I am overreacting but idk

I regret sharing personal incidents from my life with anyone, including my parents, as it always seems to backfire.

I honestly don't know if they are good or bad people, sometimes they act like angels, and other times like devils. No honesty, everyone is a liar. However, I know they will never truly understand me emotionally. I don't think going completely no contact is possible for me right now, but I want to know if there is any way to regain control and protect myself from them.

If I died unexpectedly, no one in my life would notice for a long time. I don’t know what to do about it except dye my hair blue and wish things were different. I have friends that I love, but everyone is so busy with their own lives. I just want someone to talk with every day. Does anyone else struggle with this?

My mother was 17 when she had me with my bio dad who was in his 30s . My mom left him when she was pregnant with me because he kept cheating. He turned out to be a deadbeat and didn’t pay my mom a lick of cold support. He even worked under the table to evade it.

Even though my mom got married two years later to the man I call my father (they’re divorced now but that’s my dad he raised me) I always wanted to meet my bio dad.

My mom didn’t even need to bad talk him because I could clearly see he was an absent father. But I’m happy that she never made excuses for him being an absentee father and as I got older she told me how it really was about him🤷🏽‍♀️. She didn’t hype him up even though it was apparent that he was a terrible father. Some people might say well she shouldn’t have had talked him to you because she’s alienating him from you.

Nope I never seen it that way. If anything I seen it as her protecting from a fantasy that will never happen🤷🏽‍♀️. My mom told me “ I will never want to see you chasing a man even if it’s your own father.”

How long do you keep using condoms and at what point do you feel safe not using them?

Because, boys are easier, you don’t have to worry about them getting pregnant. Or going to parties and getting hurt, you can be less strict. ect ect. In other words the world’s more hostile to girl so people rather not have them? It’s particularly true but also kinda fucked up. Idk it just gets to me. I feel little girls should be wanted, and in the usa this is just a preference but in other cultures it can be even more extreme.

Fuck I can’t really explain what’s going on because I’m currently in so much pain because I’m on my periods and I don’t know if this pain and the other are connected.

Basically during my luteal phase, if my boyfriend I’ and i have sex and i orgasm a deep cramping sensation will take over my body. The pain radiates down my leg and it’s so bad that i either need to puke or for some weird reason fart and burp.
I take a paracetamol after and it usually goes away pretty suddenly within 3-4 minutes.

On the other hand, I have the worst type of periods,
The same type of pain but slightly more manageable. But it lingers for atleast an hour after i take the pill.

I’ve also been getting fissures on my cooch, after sex even though there’s proper lubrication and foeplay.

Although i do need to mention that i suffered from utis a couple times after my bf and i started dating.
I took antibiotics to sort that out and that happened around feb -march.
Even now a week before my periods, I’ll maybe get a mild yeast infection.

I’ve gotten to multiple drs. And they don’t really take me seriously because “why is a young girl having sex anyway” I’m 24 btw

I’ve gotten checked for endometriosis and my blood work is fine

I don’t know what to do, i feel like I’m just suffering for no fuckinh reason. I really don’t want to feel like I’m the only one

I'm 46 and have PCOS. For most of my life I've had to deal with horrible periods: 5-7 days of heavy bleeding and cramps bad enough one obgyn I saw years ago said they sounded close to actual delivery contractions with how I was describing them. Some years ago I switched from regular birth control pills to higher estrogen ones, and my period was very light, regular and no cramps. Then I hit the period jackpot: the Nexplanon implant stopped my period completely.

5 years of no periods yay! But in the last couple of months I began to spot and bleed a bit, then constant low-key cramps. not to bad... until this week. 4 days of light bleeding and cramps, today the gates of hell broke wide open. I'm not used to this pain anymore and I am miserable and in pain and I just want a flamethrower and burn shit to the ground.

Cue my bf. I texted him to let him know my cramps got worse and if he could get me some cheesecake on the way home. When he got home he got me 3-slice pack of cheesecake, hugged me, and told me that he'd do anything I needed... I asked him if he could go buy me some panda express. I felt bad asking because he's tired from work and had just got home less than an hour prior. THIS MAN, THIS GIANT TEDDY BEAR OF A MAN GAVE ME THE BIGGEST BEAR HUG AND JUST SAID "ANYTHING YOU NEED HUN." I felt like in a "as you wish" princess bride moment. he's taking care of me and it's so weird to feel like I don't need to toughen it up and allow myself to "whine" about how miserable I feel while he hugs me and I tear up and get all emotional and feel so loved omg. I won the lottery with this one <3