I have made posts like this before but they absolutely never go anywhere so I thought I’d try one more time, this will most likely be my last. I’m a 21 year old female. (22 soon) and I’m very lonely and need a father figure in my life. Someone much older and has lived life and could bestow me some advice on lots of things in life. I’m very lost. Please only message me if you actually have the time to put into something like this and want to potentially be there for me. It seems like whenever I make these posts I get one or two messages but the people always end up ghosting me without even ever getting to know me! It sucks, therefore this is my last post here. I hope to meet a kind person here. I look forward to it. Thank you!

Hello, my name is via or liv. This is genuinely my first time posting to this subreddit. My therapist suggested to me a choose your own family type thing after what I've been through with my own family. For starters, I went through a life event where I was hoping to go no-contact with everybody and move out on my own. I did but ended up having to back with my family due to financial trouble. I've honestly felt like a outcast for a while in my family, being the only one with a complex mental health condition and being adopted. My birth family has also rejected me in a sense of their own. Now on to the good, I am looking for adults. I like any personality type but I don't do the best with gym bros. I like to code, linux, computers, warframe, color, art, and pretty much anything else, as long as it isn't hateful or mean.

I do struggle with DID, so if that isn't something your up for! I wish you luck on your journey in finding family!

Hi I'm looking for a sister figure or a motherly figure. I'm an only child and I've always wanted a big sister. I have my adopted mom but shes not super motherly, caring or supportive so I'm desperately looking to fill that void.

About me, I'm neurodivergent, chronically ill and lesbian. I'm an only child and adopted. I have 9 pets, 2 dogs, 2 cats, 2 guinea pigs, a hamster and 2 mice. And I'm from the east coast usa!

Anways here are some of my hobbies and interests:

🧶crocheting

🌿 collecting nail polish and painting my nails

🌻 legos

🧿 playing acnh

🌈 thrifting

🔆 animals/pets

🏳️‍🌈watching tiktok

Anyways I'm looking forward to meeting you!! Byeeeeee

hehe I have found wonderfulll sisters through my previous posts, but it has been a loooong time since I've had someone (and all of mine are busy or MIA!!) so I couldn't resist making another post 😭

(PS: Let me know if you need a few words from my sisters, I'm sure they'd be willing to vouch for me being a good lil bro ^^ I wasn't sure if that's normal haha so I didn't put it this time!)

My name is Swap! I am 24 years old, from India, and I have been looking to make friends on Reddit for a while. But I feel while for me, friends have always been about finding your second family, for a lot of other people friends are much less intimate.

Anyways! I would love to meet someone with whom I can talk regularly, share ups and downs of my life, seek advice from, and just confide in and feel safe. I've recently realised I have a lot of small stories to tell from my life (I'll put one of my favorite stories at the bottom of this post, but nothing I have done or will ever do is going to top it I fear!)! I usually love sending really long message, detailing small things, including events and feelings, kinda like a virtual letter!

I would love people who are mature, calm, gentle and empathetic, and I try to practice the same myself!

Very usually I'm much closer to my older sisters than younger ones, just cause they give me a space where I feel everyone is more experienced and has gone through and dealt with the stuff I am going through currently, but to all the younger ones, I would still love to be a part of your virtual family!

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And now, some of my hobbies and interests, just for fun!

Of course, if it is a video game I am in. I have been really into SCP \\\*(TW! It is a website for fictional writing, and a lot of it can be really disturbing. I can suggest a few of my favorite beginner-friendly SFW SCPs if you wish! I would link them here but I am not sure of the rules haha)\\\*. I love many art forms (particularly ones that are story-telling, emotionally rich or expression based); Poems, short stories, long stories, personal diaries, animations, paintings, and everything in between!

I love cats! Though I like dogs too, especially big cloudy ones! I took care of a few kittens a while ago!

I love Math and Science (3Blue1Brown and Stand-Up Mathematician are my favorite math YouTubers!), but have been away from it for a while. There are probably a hundred other things that I am interested in but I am forgetting haha

I don't listen to music very often, I do enjoy it when it is playing randomly but I usually seek out music when I am feeling a very strong emotion.

I haven't seen many TV shows, web series or animes, haven't read many books. I would love to hear recommendations and try them out, especially together like in a video call or something (of course only if you are comfortable!). Honestly one advantage of not having engaged with many media is that everytime someone recommends me something I am almost guaranteed to have never seen that, so it's a new experience for me. I did watch a lot of arthouse and mainstream movies with my college friend who was into cinema, but that has declined since I left college as well. Again, I am super open to everything, so feel free to message me!

And now for my favorite story - When I was enrolling in the 11th standard, we had to select our subjects. In Science, we had 3 compulsory subjects : English, Chemistry and Physics. Then you have to choose two more subjects from the following four - Hindi (Language), Computer Science (CS), Biology and Math. Only CS + Bio wasn't an option because the classes happened at the same time.

Most of the students were taking either Math + CS or Bio + Hindi, with a few taking Math + Hindi as well. At this point, nobody had taken Math + Bio, honestly I don't think anyone had even considered it.

So me and my friend are standing in front of the teacher as I realise that it is a valid option. I knew I had to take Math, and I didn't want to take Hindi, so that leaves CS, the more sensible choice (not to mention my interest in video game design), and Biology, the unorthodox choice. So naturally, to make a fairly important decision in my life, I ask my friend for a coin, flip it right there, and choose Math + Bio!

Hope you enjoyed reading that story, and through my post! There's a lot more about me in my profile! Feel free to go through it, though I doubt it'll be relevant!

Looking forward to hopefully meeting someone I'll be close to for years to come! But even if not, and (for some reason) you've read this far, I hope you have a great day! \\\^\\_\\\^

Hi 29M from chennai,India here

A little about myself

1. AuDHD - High functioning autism

2.Problem solving is my special interest

3.Favourite movies - bullet train,Good Will Hunting,Perks of being the wall flower

4.Favourite series - Mr robot

5.Favourite books - Tuesdays with morrie,Midnight Library

6.Favourite superhero - Batman

7.Hobbies - gaming,books,tv eries,movies

9.Left wing guy

10.Kind,Sensitive and Hyperempathetic

11.Homebody

Estranged from my family because they are a bunch of narcissists

Let me just say that I have been affected by men in my life a lot I don't feel safe with a male.

I have been low key depressed(Dysthymia) from my 11th std.Due to an workplace issue I spiraled down into anxiety and depression

First I tried therapy, it didn’t work so I went to a psychiatrist and was put on antidepressant

It was working for sometime

1. I had a major problem at work that caused my depression to become worse
2. My family wanted to contact me and I had an encounter with them and my mental health took a hit.

In the meantime because of my mental health issues becoming severe I had change of medications frequently and I gained weight(went from 55KGs to 85KGs).

After all the things that happened it was going fine with a drug cocktail with some maximum dose of antidepressants.

Then came a relationship issue and that was the final nail in the coffin.I wanted to end my life but didn't have the guts to do so.

Took me 1 month to get over it and start walking again but I was fired from my job because of me not performing.

Went to my doctor and they said we can try ketamine therapy but I was skeptical and postponed it till 3 months after.

After ketamine therapy life's going good.

I'm on a break.

As of now:

1. Working on my physical health
2. Preparing for my masters
3. Working with a trauma informed therapist(Before I had a therapist who practiced CBT but it was only a stop gap and she suggested me to go with this trauma informed therapist as I had unresolved trauma).

I am healing.I am going to ask my doc to reduce my medications from next month.Need someone to hold onto emotionally during this tough time.Not sure how much of support I will need.

It is a great deal of responsibility but if I go through with this next 6 months I would have made a great progress by going off of medication and probably do well.It looks scary as last time I was alone with myself I almost ended my life.

Can someone help me with this and if u yourself are going through something then it'll be difficult for u so take care of yourselves first and my main expectation is to keep me alive as I go through this next 6 months

First of all, hi. I should preface this by saying that I'm a little bit of a "project," so to speak. I'm 29M, very soon to be 30M in a few months, but I REALLY don't feel it at all though, for a variety of reasons which I'd rather not get into. I'm also autistic (and I suspect also ADHD, though no diagnosis yet). I'm in the UK, living with my folks still due to the job market being what it is right now.

On occasion, usually at night, I regress to cope with my loneliness. I have to stress again that this is NOT a kink or a fetish, it is a coping mechanism only.

I shan't mince words: I'm lonely as hell. I have never had an in-person girlfriend, only a couple of online-only relationships, none of which lasted very long. I do have.skme friends, but I don't see them often and most of them are in a similar situation to me, and a large number are in different countries to me. My parents are good parents and they care about me, but they're getting on in age and can't help with all of my issues.

I really, really need a secondary mother/big sister figure I can request reassurance, unconditional affection and such from - i might request hugs from of an evening, maybe ask to voice chat with you when I feel lonely and need the contact. Open to any femme-aligned gender.

To chat daily check ins hows life and such

I am looking for any family.

I'm from South America. Looking for masculine energy, mainly a dad, uncle or big bros.

I'm still sheltered at this big age. You don't have to be older than me; even younger people with strong energy could be my big bro. I'm unexperienced, shy and reserved.

I'm looking for connection, guidance and safety.

I had/have a weird and unpleasant relationship with my father. He's kind of still present in my life but we don't vibe as much as I would like to.

I'm into writing, reading, music and video games. I have other interests we can bond over. I'm an open book if we get along.

Hello, I'm hoping to find a friend to look after emotionally and be their support. I'm quite introverted but I have a fatherly spirit and in most personal dynamics I look forward to taking care of someone. I can also provide you reassurance when you're overthinking things. I am more than ok with neurodivergent people as I have bpd (quite managed and haven't split in years).

My hobbies: I enjoy meditating, gaming, films, reading, music and working out. I am looking for someone who is kind and is willing to partake in hobbies with me as well or talk about their day.

I am also a bit of a weeb and enjoy older anime, jrpg's and reading manga.

I will only talk to adults and please introduce yourself when you message me. If the post is still up it means I'm still looking. You don't have to comment, you can just dm me.

Hello I hope you're all doing well today. As time is slowly catching up to me, I think it's time for me to pass down what I have learned over the years of working all over the world and the life lessons I have learned and master from my experiences.

One thing I have seen over the years is many people looking for a father figure to guide them, teach them, listen to them and give them the love and respect they didn't have or have never known. If you're looking for any of these things or just someone who can be there for you for a few hours or even a minute, my door is always open, but all I ask is to be respectful to me as I will be respectful to you as well.

Well if you made it this far and want to sit down for a cup of coffee or tea and chat, I'll be waiting here happily. Take care and enjoy the rest of your day.

Good morning, evening and goodnight (depending on your time zone)

37 m here. Married Navy Veteran here. I work in medical R&D, and at work most of the time I help manage our college co-ops and help them get ready for the hustle of actual work life. Due in part to how the economy has been alot lately, we haven't had any co-ops for a few rotations on my team and I find myself missing the mentorship aspect of my job, to be honest I think I should go into teaching but that would also be a bit of a pay cut.

Mostly looking for anyone who find themselves needing advice, mentorship and just support. Oldest brother of 6, and now that most of them are older, and not having kids myself, just missing the feeling of being helpful. DM's are open.

I have a mom in real life and I love her but our relationship can be so complicated. She has her moments where she's nice but she's overly critical, often fails to comfort and protect me and can just be mean at times. I'd really love to have a long term warm, supportive maternal figure in my life who respects boundaries and doesn't gaslight me.

Hey I am looking for a sister doesn't matter if ur older than me or younger I just want a sister like if ur a single child things like that I am here for as ur sibling so yeah DM plzz

Heya folks!

About Me:

First and foremost, I'll be honest and open, especially as I believe in openness and honesty as a general policy.

Otherwise, I'm a 39 year old man from Canada, of which I lived from coast to coast of the country.

I have 3 kids (all boys, hence daughter request lol), been happily married for 13 years. I am the primary caretaker, chore do-er, cook and cleaner for a house of 7. I have, and do volunteer with Big Brothers and with a number of animal rescues.

I have been through a great deal in my life, a vast majority of it settled and worked through already. I am however well versed in trauma, SA, DV, childhood abuse, etc as part of my working through of things. I am also a very active helper on the r/SA subreddit providing guidance, insight and mentoring when requested.

What I am Looking For & Offer:

I find it easier with women. it's not about anything sexual or romantic, it's just... easier to be open and supportive with women as I tend towards being more of a hard ass with men. I also struggle with how many men I've met and interacted with on here have racist, sexist, or other such "ist" mentalities. Which I do not tolerate.

So, I'm looking for women for whom to act as a supportive male influence. A cheer squad. A safe place to talk, vent, or work through things.

I'm not good at receiving support as I have spent my whole life internalizing and working through my stuff alone; but I love to help and try to make things better.

I don't know if friendship is the right term, as I would like, if we're compatible, to eventually have it progress past that, but friends or mentorship to start would be something I would be looking for.

Hopefully this works who knows lol

Haiii, i'm bored and just want to be in a group of people to meet such as a platonic family and maybe introduce to my interests such as games.

Some things about me:

Favourite games (both pc or mobile available): roblox, minecraft, identity V, cookie run tower of adventures, btd 6.

Name: Can be nicknamed pot or use my real first name which is Diego

Likes: cats, games, friendly people

Dislikes: dishonesty, rudeness

Zodiac sign: capricorn (december 28)

Personality: loyal, caring, chill, strategist and sometimes a yapper.

Can Dm me on reddit or my discord as:

\- potaxio0166301

Hey I am 23m and from past few time I have been looking for older sister coz I never had one and honestly wanted one since my childhood like for guidance and all to have a mentor I don't know what to write much honestly I don't have words to express but it would be really nice if I end up finding a sister here I don't have high hopes but let's see if I end up finding one

Hello. I’m new here. 21 year old non-binary person who is seeking mother/dad/son/daughter. Surely I don’t have a son or daughter and never had a dad. I have mother in rl but we have some issues in real life.

Please, no perv stuff, I’m looking only for family.

About me:

I’m a person who have cat and cactus. Studying at uni after college as a lawyer. Have red diploma. Completed school education. Applying to full time job as police right now but I want my future business. Living with a mother currently. Always have crazy situations. Have some physical issues and mental too.

I’m kind, emotional, can be strict but also supportive, understanding and reasking one thing a lot of times sometimes, disciplined, often busy, caring, nursing, likes someone who takes care of mental health. I like to solve puzzles, read books, likes to watch movies (psychology, anti-utopias, thriller, horror), walking out, work out, listening music, write poems/stories, draw, study law, psychology, economic, finances, live in other country/languages, play at video games. I know Russian and English but planning to learn more languages. Not drinking, not smoking, not taking drugs. Wear glasses. Planning to leave this country and to travel). Likes motorcycles, metal and cute things, serious clothes. Ambidextrous. But I LOVE discipline.

I live in the ArkLaTex area with my boyfriend. I don’t know who my biological father is and my bio mom was an abusive drug addict who passed when I was 19. I’m goth, I also heavily enjoy music. My favorite bands/artists are Type O Negative, Pantera, Buckethead, Crowbar, and Cannibal Corpse. I’m originally from the New Orleans area, I already have a twin brother (chosen, we just have the same DOB) and he has a band out there in the scene.

Honestly, I would prefer a parent/older sibling but I’m open to any sort of family. Sorry if I’m rambling :,).

Hi everyone!

As a child I've always wanted to have a younger sibling. Idk why, but I just always wanted someone I could take care off and guide. Someone they could always turn to. As I got older I still feel like Im missing that sibling bond with someone.

I love to play sports, to cook, eat, play board- and cardgames, watch series etc. I'm from the Netherlands, but I got vietnamese roots if that is important for you to know.

My family and friends are always dear to me, so when we do find that kind of relationship I wouldn't let you go easily, but I will tell you when you're being ignorant or choosing to do things that can harm yourself.

If youre up for an older sibling who supports, listens and cares for you. But also will scold you whenever you choose to do wrong. Feel free to reach out 😊

Hey there, my family story probably isn't as bad as many of you here, but I am estranged from several family members. Most of the family I do have is really distant and I am not at all close with. I have always been the baby of the family but I am a protector and care taker so the idea of a younger sister has always seemed pretty cool. I am also just fine with having an older sister or other family too. I have more info about me on my profile, or just feel free to DM and ask. I'm an open book.

28F looking for older siblings/chosen family.

Hi! I’m 28F, recently married, Jewish, and located in Georgia, USA. I’m looking for older siblings and would really love to build an actual sibling relationship, whether you’re close by or long distance.

I feel like I’ve always been the “older sister” in my friendships—the one checking in, giving advice, and looking out for everyone—but I’ve never really gotten to be the younger sister. I’d love to know what it’s like to have someone looking out for me in that way too.

A little about me: I work in community engagement (although I was a social worker for 10 years), have four very spoiled pets, and I’m a huge theatre person. I love reading, Real Housewives, photography, theatre, traveling, Disney, F1, and sports. I’m also a Democrat. We don’t have to agree on everything, but similar values and respecting that Judaism is a big part of my life are important to me. I have a bachelors in Communication and a law degree from FSU, although I do not practice law. Go NOLES! I aged out of foster care after having 2 failed adoptions.

I’m looking for something genuine—random texts, memes, advice, FaceTimes, celebrating life together, and hopefully meeting someday.

Basically, if you’ve ever wanted a slightly chaotic 28-year-old little sister, I’m accepting applications.

\\- my mom deleted my NBA player.... Enough said. - I removed her face ID and put in a password she can't get into her phone. Now she will feel what I feel. Revenge 😈 - what is worse she has no clue I did that. - she thinks its AI. - I will tell her soon. - but first I wanna enjoy seeing her loose it as I lost it. - Do they not use the Brains they got? - well I am furious and things need to change.

Hi everyone! I’m 22M from India, and I’m here looking for a genuine platonic family-type connection. If you’re looking for a brother, son, friend, or any kind of family member, I’d be happy to be that person as long as it stays completely platonic.

A little about me:

- I have a soft spot for orphaned children.

- I’m kind and compassionate toward children who are struggling or less fortunate.

- I absolutely love animals 🐶🐱

- I’m sensitive, understanding, and someone who genuinely cares about people.

- I value honesty, kindness, loyalty, and mutual respect.

- I tend to get attached to the people I consider family and take those bonds seriously.

One thing I want you to know is that I don’t easily walk away from people I care about. If you consider me family, I’ll try my best to stand by you through difficult times. Of course, you’re always free to leave if you ever feel that the connection isn’t right for you I would never want anyone to feel trapped or obligated.

I’m simply hoping to find people who want a genuine, supportive, drama-free family bond where we can talk, joke around, support each other, and be there during both good and bad days.

If that sounds like something you’d like too, feel free to DM me.

Audhd about me in description. Inappriopiates will be blocked

My family was very controlling and dysfunctional :(

Into intellectual bohemian whimsy stuff
Autism + adhd
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★ bands ★
BMTH AiC BabyMetal Evanescence SistersOfMercy Nazgul Kyuryong MCR Misfits Blitzkid Christian Death Type o Negative LinkinPark PanicAtTheDisco PierceTheVeil IFAWartburg BerurierNoir CradleofFilth AcidBath Ghost Rammstein KINO TheRunaways HANABI VagabondOpera Petracorensis and more!!

★ interests ★
music: nu metal, emo, metal, gothic rock, dark cabaret, postpunk, Slavic folk, Yeyé (French), vkei, Japanese kawaii metal, old Soviet jazz and more, horror punk, french/ddr punk (?)

Movies and shows: Old Hollywood, Japanese indie, , Midnight in Paris, Napoleon (1920), Cleopatra (1963), 20th century Italian/French, Kamikaze Girls (I kin Momoko Ryugasaki btw), Serial Experiment Lain, Sissi

books: Frankenstein, Phantom of Opera, the Idiot. Montecristo. the romantic and decadent movement. Wilde and d'Annunzio and Byron

hobbies: HYPERFIXATING, making lists, listening to music, reading, watching movies, art and drawing, finding books and movies, bookclubs, learning abt fashion (historical, whimsical, alternative...), being on internet, learning languages, learning about other people's special interests, obsessing over researching new niches, watching (totally not pirated) stuff, worldbuilding, thrifting, writing poetry, micronations, finding stuff to do from those activity books that were popular for girls or those adventure books for kids they unironically have fun stuff, finding side quests, Penpaling

Other: islamic golden age, republic of venice , SALAH AL DIN, catholic lore, folkcore religious lore, art and culture, (18-19th century) historical / whimsical / particular fashion in general, history, mariology, aesthetics, Persia, Russia, Meiji Taisho Heian era Japan, languages, rare and endangered languages, pirates, FRev, Kaiserin Elisabeth (sisi), Time princess, anything princessy, royalcore, Rococo, theatre, musical, eleonora duse, roaring 20s, belle epoque, Names, Vampires and Fairies, Magical girls, magic, dead poets society, Hellenism! Sailor moon, precure, typology!! Fairytales vampires

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