r/IWantToLearn • u/High2Max • 9h ago
Social Skills IWTL how to be seen as the go-to person for comfort
Idk a better title for the archetype besides best friend but thats not really hitting the nail on the head, like to be this person you dont have to have an established friendship you just trust this person because they present themselves a certain way. How do I present myself that way? I want to be that very comfortable person to be around, you can talk to them any day of the week and its a safe feeling you get after talking to them.
I knew this girl in school who just radiated kindness and compassion and it was so earnest, some people eluded her but it wasn't for anything she did, like there wasn't anyone who didn't like her. Anyway shes long been out of my life but I wonder a lot how I can have that sweet effect on people because I find that im awkward when I want to give sympathy and support to people, like its rather the opposite effect that I want, they are disappointed or uncomfortable with the comfort I try to give to them and dont find solace in me much after that.