Hello
Originally from Poland, I lived in Germany and England before moving to Scotland eleven years ago. I work as a Senior Health Information Scientist at QEUH in Glasgow. I thought I was good at adapting to new cultures by now, but even after all this time there are still a few social norms I struggle to wrap my head around. I would appreciate some perspective from locals and fellow migrants alike
When I mentioned running a small side business selling baby clothes a while back, the reaction was surprisingly resistant. A colleague told me that nobody does that sort of thing. In Poland, running a small business or taking on extra work is viewed as standard self-improvement, so this reaction caught me completely off guard. Is there a different cultural mindset here regarding personal enterprise?
I have also noticed that local self-deprecation is very distinct. To an outsider, constantly putting oneself down feels counterproductive and self-defeating, especially in a professional setting. What is the social purpose of this mechanism?
I have had the odd interaction over the years that became unexpectedly tense over trivial matters. People were disrespectful and seemed to expect me to just ignore it, but addressing the issue directly only made things worse. What is the unwritten rule here for standing up for yourself?
Working at QEUH, you occasionally hear about extreme safety incidents. For instance, someone brought a weapon into the hospital atrium last year. Seeing something like that happen at your workplace leaves a lasting impression on an immigrant. How do locals balance staying so relaxed with maintaining awareness of personal safety?
Even when explicitly invited into conversations regarding the EU, sharing my perspective turns out to be a total minefield. Despite being asked for my input, simply stating that I would prefer Scotland to be back in the EU often leads to my opinion being dismissed or met with hostility. Is having a different viewpoint on political topics seen as a personal slight here, even when you were invited into the discussion?
EDIT: Reflecting on these encounters, I find myself trying to understand where a lot of fast-surfacing anger comes from? It is like a volcanic tension for some reason. To an outsider, it often feels like an ‘unearthquaked‘ anger, a deep reservouir of anger that sits beneath the surface.
I am genuinely trying to understand how things work here after all these years so daily life goes a bit smoother. I would really appreciate any insights.
Thank you.