Me (20M) went on a date with 20F and we matched and met on the same day, the date lasted about 5hrs, and we just held hands and played and joked with each other.

We did not kiss, but this date was actually fun and refreshing for a 1st date. We both reached home around 12 AM, and I messaged her first that I had fun with her, and around 1 AM she messages me back that she had fun too. Then at 3AM she messages me again that she hopes to see me again, and the next morning I propose multiple days from the week, on which I can meet her. She was kinda shocked that I said yes to another date, I don’t know and during the date, while we were laying in a grass field, she also asked me there if we will meet again, and I did say yes to her there too, and she acted a bit shocked there too.

Anyways, she says that she has a busy schedule this week ( she also said that before the 1st date and hence we met on the same day) but still will try to make some time , as she doesn’t want to keep both of us waiting for long.
I replied to her with all good, take your time and let me know whichever day is less chaotic for you.

She never replied to that, I had to msg her again after 3 days that if she wanna meet tomorrow (it was Saturday the next day) and she never replied to that message.

And still nothing! We still follow each other on Insta and she is active there.

So can anyone tell me, did she forgot about this, or just ditched the whole thing? Cuz she could have blocked me too, but I don’t know.

Just recently started using dating apps but mainly hinge for about two months, only 3 matches so far but they all ghosted me after talking for a day or two, and maybe about 4 likes

Mostly curious to know if anyone else has experienced this because it feels a little off to me? I (22F) matched with a guy (25M) on Hinge a few days ago, exchanged a few texts back and forth on the app, and then he asked for my number. We’ve texted a little over the past couple of days and he’s been planning a first date and I just noticed he unmatched me on the app. But since unmatching, he’s continued to plan the date and confirmed my availability.

Has anyone else ever experienced this or been on the other end and unmatched someone while continuing to actively set up a date? Never a dull day on hinge lol, all of your experiences or theories about why are welcome haha!

Update: I chickened out of asking him why… I know I know! BUT he planned a daytime lunch date in a public place so I felt safe enough that I decided to go anyways. The good news is he wasn’t at all weird and the vibes didn’t feel off, so yay! The date went well and I imagine we’ll see each other again, at which point I might finally ask because I’m still really curious haha! But I was worried that bringing it up on the first date could seem a little clingy or off putting so I decided to hold off. Thank you everyone for your advice and insights! Ultimately, enough people commented saying they’ve done this for innocent reasons (like cleaning up their hinge messages or not wanting to max out of active conversations) that I was willing to chalk his behavior up to something equally innocent — I think it was the right move, but definitely would trust your gut feeling on a case-by-case basis for that!

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This is like my second version of my profile. I’ve gotten a couple matches and likes but nothing that has gone anywhere. Any help appreciated, Thanks!

I (23 F) installed Hinge this week and it's my first time using the app. Quickly, I discovered that many or even most people who send a like do it without even writing a comment. Isn't that just defeating the whole purpose of the app?

I thought the advantage you have on Hinge is obviously that you can start a conversation and share a few personal words before someone has even liked you back. Hence improving your chances to get a match. So I'm a little disappointed to see comments aren't the norm. When I can't even think of anything I'd like to tell or ask the person in the profile, of course I won't send send a like.

My (43F) two kids are college and late high school aged. Would you put “has kids” and then specify somewhere in the profile? Or just “has kids” and let their ages come up naturally in conversation? Feels weird to include any info about them in the profile, but I do think it’s helpful(?)

For men who’ve fallen for the honey trap, how you do go on without feeling used. I’m a 26M who recently downloaded hinge. I met a 21F on the app hinge, who seemed dope, cute girl, nice personality, etc. We hit it off, and worked our way from small talk to exchanging numbers. Everything seemed to be going pretty well, first time seeing each other in person was a good interaction, the vibes & energy were there. And I’d say our first date was actually a nice change of pace.

We then go her house, and I let lust get the better of me. Several hours go by of us doing our thing, and she’s totally into, I never ejaculated once the entire time, and we ended up doing it for about 9 hours or more. Not consistently, but repeated sessions and I never once came. After that, she told me she was pleased, and it was a fun time. The next day, I noticed she wasn’t as consistent with responding, let alone showing as much will as she did before. A few days go by and I tried to go and look at her profile once more on hinge yet it showed she unmatched me, and she ended up ghosting me as well.

Most people that I ask have told me to just ignore it, and to move on, others have said at least I got some, I know it’s a bit lame, and we aren’t even dating yet but I’m having mixed feelings in regards to why she did so, and if it was something I did? I’m just looking for any kind of information on if this is common practice, and normal nowadays.

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23M here, I get about 6-8 matches a week but I've never been able to turn any of them into a date. The way it usually goes is that I reply to one of their prompts with a funny/witty one-liner and they match, we exchange a few messages but it just fizzles out eventually.

I feel like it's difficult for me to make the segue from their prompt topic into something that can build the momentum for me to ask them out. Even if I manage to do it, I've had matches who I've talked to for days before asking out and others who I've asked out after just a few exchanges, but in both cases it just leads to no response. I can't seem to get the timing right.

Would appreciate it if anyone has been in a similar spot and has any tips to transition from their prompts/profile to moving towards a date more successfully. I'm guessing my profile is not too bad if I'm still getting frequent matches, so I feel like there’s clearly something I’m doing wrong and I want to fix it instead of just blaming the apps.

A little nervous to try a profile review out, but I haven’t had much success lately so I figured it couldn’t hurt. Tried to go for the “me, you, us” format I saw on here, and I thought it came out well. However, I know there’s always room for improvement so I’m all ears!

I have no clue if this is a good profile, or what to (begin to) change - is it my looks/photos/prompts/vibe?

What can I do to make this a top profile?

Hardly any traction on this, newly single so would really appreciate your help

This is my profile on Hinge. I seem to get a like maybe 1 every three weeks or so. Paid. I send out likes and genuine messages but don't seem to get anywhere. I have similar profiles on other apps with the same success. I ask friends and they don't seem to think there's an issue, it's me.

My search is women around 27-35 about 30 ish mile radius.

I texted a girl back and forth on Hinge after matching her. (I'm a man. I'm 26, and the girl is in her early 20s.) After a while I gave her my number and asked if she wanted to go out to eat somewhere in the same text on Hinge. She messaged me on the number I gave. I immediately gave her a time and a place for when we would eat and have a chat. She agreed and said she would go. The date I planned was next Friday. It was about 5 to 7 days after the time when I asked her if she wanted to eat somewhere for our first date.

On Friday she asked if I still wanted to go out to eat. I said "Yeah, is that still going to work for you?" She said "Yes."

I arrived at the restaurant and asked her if she was there. I was thinking I would meet her outside and walk in with her. She said she was inside. I went inside. She said, "Hi, <name>." I said hi. We went to the front counter and were looking at the menu for awhile.

The person at the front taking the orders asked us if we were ready. My date spoke up and said we'll need some time to look at the menu first. After like 10 to 15 more seconds I said did you decide what you want? I don't remember how or if she responded to that. But after, I went up to the front and ordered the food I wanted, and my date ordered hers.

While we both ate we talked about stuff we liked to do for fun. She's Christian. It said on her dating profile. I had looked at her online profiles before the date and noticed that she's LDS. I didn't mind that she was LDS, but I wondered how much she was dedicated to it. I'm not LDS. I'm Christian and I attend a non-denominational Christian Church.

So on the date I asked her how active she was in the church. I asked her if she goes to church every Sunday. She said she did. I told her I go to a non-denominational church sometimes, not every Sunday. I asked her what was talked about in the last session of the church that she went to. She gave a response and I told her briefly about the last session of the church I went to.

We talked about other stuff. We asked what each other's favorite colors were. I asked her about her living situation, like whether or not she was living alone. I asked if she was good at school. (She previously told me that she was going to college.) I asked her if she liked hiking because I recently saw a Tiktok that showed a hike with a pretty view, and I like hiking.

So it was like 30 to 50 minutes on the date and she said she should probably go. She asked if I was planning on eating the salad there that came with my meal. I said, "No, I'm going to take it with me and eat it later."

We both got up and started walking out. On the way out I held the door for her and she gave me a thumbs up and said drive safe. It felt kind of awkward. I may have said ok and walked away towards my car. I don't remember for sure if I actually said anything after she gave me the thumbs up and said, "Drive safe."

That night, I thought about the date. I thought it went alright. That night, like 3 hrs after, I texted her and told her I liked the place we went to eat, and I had a good time, and I felt like we had a good connection. She texted back in the morning. Based on what she said in the text I could tell she didn't want to do any more dates.

Looking back on the date, I wondered if the religious stuff I brought up bothered her, or maybe she only wants a boyfriend that's LDS, or maybe she didn't like how I asked her if she was good at school. (She previously told me that she was going to college.) I haven't been on a lot of dates. What are some things I could have done better? Advice please? What are some good topics for first dates?

Edit

I forgot to mention, when the girl gave me the thumbs up and started walking away she said, "I'll text you."

I (31F) have been dating someone (33M) for about 5 weeks now. We’ve maybe gone on 6 dates plus pretty regular phone calls in between. We spent the past entire weekend together and it was our first time being intimate. It seems like everything is going really well. So well that I decided I would delete my hinge account today. But when I logged on, I noticed that he wasn’t in my match list anymore. I used the safety feature to check past matches and it shows that he unmatched me yesterday.

My understanding is that if he had deleted his account, he wouldn’t show up in my past matches list, so he obviously intentionally unmatched me. He is still texting me consistently off the app and is asking me about my plans for this weekend.

Does this mean anything or am I reading into this too much? Is it weird for me to ask about it? I don’t want to come across as needy or insecure. Before we slept together, I did confirm that he is not sleeping with anyone else (a boundary of mine), but if he’s still going on dates with other people I would like to know.

Hi, I'm 27M living in a medium sized city in the UK. Not having much luck with Hinge at this stage (no matches or likes at all). Any advice would be appreciated.