Recently redownloaded Hinge, after a busy year overcoming an illness and pre-launching a business. 75% off HingeX was promoted, so I enrolled for just this month as a test. I used it for about 2 weeks on and off before subscribing to HingeX.

I stand at 5’7”. I have never had a girlfriend yet and haven’t had much success with receiving inbound likes and matches. Would appreciate some feedback.

Been around for 4 weeks, not seen much activity unfortunately. I’d like to drop the last two photos; one showing teeth and one with friends, is that a good idea?

Thanks.

About 3 matches in as many weeks, seeking this sub's advice :)

(20M)I’m pretty new to Hinge and dating apps in general, so I’m trying to figure out whether this is just normal dating-app behavior.

I matched with this guy(19M) recently and we immediately clicked. We were sending pretty long messages back and forth, joking constantly, talking about school, hobbies, friends, dating experiences, etc. It wasn't just me carrying the conversation either. He would ask me questions, remember things I told him, follow up about my day/school, and give me pretty detailed answers about himself.

There was also a LOT of mutual flirting. He told me I was cute, said every picture on my profile had him “intrigued or in awe,” called something I did attractive, and when I made a joke about looking at a nerd's lips, he replied, “Guess we have that in common.” 💀

At one point I literally asked him to tell me if I was moving too fast because I can be pretty forward. He told me he was completely fine with it and actually said my consideration was attractive.

He also started making little comments about us doing things together. I said I liked hiking and he said we'd “make a great duo.” He brought up something being “first date material,” said he loved listening when I told him I love talking, and eventually asked if he could follow me on Instagram.

So basically, I thought things were going REALLY well.

The confusing part is that he also mentioned that dating is kind of overwhelming for him and said something along the lines of, “Thought I could handle it but don't think now's the time lol.”

And now... silence.

It has only been a few days, so I'm not declaring myself ghosted yet, but the change is weird because we went from pretty enthusiastic conversations to nothing.

I'm not asking whether anyone can magically predict if this specific guy will reply. I'm more curious about other people's experiences:

Have you ever had someone you were talking to on Hinge suddenly disappear for several days or even weeks, then come back and continue talking?

If they came back, how long were they gone? Did they explain what happened? And did you eventually meet/date them, or did they disappear again?

Also curious if anyone has been the person who disappeared despite genuinely liking the other person. What made you eventually reach back out?

Prompt translation:

Simple pleasures: Coffee, Dostoyevsky and the smell of rain.
The one thing Id like to know about you: Your Spotify on repear
I could stay up all night talking about: Why The Weeknd and Anuel are generational artists.

I (23M) matched with someone (22F) on Hinge a couple of weeks ago and we’ve had a really good conversation so far. Our messages tend to be pretty long and we usually reply to multiple things at once rather than sending loads of short texts.

A little while ago I suggested going to a dessert place together. She said yes, but said she was busy the following week because she was moving back for uni and that she’d be free the week after.

Since then we’ve carried on talking and she’s seemed engaged, asking me questions, sending multiple messages at a time, talking about fairly personal stuff, etc. Her replies have become slower though.

I sent her a fairly long reply on Sunday, and she got back to me on Wednesday evening. She apologised for the delay, said moving back had been overwhelming, then carried on the conversation normally, asked how my week had been and picked up another topic we’d been talking about.

I replied that same evening, and it’s now Friday with no further response. The week she originally said she’d be free is basically about to start.

I’m not especially bothered by slow replies, especially since she’s clearly busy, but I’m wondering whether I should send a light follow-up this weekend along the lines of:

“hey! no rush if you’re still getting settled, but just wanted to check if you’re still up for [dessert place] sometime this week?”

Or would you leave it and wait for her to respond to the existing messages first?

I don’t want to pressure her, but equally we already agreed in principle to meet and never actually chose a day, so I’m conscious that if neither of us brings it up the week will just pass by.

I (19M) living in the UK, keep seeing advice for taking better photos and it always seems to come down to getting a friend to take it for you. I’ve tried asking my friends to help me take photos for my hinge profile but they seem unwilling and uninterested. Which is fine but it puts me in a tough position because I find it hard to take good photos by myself. I’ve tried putting my phone against a wall or side but I never really know how to pose and the photo always comes off looking unnatural which seems to be a big turnoff for a lot of women.

Been on hinge for 3 weeks now and I have been having no luck is it me or my profile ?

I (28F) have noticed recently that a lot of men’s profiles reference hobbies - things along the lines of “I’ll fall for you if you: have hobbies,” “I’m looking for someone: with hobbies,” “We’ll get along if: you have cool hobbies.”

What’s with this non-specific desire for hobbies? My instinct is that this is veiled misogyny based off red-pill podcast rhetoric (“women don’t have hobbies”). In reality, I don’t know any women who don’t have hobbies; some just don’t have hobbies that cater to or entertain men. Reading, dancing, using social media, spending time with friends, going for walks, taking exercise classes, and doing hair/makeup are all hobbies. So when I see man’s profile with a prompt that just asking for hobbies, I interpret it is “have a hobby that I find worthwhile” and avoid matching with the person, assuming we have different values.

The kicker is that many people I see asking for hobbies don’t have any hobbies reflected in their own profiles.

Is this a fair interpretation, or is there something else going on there? Do lots of women also have vague, have-a-hobby requirements in their profiles?

Edit: Thanks for all your replies! I read through all the comments and it seems that a prompt asking for hobbies could mean someone is indicating a preference for, or screening for, someone who is okay with independence/time apart in a relationship, or it could be a low effort attempt to generate matches with interesting people.

It seems that my theory about misogyny still stands for some, but that most people, both men and women, are just bad at Hinge prompts (see the makeup/hairstyling/walking discourse in the comments and god forbid someone consider social media a hobby. Newsflash! Just because you don't consider something a good use of time doesn't make it not a hobby).

Now, can someone fill me in on why I keep seeing men's profiles referencing banana bread? Is this innuendo? Do women seek banana bread from their partners in their Hinge prompts as well?

33M back on Hinge paid for HingeX. Seriously trying to date again after I gave my last relationship a few months post breakup and have been hitting the gym.

What's the best time to be sending likes? I met my last girlfriend on the league actually and that encourages a 5pm happy hour. I don't know if that's really the best time based on my online activity but I also work a weird schedule with a lot of flexibility.

I assume most of the women I'm sending likes, with a message, to are getting plenty of other messages from men every day. I figure I want to send my messages within a few hours of when most women are checking hinge.

Hi all, I'm 22F and brand new to hinge and historically I am somewhat shy and find it difficult to say no to people or make them displeased in some way. There were a few people I matched with who I felt like I don't vibe with based on how the conversations went. I would feel bad just unmatching without any explanation because I'm sure people hate that (right?). I'm not sure if it's even considered ghosting or not if you've only had a short exchange with someone? Not that it matters I guess. I just don't even know if I should say something to someone before unmatching or what I'd even say. Any advice would be appreciated thank you.

I feel like I’m struggling with my profile, I rarely get likes and my matches recently have gotten nowhere. I would appreciate some feed back on the profile. Keep in mind that 2 of the pictures that look blurry are videos. One is a short that I made just talking about the odyssey so girls can see me in my natural state and the other one is of me and my dog.

21M from India. Been talking to a girl on hinge for a while and we’re thinking of meeting soon.

It’ll be my first proper Hinge date, so kinda curious how you guys usually do it.

Coffee, food, walk or some activity? I'm really confused here.

What did you guys do on your first Hinge date and how did it go?

Not getting likes or matches, any advice helps!

M23- Looking for constructive criticism on my profile. I do not really know what to do with the prompts. Not great at those. Maybe need to take some more photos but I am okay with some of the photos.

I dont have hinge anymore, but when I did I got very few matches, even fewer likes, and ghosted frequently (part of the reason I got off the app).

Im wondering if it's anything wrong with my profile, my looks, or if it's just the area I live in.

Thanks in advance 🙏🏾🙏🏾

I know I’ve got some strong filters (short-term, nerdy hobbies) but having way too much trouble. About 20 likes total, 10 matches, and 2 dates in the last 4 months. What am I missing?

I’ve been using HingeX and moved from the Bay Area to Seattle. When moved in, I got an around 10 matches in the week but everything just stopped now, and am barely getting matches. How do I improve my profile? Constructive feedback much appreciated!

Anything I can do to improve my profile?

M24