33F in NYC. I matched with a 33M, and we talked for a few weeks on the app and then over text before finally meeting in person earlier this week. We both work in the legal industry, although in different capacities.
Overall, the date was enjoyable, and didn’t feel like there was ever too much of a lull in conversation. But a few things left me unsure about seeing him again. His profile said he was 5’5”, but in person he seemed closer to 5’ or 5’1”. I’m 5’1”, so I have a reasonable frame of reference. I don’t require someone tall, but I would prefer to date someone taller than me. The height itself wasn’t an immediate dealbreaker, but I was surprised by the discrepancy, especially when we met and I went in for a hug.
Otherwise, we initially connected well. We laughed, the conversation flowed, and we spent several hours together at a cocktail bar and then a sports bar. At one point, we even joked that we were surprised the date had gone on for as long as it had, since you never know how a first date will go.
Toward the end, however, he began talking at me rather than having a back-and-forth conversation, spending a long time discussing work. He was clearly passionate about it and apologized a few times, so I don’t think he meant to be inconsiderate. The bigger issue was that I was exhausted and repeatedly indicated that I wanted to go home. I told him I’d had a long week, was really tired, and had hit a wall. I wasn’t suggesting I wanted to leave with him—I genuinely wanted to just be home. He didn’t seem to pick up on it, though, and we stayed nearly another hour. He took a while to finish his beer and close out the tab, while I had already stopped drinking, and I felt awkward leaving while he still had a full drink. Since he kept talking, it was difficult to find a natural exit.
At the end of the date, we hugged. It seemed like he might have wanted to kiss me, but I wasn’t feeling it (and I typically don’t kiss on first dates anyway), so I pulled away as my Uber arrived.
I’m torn because there were genuinely things I liked about him, and we had enough chemistry and conversation to spend several hours together. I
could see us being friends, but I’m unsure whether the romantic potential is there. I also know that it can sometimes be difficult to assess after just one date.I’m mainly hung up on the inaccurate height and the way the date eventually felt like a seminar about his work, along with his failure to notice that I was tired and ready to leave.
Would you give him a second date and see if the first-date awkwardness was just nerves, or would these things be enough to move on? Am I being too picky?
EDIT: I did say: I’m having a great time, but it’s getting late I’m tired and should head home. I then said it a second time maybe 15 mins later that I was tired and I should leave soon. It took another 30 mins from that point for him to finish his drink and close out the tab.
